Weird or rude things people say

mflowers929 · February 2020

A couple of people have talked about wanting this thread, so, what weird or rude things have been said to you while you're pregnant?

mflowers929 · February 2020

I had a friend this past weekend find out I'm pregnant and proceeded to ask me "how?". I would hope that you would know how! lol

starlynn91 · February 2020

I’m all kinds of nervous to announce this pregnancy - so far the responses I’ve gotten are:
was it an accident?
are you guys Mormon?
are you sad it’s another girl?
you DO know how this happens, right?

um, we had 3 losses last year, so we are OVER the freaking moon excited to welcome our baby girl to our family later this year. Yes we have 3 kids already, but who TF are you to question our family size? And to bring any religion into it is just gross (we are not Mormon, but if we were, who even says that?!?)

I really hate people.

Louise_Belcher · February 2020

@mflowers929 What even is that question?!
@starlynn91 Whoa! I have heard that comments after 3 get rough. What is wrong with people?!? I also might throat punch some one if they ask me if I am sad if this baby ends up being a third boy.

macheno · February 2020

I thankfully have not gotten annoying questions our comments with this pregnancy, yet. With my last I got from my sister who was also pregnant at the time: Was it planned? You're so lucky you get to just lay around and nap whenever you want. (she made this comment referring to the fact that she also had her son to care for after work). Mind you with my first I lived in NYC in a 5th floor walk-up, took public transportation, worked 45+ hrs a week at a job where I was on my feet the entire time, and worked some weekends. She worked at a desk job, drove a car, made her own hours, her son was in daycare all day. I was like wow, I didn't know our pregnancies were a competition!

A lady on the subway platform came up to me once while I was waiting for the train and told me I shouldn't have my phone so close to my belly because the radiation is bad for the baby. Okay, thanks.

angbaby83 · February 2020

@macheno the was it planned question is awful. My sister in-law was asking about that last night and was more interested than she needed to be. I'm like I don't want to talk about this with you at all.

I haven't gotten a ton of comments yet about my pregnancy but I am definitely getting tired of answering how I am. I know people are concerned and hoping I feel better soon, but having to talk about it all the time sucks. I'm waiting until my clients can start noticing that I am pregnant. They always have fun things to say. After I came back from maternity leave I had lots of comments about my weight. "Is it normal for women to be chubby after having a baby?"

Louise_Belcher · February 2020

Whoa to the comments about your weight post pregnancy @angbaby83! As for people asking how I am feeling I have been honest and it seems to throw them off guard. Maybe because I am usually happy and positive. They don’t seem to know how to proceed when I say “Not well. This has been very, very hard.”

The only comment I have gotten was “What are you feeding that baby?” from my wonderfully fantastic but very healthy boss. “Straight garbage. All the carbs. Very little protein. Tons of sugar.” 🤷🏻‍♀️

angbaby83 · March 2020

Bumping this up.... Also one of my co workers speaking about my decision to not find out sex of the baby "I hate that you do that. Then nobody can plan" ummm who besides me needs to plan?? Buy me diapers you don't need to know the sex to buy new diapers. I don't quite understand the shaming I seem to take from people. I don't say anything to people that find out. It is exciting either way.

geojaminee · March 2020

So far I haven't gotten many comments about the pregnancy, but I have some gems from my other pregnancies. For example, we moved to this house days before my last daughter was born. She was a couple weeks early and came pre-term so I always blame the stress of the move for putting me into labor. We signed the papers Wednesday, moving truck came on Friday, and I went into labor on Monday, had her Tuesday. So our new neighbors had *MAYBE* seen me pregnant while snooping on moving day, but literally, our first neighbor came to welcome us to the street like a week later and I answered the door holding a baby. But so many of these neighbors have made comments about me holding on to baby weight 2 years later. Bitch, you don't know what my pre-pregnant body was! This is it! Ain't no baby weight!

Anyway, this pregnancy all I've gotten is my 96 year old grandmother in a nursing home memory care unit (who is now at the stage where she thinks my dad, her son, is her dad- she thought he was her husband for a long time and on better days she still thinks hes her husband). Last time I visited her she was slapping my butt and making comments about my sexy ass

My dad had to tell her to stop being inappropriate around the kids

Louise_Belcher · March 2020

@angbaby83 What a dumb thing for someone to say! Not long ago no one was finding out the sec before birth. And at least with those that I know it seems like a 50/50 split on finding out. So it’s not like it’s weird.

