GTKY: All About the Dads

Louise_Belcher · February 2020

Tell us about the man behind the bump. How did you meet? How is he feeling about becoming a dad or adding to his brood? What is your favorite thing about him? Does he have any hobbies? Anything else you want to share.

mflowers929 · February 2020

Hrmmm, well H and I met by chance through an online forum waaaay back in good old 2005. I lived in Florida at the time and he lived here. He took his first ever plane trip to come and meet me. We were long distance for a year and then I moved up here. We got married in 2010 with 2 weddings.
He's excited but apprehensive given our history. I think he kind of wants a girl this go around from what he's said lol. Guess we'll see!
I love love love seeing him with our son. He never really wanted kids but he's such a great dad now that he has them. He's also just a great life partner and totally balances me out when I'm doing my crazy ADHD thing.
He loves computer gaming and fitness, although the fitness kind of fell to the side for the last little bit. He was never really what I would have normally gone for in terms of looks, but I can't imagine my life with anyone else 😊

swizzlemalarkey · February 2020

H and I met 4 years ago when we were both in other relationships (I was engaged but not happy). We met through work. Both of us were selected to join a team at a new store. He ended up training me and driving me home most days since I lived in the downtown area and our job was in the burbs and it would take me forever to get home using public transport. The more time we spent together the more we realized we wanted to be together. And then we just decided to do it. I moved right in to his place because when I left my ex I didn’t have anywhere else to go. We got engaged that year but ended up breaking up in 2017. He moved and shortly after we reconciled. Did long distance for almost a year then I moved to be with him: and we got married in 2018. Crazy story but it’s ours!

He hasn’t really said much about becoming a dad. I knew he was always going to be supportive if/when it happened but I feel like he could go either way with having kids. He seemed happy at our scan and was surprised to hear the heartbeat. I think he will be a good dad I just worry about how he’s going to juggle everything.

My favorite thing about him is that he’s not a judgmental person and he is able to stay calm in otherwise stressful situations so he balances me out pretty well. And he doesn’t let our arguments last.
He’s a manager like me and his hobbies/other ventures include playing games/streaming, trading stocks, and watching lots of anime and movies.

ssbl · February 2020

We met at a bar (typical) eight years ago. He’s funny and adores me, but not in a overly sentimental kind of way. We had talked for years about having kids, and actively tried for almost a year to get pregnant. We don’t talk about it too much right now—I think we’re still wary since it’s early. I think after the next ultrasound, after we get to the second tri, after more people know, and after I start to show more it will feel more like “holy sh*t, this is happening.”

dontcallmeshirley1 · February 2020

We met indirectly through work. I was still married at the time so we were just friends for a while, but after DH1 and I separated we went on our first date. It was a LOT of ups and downs, we would date for a while, drift apart, date for a while, break up. Then finally in 2018 we decided to move in together and do it right.

He's terrified and excited! He's both becoming a dad AND adding to the brood (three stepkids). My favorite thing about him is how much he loves my kids, and what a good listener he is.

He likes bro-y stuff like snowboarding and racecars.

Louise_Belcher · February 2020

How did you meet? We don't know. We were at the same middle school and high school but didn't run in the same circle (he would tell you he was a band nerd and I was a cheerleader). At some point, we just knew who each other were. We got to know each other a bit more senior year because we had physics together and ended up on a project together. The other guy in the project (who I was very good friends with at the time) and I relied heavily on H to do the brunt of the project despite me being arguably better at physics and having higher grades in general.

We didn't start dating until 2 years into college when I reached out to him over a summer we were both home to hang out. We were long distance for the first 3.5 years. So we have known each other since we were maybe 11, got together at 19/20, got married at 25, and started having kids at 29.

How is he feeling about becoming a dad or adding to his brood? Overwhelmed. This was a choice and so it is going to plan, but it is gonna be hard and newborns are NOT his cup of tea. Also having a baby at the beginning of the fall semester (H is a professor) is really bad timing and we are now doing it for a second time. My first was born at 8am on the first day of the fall semester his second-year teaching. He is also currently the department chair which has been a nightmare. That means nearly no time off for him to help. He really wants a girl this time.

