June 2020 Moms

Happy Holidays! Check-In for All June

Hey Everybody! 

May 2020 has a whole board where people are talking about how they’re celebrating/celebrated the holidays with their friends and family. I thought that could be kind of a fun thing for us to do too! I want to hear how everything went for those of you traveling, experiencing family drama, or just having a grand ole time. 

So, go ahead and tell us. How did it go? And if nothing else, did you get any gifts to be excited for?

Married: 12/19/15         

BFP: 9/4/17             
EDD: 5/16/18
DD born 5/10/18
Postpartum Complications

BFP: 10/1/19
EDD: 6/12/20

Re: Happy Holidays! Check-In for All June

  • I’ll start since I was the lurker on Mays. 

    We had a wonderful drama free Christmas this year. We saw DHs immediate family and ate Prime Rib (what a treat!), mass, and my moms side of the family on Christmas Eve. We also do a huge white elephant style food themes exchange so you never know what you’ll walk away with. It’s so fun! On Christmas Day we got time together with just DH and DD and I. We only do stockings for each other because it’s better on the budget but we did do a few presents for DD which was super fun. She got lots of new books and it makes this English teacher so happy :) then we went to my parents house for fondue on Christmas Day. Thankfully all immediate families live in our area so no major travels here!

    I got two favorite gifts this year. A leaf blower I used within an hour to blow off our patio and front porch and was so excited about that. And I got an Ergo Embrace carrier for Junebug from my MIL to replace an old cheap carrier I used with DD. I’m so excited for one that’s going to last and, even with a baby bump, it fit really well. 

    Merry Christmas y’all! 

    Married: 12/19/15         

    BFP: 9/4/17             
    EDD: 5/16/18
    DD born 5/10/18
    Postpartum Complications

    BFP: 10/1/19
    EDD: 6/12/20
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  • @alli392 I love the food theme for the white elephant! What’d you get? 

    DS came down with a nasty fever on Christmas Eve, so we had to cancel the majority of our plans. Usually we go to my parents and my in laws on Xmas Eve. The cousins at my in laws do a secret Santa, and my parents have a big Italian dinner. DH and I have done candlelight mass, but we thought it’d be too late for little man and we’re planning Christmas Day service instead, after a big French toast breakfast (maybe next year lol). We host Christmas dinner. 

    DH and DS got me a new piece to my Christmas village, which was so special because it was gifted to me by my grandma, who passed away earlier this year. DS got a basketball hoop and he loves being lifted up to dunk the ball in! 

    The only rant I have is my MiL. They came over last night after work to give DS his present, around 5:30. MIL asked me to make her coffee, balled up the wrapping paper and said “here you go!” And gave it to me, ate a piece of my cheesecake and then just would.not.leave. I’m so exhausted being up with a sick baby the last 3 nights and I worked all day. Leave woman! My SIL is also pg and she mentioned she had to go in for spotting (everything’s fine). I mentioned I had it too with both pregnancies, but didn’t go in because my doctors weren’t concerned based on a variety of things, so which she snarkily said “who’s your doctor?” Normally she doesn’t bother me but good lord woman. 
  • @chaos-and-coffee wow. Sorry to hear about your ILs. That sounds terrible, on top of everything else. Hopefully you can recover emotionally, mentally, and physically in the next few days. 

    DH and I left on the 20th to head down to DE to visit his parents and do an early Christmas. It was enjoyable. Opened some stockings, exchanged a few small presents. MIL got me a book, "you are a f*cking awesome mom" that I am excited to read. As a FTM I have no idea what is coming my way.

    We left early on the 24th and drove down to SC (we brought my BIL down with us b.c he lives in GA) and met my parents down here to celebrate a super chill Christmas (BIL joined). No presents, just hung out and played some games. DH and BIL did the grocery shopping and forgot a vegetable for dinner.

    The car ride was not as bad as I was expecting. We hit no traffic and I was able to get comfortable enough. This upper 60 F weather has totally been worth it. Lots of long walks on the beach and yoga have made this vacation super relaxing. 
  • We’ve been spending Christmas at my sisters house in the Boston suburbs. It’s the first time my family has been together for Christmas in four years and both my DD and DH’s first American Christmas! It’s been a really nice time and DD has been SO spoiled. I brought an empty suitcase with us and I don’t know if it’s enough space lol. 

