I already said this in randoms, but I am so annoyed with the stupid yellow unread flags on TB right now. I don't need to be flagged on literally every single thread in every forum I lurk or participate in!!! Stop the madness!!!
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
My Monday BF is this GD. I've been testing since Thursday afternoon and my numbers have been completely fine with my typical meals and activity level (which is just housework and chasing a toddler). I'm fine with tracking my food and pricking my finger during this pregnancy, I just don't want to deal with the doctors and dietitians. I already know that if I go into them they will tell me I am not eating enough carbs and try to use scare tactics to get me to follow their conventional standards. They will say I need to test my urine ketones and they will talk about diabetic ketoacidosis. But I know better, I know urine ketones are not that accurate for seeing what state of ketosis your body is in, I know ketosis can actually be fairly normal during pregnancy, and I know that ketosis is NOT ketoacidosis! I'm sorry but if I am eating free range eggs, sausage, and a piece of toast with half an avocado and slice of tomato on top with my decaf coffee with a scoop of collagen and coconut creamer (no added sugar) for breakfast and you are going to tell me to eat more carbs you are crazy! That is a nicely balanced, nutrient dense meal!
@m6agua I’ve done a lot of arguing with my OB and CNM this pregnancy and if there’s one thing I’ve decided it’s that no one knows your body better than you. It sounds like you know what you need and what you’re comfortable eating, so don’t let someone else push you towards anything else. It’s stressful to constantly be lectured by people that are going by the book. That handy dandy book might be the standard, but it surely isn’t meant to address every body type and need that exists.
So it might be a FFFC, but I do what I need to do, and if my doctors don’t like it, oh well. I stressed for weeks over not gaining the standard amount of weight even though every growth exam and check and showed baby girl exactly where she needs to be.
@m6agua I'm sorry about the constant input from drs & dietitians. I hope they will look at your numbers and give you some leeway that a) your'e being responsible and b) you know your body.
My Monday BF is all about MIL. I'm leaving for Iceland on Wednesday or a wedding over the weekend. My SIL and my parents are the main caregivers while we are gone because they know the kids the best and will make them feel comfortable and happy. MIL shows up last night unannounced with legitimately 18 pages of color coded handwritten GARBAGE asking ME to fill out every waking absurd detail of our life (mind you, I already wrote down all important numbers, itinerary, drs, schedule, etc in an email and sent it around). She wanted me to do things like handwrite directions to their daycare where she won't be picking up the boys, want to know what everyone should do with our mail or a fedex package if one comes, and what are our dog's "favorite" words and the exact time they should get treats (ummm... whenever you want I don't care). She wanted me to handwrite directions to the closest childrens hospital, when I don't even trust her to put the kids safely in a car seat. I wish I was exaggerating that it's 18 pages, and i'm most definitely not. I just can't take a picture because our personal info is all over it and now I have to literally burn the papers to get rid of the amount of insane info on it. I'm already stressed about this trip and not looking forward to it that much, and she just made it so much worse. Thankfully DH diffused it and sent me out shopping by myself last night so he could deal with her insanity. Also, not to mention how INSULTING it is that she thinks I wouldn't put together important info to share with the people who are caring for my children. DH says I can't be insulted because of her mental state (she's depressed and stays home 100% of her time). Well, you know what, she raised 4 kids and if her MIL told her the "best" way to take care of her kids she would have blown a gasket, so I'm in my right to be annoyed.
TLDR: my MIL is inputting herself into things she doesn't need about my upcoming trip, and I'm beyond annoyed and insulted.
@mamaqdubu oh my word. It wasn't until I got to "I don't even trust her to put the kid safely in a car seat" did I realize that this woman isn't even the one watching your children!
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@catem07 yeah. she's essentially an emergency backup who we don't even trust in an emergency. Her and FIL might try to come by one of the nights my SIL is there to "help out", but she has literally zero responsibility in all of it!!
@mamaqdubu Ew. I'm sorry. That would drive me nuts too. Glad your husband at least stepped in to help you. I hope your trip goes well and that your MIL sees your kids only minimally while you're gone.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
My BF- I need this sick season to end. My poor preschooler is miserable and we're all struggling.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@mamaj1220 that's what we did say. she's the only one that doesn't have a smart phone (GPS) or email, the only one who can't be trusted to drive anywhere without getting lost, and the only one who would freak out enough to bring the kids to the hospital if they had like a 100 degree fever for a few hrs. These are all reasons why she's not caring for the kids haha. I only had to glare at my husband for about 2 seconds before he knew i needed to leave the conversation.