What is your favorite thing about him? He is levelheaded to a fault. He has empathy FOR DAYS!! He is generally a kinder and better human than I will ever be and he is exceedingly motivated in his career. He not only puts up with but seems to enjoy being around my family very frequently.

Does he have any hobbies? He works out, brews beer, and reads old psychology books.

jennifer_louise · February 2020

Cute stories everybody!!

How did you meet? We had an undergraduate summer internship together over ten years ago. I had a BF (or two 😂) at first but eventually we moved to the same town for grad school and started dating in 2012, married in 2015 (:

How is he feeling about adding to his brood? Well, he's ready. We've been waiting on this baby for a while. I think he's hoping this next one will be more 'low key' like him because DD and I aren't always super easy going. But alas, most kids aren't!!

What is your favorite thing about him? He had patience for days. He also always does the dishes, which spoils me. He encourages me every day! ❤️

Does he have any hobbies? Not really, but he'll participate in my hobbies (hiking, biking, etc). He does enjoy a good home improvement project however.

Louise_Belcher · February 2020

@jennifer_louise H does the dishes/dishwasher too and it is the best! That is awesome that he likes home improvement projects! H isn't super interested in that stuff and doesn't feel very confident, so I usually have to push the subject.

jennifer_louise · February 2020

@Louise_Belcher I know! It's been especially awesome the last month or so because the various smells and sights of dishes in the sink is basically enough to make me retch. It's actually because he's a bit OCD about dishes and doesn't think I do a good enough job 😂.

MH has his sights set on another girl too. I secretly want a boy this time, although my preference is not strong at all. Either way, one of us will be happy. Do you only have boys?

Louise_Belcher · February 2020

@jennifer_louise Yes we have 2 boys already (4 and almost 3), so we are both hoping for a girl this time. We both only have brothers, so H just thinks more girls in the family would be fun and I do not disagree.

robyn2201 · February 2020

We met 18 years ago! Can’t believe it’s been that long. We met through friends just hanging out one evening. He went home and told his family he met the girls he was going to marry. Haha

He is super excited about having another. He loves babies and cuddles. Too bad they have to grow up and leave their junk everywhere. Haha

My favorite thing about him is that he is always an optimist and has an everything will be ok attitude.

He likes to be outdoors, camp, backpack and fish but unfortunately he doesn’t get to do it much anymore as he has to travel a lot for work. He also enjoys smoking meat and trying new food.

angbaby83 · February 2020

I met my husband in 2012 through an online dating service my friends signed me up for. I initially tried to ghost my husband after the first date but he just kept texting me. We had a rocky beginning but after a couple months we were inseparable. My husband has significant health challenges and has almost died a couple of times since we’ve been together. There was a time when I thought we would never have children so to be having a second one I feel beyond blessed. My husband is currently healthy and doing great. He’s had a rough year of employment after being laid off last year but hopefully things will settle down soon. He is a great father and DD adores him. He’s excited to be a dad again. He has been picking up a lot of my slack since I’m sick and also in school. He does 90% of the housework and never complains. I’m very lucky to have him.

starlynn91 · February 2020

DH and I met in a college math class for teachers. He was getting his teaching credential in upper elementary and I was focused on primary grades. He talked me into doing both, and we’ve been together since! We both teach HS math (although I’ve been home for 4 years with our kiddos), and couldn’t be happier/more nerdier - lol!

chasingroygbiv · February 2020

We actually met when he was at his buddy’s house who I was intending on hanging out with. That guy was super immature and chose to sit inside and continue playing video games when my now DH came outside and said, “well I will go drive around with you!” (Driving around was really cool, I had just gotten my license). And then he asked for my number that night and that’s all she wrote!

