Group 2 Check-In (3/9-3/16) w/o 1/6/20

varimama · January 2020

EDD/W+D:

Team pink/blue/green:

Baby is the size of a(n):

Cravings/Aversions:

Upcoming appts:

Rants/Raves/Questions:

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies?

varimama · January 2020

EDD/W+D: 3/8, 31+1

Team pink/blue/green: blue

Baby is the size of a(n): compsognathus (I though DS would be excited but he was just disappointed he’s not the size of a t-rex 🦖 🤣)

Cravings/Aversions: pasta, though it might be because we have been watching the Sopranos and they always have the best looking pasta!

Upcoming appts: next Wednesday for 32 week appt.

Rants/Raves/Questions: DS is so spoiled from having DH home for 2 weeks. He expects constant attention now and to always do what he wants and I’m just not able to bc I have to do things like dishes and laundry. He’s been acting out bc of it.

Next week is our Infant CPR class! I’m kind of excited for it. My ILs are going to watch DS so I’ll meet DH after work and we’ll go to dinner and then the class. It’ll give my ILs a chance to put DS in bed too so we’ll see how that goes 😬

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies? It’s sort of gone how I expected. Only bummer is I only got a few weeks of feeling good since morning sickness lasted through 20 weeks and then I’ve had a cold since like week 23...It’s been a lot harder on my body than DS was. Plus having to keep up with DS has been a challenge where last time I worked a desk job.

liz3729 · January 2020

EDD/W+D: 03/11 - 30+5

Team pink/blue/green: Blue

Baby is the size of a(n): Zucchini

Cravings/Aversions: My apple pie/ice cream craving has died down recently.

Upcoming appts: Regular OB/GYN check-up 01/14

Rants: Back to work today and it sucks. My sleep was trash last night, I woke up around 3a and couldn't get comfortable enough go back to sleep (this has been a new normal for me but being out of work the last 2 weeks, I was at least able to sleep in). I think I dozed off around 5:30a, then my alarm went off a 6 ugh. Hopefully, I can get a full night's sleep tonight.

Raves: My baby shower is coming up and I'm so excited! We have our close family and friends coming and I can't wait to feel all the love

Also, baby is getting bigger so his movements are becoming more obvious from the outside. I love looking down and seeing my belly move.

We start our weekly childbirth classes next Monday (they are weekly and there are 4 classes total) which I'm very excited about. These classes include a tour of the maternity ward at the hospital that I'll be giving birth.

Questions:

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough?
This pregnancy has pretty much gone as expected. The only thing I could never expect or prepare for was the first trimester nausea/fatigue, sensitivity to smells & food aversions. It's really something that you can't explain and it's def not like anything I've ever experienced before.

As a FTM I feel like women can and should talk more about how to prepare for after giving birth in terms of what changes your body goes through. I know that once the baby comes they become the focus, but I would like to know what kind of things to prepare for with my body after giving birth.

emilyace · January 2020

EDD/W+D: 3/12, 30+4

Team pink/blue/green: Blue 💙

Baby is the size of a(n): Babylist says a bike helmet 😂

Cravings/Aversions: feeling like I have regressed to the first trimester again where nothing sounds good 🤦🏼‍♀️

Upcoming appts: 1/16 for my 32 week appointment

Rants/Raves/Questions: Rave: had my baby shower Saturday and it was lovely, my older sister planned it and it was beautiful, fun and no annoying games 😂 not to sound ungrateful AT ALL because I’m thankful for all the gifts we received at the shower but a little rant of mine is this is our first baby and we researched a lot for our registry and almost everyone got us off-registry gifts, mostly clothes, so now I feel like we have a lot to get before he gets here.

