Not finding out the sex....

missbritt_07 · January 2009

At first we had planned on finding out the sex and then a few weeks later when we sent out baby shower invitations they would be themed accordingly and that is how everyone else would find out.

The last month or two DH has been saying he wouldn't mind waiting... and now I'm starting to think about it.

I always thought it would be nice to know and that it would make things a lot easier to plan but at the same time it really wouldn't make a huge difference. I mean really only in like clothes. A lot of bedding I'm looking at is for both genders.

I don't know... what are you girls thinking?

tadasa74 · January 2009

I am thinking about not finding out.

pbraty23 · January 2009

I see the fun in waiting. I myself wanted to know right away cause you get to put a name him/ her to the baby and people would be able to shop for the baby knowing wat it is. If you wanna wait thats good hope the surprise is wonderful =]

Laura&Mikey · January 2009

I knew w/ my first two but with my second 2 they couldn't tell. I will say that if I could know I would because I am not patient but it is really cool hearing them say at that moment- It's a....

My 4th was really cool because I had 3 boys and it was a girl. I will never forget that moment. If you think you can wait and it will not drive you crazy I say go for it.

war_eagle · January 2009

We aren't going to find out. ?It is kind of fun torturing everyone when I tell them that! ?lol

TennisWife815 · January 2009

We aren't finding out and it hasn't been too hard. We registered for all neutral things, including some onesies and clothes to get us started, and painted the room in neutral colors. That said, DH and I may do a bit of shopping for sex to get us started.

missbritt_07 · January 2009

I always figured I would want to know but now I'm second guessing myself.

We had always planned on haveing a couple names picked out and wait until we meet the baby to name it so that doesn't really change. The only thing that changes is the shopping.

Why does this have to be so confusing lol...

I'm perfectly fine going in there and if they can't find it then just waiting but at the same time I at least want to try once... grrr... why can't a miake up my mind...

Girly0503 · January 2009

Were not finding out..Id rather be suprised. I think you are only TRULY suprised in life a couple times and this is one of them.. Some of my friends think I am crazy lol

Some people just have a planning personality, do not like suprises at all. and feel more comfortable knowing ahead of time..

To each his own!!

Chloe2009 · January 2009

We keep going back and forth. If we can't decide before the U/S, I think I'm going to ask the doc to write the gender on a piece of paper and seal it in an envelope. This way we have the option of opening it together at a later date.

tmp-267614875005666 · January 2009

We're not finding out, there was only about a 20 minute span at our 20 week appointment where I almost changed my mind, but other than that, we've been happy not to know. I keep telling DH that this way I save money, I'm not out buying tons of stuff in pink or blue! We're doing nuetral on everything basic and then we'll be able to reuse if it's in good shape for #2 and beyond! I'm also hoping it will be a motivater when I'm in labor because by that point I will want to find out so bad! ha!

missbritt_07 · January 2009

I think if they write it down it will become even more tempting because its there where as if you don't have them tell you then you have to wait at least until the next ultra sound.

I'm also thinking maybe we will wait to have a baby shower. I've heard of people having showers after the baby is born... that would make it easier because we could still have a surprise...

I just don't know lol

Sahara6971 · January 2009

We are not finding out. I didn't want to w/ either pg and DH did so this time around I get my way. Yes it would be easier for planning purposes but having the surprise at birth is priceless IMO

war_eagle · January 2009

missbritt_07:
I think if they write it down it will become even more tempting because its there where as if you don't have them tell you then you have to wait at least until the next ultra sound.
I'm also thinking maybe we will wait to have a baby shower. I've heard of people having showers after the baby is born... that would make it easier because we could still have a surprise...
I just don't know lol
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A friend of mine said she got more stuff off of her registry b/c they didn't know at the shower and didn't end up with a bunch of clothes.?

eaglesfan700 · January 2009

We didn't find out with DS and it wasn't difficult at all to plan anything, and I am super anal about that stuff. We had some names picked out but I really needed to see the baby before I could lock in on a name anyway.

I was stunned at all the clothing people gave us when he was born! But really - you won't care what they are wearing in the beginning as long as it's easy to get on and off.

Oh and ditto a pp about registry gifts. Many people have told me they got lots of gender specific items instead of registry items they really needed at the shower.

DH was DYING to know the sex with DS, so this time around I said if he really wanted to find out, we could. Surprisingly he said he loved the surprise with DS so much he wanted to wait this time too

tadasa74 · January 2009

Girly0503:

Were not finding out..Id rather be suprised. I think you are only TRULY suprised in life a couple times and this is one of them.. Some of my friends think I am crazy lol

Some people just have a planning personality, do not like suprises at all. and feel more comfortable knowing ahead of time..

To each his own!!

We were "truly suprised" when we found out that there were two. I was committed to not finding out before then. The thought of thinking of four names etc. made me rethink my position, but right now we are sticking with either not finding out, or finding out and keeping it a secret.

rcp126 · January 2009

I had to find out. I wanted to make the room either really girly or boyish so that it would be appropriate for her or him to grow up in. I couldn't resist not knowing.

kayla_lynn · January 2009

Not finding out. I want my 1st to be a surprise! And as a pp said, its more fun to watch the torture on other people's faces when you tell them.

klong87 · January 2009

My Husband and I defenitely are going to find out! We are going to get it written on a piece of paper and Im sending it to him in afghanistan! He has to recieve some good news over there!

brownmouse · January 2009

My husband and I are definetly going to find out...Mostly because neither of us are "Surprise People."

I have a hard time dealing with knowing someone got me a gift, and not knowing what it is for a few days....or my husband making a surprise dinner. I just NEED to know.

And besides, it'll be nice to be able to refer to the thing in my belly as Basil (if girl), and Makaio (if boy) rather than "the baby" or "it".

Oh, and don't need comments about my names choices. 1)Got enough of that in on First Tri Board to last me through 1000 pregnancies, and 2)My mother won't shut up about them either.

If I honestly though we could say no when the doctor asked "Hey, do you wanna know the sex of the baby?", then I'd wait. But even if I planned on waiting, a big part f me would be peeing my pants to say yes.