It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.
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How are things going?
What is something that you are struggling with this week?
What is going well for you this week?
R/R?
Any testing coming up/any recent results?
GTKY: What color are your eyes?
Re: TTCAL Week of 11/25-12/1/19
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. Miscarriage at 5 weeks December '18, CP July '19
Status: WTO (sigh)
How are things going? Eh. I was feeling a little down this weekend. Then got another gut-punch last night.TW
What is something that you are struggling with this week? I am struggling to accepting that we will likely reach the 1 year anniversary of our first loss still not KU. My 38th birthday is also next month and I am having a really hard time with that. So much regret for not ttc sooner.
What is going well for you this week? After an intense game of phone tag, I was able to get the go-ahead from my RE's office to do a medicated/monitored cycle since insurance probably won't approve another IUI in time.
R/R? Two and a half days of school, then Thanksgiving break. Whoopee! Very happy that I won't have to say "stop talking", "turn around", "hands to yourself" for 4 whole days!
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Baseline U/S tomorrow.
GTKY: What color are your eyes? Blue
@emeraldduchess I’m so sorry about your gut punch! It seems especially tough to have painful reminders in a place that should provide you comfort. And I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling witH a painful anniversary. Hopefully the holiday will be a bit of a distraction!
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss: Early loss at 5 weeks in October
Status: TWW
How are things going? They were going okay, I was feeling positive about this cycle and that I ovulated fairly on time and that MH was around for FW...
What is something that you are struggling with this week? I had a dream last night that I had another loss. It was so real and I woke up barely able to breathe. It’s making me feel less optimistic about this cycle.
What is going well for you this week? Holiday weekend can’t come soon enough, I’m plotting how to get out of work earlier on Wednesday so I miss some of the weather on the long drive to New England
R/R? I appreciate that TTC has made me more in touch with my body and my cycle, especially compared to when I had a Mirena a didn’t get AF, but it also means I notice and analyze every single twinge, or burp or pain. I can’t remember really feeling nauseated more than once or twice at work since I started 5 years ago, and since TTC I feel like I’m sick to my stomach or crampy or whatever multiple times a week. Sometimes I just want to go back to blissful ignorance.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? I’m having a big internal debate as to when to test. MH is out of town for most of December, and especially post dream I want him to be here not just for the initial POAS but for a while after. So options are to test 10DPO when I probably wouldn’t even turn a test if KU, or wait until 25DPO/over a week late for AF/when we’re with our whole family for Xmas.
GTKY: What color are your eyes? BLUE!
@notagoodpatient Oh dear! So sorry you had that dream. That’s awful. Still stay optimistic about this cycle.
Introduce Yourself and anything you think is important: Miscarriage at 7 weeks Nov, 2019
Status: Waiting for a normal period to come.
How are things going? Things are going a lot better then the past 2 weeks ago. I stopped bleeding yay!! and my body is feeling more normal again which is nice. I’m starting to feel like myself.
What is something you are struggling with this week? I’m still struggling with all the babies and newborns that I see everywhere I go. I feel like the universe just hates me. 😢 Literally everywhere I go or on Facebook or my friends etc there is babies. Some days I feel so smothered. I mean these babies are so cute but...it’s not my baby and it just reminds me of what I lost and it makes me sad 😔
What is going well for you this week? Well I accepted what happened and I’m ready to move forward. I’m back to work as normal and everything is fine I’m just impatient and want AF to start so i know where I’m at and I can try again next cycle and move on.
R/R? I’m really looking forward to Christmas time. It makes me smile and will bring me some much needed happiness and distractions.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope
GTKY: What Color are your eyes? Brown. I’ve always hated my brown eyes lol
@mindyb2019 that’s great that you’re feeling more like yourself! I hope AF comes soon so you can back on the horse so to speak!
Oh @emeraldduchess I'm so sorry about the gut-punch. And I totally feel you on the whole regretting-not-ttc-sooner thing. I'm right there with you.
Introduce Yourself and anything you think is important: MMC Oct. '19
Status: WTO, I think. At this point, I have no clue.
How are things going? Ehh. Work is super busy, so that's making my day go by faster. Plus, I've gotten back to going running, so that feels good.
What is something that you are struggling with this week? Not knowing what the hell is going on with my body. I bled for 6 weeks after my miscarriage, then no bleeding for 4 days, then back to bleeding for the past 2+ weeks. Is this ever going to end? I can't tell if this is my next cycle - all my Googling has only come up with results saying you should have at least 21 days of no bleeding before knowing it's your next cycle. I only stopped bleeding/spotting for four days. My OB on Friday wasn't very comforting, he was actually kind of short with me and told me that I would have "intermittent bleeding and spotting for 3 or so months after miscarriage". So frustrating.
What is going well for you this week? No more classes for me! I had my final class for grad school last Thursday, so now it's just wrapping things up with my clients before I fly out to Chicago on the 8th to present my capstone.
R/R? Someone at work brought in these amazing cookies, and they are just what I need. I'll have to run an extra mile tomorrow and Friday just to burn them off, but it's worth it.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope. The results of my thyroid panel and all the post-MC bloodwork came back normal, so in my OB's and my primary care doc's eyes, I'm healthy as a horse.