Also rant, at my shower there were “baby prediction” cards where the guests could write when they think baby will be born, who he will look like, etc and a section for advice and my MIL wrote “LET ZACK (my husband) HELP WITH EVERYTHING! Don’t forget he is new at this too” as if he weren’t going to be involved with the child that WE decided to have together or that I wouldn’t allow him to be a part of anything 🤦🏼‍♀️ Smh. It’s new to both of us, we have a great relationship and obviously are planning to raise this baby as a team since, you know, we are married and made the decision to expand our family together. Just add it to the list of all of her other nonsensical, passive aggressive comments. My SIL also let me know she wants to bring her 4 kids who are age 7 all the way down to 8 months to the hospital to meet the baby and I shut that down immediately. Idk what it is about babies/pregnancy that makes people around you lose their minds lol

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies? I am a FTM so I wasn’t sure what to expect but I feel like things have gone very smoothly compared to friends/family members pregnancies and I’m feeling very lucky. I feel like (and as mentioned above) it would be nice if more women talked about what to do AFTER the pregnancy and share some tips and tricks for recovery. It just seems like there is SO MUCH info about pregnancy which is great, but I also want to really know how to have the easiest transition coming home and healing while also transitioning into parenting.

varimama · January 2020

@lizp1229 and @emilyace do you guys think a postpartum thread would be helpful? FTMs could ask questions and STMs+ could share their experiences. You guys are right I had no clue what was going on with my body first time until it happened and drs/nurses were like oh that’s normal...

ETA but most of it is not exactly pleasant so I wonder if that’s why moms don’t talk about it much 🤷🏻‍♀️

treetop19 · January 2020

@varimama, that CPR class sounds like a good idea - I've been eyeing a few classes myself, but DH doesn't want to go this time around.. I may just have to fly solo. I've already signed up for a comfort in labor class. for the postpartum thing - I definitely think women don't talk about it because some of the things might be seen as embarrassing/personal. Also, maybe some of the 'details' get lost in the no-sleep fog of having a newborn.

@lizp1229, agreed. I heard a lot from people about baby and what to expect, but a lot of things I experienced postpartum were never really talked about. my mom did come over with a giant box of pads and some prunes after I got home from the hospital, both of which I didn't know I'd need - I didn't realize there would be so much postpartum bleeding (and for so long) and I also didn't realize that the first poop after labor would be so painful (hence the attempt to make it less harsh with all the fiber.)

@emilyace, sorry the inlaws were being dumb at your shower! your MIL is maybe reliving her own experience with her comment.. maybe she didn't let her DH participate in the newborn care much and she regretted it? but still, that comment was insensitive and silly to make. and your SIL... I can't imagine wanting to drag 4 young kids to the hospital to see a cousin.. you'll only be there a few days anyway, and it's not like they won't see you outside of the hospital. definitely would just be a big imposition in the short time you have there. it goes by way too fast anyway!

EDD/W+D: March 10

Team pink/blue/green: team pink

Baby is the size of a(n):

Cravings/Aversions: everything sweet, but can't indulge, unfortunately.

Upcoming appts: regular check up Jan 13

Rants/Raves/Questions: Rave, I think the insulin/extra walking is finally helping get a handle on gestational diabetes..my blood sugar was finally in range this morning for the first time ever. I feel fabulous! I just popped out of bed full of energy this morning.. lol. I had no idea my high blood sugar was bringing me down in terms of fatigue that much. still, it feels like a battle every day to fight my sweet tooth and eat sensibly. I never craved sweets so much in my other pregnancies... I guess now I know there's a reason for that, since my blood sugar rises/crashes so much more, my body craves sweets when it's crashing. I need to stop being late on or skipping meals.

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies? This pregnancy has definitely not gone like I expected. I expected the first tri yuckies, but I fully expected to be feeling great 2nd tri, which didn't happen this time around due to a lot of fatigue/aches and pains. I definitely didn't expect to get gestational diabetes and be using insulin. I also didn't expect the last part of it to be flying by so fast, or all the 'feels' I'd get from it being my last pregnancy. I didn't expect the tinge of gender disappointment that came about when I found out I was having a girl I also didn't expect! it's kind of been a wild ride this time around.

