@dobiemom11 whaaatt? That's a super-rude comment! I am so sorry you had to deal with that. What the heck is wrong with people that they think they can ask questions like that??
@capnjackharkness oh no! Aww I’m so very sorry. Seems like this Christmas has been tough for everyone and there have been so many PG announcements. *hugs*
@dobiemom11 That was so rude of him. I’m flabbergasted. @capnjackharkness Ughhhh, I’m sorry. That stinks. I hope she told you in a private way.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
@capnjackharkness so sorry! Wishing you comfort. And fortunately for me my MIL made a last-minute decision to fly across the country to see my SIL who is in the navy. Even though it’s just postponing the inevitable, I’m glad I didn’t have to have that conversation on Christmas.
@dobiemom11 that’s such a hurtful comment. Today, someone said to me “the year 2020 will be your year.” I found that strangely satisfying. Hoping that 2020 will be your year!
@tryingktogku man I really wish people would just shut the hell up.
@emeraldduchess I've fully embraced being an aunt too. I call it practice for my own 🙂
@keeponknittingon I dealt with a similar issue of 3 on one side of the family all due within a month and a half of each other. Survived that time earlier in the year.
@capnjackharkness so sorry you got that news. It's hard to be happy for family.
@dobiemom11 what a bizarre question to ask someone! Glad other family also thought it was inappropriate.
*TW* History:
Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016
TTC #1 since 7.2017 Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3| all BFN IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name" RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer 2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20 Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21 Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023 Consultation with RI | 6.6.23 Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56 Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox Repeat labs in 8 weeks Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues TTC put on pause
@dobiemom11 wow that was a really random, weird and totally rude comment for someone to ask you. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. I’m shocked that people ask stuff like that.🤔
I went to my in laws today and I survived yay.. I didn’t cry at all while my PG SIL opened up all her newborn baby presents and no LONG trips to the “bathroom” to skip out lol.. in fact I actually somehow got stuck sitting beside her on the couch during gift opening time and I did ok. I’m proud of myself. However, I was upset and hurt by my DH’s comment he had made to me tonight. That actually hurt me more then watching my SIL. This is what he said to me which is not ok!! 🤬.. *TW*
We were downstairs at his parents house putting down our gifts we brought for everyone under the tree. I hadn’t mentioned this to him before but I said to him.. hey, I might go upstairs when ___ and ____ open their baby gifts cause I just don’t wanna see that cause it makes me sad etc.. he looks at me with this look and says “ ugh, you seriously need to get over that! It’s been months and months and months now. I’m like no! It hasn’t been months and months and months. It’s been 6 weeks actually but sorry I’m sad and it still hurts. I didn’t friggen know that when a MC happens you only get to grieve for a week? I’m friggen allowed to be sad about it. He’s like yes you are but it’s been awhile and you need to move on and like really you were only pregnant for maybe 6-7 weeks. 😮🤬 I’m like you know what, you just don’t get it! Never mind and I walked away. I bit my tongue cause I didn’t want to cause a huge fight or blow up this evening with everyone around so I just walked away and went into the bathroom and cried for a bit privately. Like WTF? Like since when did having a MC have an expiry date for grieving ?? and since when does it make it any better or easier cause I only made it to 7 weeks along? It makes me feel like because I was only pregnant for such a short period of time it doesn’t matter or it’s not that important 😥 so, what if I made it to 10 weeks, or 15 weeks then I’m allowed to grieve more?? Maybe I would have got to be allowed to grieve for 2 weeks then. I’m sooo hurt and upset sometimes by his choice of words. What the hell is wrong with men? Why don’t they F-ing get it? I’m so thankful for you ladies on here and that you understand and know what I feel. ❤️ Thank you for listening and being there. From now on I’m not even going to bring it up to him anymore or discuss how I’m truly feeling etc.. I’ll just keep it all inside as it’s better that way. End *TW*
@mindyb2019 I am so sorry that happened to you. I was thinking about you while I was having my "puppy calming" break. I am really proud of you for being supportive of family and yet still recognizing that it was going to be difficult. And boys can be stupid!
@dobiemom11 aww, thank you. Ya thanks. I’m proud of myself too. I try to be supportive as much as I can for family even though I’m still sad or jealous etc. Yes... agreed! Boys can be more then stupid lol 😆
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
@mindyb2019 ugh wtf! It took my a long time to get past our FET failure. Can I also him for you??
*TW* History:
Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016
TTC #1 since 7.2017 Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3| all BFN IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name" RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer 2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20 Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21 Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023 Consultation with RI | 6.6.23 Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56 Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox Repeat labs in 8 weeks Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues TTC put on pause
@mindyb2019 I am so angry on your behalf. You don't "get over" losing a pregnancy, and you certainly can't be expected to process your grief on other people's time table. My losses were a year ago and almost six months ago. I still left the room on Christmas Eve when the LOs were exchanging gifts because I didn't want to cry in front of DH's family. ETA I got a few "at least it was early" comments like that, too. Like somehow I had it easier than others. Screw that way of thinking. Nobody has the right to tell you how to feel or how to grieve.