GTKY: What color are your eyes? Blue-grey, and they sometimes appear green when I'm pissed or crying.
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.: Early loss in May 2019
Status: TWW/WFAF
How are things going? Ok I guess
What is something that you are struggling with this week? My PMS is kicking my butt. I’ve cried so much I’m not sure how I have tears left. And I’m not usually a crier. Guess it’s been building up.
What is going well for you this week? I am not at all stressed about hosting Thanksgiving.
R/R? My husband is also PMSing it seems and we can’t stop arguing. He’s being so snippy and so am I, it just sucks.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? No
GTKY: What color are your eyes? 💩
@emeraldduchess I’m so sorry for the ‘what ifs’ with ttc. I can’t even imagine how difficult this time of year has to be like for you.
@notagoodpatient Oh, man, that dream sounds so brutal. I’m so sorry that happened. Big hugs to you 💗
@mindyb2019 I hope AF comes soon so you can start moving forward. I’m glad things with your body are feeling more normal.
@ttcbabyodo I’m so sorry about that frustrating non-answer answer by your OB. I really hope your body goes back to normal soon.
@tyrion_ I'm sorry about the PMS symptoms, and that you and YH are butting heads. Hopefully you can have some catharsis and feel better soon!
PS - I also have poop brown eyes - that is literally what my DH calls them 😂
My 2nd MC, post D&C, I bled for a few days, stopped and thought it was "over" then proceeded to have bleeding for weeks after. It was about 7 or 8 weeks before I got my first pd after that one. Unfortunately post MC, there really is no "normal". I totally get the feeling of thinking it's never going to end! Hang in there ♡
**edited MCs to MMCs
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.
MC at 7 weeks in 1/19 & at 5 weeks (CP) in 8/19
Status: TWW
How are things going? Pretty good...can’t complain about the fact that work is almost over for the week!
What is something that you are struggling with this week? Just thinking about the what if’s of Thanksgiving...*TW - we are going to two, the first will have no babies (we are the only married couple that could/would have them), and the second will have lots of little ones (DH & I are the only ones without any). I’m just hoping to make it through with no questions/hints as to when we will be having kids! End TW*
What is going well for you this week? I’ve been super productive at work, so even though I only had 3 days, I’ve been able to get everything done that I need to!
R/R? Nothing really, just want to wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving, and I hope it is trigger-free for everyone!!
Any testing coming up/any recent results? None.
GTKY: What color are your eyes? Blue.
@emeraldduches I’m so sorry for that totally unexpected gut punch!! I so hope this medicated/monitored cycle works for you so you don’t make it to your loss anniversary!
@notagoodpatient so sorry for that dream, that’s awful! 😢 I totally feel ya on the being almost too in-tune with your body now! I don’t know how I didn’t notice all these things before, but I wish I could somehow go back to that!
@mindyb2019 I’m glad you are feeling better and more like yourself! So sorry for the triggers being everywhere! I had to take a break from FB after my first loss, because I just couldn’t handle it! Hope the holiday season helps to keep your mind off things!
@ttcbabyodo oh friend, I’m so sorry you are dealing with the bleeding & not knowing what’s going on! I hope you get some clarity on your cycle soon! Yay for being finished with grad school other than your capstone...that’s so exciting!! So glad all your BW came back normal, but the unexplained can be frustrating! Sending hugs your way!
@tyrion_ so sorry for the PMS, for you and YH!! I hope he snaps out of it and is just there for you!! So glad you aren’t stressed about Thanksgiving, I’m sure it’ll go great!
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.
NMC 1/17, BO 6/19, CP 8/19
Status: WTO / IUI #3
How are things going? See the IF thread - feeling hopeless and angry
What is something that you are struggling with this week? 2020 coming - no Feb or April babies for me
What is going well for you this week? My nails are growing again, and seem to be stronger thanks to all of the vegetables in eating
R/R? It’s that time of year where students (already) start checking out when things are new and tough. It makes my job so tough. I wish parents spent more time working on resiliency with kids.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? RE scan and BW on Friday, probably IUI this weekend.
GTKY: What color are your eyes? Green / gold / brown hazel
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
@notagoodpatient thank you. ❤️ It sucks when your hurting. I really like that metaphor you said. I’m gonna remember that always. It’s a good way to think about things that I never did before. thank you for sharing that. I guess my ball still needs sometime to get smaller as more time goes by. I guess when I have sad moments like yesterday it means my ball has hit the button and that’s ok cause that will happen. I’m glad you don’t feel guilty when your happy and thus you shouldn’t. I don’t either when I’m happy or having fun. We all deserve happiness in our lives.
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
@ttcbabyodo I’m so sorry you are dealing with what has to seem like a never-ending reminder!! I hope it ends soon and you don’t have to go on BC to regulate your cycles!
@mindyb2019 - Glad to hear you enjoyed dinner!! *TW* My close cousin who's 2 yrs younger than me just had her baby in October 2019. I found out I was pregnant with my first mc during her wedding weekend in October 2018. I totally get the struggle of wanting to be happy for someone you love while also being sad for yourself.
*Edited just to include a *TW* for pregnancy reference