Started this selfishly. MH and I got a baby shower invite from people we 1) didn't know were having a baby, 2) who we haven't heard from for nearly four years - since we went to their wedding, and 3) that live several hours away. We got them a really nice wedding present (not sure if I even got a thank you card, but whatever), so this feels like an invite for a gift. I'm probably irrationally offended by this, but I'm still contemplating sending something super inexpensive off their registry or nothing at all.
@ruby696 I would not feel bad about not attending, and I would not send a gift. I send gifts when I have to miss showers for close friends and family, but not for people I don't see/talk to regularly.
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
@shamrocandroll That's kind of where I'm at. It's a relative of MH, so I'll probably just put the invitation away and he'll forget about it. My petty self did consider showing up hugely pregnant with twins to overshadow the mom to be - with a crappy gift. I already told MH I refused to go because "a first time mom doesn't want someone with pregnant twins showing up and getting attention at their shower." 🙄 At least he thinks I don't want to go because I'm a nice person (even though I'm not!)
My kid was playing nicely with toys and MIL thought she needed to put the TV on some baby show. I told her that dd doesn't need cartoons she's playing nicely. And she argued with me that it's not cartoons it's educational. I don't know if I'll survive until Friday sharing space with her.
Also MH makes a big deal about family this and family that, and when I got back yesterday with dd he and bil are sitting around playing video games on their computer and MIL is sitting watching TV on the otherside of the livingroom. If family is so important spend time with MIL get off your stupid computers and do something. Why should I be the one that has to sit next to her?
And adding to all the other bitching MIL told dd that dd is her Christmas present, for her first birthday she wrote this long card saying that God picked dd out for her because she waited such a long time for a grandchild (MH is almost 45 and BIL is 49 without a family). I hate now that we're revealing our pregnancy on Christmas because she's going to say this kid is her present too, my children are not for you lady, really if they were for you I wouldn't have had any to begin with.
I get so annoyed at people who have giant showers with everyone in their address book. Narrow it down to the people you really want to see and old relatives who'll be offended they weren't invited.
MH had a huge temper tantrum this morning and threw everything off the kitchen counters and hanging on the fridge across the floor. He has had a cold the last week and a half and shared with me and 4yo DS so I was trying to get ready to take DS and myself to urgent care. I was peeing and getting dressed across the house and heard DS drop something that clearly broke. DH was in the living room attached to the kitchen and apparently didn’t notice. (It was a pencil sharpener) so pencil shavings were all over the place. I go to sweep it up before I left and when I opened the trash can to throw away the stuff I swept, I sighed and said MH name because it was overflowing. He got so mad because I told him I needed help. He had garbage from whatever he ate last night all over the kitchen, dishes piled up in the sink from yesterday (I worked yesterday) and grease all over the microwave, stove and countertop. He said all I do is bitch at him. I told him he didn’t do anything around the house. He screamed at me to “get the f out” and then said what about all this stuff and cleared the counter. Picture frames, my purse, dinner rolls, Christmas candy, books, SS school papers from the past 2 weeks, all over. So much all over that he couldn’t even open the front door when my parents came to pick up DS who asked to go visit them for the afternoon. It’s still there and I’m going to work. Want to bet if it will still be there when I get home at 9?
@JStill0603 you win. Man cold or not he's a douche. When I stay home from work sick I get the what have you done all day but make more of mess lecture from MH but when he stays home mostly because he doesn't feel like going then actually being sick he does absolutely nothing. I think if you come home and it's not cleaned up you go out and get yourself dinner and maybe the kids too if they're home and eat it in front of him.
Tomorrow will be 3 weeks since my amnio. I still don't have results. I am done.
Also, FWIW, living in a ski town at Christmastime sucks. Town is always gridlocked and the grocery store is my worst nightmare. Every year we talk about going away for Christmas to escape the madness, but then we can never decide where to go. It would likely have to be somewhere we can drive because airports at Christmas are not fun either.
@JStill0603 Woah. That's so aggressive. I'm sorry, and I hope he comes to his senses and cleans up and apologizes to you later. I'd be an emotional mess if it were me. We got in a huge fight over Christmas cards last week, but nothing got physically thrown, yet I still cried for like 2 hours after. The holidays are so stressful. I hope you guys have a good talk and things get better.