@capnjackharkness I'm sure your sister's news is very difficult to process. Lots of hugs to you. 💙
@emeraldduchess thanks girl. 😘 I’m angry too. I agree with you, you don’t ever get over losing a pregnancy. I’ll always think about it no matter how much time passes and I definitely don’t want to be forced or expected to grieve when someone else wants me to. F that!! 🤬 I’m sorry you had to leave the room on Christmas Eve. I understand that feeling. I love my husband but I really don’t think he gets it. Maybe he doesn’t care or it’s not hard for him but it’s difficult for me. Ya just because it happened earlier in pregnancy doesn’t make it any easier. I agree. Screw that way of thinking! Sorry you got some comments like that too.
@mindyb2019 lmao I had just woken up at the time and completely missed a word. I meant to say can I SLAP him for you?!
*TW* History:
Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016
TTC #1 since 7.2017 Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3| all BFN IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name" RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer 2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20 Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21 Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023 Consultation with RI | 6.6.23 Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56 Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox Repeat labs in 8 weeks Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues TTC put on pause
Hi ladies, I took a couple of days off to just relax. I made it through Christmas just barely.
One of my friends (who has an idea that I’m going through IF and has actively encouraged me in the past to confide in her about it) announced her pregnancy to the group text on Christmas Eve morning. I spent most of the afternoon crying. I just couldn’t stop feeling sorry for myself. Then Christmas Eve, my poor H got a nasty comment from a family member about our lack of children.
I’m basically just ready to leave 2019 far behind.
me: 35 / so: 34 | ttc #1 since 9/2018
DX: MFI IVF Cycle #1 February 2020 4 embryos frozen, 1 fresh transfer = CP FET #1 Natural Cycle March 2020 CXL'd due to Covid-19 FET #1 Natural Cycle June 2020 - CP #2 FET #2 Natural Cycle July 2020 - BFP!!!!!! Beta #1 = 273
@mvt2003 wtf man, a nasty comment? Like that's going to get things moving along?
I feel like we need to come up with some good comebacks like "sorry last I checked I was a human, not a rabbit or a fish"
*TW* History:
Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016
TTC #1 since 7.2017 Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3| all BFN IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name" RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer 2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20 Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21 Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023 Consultation with RI | 6.6.23 Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56 Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox Repeat labs in 8 weeks Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues TTC put on pause
@mindyb2019 This internet stranger is super proud of you handling your SIL's present-opening so well. I'm really sorry about YH's hurtful comments. Maybe trying to shove the pain into the past is his own way of dealing with it (not that I'm trying to make excuses for him). I hope you guys get to talk it out soon, just so he can be more understanding of where you're coming from.
@mvt2003 I'm so sorry that happened. 103 more hours (give or take depending on your time zone).
@mvt2003 I am so sorry for the group-chat announcement and the nasty comment. So many hugs to you, friend. I hate that so often people just assume that all who are living child-free are doing so by choice. Whether or not that's the case, it's no one's business.
@inthewoods23 the comment was from someone who should have known better too. MH’s uncle and his wife don’t have children, for various reasons including loss, so he should have never freaking come up to my poor H and said “so, guess you’re not having children, huh?”
@emeraldduchess thank you. I was so irrationally mad too - she made the effort to not tell me in person this time, telling me via text was a really nice thing to do. I just wish she hadn’t done it on Christmas Eve. That was a crappy thing to do. She hasn’t done a social media announcement yet, so it’s not that she wanted to do it before that.
@ssbl Literally counting down. 2019 has been a dumpster fire for me.
me: 35 / so: 34 | ttc #1 since 9/2018
DX: MFI IVF Cycle #1 February 2020 4 embryos frozen, 1 fresh transfer = CP FET #1 Natural Cycle March 2020 CXL'd due to Covid-19 FET #1 Natural Cycle June 2020 - CP #2 FET #2 Natural Cycle July 2020 - BFP!!!!!! Beta #1 = 273
@mvt2003 oh god! That nasty comment was not nice nor appropriate to say. I’m so sorry he said that to YH and sorry you for the group text announcement. Hugs all around to you 💕 2020 is coming soon and 2019 will be the past.
@ssbl thank you internet stranger 😉 lol I appreciate it. 🥰 yes it definitely could be his way of handling/dealing with it by shoving it down in the past. Either way it’s was really hurtful to me and a pretty shifty way of dealing with it. Honestly, I don’t think he will ever understand where I’m coming from so it’s like beating a dead horse to even talk about it anymore. I just want to move forward and try and focus on positive things in 2020.
@mvt2003 I’m with you, lady. I’ve been imagining 2019 as that burning house gif. Ready to rebuild in the new year!!
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
@shoogapoff@NYTino24 Yeah, it was pretty empathetic. She sat us down and gave me something for my angel babies and then told me. But it was hard because it was the start of Christmas with my family and then I was with them all day, so I couldn't really run off and escape to process.
