I feel like I basically should re-intro because I haven't checked in since like 16 weeks Currently 28. Don't hate me. My app just stopped letting me access the community boards and I don't have the flexibility to use my computer for non-work stuff usually throughout the day. By the time I was flopping on to the couch after dinner and bedtime, I was exhausted and just wanted to have a short, adult conversation with my DH before passing tf out (I'm sure everybody here gets that). So excuses aside, I'm back, I'm here! Randoms for the week is I'm maybe leaving my current job to start a new one... in March. Like potentially the craziest idea of my life. But I don't know if I have the position yet, I go for a second interview soon. I kinda really want it, even though it would mean my maternity leave takes a huge hit.
Never have I experienced a holiday season as ill as this past one! DS1 brought home a cold from preschool the week before Thanksgiving. That cold passed along through all of us into mid-December (the worst cold I think I have ever had) and even hit my mom and MIL. I thought we'd all be better by Christmas then basically all of us got sick again over the past few weeks - mostly just colds again except for DS1 who either got a strain of the flu or a several day virus that really hit him hard. I think we are all finally mostly well again, except for the lingering coughing. Knock on wood that DS1 doesn't bring any new illnesses home anytime soon now that he's back to school again!
Now that I'm coming out of this haze of illness I'm really starting to feel the nesting bug. I'm pushing on my contractors to get started on our basement finishing project (which I think has basically no chance of being completed before baby now at this point). We also are starting the process of moving DS2 into DS1's room so I can use DS2's room for DS3. That mostly involves just buying new mattresses (DS1 was on a full but we are switching to two twins) and moving all of DS2's clothes/diaper changing setup into DS1's room. Once everything is set up, then we get the fun process of getting DS2 to sleep in there instead of in our bed with us.
@hellobabys Welcome back! I think everyone gets the break and business and CERTAINLY the night time exhaustion. If I couldn't get on at work, I'd have a much harder time! That's exciting about the new job. What would your leave be at your current job if you stayed?
@kailanae So glad you are all mostly on the mend. Colds seriously can be the WORST because they last so long. We passed around a cold then blessedly short stomach bug from December 18-December 28 or so. So glad that is over... and I am so with you on starting to feel the nesting bug!
Welcome back @hellobabys! Have you tried just using the browser on your phone vs the app? I find it’s not perfect but it is less glitchy.
@kailanae hope you are all feeling better soon! I can sympathize we’ve all had 3 colds starting before thanksgiving. DH and DS have each gotten better in between each one and are better again but I’ve stayed sick. Just went to the doctors again today and they are giving me a cough suppressant so hopefully that helps bc antibiotics and inhaler didn’t help.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@kailanae Oh man, us too. DS has always been pretty much a super trooper when it comes to colds, so his biggest problem with his cold was he had trouble sleeping because he couldn't breathe, whomp. But me and DH both got pretty gnarly sick. I didn't come right out and say he wasn't allowed to take any cold medicine since I couldn't (which I never would have anyways - he needs to be healthy to take care of the kid lol), but I think he didn't out of solidarity. We went through so many tissue boxes. And DS was an August due date baby, so I didn't get any winter colds while I was pregnant with him so I was shocked at how much this cold knocked me on my ass.
@emilylove25 At my current job, I'd get 16 weeks off with 70% pay. Which I know is crazy to pass up on, but I also know I will struggle big time coming back to this company after my leave, but staying at home indefinitely is not an option.
@varimama That thought literally never crossed my mind and I have no idea why! I'll have to trial run that tomorrow! Sorry your cold is hanging on. I feel like I've been sick for a million years too.
@kailanae ugh all that sickness sounds terrible! I’m also starting to nest pretty hard. We moved DD into a twin bed in Nov so we could convert her toddler bed back into a crib. Over the holidays, I moved the changing table and glider up to the nursery and moved 90% of DD’s toys out (it was her playroom....oops). Now I want to paint and I can’t wait to get all the baby clothes and toys out! I’m telling myself to wait another 2-4 weeks for that though.
I went back to work today after break. I still have so much to do and feel so behind with the new semester starting. DD has been a whiny mess at times the last few days. Not making things much easier.
