June 2020 Moms
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November Unplanned Babies Thread
pourmeanothermocktail
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While we all know that unplanned doesn't mean less loved, I think we can all acknowledge that it can cause some extra fear, concern, anxiety, etc. I thought a place to discuss that might be good!
Feel free to answer these, add your own, or just free form any thoughts/questions!
How many kids at home now, and ages?
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work?
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)?
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure?
Any other questions, comments, concerns?
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Feel free to answer these, add your own, or just free form any thoughts/questions!
How many kids at home now, and ages?
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work?
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)?
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure?
Any other questions, comments, concerns?
*eta fix typo
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Me: 33
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Re: November Unplanned Babies Thread
Son is almost 3.5, daughter is 14 months
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work?
We pulled out and I track ovulation, and only have sex once a month usually. Pull out successful, and had zero ovulation signs at all for the month, which is unusual at best.
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)?
Shock and unhappiness. Fear. So much fear. My transition from 1 to 2 was really hard, and that age gap was larger than this one will be. It's evolved a little to acceptance and some positive feelings, but as I haven't had an initial appointment or ultrasound yet, I think I'm still pretty guarded. Like, maybe a bit of denial? Idk yet. I'm outwardly preparing and making plans.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure?
Finances. We're barely keeping above water now, and I was hoping to go back to limited part time work right now, but my pelvis doesn't agree with waitressing, Bartending, or anything on my feet, which is all that's easily available to me part time. SPD really wrecks me until a good 6 months after delivery. And chasing two toddlers threw pregnancy scares me.
Any other questions, comments, concerns?
My two are so high maintenance and loud and pushy and demanding. Worried about mental health of more of them!!!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
How many kids at home now, and ages? Two. A boy turning 12 next month and a girl turning 8 this month.
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work? We use FAM and condoms while fertile. I normally noticeably ovulate and we discontinue condoms a couple days later. I did not noticeably ovulate in October so I don't know if it was early or late or what happened, but we used condoms when I normally as in "the fourteen freaking years we've been using this method of BC" ovulate.
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)? I cried for 4 days, but now I'm happy and excited. Our kids are amazing and the thought of another is awesome.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure? I am the breadwinner and DH is a SAHD homeschooling our kids. I was able to SAH with the older two and the thought of not SAH with this one breaks my heart. DH wants to switch out our roles, but I make more, so there's a dilemma between comfort for the family and what my heart wants. This was also a huge cause for the 4 days of tears.
Any other questions, comments, concerns? I'm turning 39 next month, so this is my first AMA PG. That does cause a bit of fear, but I'm doing my best to harness my natural tendency to worry and stress because that's not good for the baby. I'm eating healthy, resting and trying to remain as calm as I can.
I have a daughter that just turned two and I have an angel baby that I miscarried very early with.
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work?
My DH and I were planning to start trying for another baby next spring. But SURPRISE, we are already pregnant.
We are normally very careful when it comes to protection. But we had a mess up after a night of drinking.
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)?
I was very excited and absolutely terrified. I have many chronic illnesses. Therefore, I cant be on the majority of my medicines before even trying to conceive, so when we found out I was pregnant, it was terrifying. Luckily I worked with my doctor's and we quickly weaned me off and changed my prescriptions around. Also, our house is very tiny. We were planning to do an addition next summer, but now we're moving that up to next month.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure?
My health. I have to stay on top of everything all the time. It's very stressful and trying. With DD I was already in near perfect condition compared to now. 😬
Any other questions, comments, concerns?
Not right now! Just waiting for my first ultrasound next week! I'm also excited there is a board for unplanned babies. Makes me feel like I'm not alone ❤️
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
How many kids at home now, and ages?
2 boys, 4 years and 15 months
Want to talk about how your family planning worked or didn’t work?
We were using FAM and pull out, but I was somehow off in my calculations with ovulation I guess. My ovulation symptoms were not as strong this past month.
Initial Reaction:
I was surprised and very nervous. Still nervous.
Biggest Obstacles:
My four year-old is very high maintenance (he has some behavior issues and speech delays) and I am worried about dividing our attention between 3 kids.
No questions right now.
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work? We used the pull out method basically as soon as we got married 7+ years ago. I was done being on BC. The hormones really messed with me. Considering we only ever got pregnant when we intentionally tried (and even then it took some time) an unplanned pregnancy was not on my radar, despite knowing this is not a fool proof method.
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)?