1)My coworkers. It's not even a good story worth typing just lots of little things adding up day after day that are really driving me nuts. We have flex hours but most of us get in between 7-9 and then work our 8 hours. Well two of the girls show up about 10, take an hour and a half lunch, and then leave before 4 most days. HOW IS THIS OKAY? And the managers don't seem to care because they're under the impression these two are "working from home in the evenings" but I never see them on when I have to get online to do ACTUAL WORK. Also their voices and their faces leave me wanting to fight them on the regular. Last pregnancy I started working from home one day a week around this point just so I could sleep in an extra hour (long commute) and put my feet up to be more comfy because that's what a previous coworker did who was pregnant just before me and set the standard. I'm ready to start that now just to avoid being around these two, but then they'll of course have some excuse why they ALSO need to work from home, but they'll need to do it at least 3 days a week I'm sure. Not to mention how much extra work I actually have to do from them slacking off.
2) DD's daycare - so once or twice a week over the past few weeks they'll send home a pair of dirty underwear in a bag and say "oh she didn't have an accident, but we noticed she didn't wipe good so we changed them". Mind you she is not even quite 2 1/2 and is just recently potty trained and you're telling me they expect her to wipe her own butt!? Literally half of the kids in her classroom aren't even potty trained. So then her poor butt was all red and sore this weekend from sitting in poop for who knows how long because they feel a 2 year old is capable of handling it all on her own? I think part of the problem is when they have a different teacher in there than the regular one who is there 4 days a week so I didn't cause a stink yet, but I definitely will be discussing with them at pickup today and letting them know this is not acceptable.
My BF is at Pizza Hut. DH skipped lunch with me so I ordered a pizza. Get back to the office and there are onions. No big deal. I can pick them off. UNTIL there was a piece of raw chicken on my taco pizza. Called the store and they made a new one.... only to bite into onion and uncooked bacon. I'm done. Clearly the universe wants me to eat thin mints for lunch. blech.
@pourmeanothermocktail I completely agree with you. Apparently the trend at DD1's school is that you get the flu, then potentially the other strain of flu, then strep, then pneumonia. We will pass on the pneumonia, please and thank you.
Also, second BF. Why in the world would you text less than 48 hours beforehand saying "Hey btw soccer practice starts Tuesday! see you there!" A little notice would be nice. DD1 had a well check scheduled for that day, but I moved it to spring break so she wouldn't have to miss more school since she was out all last week.
Second BF I forgot about while complaining, yet again the heat in our office was broke this morning so we huddled in one office with a space heater and when they fixed it they said it was a part of what they fixed last time and they usually go together but the landlord said not to bother doing them both less than a month ago...
@bananapanda Good luck with work idiots and daycare. My 3.5 almost 4 year old isn't even allowed to try to wipe his butt yet-it's worse if he tries. Maybe next year.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
About 2 weeks ago I replaced two different brake lights on my car. I also had the dreaded check engine light come on. I dealt with all of this. Then my key fob battery died last week and I was locked out of my car at the post office with purse and phone locked in the car, for some reason apparently the key does not work in the keyhole in the door, go figure. Then I discovered a headlight went out. Not 48 hours after said headlight died a cop pulled me over on my way home because my headlight was out. I knew it, and fortunately had just purchased a new bulb and had it sitting on the front seat of my car. Fortunately I wasn’t speeding or doing anything wrong so he had to just let me go, but I am seriously over it. None of this has amounted to any major car trouble that impacts my ability to drive it, but it’s all been a massive pain!
2 years ago I fixed my water pump and thermometer. I was going to sell it last summer but it's not worth much and I didn't feel like putting out $5000 to buy a decent vehicle. This was a mistake. Car decided to break on me last month or so. Coolant leak so bad I filled it up, drove 30 minutes home and it was completely empty. Thermostat melted, engine over heated. 2 oil leaks. The smell, holy moly the smell. Dead if winter and I couldn't have my heater on. Which also broke, it only blew out of the hands area so no defrosted window for me. Got to the point I couldn't drive it. Decided to get it fixed. Cost about $2000, and should have had another $800 added onto it but the very nice owner did the fan part for free. Two weeks after all of this fixed... Another leak in the engine. That terrible smell is back. It's in the shop again now. Stupid thing is going this summer. I'm pissed, I should have just sold it.