@silverhope I was wondering where @stassischroeder was too, especially with all the previews for the new season of Vanderpump Rules starting! Hope everything is okay! Holidays do disrupt everything haha.
I’m starting to get the nesting bug over here, but there is pretty much nothing I can do until some other fairly big things take place. It totally sucks and it is stressing me out on many levels. I feel like I have a mile-high to-do list but I can’t get myself motivated to do much of anything because I’m so darn tired (DS won’t STTN most nights), and ah refuses to help with anything inside the home. He says it’s “my job” because he works full time. Which I think is total BS but he won’t listen to anything I have to say. I’m frustrated to say the least.
@hellobabys Welcome back! @miss.sally That's super frustrating for DH to not want to help. I've also been nesting like crazy too. I feel pretty set, especially since the baby will more than likely be in our room for the first few months.Just waiting for my sprinkle to load up on diapers, and hopefully get a gift card to cover the cost of the crib mattress.
@mrsvp614 not sure if you already know what mattress you want, but I found the best mattress deals on wayfair. Got a waterproof sealy for 75 dollars on day last week bc it was on sale.
@miss.sally that is super obnoxious of YH. I do try to do more of the house stuff in general since I'm the one home, but I've been very tired a lot of this pregnancy, so my husband has done more than I usually ask of him. He is also much more of a neat freak than me, so I think he just physically had to clean up some stuff that I have been too tired to get to. I'm sorry it's not even worth arguing about with YH. He should be going out of his way to help you out since you are carrying his baby.
Also I feel you on the stress of not being able to do stuff bc of roadblocks out of your control. We just (today) got our window shades installed for DS's big boy room and now that means we can finally move him to the big boy room. But I was at the mercy of our installer (who, understandably, took off over the holidays) and felt like I couldn't get anything moving until those were installed.
@miss.sally Hugs. Sounds like DH needs an attitude adjustment. My DH travels for work--but I work full time too--I have loads I could complain about with him, but if I ask him to do something around the house, he does it (when he's home obviously). That would annoy me to no end. I also have the nesting bug and no avenue for it. I keep the baby in our room at least the first 10-12 months, so I'm not bothering moving DS out of his nursery/room yet... so I just need to set up a space for the baby in our room, and I want to make it really nice, but I feel at a loss! I think I am going to start buying clothes and organizing them to at least feel somewhat accomplished?
@miss.sally That’s super not cool of YH. I stay home too so I do most of the inside stuff but if I need help with something he’s always willing to jump in! Especially if I’m sick and when I’m pregnant he does more than his share. He recognizes that even though he has a job in the office my “job” of taking care of DS doesn’t end at 5pm so sometimes I need help.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@kagesstarshroom I’ve been on an ice cream kick lately too! I normally struggle with ice cream a bit bc I have a slight lactose sensitivity but when I’m pregnant it goes away for some reason so I enjoy cereal most mornings and ice cream at night 🤣
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@varimama@miss.sally Haha thanks for your solidarity. The gif was less that I feel bad about the possible weight gain/sugar and more than by that time of night I feeeeeel soooooo fulllllll haha that I am like "why am I doing this/I can't stop doing this."
YAAS @kagesstarshroom@varimama@miss.sally I've had SO much ice cream this pregnancy!! If you like coffee ice cream, the coffee ice cream sandwiches from Trader Joes are some of the best things I've eaten in my entire life. Its a brownie ice cream sandwich!
Jealous of everyone enjoying ice cream. I'm vegan but I legit eat vegan ice cream 4 nights a week normally and LOVE it. But this pregnancy, I just have NO interest in sweets (rarely a cookie sounds good). It makes no sense and devastates me haha. Can't wait to get back to really enjoying sugar!
@EmilyLove25@silverhope I feel like a naughty teenager that snuck out without warning LOL. Everything is perfectly fine - just got back from a vaca in FL. In the chaos of travel I honestly forgot to warn you guys that I'd be MIA. Sorry about that!