This is baby #4 for us. I was mostly content at 3, but said maybe....... because I knew he was so hoping for at least 4. He is so excited and loves the busy lifestyle.

My favorite thing about him is that he truly puts his family (as in his immediate family) first, no matter what, always. Another favorite is that he isn’t afraid to literally split this life with me. House work, taking care of the kids, etc etc. He doesn’t have a problem doing laundry or dishes.

Hobbies are watching and attending sports events. Fishing when he has time (rare).

cabearit · February 2020

H and I met through mutual friends in 2014. He had just moved from Nashville to Tampa and we started dating almost immediately. We were engaged within three months, but didn't marry until a year and half later. Last April we had our first child together, a boy (who is now 10 months), and we were a little shocked, but also excited, to find out we were pregnant again. I already have a son from a previous marriage, so with two boys already in the house, we both kind of have our sights set on a girl.

My favorite thing about H is the crazy lengths he will go to in order to protect or take care of his friends and family members. He is passionate about life and never just sits idly by. As for hobbies, he loves watching really great movies and he's good at sniffing out titles that I've never heard of before. He also has an extensive knowledge of obscure music and can remember the titles and artists of pretty much any band/artist ever.

linz36 · February 2020

Met H at a bar. I had called off my wedding the year prior and wasn't prepared for a relationship. So we started off as "friends with benefits" and after 3 months he told me he loved me. Totally took me by surprise and I told him he was crazy. Then a month later he proposed and we got married 6 months after that. This year is 9 years together.

momofmiracles31889 · February 2020

Love reading this thread! It’s so great to have a supportive man on this journey!

DH and I met through church and mutual friends. I had a crush on him right away but so did a bunch of other girls in our friend group so I never thought he’d pick me (I always tease him that he was “the bachelor” of our friend group and he just shakes his head) but thankfully he did decide to date me! We dated for a little over a year, were engaged for a little under a year and have now been married for 3 1/2 years! He is the love of my life and my best friend and I’m so thankful for him

How is he feeling about becoming a dad or adding to his brood? We both wanted kids pretty much right off the bat... said we’d wait 6 months but started trying 5 months in. It’s been a long journey but he is an amazing dad to our son we had the privilege of adopting as a newborn and he’s cautiously excited just like me to be embarking on what seems to be a healthy pregnancy this time!

We’re excited to have a little sibling for our son and to be a family of 4!

What is your favorite thing about him? He is just incredibly supportive and very much my life partner. He works hard to provide for us through his job but also doesn’t hesitate to chip in around the house and with our son. He’s very selfless and caring. He knows how hard this pregnancy journey has been for me and always takes really good care of me and listens to all my emotional melt downs 😂*TW I cant imagine having gone through losses without his support and unconditional love. He’s always affirmed me as a mom and woman even though my body has unfortunately not succeeded at child birth yet (hopefully this time!!)

Does he have any hobbies? He used to lift and run a lot but that kinda changed due to long work hours and our crazy journey to build our family! But I hope for his sake he can find time again someday as I know he enjoys that. He enjoys watching sports, trying craft beers, and working on house projects! He also likes history, like historical based books, shows, documentaries. And he’s a computer engineer so he likes to code. He taught himself to play guitar which I love! He loves getting outside with me and our son. I always tell him he’s a man of many talents hahaa

annieco13 · February 2020

I love reading the how you met stories! I also feel good knowing my husband is not alone in picking up slack right now. I can’t do a damn thing from being so sick!

we met 9 years ago on a blind date, set up by friends! We went to the drive in movies, and both were hesitant on getting into something serious, but here we are headed into year 5 of marriage.

We have a 5 year old and have been trying almost 2 years for baby #2 so we are so so excited. He is a great father, but works very early in the morning, so it’ll be tough adjusting to 2 for me in the morning and bedtime routines.

He he owns his own business so currently is wrapped in work and we like spending time as a family- movies, out to eat, swimming in the summer months, traveling when we can.