@mindyb2019 So sorry about your DH's comments! He really does NOT get it. I'm so sorry. It doesn't matter how far along you were, it still really really hurts and it's still a loss and it still takes time to get over!
@emeraldduchess I HATE it when people tell me "at least yours were early" or "It was probably early because there were big chromosomal issues." And even though I feel those things inside, I still get rankled when people say them to me.
@capnjackharkness after all we have been through the past year, I know to never start a sympathetic statement with "at least". I'm glad your sister was kind, even if the timing wasn't great. I'm sure it would have helped to have time alone to process and feel everything you needed to feel.
DH's cousin send an ULTRASOUND picture on the back of their holiday card with a cutsey message, I barely know these people, though DH did spend summers with the husband. I know his family knows of our loss. It was just... thoughtless. Who sends their ultrasound to everyone they know?
Not triggering at all. I wonder how many people they managed to put in a tailspin in one move. TW - thoughtless pg announcement
7 days is all it's taken before I'm like, ok coworker that's enough pictures about your kid even though I've only seen posts on maybe 3 or 4 of these days in the past week. I'm not really triggered about it, but I'm just annoyed that something has to pop up so often on the top of my feed when I go in FB. Oh, and all the people that were like "what a wonderful Christmas gift!" on the post about taking the baby home.
This is when I bless my sister for not posting so much to FB (mostly just the monthly milestone shots) and just keeping the billion photos and videos saved and shared in a Google Photos album.
*TW* History:
Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016
TTC #1 since 7.2017 Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3| all BFN IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name" RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer 2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20 Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21 Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023 Consultation with RI | 6.6.23 Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56 Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox Repeat labs in 8 weeks Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues TTC put on pause
Re: Holiday Support Thread 2019
@capnjackharkness Ughhhh, I’m sorry. That stinks. I hope she told you in a private way.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
@emeraldduchess I've fully embraced being an aunt too. I call it practice for my own 🙂
@keeponknittingon I dealt with a similar issue of 3 on one side of the family all due within a month and a half of each other. Survived that time earlier in the year.
@capnjackharkness so sorry you got that news. It's hard to be happy for family.
@dobiemom11 what a bizarre question to ask someone! Glad other family also thought it was inappropriate.
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause
I went to my in laws today and I survived yay.. I didn’t cry at all while my PG SIL opened up all her newborn baby presents and no LONG trips to the “bathroom” to skip out lol.. in fact I actually somehow got stuck sitting beside her on the couch during gift opening time and I did ok. I’m proud of myself. However, I was upset and hurt by my DH’s comment he had made to me tonight. That actually hurt me more then watching my SIL. This is what he said to me which is not ok!! 🤬.. *TW*
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause
ETA I got a few "at least it was early" comments like that, too. Like somehow I had it easier than others. Screw that way of thinking. Nobody has the right to tell you how to feel or how to grieve.
@capnjackharkness I'm sure your sister's news is very difficult to process. Lots of hugs to you. 💙
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause
IVF Cycle #1 February 2020 4 embryos frozen, 1 fresh transfer = CP
FET #1 Natural Cycle March 2020 CXL'd due to Covid-19
FET #1 Natural Cycle June 2020 - CP #2
FET #2 Natural Cycle July 2020 - BFP!!!!!! Beta #1 = 273
June Signature Challenge - Favorite TV Quotes
I feel like we need to come up with some good comebacks like "sorry last I checked I was a human, not a rabbit or a fish"
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause
@mvt2003 I'm so sorry that happened. 103 more hours (give or take depending on your time zone).
IVF Cycle #1 February 2020 4 embryos frozen, 1 fresh transfer = CP
FET #1 Natural Cycle March 2020 CXL'd due to Covid-19
FET #1 Natural Cycle June 2020 - CP #2
FET #2 Natural Cycle July 2020 - BFP!!!!!! Beta #1 = 273
June Signature Challenge - Favorite TV Quotes
@ssbl thank you internet stranger 😉 lol I appreciate it. 🥰 yes it definitely could be his way of handling/dealing with it by shoving it down in the past. Either way it’s was really hurtful to me and a pretty shifty way of dealing with it. Honestly, I don’t think he will ever understand where I’m coming from so it’s like beating a dead horse to even talk about it anymore. I just want to move forward and try and focus on positive things in 2020.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
@dobiemom11 Dude... WTF with MIL's new husband?!?
@mindyb2019 So sorry about your DH's comments! He really does NOT get it. I'm so sorry. It doesn't matter how far along you were, it still really really hurts and it's still a loss and it still takes time to get over!
@emeraldduchess I HATE it when people tell me "at least yours were early" or "It was probably early because there were big chromosomal issues." And even though I feel those things inside, I still get rankled when people say them to me.
Who sends their ultrasound to everyone they know?
Not triggering at all. I wonder how many people they managed to put in a tailspin in one move.
TW - thoughtless pg announcement
This is when I bless my sister for not posting so much to FB (mostly just the monthly milestone shots) and just keeping the billion photos and videos saved and shared in a Google Photos album.
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause