Product Spotlight - Intangibles

Kathryn0903 · January 2020

Each week we'll spotlight a new category of product. Feel free to comment on threads like these throughout your time at the board, not just when they're in their week in the spotlight, if you discover something new OR are new to the board. This week it's.... Intangibles!

Some products can't be bought--and some experiences sh/could be that would be greatly helpful to a PG person/new mom. Here are some helpful prompts to get us started!

ALL

Products aren't everything! What sort of services or help or non-buyable actions are on your wishlist for this pregnancy/post-partum time?
Are there any intangible things that people have offered you thus far or what you have indulged in/purchased already that you'd recommend?

STM/+s

What sort of services or help or non-buyable actions were most helpful to you for previous pregnancies/PP?
Were there any that you wished you had been able to receive but didn't?

FTMs

What sort of services or help or non-buyable actions have been offered or purchased for you for your pregnancy/PP, if any?
What are any that you are thinking of indulging in or registering for or purchasing?

To view the upcoming PSS schedule, see here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1j7iBv8rbDsTBMXAK7R3NWhG-619XNbpdNza2uci0iYs/edit#gid=0!
Next up: Baby Containers

skc040512 · January 2020

100% get some meals prepped. TTM here and having meals for after baby is the biggest stresser for me. If a friend or family member offers to make freezer meals (or you have a friend who loves to cook and asks what you need for baby) TAKE THEM UP ON IT! I made about 3 months worth of dinners with my mom’s help for DD2 and it was such a weight off my shoulders! You could also subscribe to meal boxes like Hello Fresh, but there’s something nice about being able to literally just stick your meal in the oven and be done with it (it’s the no prep, no work, little mess. That’s what’s so nice 😂).

Also take up family members or friends up on their offer to clean for you! Most second time moms who visit will at least offer to straighten up - and it’s not a judgement on you! But ask for help and let people help with anything and everything around the house. Again, you can always pay for a cleaning service but if that’s not in the budget, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Meal kits and Cleaning services are in no way a part of my budget, but if you can find free ways to get the help you need, take advantage!

krthouse · January 2020

We were gifted a cleaning service and I'm so relieved because we can have them do a deep clean right before baby is due.

DH is gifting us a spa day next month because baby comes shortly before our first wedding anniversary and we likely will just spend it with baby. I'm getting a prenatal massage as part of it and I cannot wait!

We also would love to use a frozen healthy meal service for maybe a week or two when baby first arrives, though DH's mama I know plans on helping with meals in those first few days at least.

Not a purchased service, but I have three close friends who have all said they intend to come hold/walk/distract baby for me so I can have a shower, nap or get a coffee on my own when DH goes back to work. This is one of the best things that I plan to take them up on because family history suggests I may be at higher risk for postpartum depression. Any help with little things to maintain my sense of self and reduce isolation is a big gift in my mind.

Kathryn0903 · January 2020

If friends/family offer to bring you food, take them up on that offer. We had no desire to cook immediately after DS came and the food being brought was so nice.
Let friends/family come and hold baby while you shower/eat/nap.
Enjoy your time in the hospital. It is nice to have nurses there to help and ask questions. It can be a little intimidating bringing baby home and realizing you're on your own now.
As a STM, I'm hoping for friends/family to come and keep DS entertained, so I can focus on baby on my own a little.

smallbutmighty77 · January 2020

I have a plan for freezer meals that I will do so we have enough for at least a week or two. Hoping for more.
My best friends moms both brought food last time so if they offer I will not be stubborn and take them up on it. My best friends mom came last time and deep cleaned my kitchen bc I kept telling her I didn't need help and she should just relax with the baby- but she knew better. So anyone who offers anything, I will take.

Last time, we brought DD home on a Sat and DH started a new job on Monday so it was straight into the solo fire after a c-section and it was the hardest thing ever, so DH will be 100% home a full week after we come home. That alone is a freaking gift compared to last time! Plus we have a yard so I don't have to try and walk the dog with a newborn, 5 days after a c-section.

But I am expecting we will be fairly solo, so freezer meals, all laundry done, fridge and freezer organized and prepped, fresh bedding for everyone, and I will splurge and get my nails done and a pre-natal massage.

coaster102516 · January 2020

Accept any offer from friends/family to bring you coffee, a meal, or help around the house or with other children. I especially appreciated those who brought food because cooking was the last thing I wanted to do.

Stay in the hospital as long as possible (if you have another child at home). I regret not staying another night because chaos hits once you get home. Would have been nice to have sent MH home for the night and had one night just one min-one with my newborn. This is less true as a FTM

If you can swing it, a cleaner. We started using one right before our first was born almost 5 years ago and haven’t stopped. It takes so much pressure and arguments off of us.

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