I just used my amazon completion discount to order some stuff. It says you can use the discount twice so I’ll place my second order next month to spread out the cost. We didn’t need too much except boy blankets, new changing pad, burp cloths, bouncy seat, bath tub, towels, and then breastfeeding accessories and bottles. (Things that were not reusable by third baby or that were boy specific.) I also called my insurance to find out about a breast pump and submitted an order with the seller they use. It’ll process and ship next month. Starting to feel so real! (🤣 As if my ginormous achy body wasn’t real enough).
@stassischroeder I was hoping it was some sort of holidaze/vacay situation! Did you have a blast? Did you fly? How was flying if so? (I had some High Drama flying myself a week ago & fly again one more time next Mon./Wed. sooo I'm a bit nervous.
@chichiphin I graduated from Butter Nut Crunch to Chocolate PB Cookie Dough last night (which I added raspberries too & ate too close to bedtime & even though I felt massively full already bc...
I mean, I do. I do care about feeling too full but then also I am still gonna eat the ice cream soooo.
@emilylove25, I'm jealous of the ice cream enjoyers as well.. lol. I wish I had your problem in not craving it! lately I've been trying to satisfy my sweet tooth with apples/oranges or sugar free jello/pudding... but, sadly, it just isn't the same...
So if you check next week's TARGET ad (January 12-18) they have the if you spend $100 on baby supplies you get a $30 gift card. I'll be going Sunday and buying two things of newborn diapers, two things of Size 1, and 1,000 packs of wipes. I'll spend $100 and make DH spend $100 and get $60 in gift cards! This is my favorite!
@kagesstarshroom yes, it was a great vacation! And yes, we flew. DS did really well, but traveling with a toddler is never easy even in the best of situations. Also, I totally overdid things and pushed myself too hard because I had a mini-breakdown/panic attack yesterday. My body and brain were just FRIED, so I need to be more careful in the coming months. Also, I'll be talking to my OB about upping my dose of zoloft because how I felt yesterday is not ok.
Welllllll I’m in L&D. I called my midwife this morning because I had painful contractions last night that kept me awake basically all night. They weren’t timetable or anything but they’ve never woken me up before so I figured I should call. She was like “omg get here ASAP and let’s check you out.” So here I am. I came without H which I think is better because he’d just be stressing and complaining and I don’t need that right now.
I don’t think anything is actually wrong, or that I’m in active labor. But I just wanted to get checked out and make sure I’m not dilating or anything yet. This all started around 35-36 weeks with DS so this is definitely a bit earlier and I’m praying it isn’t going to continue until I have him.
@stassischroeder Hugs! I hate feeling that way. It's SO hard to make yourself take it easy--or at least I find it to be incredibly challenging. I hope you can do it! Take time for yourself!
@miss.sally OMG! I'm glad you decided to go in, and FX that it's nothing and you get to go home soon! Keep us updated!
@EmilyLove25 exactly! I was mostly having a panic attack because I felt entirely incapable of taking care of DS (or doing much of anything, for that matter). I'm assuming I was dealing with actual, clinical exhaustion. Thank god we had enough sense to send DS to daycare yesterday.
@stassischroeder I’m glad you had fun on your vacay!! And I’m sorry you had anxiety. I agree it is super difficult to force yourself to stop until it’s gone too far. I hope you’re able to to up your Zoloft and don’t have any more anxiety attacks. And maybe get in some rest!!
Update: they did a check and I’m not in active labor (which I figured), but they’ve got me all hooked up. I haven’t had a contraction since I’ve been here... go figure... but they’re going to monitor me for a while longer to see if any happen.
@miss.sally Glad things are looking ok. I feel like you and I are in a similar boat. I--no joke--had contractions until 2 AM last night. I went for a 4 mile run at 6:30, so I was expecting some. They stopped around 8, and then they started again when I got into bed (wth!). I was starting to get concerned and then they stopped... but like you, I expect this at 36 weeks. I wonder if it is just because it is our third so it's earlier?
@EmilyLove25 thats my guess. I did finally have a few here and she felt my belly in the middle of one (although it was small in comparison) and she said it’s time to put my feet up more and focus on my main job, which is creating a human. Lol. i think with this being the third things are just progressing and the body knows what’s up. Here’s hoping we both make it to at least 37 weeks!