    We didn’t leave the house for Christmas Eve/ Christmas and then on Boxing Day we all went to see Disney on Ice, which DD loved. 

    The only minimal drama was as usual caused by my grandma who is VERY needy and has super low self esteem. But I’m used to that lol. 

    Now today we’re heading into the city to meet one of my best friends from my January 2017 group in person for the first time! We’re going to the children’s museum together and getting lunch. Cannot wait!!
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  • @chaos-and-coffee whew. I’m sorry about your ILs and all the drama-I know babies don’t make that easier but I hope you find a way to set compromises in the future that are easier on everyone!

    @rabbitmama09 so jealous of your weather and Carolina holiday! That sounds wonderful and like just the restful vacation y’all could use!

    @hayhay2501 yay! Welcome back stateside! I’m so glad it’s been so good so far! Let us know how the BMB meetup goes!

    Married: 12/19/15         

    BFP: 9/4/17             
    EDD: 5/16/18
    DD born 5/10/18
    Postpartum Complications

    BFP: 10/1/19
    EDD: 6/12/20
  • kyrwynkyrwyn member
    edited December 2019
    @chaos-and-coffee So sorry to hear about your MIL. :( People like that are hard enough to deal with when you're well-rested and not besieged by holidays. <3 

    My household celebrates Yule, but we put up a holiday tree and stockings because my extended family celebrates Christmas and I'm cool with the non-religious aspects. There's a lot of overlap, to be honest.  Our "Christmas tree" is populated with ornaments from our travels and hand made needlepoint ornaments my grandmother made for us, and a few things from my childhood. It's more of an adventure/memory tree and we take our time hanging the ornaments and talking about our trips/memories throughout December. 

    We did our family presents (except Santa and stockings) on the morning after the longest night.  Then we spent Christmas Eve with my dad's side of the family (4 generations), Christmas morning at my dad's with whatever group of my siblings were in town this year, and then hosted Christmas dinner for my in-laws (FIL, stepMIL, BIL, SIL, niece & nephew). I'm still exhausted. We were under a lot of pressure to share our news with my dad's family, and managed to share it in small groups rather than a huge 20+ person announcement.  I'm okay with how it happened, but not the pressure.  DS has a second cousin who is 2.5 months older than him.  Funnily, my cousin's second kid is due in April, and this LO is due in June. "We're pregnant!" they said. "Us, too!" we said. 

    Even with all of that on the calendar, the holidays have been overwhelmed by starting my GD protocols and fighting with my insurance company over absolute bullshit things like which brand of supplies they'll cover. (The price differential to them over 6 months isn't worth their legal fees to reject my paperwork twice.) I'm 100% compliant and since I started insulin at night all my numbers are beautiful, so FX it will continue that way at least through 2nd tri. 

    I got exactly one present in all of the holiday gatherings we went through: a diabetes cookbook from stepMIL. I'm not super materialistic, but I was feeling a bit blue about it ontop of the emotional/physical aspects of managing my medical stuff.  DH saw me oogling a wrap on the Oscha year end sale yesterday, and decided he'd shelve his "too many wraps" complaints and we'd get it as my belated Christmas - slash - this pregnancy is hard present. <3 (Yay for 40% off, because we'd probably never drop Oscha's full-price on a wrap no matter how much I loved it.) 
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  • Everyone's holidays seem lovely (except for the family drama :s).

    We're not Christian so we don't do anything special for Christmas in terms of getting together with family. But we love the secular aspects of the holiday and do have a tree and some decorations, and exchange silly presents. I was born in Russia and they secularized the entire thing during Soviet Union times—USSR was atheist—so I grew up doing the tree and presents and Santa for New Years. :) That's how they still do it in Russia. The whole shebang is a New Years tradition. Even without the religious aspects, the holiday spirit is still lovely and brings lots of joy... and there's nothing wrong with that!