@jess09lynn it’s hard to know sometimes when it’s worth fixing an older car and when it’s time to sell. In the past I have done both, keep a car until it’s virtually worthless, and another time I sold in lieu of doing $4500 in repairs. You never know what will happen next.
@mamaqdubu Ugh your MIL sounds terrible. I hope you’re able to breathe a little and get excited for your trip. It sounds like you have the opportunity for a great Babymoon if everyone behaves
@m6agua You know your body, if anyone says that your very healthy breakfast isn’t good enough, then tell them you will top it with cake frosting to meet their standards! 😂
@bananapanda Hie the hell do they expect a 2 yo to wipe herself?!? That’s ridiculous
@jess09lynn Just a friendly heads up-it's not uncommon for the entire engine to blow up within 10-15,000 miles of a major overheating event like that. Car troubles totally suck.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pirateduck you inspired me to change the battery in my key fob. It's been saying replace battery for a couple weeks and I had finally bought batteries but not gotten around to putting it in. I'm so sorry for all your car troubles - they are miserable. We are dealing with similar for MH's vehicle. $2500 later...
@jess09lynn@pirateduck A good rule of thumb is when the repair costs more than what the car is worth (without the issue), it's time to get rid of it. It's better to put the money towards a new car at that point. You can easily look up the approximate value of any used car on Kelley Blue Book
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
@shamrocandroll agreed! Fortunately I’m still at the point of minor, but annoying, stuff. I think now In the past year I have replaced ALL headlight and brake light bulbs and a turn signal bulb. I guess all I have left is the other turn signal
@shamrocandroll also agree. Unfortunately it wasn't all in one go. Little things kept happening if I knew it would cost this much we never would have put any money into it.
Re: Monday BF 2/24
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
My Monday BF is this GD. I've been testing since Thursday afternoon and my numbers have been completely fine with my typical meals and activity level (which is just housework and chasing a toddler). I'm fine with tracking my food and pricking my finger during this pregnancy, I just don't want to deal with the doctors and dietitians. I already know that if I go into them they will tell me I am not eating enough carbs and try to use scare tactics to get me to follow their conventional standards. They will say I need to test my urine ketones and they will talk about diabetic ketoacidosis. But I know better, I know urine ketones are not that accurate for seeing what state of ketosis your body is in, I know ketosis can actually be fairly normal during pregnancy, and I know that ketosis is NOT ketoacidosis! I'm sorry but if I am eating free range eggs, sausage, and a piece of toast with half an avocado and slice of tomato on top with my decaf coffee with a scoop of collagen and coconut creamer (no added sugar) for breakfast and you are going to tell me to eat more carbs you are crazy! That is a nicely balanced, nutrient dense meal!
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019My Monday BF is all about MIL. I'm leaving for Iceland on Wednesday or a wedding over the weekend. My SIL and my parents are the main caregivers while we are gone because they know the kids the best and will make them feel comfortable and happy. MIL shows up last night unannounced with legitimately 18 pages of color coded handwritten GARBAGE asking ME to fill out every waking absurd detail of our life (mind you, I already wrote down all important numbers, itinerary, drs, schedule, etc in an email and sent it around). She wanted me to do things like handwrite directions to their daycare where she won't be picking up the boys, want to know what everyone should do with our mail or a fedex package if one comes, and what are our dog's "favorite" words and the exact time they should get treats (ummm... whenever you want I don't care). She wanted me to handwrite directions to the closest childrens hospital, when I don't even trust her to put the kids safely in a car seat. I wish I was exaggerating that it's 18 pages, and i'm most definitely not. I just can't take a picture because our personal info is all over it and now I have to literally burn the papers to get rid of the amount of insane info on it. I'm already stressed about this trip and not looking forward to it that much, and she just made it so much worse. Thankfully DH diffused it and sent me out shopping by myself last night so he could deal with her insanity. Also, not to mention how INSULTING it is that she thinks I wouldn't put together important info to share with the people who are caring for my children. DH says I can't be insulted because of her mental state (she's depressed and stays home 100% of her time). Well, you know what, she raised 4 kids and if her MIL told her the "best" way to take care of her kids she would have blown a gasket, so I'm in my right to be annoyed.