@pirateduck Ugh, I was hoping you'd get results today. Hopefully you still do!!!
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
@ruby696 I left a message Friday. She's in different offices on different days so I don't even know the best place to call! I didn't really expect anything over the weekend when I didn't hear back by end of day Friday. Ugh.
@pirateduck I feel you about wanting to complain about everything today...me too.
I hate Christmas. I do all the shopping and wrapping and mailing and I am so over it.
I don’t wanna spend a week with my in laws. My FIL is such an asshole and he spends 24/7 on my couch. Literally.
And the icing on the cake today...I was telling DD no to pretend high heels: DD: well Rory’s mommy lets her! me: do I look like Miss Jessica? DD: no. Miss Jessica is tall and pretty.
PIL are visiting for the holidays. Yesterday MIL asked me what our theme is for the baby room. I told her I haven't given it much thought because we were waiting to find out the baby's sex but now that it's not guaranteed, I haven't decided yet. She said that's ok because she is about half way through making a blanket for the crib and she can give me an idea of it's theme so I can decorate around it.
I appreciate the blanket and I am very excited for it but im not going to design the nursery around it.
@jess09lynn Wait, why wouldn't you want to decorate your entire nursery around a blanket design your MIL chose unilaterally? 😆 I'd chose something that didn't match the blanket at all.
@ruby696 lol I probably won't even use the blanket in the crib. I already have a blanket that I want I just haven't figured out what animal/colour I want.
@jess09ly I love hand made quilts and blankets, with that said MIL can't do a craft to save her life but if I got one from her I'm sure I'd hate it and it would go missing shortly after receiving it.
Re: Monday BF 12/23
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
ET fix stupid tag extra characters.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
Also MH makes a big deal about family this and family that, and when I got back yesterday with dd he and bil are sitting around playing video games on their computer and MIL is sitting watching TV on the otherside of the livingroom. If family is so important spend time with MIL get off your stupid computers and do something. Why should I be the one that has to sit next to her?
And adding to all the other bitching MIL told dd that dd is her Christmas present, for her first birthday she wrote this long card saying that God picked dd out for her because she waited such a long time for a grandchild (MH is almost 45 and BIL is 49 without a family). I hate now that we're revealing our pregnancy on Christmas because she's going to say this kid is her present too, my children are not for you lady, really if they were for you I wouldn't have had any to begin with.
I get so annoyed at people who have giant showers with everyone in their address book. Narrow it down to the people you really want to see and old relatives who'll be offended they weren't invited.
over the kitchen, dishes piled up in the sink from yesterday (I worked yesterday) and grease all over the microwave, stove and countertop. He said all I do is bitch at him. I told him he didn’t do anything around the house. He screamed at me to “get the f out” and then said what about all this stuff and cleared the counter. Picture frames, my purse, dinner rolls, Christmas candy, books, SS school papers from the past 2 weeks, all over. So much all over that he couldn’t even open the front door when my parents came to pick up DS who asked to go visit them for the afternoon. It’s still there and I’m going to work. Want to bet if it will still be there when I get home at 9?
Also, FWIW, living in a ski town at Christmastime sucks. Town is always gridlocked and the grocery store is my worst nightmare. Every year we talk about going away for Christmas to escape the madness, but then we can never decide where to go. It would likely have to be somewhere we can drive because airports at Christmas are not fun either.
@pirateduck Ugh, I was hoping you'd get results today. Hopefully you still do!!!
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
DD: well Rory’s mommy lets her!
me: do I look like Miss Jessica?
DD: no. Miss Jessica is tall and pretty.
PIL are visiting for the holidays. Yesterday MIL asked me what our theme is for the baby room. I told her I haven't given it much thought because we were waiting to find out the baby's sex but now that it's not guaranteed, I haven't decided yet. She said that's ok because she is about half way through making a blanket for the crib and she can give me an idea of it's theme so I can decorate around it.
I appreciate the blanket and I am very excited for it but im not going to design the nursery around it.
@jess09lynn Wait, why wouldn't you want to decorate your entire nursery around a blanket design your MIL chose unilaterally? 😆 I'd chose something that didn't match the blanket at all.
Eta: tags