@geojaminee Your neighbors talked about your weight?!?!??!!! That is so uncool no matter if it was pregnancy weight or not. WTF is wrong with people.

boymommatwo · March 2020

@angbaby83 I have gotten similar comments from lots of people for us choosing to not find out until the baby is born. When they ask how are we going to plan I counter their question with “what exactly do I need to plan for?” and then I run down the list of how the things I need for the new baby isn’t specific to the gender and if it’s just cloths, well that’s easy as I can order online at Target and have them bring it to my car on my way home from the hospital if we end up having a girl (since we have 2 boys). In prep I have already gotten what I would need cloths wise right away from a local consignment shop. Besides, it would not bother me to put a girl is some of the big cloths I have, just need to pop a bow on her head and call it a day 😂

Besides the above the rudest thing I’ve gotten is about how I will be pregnant in the middle of summer in Florida 🙄 I mean it’s Florida, 1) it’s hot most of the year, 2) we have A/C everywhere, and 3) my last baby was born at the end of July 🤷‍♀️

twentythree19 · March 2020

While we found out the gender of DD when pregnant with her, we didn't share the name. A lot of folks were incredulous, and I think MIL is still annoyed about it. Maybe its a function of living in the south but I can't tell you how many folks gave a disgusted sigh and ask "Well how am I supposed to get anything monogrammed?!?" Um...if you monogram that, I can't give it as a hand me down or even consign it easily people!

So far I haven't had any rude comments but a dude at church creeeeeeeeeeeped me out. He is a good Christian man. In fact his a 70 something, super upbeat, alive for God kind of guy. But he called me randomly one week day and left me a message asking me to call him back. When I called him, the conversation (after the usual small talk) went like this:

Church guy: Remember a while back when I asked you and your husband if y'all were thinking of starting a family? It was before I realized you already had a little one because she was always in the nursery at that point.

Me: No, church guy, I can't say that I remember that, but I've slept since then...

Church guy: Oh. Well the reason I asked is because I have this gift of just knowing when a woman is pregnant - even before she does. And I could just tell that you were pregnant when we had that conversation.

Me: ... Really? Wow. Well that's um, cool.

Awkwardness continued until I was able to semi-swiftly bring that conversation to a close. But I mean, what the heck!

Edited because I didn't proofread.

firsttimeresq · March 2020

Pregnant with my first. Am not really showing much so haven't comments from strangers yet. Not planned but no regret. Super excited! But...My cousin, who was more like a sister, told me she was depressed bc of me and I ruined her wedding in August 2020 because I'll be too pregnant to help her and that I should have waited.

beaandthebabes · March 2020

@firsttimeresq Wow. Just wow. Having family be selfish and negative about your pregnancy is the worst.

Louise_Belcher · March 2020

@firsttimeresq Yikes! I am sorry she was so childish about that. Weddings can bring the worst out of people. I hope your relationship is repairable.

beaandthebabes · March 2020

Also @corngirl Yikes.

mflowers929 · March 2020

I just wonder what ya'll's families would say if they were up here... because of the commonlaw marriage laws, a lot of people never get legally married and just settle down and have families. And this is in a place where it's so Catholic that up until about 10 years ago it was hard to find anything open on Sunday's.

geojaminee · March 2020

@Louise_Belcher yeah lol and now I'm like, "see? more pregnant belly, coming your way! WATCH OUT BITCHES"

jsant86 · March 2020

My CEO said, “Now you’re a real Mrs.!” As if having a baby somehow validates my 4
year marriage/ 10 year relationship.

I also find it odd that people’s first question is “will you breastfeed?” I don’t care if it’s from close friends or family (mostly other mom), but I’ve had colleagues I’m not remotely close with ask. Like A )why are you asking about my tits? And B ) yea, I’ll give it a good ol’ college try, but who knows how that will pan out.

People are weird. 🤷🏼‍♀️

beaandthebabes · March 2020

2 people have already asked us when we’ll be trying again for a girl. This one isn’t even born yet, y’all! And honestly we don’t plan on having any more. Not that it is anyone’s business but ours.

itsmehere1212 · March 2020

@beaandthebabes this one grinds my gears so bad. When we found out our second was also a boy people came out of the woodwork to ask if we were going to try for a girl. “How about I have this baby before we talk about another!” I had people apologize to me that I was not having a girl. Incredibly annoying.

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