EmilyLove25 · January 2020

Happy Tuesday, Ladies!

EDD/W+D: March 12th/30 weeks 5 days

Team pink/blue/green: GREEN!

Baby is the size of a(n): Platypus (Awwwww)

Cravings/Aversions: Various things come and go. I’m meeting a former coworker for lunch at an Asian place, and right now that sounds pretty great!

Upcoming appts: 1/16 for a 32 week appointment and a growth scan!

Rants/Raves/Questions: RANT: I need to get prepared for this baby. I’ve bought… NOTHING. I know it’s my third, but there are still things I need… I’m just having a hard time getting started! Also RANT: I can’t decide between the Willow 2.0 and the Elvie. I wish I knew more people who have experience with them!

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies?

Yes! This pregnancy so far really has been pretty textbook, and, if I’m being honest, it has been my easiest. I had carpal tunnel with DD from 26 weeks until the day I have birth and can't even explain how terrible that was; with DS I was sick and throwing up the ENTIRE pregnancy. I really can’t complain about this one aside from standard things—like my lungs don’t fit anymore and sleeping is hard and I pee ALL THE TIME…

@varimama is this your first time watching the Sopranos? I can’t even eat it, but OMG it made me want Baked Ziti. It's also my favorite show of all time!

@lizp1229 I totally feel you on it sucking being back at work/sleep issues. Between my two kids and being pregnant AND work, I’m just not going to get great sleep from now until… 2021? Hahahaha. Yay for your baby shower too! So exciting and great to feel how loved LO is already!

@emilyace Yay for the baby shower. I think people love buying cute clothes but man, that registry is there for a reason! Also that is 100% something my MIL would do as well.

@treetop19 Glad the insulin and walking are helping. The sweet and sugar cravings DO totally make sense!

liz3729 · January 2020

@varimama Yes! A postpartum thread would be awesome. I do agree that since most of what happens after birth is probably pretty gross and painful, people don't talk about it much.

@treetop19 I've heard some stories about the first poop after birth and it definitely scares me!

@EmilyLove25 haha yes, since I'm a FTM I would like to take advantage of allll the sleep I can get now because I know that after baby, getting good sleep will quickly become a distant memory.

mrsvp614 · January 2020

@varimama LOVED the Sopranos and totally agree with the pasta cravings! I think a postpartum thread would be good. I learned a lot from the one that was on TTGP my first time around. The good, the bad, the UGLY!
@lizp1229 I've had several nights/mornings of sleep like that, and it's so frustrating.
@emilyace Good for you for shutting down SIL's plans to bombard you in the hospital! I also hate the idea of getting all clothes at a baby shower.

EDD/W+D: 3.10/31 weeks

Team pink/blue/green: Blue

Baby is the size of a(n): loaf of bread

Cravings/Aversions: Still eating a PB english muffin and chocolate milk every morning! Also loving TJ's lemonade.

Upcoming appts: 32 week appointment and ultrasound next Friday.

Rants/Raves/Questions: Rant: Just wishing I could sleep better. Not many complaints, but just general discomfort.
Rave: Feeling more settled with baby's room. We got a new crib and dresser set up, but we're not really going all out with decor or anything. We're reusing stuff from DS1's room. Also helping my parents house hunt. With my dad planning to retire in May, they'll be moving here, and it'll be so nice to have parents here now!

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies? STM here, and it's gone pretty similarly to DS1's pregnancy. That does make me slightly nervous, since I dealt with blood pressure spiking and major swelling near the end last time. It's harder, dealing with a toddler while pregnant, but also better for me this time around being on a normal work schedule and being pregnant during the winter rather than the summer.

varimama · January 2020

@treetop19 I’m so glad the insulin is helping but I’m sorry you have to deal with it at all. Hope you keep feeling better as your blood sugar levels get better!