Re: Weekly Randoms w/o 1.6
Randoms for the week is I'm maybe leaving my current job to start a new one... in March. Like potentially the craziest idea of my life. But I don't know if I have the position yet, I go for a second interview soon. I kinda really want it, even though it would mean my maternity leave takes a huge hit.
Now that I'm coming out of this haze of illness I'm really starting to feel the nesting bug. I'm pushing on my contractors to get started on our basement finishing project (which I think has basically no chance of being completed before baby now at this point). We also are starting the process of moving DS2 into DS1's room so I can use DS2's room for DS3. That mostly involves just buying new mattresses (DS1 was on a full but we are switching to two twins) and moving all of DS2's clothes/diaper changing setup into DS1's room. Once everything is set up, then we get the fun process of getting DS2 to sleep in there instead of in our bed with us.
DS2 10/2017
DS3 due 03/2020
@kailanae So glad you are all mostly on the mend. Colds seriously can be the WORST because they last so long. We passed around a cold then blessedly short stomach bug from December 18-December 28 or so. So glad that is over... and I am so with you on starting to feel the nesting bug!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@emilylove25 At my current job, I'd get 16 weeks off with 70% pay. Which I know is crazy to pass up on, but I also know I will struggle big time coming back to this company after my leave, but staying at home indefinitely is not an option.
@varimama That thought literally never crossed my mind and I have no idea why! I'll have to trial run that tomorrow! Sorry your cold is hanging on. I feel like I've been sick for a million years too.
@kailanae ugh all that sickness sounds terrible! I’m also starting to nest pretty hard. We moved DD into a twin bed in Nov so we could convert her toddler bed back into a crib. Over the holidays, I moved the changing table and glider up to the nursery and moved 90% of DD’s toys out (it was her playroom....oops). Now I want to paint and I can’t wait to get all the baby clothes and toys out! I’m telling myself to wait another 2-4 weeks for that though.
I went back to work today after break. I still have so much to do and feel so behind with the new semester starting. DD has been a whiny mess at times the last few days. Not making things much easier.
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@miss.sally That's super frustrating for DH to not want to help.
I've also been nesting like crazy too. I feel pretty set, especially since the baby will more than likely be in our room for the first few months.Just waiting for my sprinkle to load up on diapers, and hopefully get a gift card to cover the cost of the crib mattress.
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
edit - it's 79.99 right now https://www.wayfair.com/baby-kids/pdp/sealy-baby-perfect-rest-waterproof-standard-crib-mattress-scm1102.html
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
Also I feel you on the stress of not being able to do stuff bc of roadblocks out of your control. We just (today) got our window shades installed for DS's big boy room and now that means we can finally move him to the big boy room. But I was at the mercy of our installer (who, understandably, took off over the holidays) and felt like I couldn't get anything moving until those were installed.
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
I've also been on the ice cream train - newest obsession is this caramel/choc swirl with vanilla from ben and jerrys
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
@chichiphin I graduated from Butter Nut Crunch to Chocolate PB Cookie Dough last night (which I added raspberries too & ate too close to bedtime & even though I felt massively full already bc...
I mean, I do. I do care about feeling too full but then also I am still gonna eat the ice cream soooo.
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
Also, I totally overdid things and pushed myself too hard because I had a mini-breakdown/panic attack yesterday. My body and brain were just FRIED, so I need to be more careful in the coming months. Also, I'll be talking to my OB about upping my dose of zoloft because how I felt yesterday is not ok.
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
I don’t think anything is actually wrong, or that I’m in active labor. But I just wanted to get checked out and make sure I’m not dilating or anything yet. This all started around 35-36 weeks with DS so this is definitely a bit earlier and I’m praying it isn’t going to continue until I have him.
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@EmilyLove25 exactly! I was mostly having a panic attack because I felt entirely incapable of taking care of DS (or doing much of anything, for that matter). I'm assuming I was dealing with actual, clinical exhaustion. Thank god we had enough sense to send DS to daycare yesterday.
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@stassischroeder Welcome back!
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20