TLDR: my MIL is inputting herself into things she doesn't need about my upcoming trip, and I'm beyond annoyed and insulted.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
1)My coworkers. It's not even a good story worth typing just lots of little things adding up day after day that are really driving me nuts. We have flex hours but most of us get in between 7-9 and then work our 8 hours. Well two of the girls show up about 10, take an hour and a half lunch, and then leave before 4 most days. HOW IS THIS OKAY? And the managers don't seem to care because they're under the impression these two are "working from home in the evenings" but I never see them on when I have to get online to do ACTUAL WORK. Also their voices and their faces leave me wanting to fight them on the regular. Last pregnancy I started working from home one day a week around this point just so I could sleep in an extra hour (long commute) and put my feet up to be more comfy because that's what a previous coworker did who was pregnant just before me and set the standard. I'm ready to start that now just to avoid being around these two, but then they'll of course have some excuse why they ALSO need to work from home, but they'll need to do it at least 3 days a week I'm sure. Not to mention how much extra work I actually have to do from them slacking off.
2) DD's daycare - so once or twice a week over the past few weeks they'll send home a pair of dirty underwear in a bag and say "oh she didn't have an accident, but we noticed she didn't wipe good so we changed them". Mind you she is not even quite 2 1/2 and is just recently potty trained and you're telling me they expect her to wipe her own butt!? Literally half of the kids in her classroom aren't even potty trained. So then her poor butt was all red and sore this weekend from sitting in poop for who knows how long because they feel a 2 year old is capable of handling it all on her own? I think part of the problem is when they have a different teacher in there than the regular one who is there 4 days a week so I didn't cause a stink yet, but I definitely will be discussing with them at pickup today and letting them know this is not acceptable.
My BF is at Pizza Hut. DH skipped lunch with me so I ordered a pizza. Get back to the office and there are onions. No big deal. I can pick them off. UNTIL there was a piece of raw chicken on my taco pizza. Called the store and they made a new one.... only to bite into onion and uncooked bacon. I'm done. Clearly the universe wants me to eat thin mints for lunch. blech.
@pourmeanothermocktail I completely agree with you. Apparently the trend at DD1's school is that you get the flu, then potentially the other strain of flu, then strep, then pneumonia. We will pass on the pneumonia, please and thank you.
Also, second BF. Why in the world would you text less than 48 hours beforehand saying "Hey btw soccer practice starts Tuesday! see you there!" A little notice would be nice. DD1 had a well check scheduled for that day, but I moved it to spring break so she wouldn't have to miss more school since she was out all last week.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
2 years ago I fixed my water pump and thermometer. I was going to sell it last summer but it's not worth much and I didn't feel like putting out $5000 to buy a decent vehicle. This was a mistake. Car decided to break on me last month or so. Coolant leak so bad I filled it up, drove 30 minutes home and it was completely empty. Thermostat melted, engine over heated. 2 oil leaks. The smell, holy moly the smell. Dead if winter and I couldn't have my heater on. Which also broke, it only blew out of the hands area so no defrosted window for me. Got to the point I couldn't drive it. Decided to get it fixed. Cost about $2000, and should have had another $800 added onto it but the very nice owner did the fan part for free. Two weeks after all of this fixed... Another leak in the engine. That terrible smell is back. It's in the shop again now. Stupid thing is going this summer. I'm pissed, I should have just sold it.
@mamaqdubu that sounds insane!
@pirateduck @jess09lynn ugh car troubles are the worst!
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019@m6agua You know your body, if anyone says that your very healthy breakfast isn’t good enough, then tell them you will top it with cake frosting to meet their standards! 😂
@bananapanda Hie the hell do they expect a 2 yo to wipe herself?!? That’s ridiculous
@pourmeanothermocktail Hopefully everyone starts feeling better soon
@mamaj1220 Damn cheap landlord
@TattoosandLace Ugh so sad about your pizza debacles... hopefully you enjoyed your thin mints
@jess09lynn @pirateduck Hopefully no more car troubles! That’s enough for both of you for a while
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
ETA fixed link
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
@shamrocandroll also agree. Unfortunately it wasn't all in one go. Little things kept happening if I knew it would cost this much we never would have put any money into it.