@EmilyLove25 yes it’s my first time watching the Sopranos and I totally made baked ziti this week (and shrimp scampi is on the menu for tomorrow)! sorry I don’t know anything about either of those pumps but choosing a pump is so stressful! I fretted for like a week over my insurance choice and finally just made myself choose.

@mrsvp614 that’s awesome your parents will be closer. My ILs are close and they are lifesavers. Also I’m stealing that line for the postpartum thread (The good, the bad, the ugly)!

emilyace · January 2020

@varimama THANK YOU for starting the Postpartum board. I’m excited to read everything!

Cristin343 · January 2020

EDD/W+D: 31+1, wow.... this is starting to get real!

Team pink/blue/green: green

Baby is the size of a(n): miniature ninja apparently

Cravings/Aversions: craving oranges, crushing water and Gatorade like nobody’s business. Salmon = still major aversion

Upcoming appts: soon?

Rants/Raves/Questions: Question! Anyone have a maternity bra that they love? Mine have all become too tight and I REALLY am so not in the mood to go get fitted. I need to find a comfy maternity bra online.

I know... 😣 they are gonna get even bigger after baby comes. And I’m kinda scared TBH!

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not?

It’s been very similar to my past two, in so many ways. But much easier than expected! I must admit I was a little scared to be pregnant at 40. It was not “the plan”

FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? I don’t think women talk much about how the weight gain messes with their head! Or is that just me???
STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies? Easier somehow!

Also, love the idea of a p/p thread! Can’t wait to check it out. Some of us are going to start popping out babies here pretty soon! It’s inevitable! 🙈

miss.sally · January 2020

EDD/W+D: 3/11 31 weeks!!

Team pink/blue/green: Blue

Baby is the size of a(n): 🤷🏼‍♀️

Cravings/Aversions: I want ALL the fruit. I’ve been eating clementines and grapes like it is my job.

Upcoming appts: Regular midwife appointment next week!

Rants: I’m just so tired. And I feel like I have SO much to do before baby. And my list keeps getting longer. And we really need to go car shopping but H is being a butthead about it so I don’t know when it’ll happen. But it needs to.

Questions: Does anyone else have an obscene amount of discharge suddenly?! It’s majorly grossing me out and I don’t know where it came from. Also the BH are getting super annoying. ALSO. Anyone else feeling annoyed with clothes? My other pregnancies I was huge in the summer so I wore shorts and sun dresses so it didn’t bug me. But I feel like lately my skin in just crawling and I hate all clothing except my pajamas. It’s so sad. My belly is just so low that even maternity pants aren’t fitting right and I absolutely hate having to get dressed. How am I going to make it another 9 weeks?!

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough?
This pregnancy has been rough. I feel badly complaining because I know I should just be thankful. But I’m so completely done. I’m not “ready” for baby, but I’m so freaking ready. I just want to not feel so miserable. And I want to wear normal clothes again.

Cristin343 · January 2020

@""miss.sally" I’m so glad you brought up the discharge thing. Yes, I’m struggling with that more all of a sudden. Not pleasant!
I’m trying to put extra effort in in the mornings to feel good, even though everything requires such effort. After I shower and get all dressed in the AM I get so irritated when I realize I need to change underwear again! —because that’s so much work-😂😂 Started wearing a liner today.

Clothes are also annoying. I feel very fortunate to work from home so I’ve been changing back into cozy stuff after I drop my girls off in the mornings. My stupid pants are starting to roll at the waistline. 🤨

varimama · January 2020

@Cristin343 I am really liking my motherhood maternity favorite seamless nursing bras. I got the full cup ones because I’m a 32DDD and they are pretty supportive for not having underwire and they have a removable pad so my nipples aren’t sticking out all the time. They frequently have bra sales so sign up for their emails if you haven’t already to see when those are.