My favorite thing about him is how hardworking he is and how he loves me and our son. I feel so blessed that we found each other.

geojaminee · February 2020

@Louise_Belcher v similar story here too!

Whenever I meet other high school sweethearts, I love hearing "how high school" their story is, and ours is always way more "high school" lol. H and I got together right as my senior year in high school was starting, his junior year. We met in a car pool (because neither of us were driving yet

) by a mutual friend. I was a cheerleader, he was a band nerd (as all my friends were) and I loved flirting with him in the backseat of the car. He never flirted back haha. But my friend once stole my phone and put his number in my phone (a flip phone, you know the kind ;-) ) and I didn't know she did that. So I was at a band party with my friends months later and asked them whose number was in my phone and they said "I DON't KNOW, CALL IT!" So I did, on speaker of course, almost like a prank, and it was him. And I set up a date with him. And literally, the rest is history. That's it

That was in 2005, we got married in 2012 after college, had our first in 2016, second in 2018 and I cannot imagine my life with anyone else. My favorite part is that we grew up and matured together. I'm not the same person I was back then and neither is he, and I'm grateful for it.

He used to work in finance and is super analytical but got sick of feeling like he was serving no one but rich people. So he made a complete 180 career change to nursing right around when we had our first daughter and now he works as an RN in the Emergency Department of a Level 1 Trauma Center. I'm so proud of his hard work and dedication to our family. Right now his hobbies are DIYing the house. He's going to DIY a kitchen remodel this April. As in building cabinets from plywood and running new plumbing and electrical. Pray for us

balletnerd · February 2020

How did you meet? We rode the same bus in high school. We were friends for about a year and when my family was moving away he said he couldn’t lose me and asked me out. We dated the next few years of high school long distance. (1 hr seems like a long way when only one of you has a license). So we started dating at ages 14 &16 and been together since.

How is he feeling about adding to his brood? Same as me- excited with a sprinkle of what have we done?!? Haha

What is your favorite thing about him? What a wonderful Daddy he is to DD

Does he have any hobbies? Everything Washington Nationals baseball

newmomnj35 · February 2020

How did you meet? We met online almost 3 years ago. I almost did not message him back because I was done with all the bad dates from online!.

How is he feeling about Becoming a dad? He is so excited...we found out it was a boy a couple of days ago and he was just so happy

What is your favorite thing about him? He is my rock. He has been there through so much

Does he have any hobbies? Sports!

hp242 · February 2020

DH and I met in university. He was one year ahead of me, but graduated two years ahead. We were together from the beginning of my third year and were then long distance for my last two. He was a 4.5 hour drive away which now doesn't seem like too much but when you don't have a car or an income it is FAR. Been together since then, and got married in October 2017.

We've been talking about having kids from the beginning and had initially start trying a year earlier, but decided to make a few financial commitments so put it off a year. Last May I asked him again when he wanted to have kids, and he responded with 'how about July' meaning like 2 months from them. He's a total goofball.

He's from a very small town (where our cottage is now) but we live just outside a city now. He knows how to everything. Build stuff, electrical, plumbing, cook, its amazing. I never had a reason to learn a lot of what he knows because I lived in a big city until after university.

He loves to be outside, fishing, hunting and I know he can't wait to have a LO to drag along, because after a few years I won't go as much as he would like - ice fishing is cold!

Louise_Belcher · February 2020

@geojaminee That is cute that you started so early. When people ask when we met they assume we were high school sweethearts when we were basically just acquaintances during high school and both had a couple of college SOs prior to dating each other. In fact, we both stood in the wedding of his college GF before me when she married his best friend.

mflowers929 · February 2020

When I tell people that H and I were teenagers when we met they assume we were high school sweethearts too. Hahahahaha. We would have hated each other in high school XD

chasingroygbiv · March 2020

@geojaminee We met in high school (but at 15 and 16 yrs old) in 2005, too! It’s fun to think back that far— and look at embarrassing pictures.

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