December 2020 Moms
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PGAL check-in 4/20
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I hope you all don't mind that I start this tread.... it is for anyone who has experienced loss at any point in pregnancy or experienced the loss of a child. For me having the extra support and a safe place to talk is always helpful.
How
far along are you?
Share your PGAL story if you'd like.
How are you feeling (symptoms,
mentally/emotionally)?
Any upcoming appointments?
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower?
Re: PGAL check-in 4/20
How far along are you? 6+3
Share your PGAL story if you'd like. My first pregnancy ended in a loss around 9 weeks (5 wk gestation). It then took us quite a while to get pregnant again, and I now have my 20 month old. I had my second loss at 12 week end of January 2020. There was no known cause of either loss. While both were at very different stages of pregnancy they each some with their own mental and physical difficulties. I'm cautiously optimistic for this pregnancy, but as it has always been for me, I am terrified of loss again. The odds are just not with me.
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? Just totally exhausted. But I can not tell if it is from now working form home 100% while being a full time mom, the pregnancy hormones, or maybe the over whelming doom of the pandemic... maybe its all of it?
Any upcoming appointments? May 1st. I will be over 8 weeks. I'm terribly nervous and sad DH can not be with me. I can't imagine getting the news of a loss alone.
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower? I would say to fly- but I think now I would go for a force-field so that I could go out in public and keep everyone the f* away from me
How far along are you? 6+6 or 7+0
Share your PGAL story if you'd like. 1 NMC at 5 weeks last summer. The wait to get pregnant again was agonizing, and I had my worst month emotionally last month as the empty due date came and went. But it was really time for a rainbow because a few days later we had our BFP!
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? The depression from TTC/MC has lifted but whenever a friend asks me about it I go right back to that pain. I'm feeling emotionally labile, but not triggered, I think it's just the raging hormones. Physically, I feel like a "normal" pregnant person with constant nausea, exhaustion, and dizziness. I had abdominal pain almost the whole time before my loss and the absence of that pain through this pregnancy has helped me feel positive and peaceful.
Any upcoming appointments? First apt/US this Thurs!
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower? Duplicate time!!!
How far along are you? 6+3
Share your PGAL story if you'd like: 3 years of infertility. Endometriosis excision and we were finally able to get pregnant. This is now my 8th pregnancy and only the second one where we’ve detected a heart beat (as of this morning!). My other heart beat is currently running around spilling goldfish all over the floor (DD, 14mo)
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? Incredibly exhausted, moody and gassy (TMI). Feeling more hopeful after the ultrasound this morning, but with my history I’m always cautious in my optimism.
Any upcoming appointments? My RE sees me for an ultrasound and blood work every week until 12w, and I see my OB 5/6.
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower? Time travel! I’d love to be able to observe history in real-time. Maybe then we’d learn more from it...
@jchpg Hello again! So glad to see you here. FX we both get to stick around. Also I love the forcefield idea! Especially where I live we have a lot of foreign shoppers and they do not share our sense of “personal space.”
@gh1219 Duplicate time is a great idea! Good luck at your ultrasound Thursday! Let us know how it goes.
PGAL story: My first pregnancy started last fall, after 15 months of trying. I was 34, so admittedly starting to freak out. Everything went great until week 12, when we went for the NT scan. The tech was pretty good, not giving much away, though did have difficulty getting the baby in the right position. We didn't know enough to pick up on it. My doctor, however, as very straightforward and blunt: the scan was very abnormal, and based on her experience we needed to look into our options because it was unlikely to be a successful pregnancy. The NIPT and CVS done a week later confirmed that our baby had T21, indicated by a 9.5mm cystic hygroma as well as full body edema seen in the scan at the MFM. I read as much literature as I could find, plus what our genetic counselor gave us, but the bottom line was that there was at least a 90% chance of a miscarriage, and I couldn't find any case studies where a baby with such conditions ever left the hospital (if born live in the first place). We decided it was best to not prolong the inevitable, and chose to terminate the pregnancy on December 30th. Given my age, and the fact that it took over a year the first time, we decided to start trying naturally as soon as I healed. Needless to say I was super surprised to be pregnant so soon, particularly since I thought my period was coming right on time (spotted a bit the day before it was due).
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? Physically about the same as I did before. My pregnancy symptoms last time were mercifully slight, and so far seems to be about the same: bloating/gas (I basically always feel like I'm full), minor cramps, and I feel like I had a hard workout when I've been nothing but a lazya**. I wear a FitBit and also noticed that my resting heart rate has been a lot higher the past week, which also tipped me off. Mentally/emotionally....confused? I'm happy, and excited, but also scared, anxious, and sad for some reason. I literally laid awake half the night last night stressing about where my husband is going to put his computer desk now that we actually need the second bedroom to be a bedroom (this is the least of our worries, and a ways off from really needing a decision). Also just realized that my EDD is one day before the anniversary of my D&E....not sure how I feel about that.
Any upcoming appointments? First sonogram on May 22nd...here's hoping this thing is real
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower? Flying would be pretty cool...I feel like I had a firm answer on this one, but now all I can think of are the ones I don't want (i.e. mind-reading, invisibility)
How far along are you?
6w3d
Share your PGAL story if you'd like.
This is my sixth pregnancy. I have had three early losses and have a 6yo DD and 3yo DS
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)?
The nausea kicked in HARD last night. I’ve never thrown up on any of my pregnancies, and this is the closest I’ve come! A lot of breast soreness and mood swings.
Emotionally I’m worried but also feeling optimistic about this. We are farther on than we made it with any of my losses and while I know that doesn’t mean anything, it does make me feel a little better.
Any upcoming appointments?
Phone check in with a nurse next week, at which time we will schedule my first appointment.
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower?