So the night I likely got KU, DH made a comment along the lines of "oops, some may have got in" and to my delight I knew I was likely ovulating. You see...I've always wanted a third and he was never 100% ready. Plus, after the stress of TTC, best case scenario for me was a surprise pregnancy. I'm stoked. Honestly though it still doesn't feel real or like it is actually going to happen despite feeling nauseous pretty much 24/7
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure? Combining bedrooms for my two older ones and acquiring a new infant car seat. Otherwise we have everything we need (unless it's a girl cause I will need all things girly and frilly!)
Any other questions, comments, concerns?
Nah, just stupid excited to be here!
How many kids at home now, and ages?
2 boys, soon to be 7 yr old and a 21 month old
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work?
I have stage 3 Endometriosis and we did fertility treatments for a yr before getting pregnant with DS. I was so emotionally wrecked from all that so it took some time to be ready for number 2. Another fertility treatment brought us our second son. For almost 10 yrs we have never had success and so to become pregnant now, on our own, via sex is very surprising!! A happy surprise for me (not so much DH)
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)?
Absolutely shocked. I kept going to look at the pee stick. My husband about died when I told him. We were not planning for a 3rd, even though deep down i wanted another but knew it would never happen. Jokes on us.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure?
Getting my husband to calm down and realize it will all work out. He is still so shocked and so stressed about finances and chaos that will ensue after birth.
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work? Pull out method. I stopped taking birth control back in 2010. All 3 of ours were oopsies.
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)? Sad. I was so excited for my future. Both kids will be in school all day next year. Planned out my next two years of school to finally get a degree and look for a better job. Im finishing my Biotechnology Associates, and transferring in the fall 2020 to a bachelors program.
Thankfully there is an online program available to transfer to, or I would have to put school on hold for a bit. I just hope I get accepted. I'll start out part time, not overdo it. This semester has been so hard! 15 credits of classes. Two school drop off lines. No family nearby. Hisband gone. Pregnancy with the worst nausea I have experienced. Overwheled is an understatement.
I am not as upset anymore. I know the kids will love it, and will be helpful. I love baby snuggles, and I am glad I'll get more. This baby is already loved.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure? Managing my time and schedule. If my husband didnt travel, it would be easier!
Any other questions, comments, concerns? My husband was surprisingly happy about it. Though he feels bad that I am so sick, and sad about slowing down with my school.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work? I have pcos. It took us a year and fertility meds to get pregnant with our 6 month old. I haven't had a period since he was born. I was completely fine with having just 2 babies but the good lord had other plans. I was upset about it at first since my baby will only be 13 months when the new baby arrives, but I've come to terms with it and I'm starting to become excited.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure? Having two babies in diapers at the same time. Well just having two babies period really. Thankfully my oldest loves helping with baby brother, so I'm sure he will be a huge help with this one too.
Any other questions, comments, concerns? Hubby has been excited since we found out. (He's secretly hoping for a girl this time) lol hopefully we will find out soon enough!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work? we recently switched to NFP so we knew it was possible but were trying to avoid for awhile longer. I have a theory that I sometimes double ovulate and I’m pretty sure that’s what happened.
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)? I knew the day before I tested because my boobs felt crazy sore and heavy so I had already started processing before I saw the positive test. I was surprised but not shocked. DH felt the same. Still feels a little surreal.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure? Finances. This was the main reason we were avoiding. We knew we wanted another but DH just started a new business so it doesn’t feel as “secure” as we would like bringing another child into the world. I’m also a little worried about being outnumbered as this will be #3.
Any other questions, comments, concerns? Not today
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work? We used fertility treatments with my prior pregnancies. This was a total shock!
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)? We are more than thrilled with the news, but it's still been hard to wrap our heads around.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure? Going from 2 to 3 requires a lot of changes. Is our house big enough? Are our vehicles big enough? We are already so busy and with a 3 and 1 year old. There are already lots of crying and tantrums. And, we will be outnumbered! :-X
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I have 8 kids 4 boys ages 13,11,6,4 and I have 4 girls 9,5,1,7 months.
Want to talk about how your family planning did or didn't work?
Mini pill went to have my teeth worked on was on antibiotics and forgot about the interaction.
What was your initial reaction, and how has it changed (or not changed yet!)?
I cried and was really scared. It felt like I was being punished for my stupidity on not taken my birth control more serious.
What do you see as the biggest obstacles in this unplanned adventure?
I just bought a car that fits my family. Now to go on another journey to fit another child is terrifying.
Any other questions, comments, concerns?
Me and my husband have not told his family my inlaws. My mother inlaw wasn't excited when we had our 7 month old. We didn't tell her until I was 6 months and she was hurt we waited. But soon after was very negative. How do I tell her about this pregnancy? My mother and father are happy and my siblings are fighting over names so I have my family support.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green