@miss.sally Don’t feel bad, it sounds like you’ve had a lot rougher than average pregnancy. I hope it starts to get easier on you or at least these last few weeks go quickly. I’m already feeling pretty uncomfortable myself and wondering how I’m going to make it another 9 weeks too!

momoftoddlers · January 2020

EDD/W+D: 31 weeks

Team pink/blue/green: it’s a boy

Baby is the size of a(n): 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cravings/Aversions: Craving vanilla soft serve

Upcoming appts: Midwife next week

Rants/Raves/Questions: It hurts to sit! How is this even possible? I guess it’s like sciatic pain but ughh there is literally no comfortable position. I don’t remember feeling this uncomfortable this early!

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies?

This pregnancy has been tougher than expected. I thought third pregnancy after two easy ones I’d just be this pregnancy goddess who totally had this. Instead I’ve had a lot of small problems that have made this difficult, and I know there is no way I am ever doing this again.

EmilyLove25 · January 2020

@miss.sally OMG I could have written so many things you put! YES to the discharge. It is REALLY annoying me. Like, enough already body. And I am so over clothes and coats. I refuse to buy anything else too. I'm just done. Everything aside from my sweatpants blows. The only thing I keep telling myself to help (?) is that maybe it isn't 9 more weeks... like maybe I'll deliver at 38 weeks? Inexplicably and irrationally that helps me (Although that then turns into OMFG I am not ready).

miss.sally · January 2020

@EmilyLove25 I fee you on a deep level. Solidarity. I’m seriously hoping I go at 38 weeks. I’m actually STILL angry at the first ultrasound tech for moving my due date back 11 days because I freaking know when I got pregnant and I’m fairly certain she wasn’t measuring properly. I’m going to ask at my next appointment for a growth scan and see if the midwives would feel comfortable moving my date forward if I’m measuring “ahead.” DS was also 9lb on his due date so like... if I go even a few days past what should be 40 weeks I’m terrified. Haha.

mauvelousone · January 2020

EDD/W+D: March 12, 31+0

Team pink/blue/green: Pink

Baby is the size of a(n): Baseball glove

Cravings/Aversions: Fries. Specifically boardwalk fries from a local pit barbecue joint.

Upcoming appts: Next week we tour the birthing center.

Rants/Raves/Questions: Picked out a daycare so that's nice.... if only the pediatrician's office would call me back so that I can get them booked.

GTKY: This pregnancy has probably been easier than most people's pregnancies. I haven't been so laid up by my various ailments that I've been unable to basically live my life.

However I, too, am SO DONE with pregnancy, with weird discharge and stretch marks and itching and being tired all the time and heartburn and my eyebrows growing twice as fast and these damn maternity pants that have to sag lower and lower each day.

I don't have the space in my home yet for a baby so she can't be born early. And I know that once I have a newborn it's not like sleep will be any easier. But I will be SO HAPPY to have my organs to myself again.

EmilyLove25 · January 2020

@mauvelousone OMG I love your post. I feel you 100%. Like I'm actually having an EASY pregnancy, but also, can it end please? And with all my pregnancies, I've so felt at this point and until the end that my poor organs just need their space back please. I ate a handful of pretzels at 8:30 PM last night and had acid reflux around midnight. Like that's not okay haha.

aerie_star · January 2020

EDD/W+D: March 13 31w2d

Team pink/blue/green: green

Baby is the size of a(n): bike helmet

Cravings/Aversions: none

Upcoming appts: Tuesday

Rants/Raves/Questions: I had to take some time away because of some family issues and then found it hard to come back.

Definitely starting to nest. We've set up the crib, received the loan of a halo bassinet, and I'm starting to gather up the things I want to bring with for the hospital this time. Started washing things and setting up baby gear too. Will try to buy the bulk of what we're getting this time around before February because I'm realizing I just want to be ready before I start weekly appointments.

GTKY: How has this pregnancy gone as you expected? How not? FTMs: what do you feel women don't talk about/enough? STM+s: how has this been different from your previous pregnancy/ies? This has been a much harder pregnancy than my first and we have much less social support this time around because of problems with my in laws.

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