I’m liking the force field idea! DH has taken over grocery shopping to eliminate unnecessary exposure for me but I actually miss it.
@cassafrass15 Congrats on a great US. This must be a huge relief
@akoros what a hard end to the year for you. I cant imagine having to make that decision, but I believe I would have done the same. My last loss ended at 12 weeks, physically I think a loss this late is very hard. I had scheduled a D&C, and then my body made other plans and the whole ordeal ended with me having to have a D&C anyway a few weeks later. I also didn't expect to get pregnant again so fast, my body must have been super wonky, because the timing doesn't make ANY sense.
@Hetta05 If you have made it further along then your other losses, I DO think that is something to celebrate
When my second miscarriage happened naturally, this did give me piece of mind. As if I could never have any doubt. But after it all and in the end needing a D&C, I see why my doctor dose not recommend letting it happen naturally that far along. It was not a pleasant process and I ended up in the ER.
I hope for ALL of us that this time around is different! I can't wait to hear how everyone's first appointments go! I have my fingers crossed for all of you.
@Hetta05 I understand passing those tragic milestones making you feel better! I feel that way each time I pass one.
How far along are you? I'm 5w4d now. Due 12/19.
Share your PGAL story if you'd like. I was pregnant in the fall, and, October, at almost 12 weeks, we got an abnormal NIPT scan that showed the baby had trisonomy 21 - Downs Syndrome. We had a follow up ultrasound that showed that the baby had fluid in its brain that likely meant a severe heart abnormality. "Incompatible with life" is what we were told. We decided to terminate rather than put both me and the baby through that. It was a terrible experience. We're from Ohio, and I had to drive 2 hours away for the procedure, deal with protested, have two separate appointments, etc etc. It was just awful, even though I feel 100% confident that it was the right decision. We started trying again within a couple of months, and I found out a couple weeks ago that I'm pregnant again!
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? A little nauseated, and it's getting worse each day. That's how it was with my prior pregnancies, so I'm not surprised. Sore boobs and tired, too. I'm mostly trying to not get too excited about this pregnancy. Anxious to get past the point where we were last time.
Any upcoming appointments? Telehealth appointment on Monday.
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower? Today, I think mind-reading would be kind of cool. Probably pretty useful at work and things. Although do I really want to know what my husband is thinking..? Hmm...
How far along are you? I'm 5 weeks today. Due Dec 23rd.
I ended up having a miscarriage at 7 weeks in November 2019 and we have been trying ever since then.
Share your PGAL story if you'd like: I found out I was pregnant for the first time ever last Sept/19. Was super excited and didn't know what to expect. I ended up bleeding and went to the ER. They did an U.S and all they could find is an empty sac and no fetal pole or heartbeat and my hcg number had dropped in half
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)? I'm feeling ok most days. Just very tired, sore boobs. I've been having alot of headaches and dizziness and slight minor cramping on and off. I've had some nausea also on and off but it seems like it usually only happens at night. Mentally and emotionally I'm super excited but trying not to freak out or have anxiety over every little symtom or lack of symptoms. I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful for this pregnancy but worried because I have 2 fibroids and the fertility doctor told me that because one of them is poking into my uterine cavity It would take me longer to get pregnant and if I did get pregnant that I would have a higher rate then other women of having another miscarriage again. I also have hypothyroidism. I just hope my body carries this baby to full term.
Any upcoming appointments? I have my first ultrasound on June 1st and its killing me to wait that long but our medical imaging office is so booked up that that's the earliest date I could get in. I'll be almost 11 weeks by then. I'll be a ball of nerves by then until I actually see a baby in there. I just hope that everything will be ok till my appt. It's a long way away.
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower? There are a few superpowers I would love to have. I would to have immortality( I wanna live forever lol) time travel and shapeshifting would be cool.
How far along are you? 6 weeks today.
Share your PGAL story if you'd like.
I had a chemical pregnancy between my first and second daughters (now 6 and 4). Then last summer we got pregnant again with our third. Had an early ultrasound at 8 weeks, saw/heard heartbeat. Did the harmony test at 10.5 weeks and got the results a few days later that everything was great and we were having a boy. We were psyched and planned to tell our girls after the 12 week ultrasound which happened to be on my husband's bday. We went in and as soon as the technician started the ultrasound I knew - there was no heartbeat and the baby looked the same size as our last one. Turns out baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. We elected to have a D&C but they could only schedule us 3 days after. I started having a spontaneous miscarriage the day after. I lost a lot of blood and was getting nauseous so my husband rushed me to the ER where I lost consciousness a few times. My blood pressure was dangerously low - they rushed me to an emergency d&c and had to have a blood transfusion. It was traumatizing to say the least and took me a while to get better physically and even longer emotionally. I think my husband has a bit of PTSD.
How are you feeling (symptoms, mentally/emotionally)?
Nauseous on and off all day - I was slightly nauseous with my youngest daughter and a little with the last pregnancy but not to this point of almost all day. Boobs sore and muscles hurt but probably because i'm older (39) and my bones crack. Mentally/emotionally I've been ok - I've sort of accepted I don't have control over this and whatever happens happens (which for anyone that knows me is VERY unlike me as I'm typically super anxious). My biggest worry is having a miscarriage that leads me to the ER again - being in the NYC area I want to be as far from hospitals as I can right now with Covid.
Any upcoming appointments?
Right after Memorial Day when i'll be a little over 10 weeks. It's the longest i've ever gone without being seen but taking more precautions with covid and hoping things calm down in ny by then - my doctor is in the city. I actually moved it another week out so I can do the harmony test too and not have to go in again. I'm nervous mostly about getting exposed. And the fact that my husband can't actually come in with me.
GTKY: What is your superpower/ would you choose as a superpower?
I used to say flying and time travel - but now healing. I'd love to be able to heal.