    One of hubby's presents:)

  • We had 3 Christmases this year, one Monday night, one Christmas Eve, and then our family Christmas morning followed by my parents for lunch.  It was pretty standard fare, bo drama except DS (4) and his 4yr old cousin fighting over a nerf rifle that the cousin had got for Christmas earlier that day...funny thing is without knowing this my brother bought DS the same one for Christmas so he got it the next day and it was definitely the favorite present :)  
    I got these super awesome socks that say "If you can read this go ask your dad" and they are my new favorites, even though DS cant read yet.  I say this because he is velcroed to my hip (I joke with him that he wants to crawl back in my uterus with baby Luke) if I am home and I really need him to start relying on daddy more for things with new baby coming.  My mom knows this so she got me my new favorite socks!!
  • @mariabele we were raised Jewish but still did secular Christmas as my dad was catholic and my mom (who was born and raised Jewish) always felt she was left out. So I’m totally for a secular Christmas! 

    @alli392 the meet up was great! Our kids didn’t play super well together but that’s okay- I had a great time with my friend! My family was like, what was she like, do you still like her? But I feel like I know her so well from our group that it didn’t feel weird at all 😊
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  • Christmas was rough this year. My dad was diagnosed with stage 3b lung cancer about a month ago. Life has been a whirlwind to say the least. They usually come down and stay with me and dh for Christmas since they live in the middle of nowhere about 6 hours away. This year we went and stayed with them as my dad is in treatment 5 days a week. It was definitely a hard year and didn't feel like anything to celebrate. I feel bad we missed dh's family traditions (they are polish and have a huge Christmas eve tradition that includes a 12 course served dinner) but they understood. I haven't brought this up and don't want to be a Debbie downer but my Nov 18 bmb is such a huge support in my life now. I imagine / hope we get to that level eventually. 
  • @runwmusic I’m so sorry. I’ve been there. My last Christmas in America was four years ago and I spent it there because my mom had been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. Spending the festive season sitting at the hospital while your parent gets chemo is not how any one should spend Christmas. Thinking of you and sorry you’re going through this! Seriously f**k cancer 
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  • @runwmusic I am so sorry.  Having a sick parent is so tough, especially during the holiday season. 
  • @hayhay2501 I'm so sorry you went through it as well. F cancer is right ❤️

    @kerco925 thank you 
  • @runwmusic I'm so sorry that this diagnosis and its chaos and sadness has taken over your Christmas. ❤️ F cancer indeed. And I agree: my past BMB (Dec 17) is a huge support for me and I hope this group grows into that, too. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts as we move into 2020. 
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  • @runwmusic I’m so sorry, that’s awful. I’m glad you were able to be with your dad during this time, but it’s so hard to feel festive or “merry” when dealing with such a serious illness. 
  • @runwmusic I am so sorry to hear about you dad.  The diagnosis is scary enough but I feel like there are so many other pieces to lung cancer besides just the treatment that it absorbs all of your energy.  I hope treatment is going well for him and you were all able to enjoy each other. 
    Me 29 DH 33
    Married 10/2016
    TTC since 04/2019
    BFP 10/12/2019, estimated 6 weeks
    EDD 06/07/2020
  • @runwmusic Sorry about the diagnosis. Christmas 2017 was totally blown off by my extended family due to pancreatic cancer. We did a big reunion with lots of love the first weeks of December then everyone went to their in-laws for the actual holiday, as my grandfather (plus grandmother, and mom) spent that time in the hospital. F*** cancer, I also lost my other grandfather, and my step-mom to it. 

    This year holidays were ore pleasant and still low-key. My husband's family had a formal gathering on the 24th. We do a secular very Santa-commercial Christmas at home in pajamas with mimosas (largely virgin this year (use sprite!)) and didn't leave home. My extended family celebration we did on New Year's Day, due to stomach bug going around my Aunt and cousins the week before. Which was nice as Christmas Day was warm, but New Year's was white, and deck was cold enough for extra food storage. 

    My mom was in town for two weeks and my grandma one week, and so my husband and I got to go to a friends formal New Year's Eve party, which was awesome, we haven't been able to see many friends since my mom moved out of the area two years ago. Only limited drama with a few family things, but I was able to ignore and avoid. Hooray!
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