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August 2020 Moms
wildrainbow
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PGAL Check In w/o Feb. 10
wildrainbow
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This is a thread for anyone who has experienced a loss at any point during this journey. Hoping we can support each other. TW applies to the entire thread.
EDD/weeks+days?
Other children?
Previous losses?
Concerns or worries this week?
Any milestones coming up?
Questions?
GTKY: Are you public with your losses, or do only you and your partner know?
Other children?
Previous losses?
Concerns or worries this week?
Any milestones coming up?
Questions?
GTKY: Are you public with your losses, or do only you and your partner know?
Re: PGAL Check In w/o Feb. 10
Other children? DD, Elizabeth, 2 years old
Previous losses? MMC July 2019 (9 weeks)
Concerns or worries this week? My NIPT results came back today- low risk and a boy. Combined with a low risk NT scan, I’m feeling positive. Anxious about the anatomy scan, but that’s a way’s off. I think we’ll wait to announce on social media until after that scan.
Any milestones coming up? Coming up on my MC due date (2/24). It’s making me a little blue. I thought I’d be holding my baby in my arms this month. 😞
Questions? Has anyone else struggled with gender disappointment? I was so hoping for another girl, but it wasn’t meant to be. Especially after my recent loss, I feel like a monster even admitting this. I’ve been crying since getting my results when I should just be grateful. I feel like there’s something wrong with me. I feel emotionally detached from my baby now.
GTKY: Are you public with your losses, or do only you and your partner know? Close family and friends know, but I’ve been conflicted about whether or not to post on social media. So far I haven’t.
Other children? 2 boys,, 3yrs and 15mo
Previous losses? 5 losses, including ectopic, BO, and CP
Concerns or worries this week? I had some PGAL anxiety yesterday because I hadn't really felt baby move, so I got my doppler out to hear the hb. Instant relief.
Any milestones coming up? Passed them all
Questions?
GTKY: Are you public with your losses, or do only you and your partner know? I am. I have always been upfront with my losses and how I feel. I want what I've been through to be used to help others. Loss is so isolating, if I can lessen that by being upfront about what I've been through then so be it. My story isnt pretty, or even happy, but it's mine and it's shaped who I am.
Other children? 1
Previous losses? 2 MMC in 2018
Concerns or worries this week? My PGAL emotions are running high this week. Also, DH tested positive for Flu A so I am about to go pick up my Tamiflu prescription to be safe.
Any milestones coming up? I just passed them earlier this week. But I have an anniversary coming up from my first loss.
I had my 12 week ultrasound today and everything is cool. As soon as the tech walked out of the room I broke down into a huge sob. I can't believe that I've made it this far. Emotion overload. DH is quarantined at home while ill so I called him and he was all upset wondering what went wrong at the u/s. I couldn't help but cry with happiness and total mental breakdown.
Questions?
GTKY: Are you public with your losses, or do only you and your partner know? I am not really public about it but it's not a secret. I prefer not to talk about it but I would never pretend the losses didn't happen.
***TW***
****trigger warning****
1 LC, girl 5 years old
TTC #2 Summer 2017
BFP 1/5/2018, MC (D & E) 2/23/2018
TTCAL May 2018
BFP 9/20/2018, MC (D & E) 11/16/2018
Other children? 3yo DS
Previous losses? Two losses - Nov 2018 at 10w and Sept 2019 at 6w
Concerns or worries this week? Feeling much more confident that this will be our second take home baby. I have vague worries about finding out something is terribly wrong with him, but I know the likelihood of that is very low. I also started feeling him move this week which is a huge comfort.
Any milestones coming up? I’ve past the milestones for this pregnancy, but a different kind of milestone came up this week. So we have these good friends who we met in our newborn group for DS. Our sons are 6 days apart and go to the same daycare and are best friends. Right after my last loss, I found out they were pregnant with their second. As much as I wanted to be happy for them, seeing them was a really painful reminder of our losses. Anyway, this week they had their baby and I’ve just felt really grateful to be having a healthy pregnancy and I’ve been able to be really happy for them. It feels like I’ve come full circle.
GTKY: Are you public with your losses, or do only you and your partner know? We were pretty public with our first loss because we’d already told a lot of friends and family about the pregnancy. We were less public with the second one, but still told some friends and family. Even though it’s hard, I want to be as open as possible about my losses because it may provide some comfort to someone going through the same thing. I remember being really grateful to friends who were public about the losses because it made me feel less alone when I was going through mine.
Other children? DD is 16m
Previous losses? Yes
Concerns or worries this week? I was a big ball of nerves again all of a sudden leading up to our NT scan yesterday... But it went perfectly! So amazing to see our sweet little baby wriggling around in there, and that <i>HB</i>! ❤️❤️❤️
Any milestones coming up? I am telling the rest of my team at work tomorrow... :#
Questions?
GTKY: Are you public with your losses, or do only you and your partner know? Very few know about our IF/IVF stuff. More people vaguely know that we "struggled." I told my boss we had had a loss or losses prior, because word got out before I was ready to share, and it was pretty upsetting. Turns out she is a loss mama too, and her little rainbow is turning 6 now, I think. I'm glad I told her, because she really didn't bug me or mention it after that, until this afternoon when I told her I was planning to tell the team tomorrow. Her face lit up and she was genuinely excited to hear that things were going well! So that was sweet.
Other children? 2 girls, 3.5 and 11 months
Previous losses? 1, ectopic
Concerns or worries this week? We told family last weekend and just shared with close friends today. Always makes me a bit nervous when we share the news.
Any milestones coming up? Passed them!
Questions?
GTKY: Are you public with your losses, or do only you and your partner know? I have been quite private with my loss, just didn’t feel like talking about it or sharing. I’ve told my younger sister but that’s it. If I ever felt my journey could help or comfort someone going through something similar, though, I wouldn’t hesitate to share.