Holiday Alcohol

wife-and-mommy · December 2019

Hello everyone!
I hope it's okay I started this thread to have a place to discuss how others are handling the alcohol at social gatherings. Will you say no if offered and hope nobody notices, tell everyone so you don't have to pretend, or accept the drinks as usual and pretend to be drinking (any strategies for this? I've heard of people filling beer bottles with water, drinking the same thing as DH and swapping discretely, just "forgetting" your drink when you move to the next table, etc). I'd love to hear what others are doing!

wife-and-mommy · December 2019

I'm not ready to tell even my close family. If I turned down all the drinks everyone would immediately know (at least at my family gatherings). I think I'll hope to make some mocktails wherever that is a possibility. I don't have a thorough plan yet. If there is wine I'll probably get a glass, move it from table to table, possibly take it to the bathroom and pour a little out or have DH take a big swig while nobody is looking. Most of our things will have quite a few people so nobody will probably be super closely monitoring my "consumption" lol.

wednesdaygirl1019 · December 2019

I bought nonalcoholic wine last weekend for a get-together at my house with friends, and it tasted awful. So I don't recommend that! I actually hid the bottle under my powder room sink with the intention of refilling throughout the evening. It worked well, as my friends didn't notice (and actually made a comment that I couldn't be pregnant as I was drinking wine with them) so that's an option for anyone that is hosting and doesn't find the wine repulsive like I did.

I plan on accepting wine and pretending to drink at my in-laws on Christmas. Sadly my DH doesn't drink, so I can't swap with him. I'll probably just set it down somewhere and "forget" it.

goodkatie216 · December 2019

I have been wondering the same thing! My immediate family will know in a second if I drank water all Christmas Day. My plan is to do fun Christmas-y mocktails. I have bought all of the juices, diet cranberry ginger ale, ginger beer, limes, grapefruit, mint. All kinds of fun stuff for a Moscow mule. I can even make some for others with the vodka. We’ll see how it works. Merry Christmas!

marfi236 · December 2019

Christmas is at my house so we're making some decoy champagne bottles!

We bought mini bottles and I'm having hubs drink them this weekend so that I can refill with sparkling grape juice! Then when we are having mimosas and stuff i'll just have "mimosas"

ziggymama06 · December 2019

We do lots of traveling both Christmas eve and day so my plan is at the first stops to say that we have a long day ahead and I'm driving... I always drive as I hate how hubs drives... and at the second stops I may say I had some champagne earlier and have a slight headache and that I'll hold off for a bit. We'll see how it pans out. If nothing else and ppl get insistent later on I'll just say I "just" had one and need water to hydrate bc I'm driving. Lol... good luck to all 🚫🍷

riatortillaxo · December 2019

I am pretty stressed about this! We have so many family gatherings and it will be so obvious if I turn down a drink. I'm hoping that no one recognizes my tricks from the last oregnancy. The bottle swap worked well for us though! When possible I will use a solid color cup like a wine glass tumbler so it's not as obvioud that the wine isn't disappearing.
Also a soda can in a coozy works okay too. Ginger ale looks sort of like beer if you don't look too closely.

winnie1122 · December 2019

I don't really drink anyways so people generally don't notice but when someone directly offers me something I always just accept and pretend to sip it.

lachnessmomster · December 2019

I'm going to a friend's surprise birthday party tomorrow, and it's a bar hop that ends in a big dinner. I'm so stressed, because there aren't a lot of ways to order a mocktail at a bar without our huge group of people noticing. I'm thinking I'll just say I have a headache from the drive (I do have to drive almost four hours there and back), and that I should hydrate. Later on, I can order my "one" drink by sneaking to the bar on my own and just asking for club soda with lime or something. As for the Christmas get-togethers, it should be much easier. I could always just accept a glass of wine and pretend to sip on it or give it to my husband. Ready for the holidays to be over so we don't accidentally spill the beans. Ugh. Good luck, everyone.

desimonstre2020 · December 2019

Pomegranate juice is a great sub in for wine! I brought some to a friends Christmas party and discreetly filled up on my own- no one knew plus it’s super healthy for baby!

tyrion_ · December 2019

I’m hoping the rest of my family gets too toasted to notice 😂

riatortillaxo · December 2019

@desimonstre2020 That's a good idea! I've never tried pomegranate juice. I know grape juice can be substituted for wine but it has a really recognizable smell and gets too sweet for me. I will try the pomegranate juice this week!

soulshine108 · December 2019

I'm still trying to figure out what to do. Christmas Eve will be easy to hide, but Christmas day I'm nervous. It's just my parents, mother in law, brother and his wife and my neice and nephew. And of course my husband. I was thinking of telling our parents this week (MIL lives out of state and we only see her a few times a year), but I don't know if I should wait. My emotions got my all over the place!! 😭

lachnessmomster · December 2019

Update: I didn't do any of the aforementioned things and just caved and told them I was pregnant. I suck.

riatortillaxo · December 2019

@lachnessmomster This made me laugh out loud! I feel your pain! This is tough.

Mkrosieo · December 2019

I either play move the glass around the room and “forget it” somewhere or my husband will make my “drinks” usually a sprite with a splash of grenadine.

WishesSheCouldCook · December 2019

It’s not the alcohol it’s the smoked meats and soft cheeses that will give me away haha

lachnessmomster · December 2019

@WishesSheCouldCook Lol! I don't even try to stay away from those. I eat pretty much whatever during my pregnancies. I've given up my wine, don't take my cheese!

itsmyangel · December 2019

I've told close family and a few friends already....but you could always say you had a sinus infection or something or say you are on antibiotics for some reason and cant drink

photographerwife · December 2019

We just told the in-laws that we’d be driving ourselves to Christmas Eve at dhs grandparents tonight. They live close and we ride together a lot, but I think it’ll be a good excuse to not be seen drinking anything.

riatortillaxo · December 2019

I just tried a delicious non alcoholic drink and I thought I'd share in case anyone is looking for something festive to enjoy!

Blueberry Moscow Mule-
Muddle 1/4 cup blueberries and a half of a lime cut into wedges then add ice and ginger beer.

So delicious! I just used a large kitchen utensil to smush up the blueberries and line wedges. If you're hiding it, then you can say there is Vodka in it because that is what would normally would be in a Moscow Mule.

lachnessmomster · December 2019

@riatortillaxo That sounds HEAVENLY! Really could've used it at my in-laws' Christmas gathering today!

wife-and-mommy · December 2019

@riatortillaxo I might have to try that at New Year's Eve with all my sisters. My only holdup will be not letting them see the non alcoholic beer. Maybe I could mix it in advance

RedBaramid · December 2019

I'm counting myself lucky and unlucky, I'm on too many antibiotics to be able to drink for New Years Eve, so no one will question or push me to have a drop of anything.

riatortillaxo · December 2019

@RedBaramid Yes, lucky! (Sort of- hope you feel better soon!) 🙂

Want a personalized experience?

Holiday Alcohol

Re: Holiday Alcohol

Choose Another Board

Search Boards