WTO Friday 10/25

gingermama29 · October 2019

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ssbl · October 2019

Month/Cycle: 8/8

CD: 15 (ovulating today or tomorrow I think 🎉)

WAYDTGKU: BBT, OPK, DTD EOD, PNVs

R/R:

Rave that sounds like a rant: After six months of using them, I’ve finally found a low-stress way to use OPKs. The directions say not to use them first thing in the AM, so I would take a handful of cheap ones to work and use them throughout the day, which I hated, and the lines would always vary because I drink a lot of water, and all day every day for a week I would just be obsessed with using and deciphering them. This month I said eff it, and I only used one first thing each morning, and now that I know my cycles well I’m getting results that make sense to me (dark lines two days in a row), and then I can just go on with my day.

Rant that starts with a rave: I’m new here, but I’ve really loved starting to get to know all of you and starting to become part of and find comfort in this community. I do not know what a Peggy is 😂 but I’m pretty sure I’ve witnessed several drive-bys over the past week, and each one is like a slap in the face. If I feel that way after only being here for a few weeks, I can only imagine how hurtful those people are to those of you who have been here for months and years, many of you dealing with IF and/or TTCAL. It sucks that people can be so self-absorbed that they hurt others, and I’m sorry each time it happens to you.

feather_heather · October 2019

@ssbl - Yay for using less OPK's! When I was using them I only did it when I got home from work in the early evening. I would hold my pee for a for hours before going home. Yeah the Peggy's are not fun, but I do my best to just ignore them.

Month/Cycle: 15

CD: 5

WAYDTGKU: IVF

R/R: Got home from work yesterday and my house smelled terrible. In a matter of hours the two cinderella pumpkins I had as decoration in my living room rotted, left a gigantic puddle of rotten pumpkin juice, that warped my wood floors and seeped into my living room rug.

I have an upholstery cleaner that I immediately took to the rug but it still smells! I think I may try to steam clean it with vinegar instead of the cleaning solution later tonight. I have essential oils diffusing to try to clean the smell from the air. Everything is out of place in the living room, it smells like a hockey bag, and my mother in law is coming over for dinner tonight...

CS/Q: nope

ziggymama06 · October 2019

Morning ladies! I'm here now...

@ssbl Yay for ovulation day and getting some clarity on your cycle!! FX that this is your month! A Peggy is one who posts those drive-bys. I usually am pretty good at ignoring them, but being it was posted in the TWW yesterday as well, I tried as best as I could to be nice... which was super difficult given my emotional day.... which ended up not doing any good anyways... so I think I'm back to to ignoring, lol.

@feather_heather I'm sorry about your pumpkin disaster! I hope your rug will come clean and your floors aren't too bad!! What a terrible welcome home after work, ugh! I use vinegar to clean my hardwood floors all the time. I like how it works and makes me want to eat salt and vinegar chips haha! Good luck with your MIL tnt.

Month/Cycle: 2/3

CD: 1

WAYDTGKU: FF, PNV, CM, OPKs, will start temping this cycle.

R/R: Welp day 1 for me... I was super sad yesterday and ate my feelings with a pint of Ben and Jerry's... so today I'm feeling fresh and ready to take this cycle on! My birthday is next week so this means that I can now have some wine tomorrow to celebrate and do not need to cancel the massage I have scheduled on my bday, yay!

CS/Q: I'm going to into purchasing a BBT over the weekend, and how/when to use it. If you girls have any tips/recommendations, I would be so grateful. Can I temp when I first get up, say 6:30am everyday, or does it need to be middle of the night?? Thanks so much in advance!!!

ssbl · October 2019

@feather_heather Ugh that sounds awful 😣 What a pain.

@ziggymama06 I’m so sorry you’re back here. Kudos to you for bouncing back! I have an Ava bracelet, which is relatively expensive, but makes the whole temping thing so easy. You wear it at night and sync it with your phone; it keeps track of your temps and cycle and other indicators and gives you an estimated O date. My understanding of thermometers is that you need to use them as soon as you wake up, before you get out of bed or even move too much, in order for the reading to be accurate.

mvt2003 · October 2019

@ssbl I totally support finding ways to make OPKs less stress! I used to get so worked up about them during the workday too, but I've found that taking them after dinner every day gets me consistent results!

Also, Peggy is just the term we use for these drive-bys who think we're their personal google. It's a play off of "preggie" I believe. I hate the troll Peggys the most! The more believable Peggys just baffle me. Like, if you have a BFP and are looking for people to show it to why would you pick a group of internet strangers? Do you not have friends or family?

@feather_heather I am gagging for you, friend. Oh my god. I am so sorry. Use vingear! And can you get activated charcoal? I'm a big fan these days

@ziggymama06 Sorry about CD1! I use a Femometer because it's bluetooth and syncs to an app on my phone so I don't have to try to read it in the dark. I have an alarm set every day for 5:45 and that's when I temp (when I'm temping, taking this cycle off), no need to do it in the middle of the night unless your morning wakeup times are inconsistent.

mvt2003 · October 2019

Month/Cycle: 14/14

CD:22

WAYDTGKU: Benched for IF testing

R/R: It's Fri-Yay! I have a fun weekend - neighborhood Halloween parade tomorrow, and a 5k Sunday! I have to clean my entire house tonight though, it's gotten away from me and it's stressing me out!

MH pushed me out of bed this morning to make my morning run happen, which I appreciated. I was slow but it was a good run, cleared my head, and I'm riding the endorphin high today!

CS/Q: Nope

ziggymama06 · October 2019

@ssbl Thank you, I try to be optimistic.

I'm looking in to the Ava bracelet also... you only wear it when sleeping right? I saw something that said it is useful during pregnancy too, but I'm not sure I understand why... Like I'm fine to spend the money, but feel like with my luck I'd only wear it one cycle... but then I guess it would have worked? I'm torn.

@mvt2003 Your weekend sounds so fun!! Are you dressing up? Good luck with your 5k and your hubs for pushing you! My house needs a scrubbing too... I'm just too exhausted after work and my long commute. Thanks for the tips! That's awesome that the Femometer syncs to your phone so you don't have to worry about logging it first thing. Do you then wake up after temping... or go back to sleep for a bit?

mvt2003 · October 2019

@ziggymama06 Not dressing up this year, this is a trail run. I did a fun Halloween one last year that I'll probably go back to next year! I usually temp at 5:45 then doze for another 15 minutes, if I'm going to get a run in I need to be out the door by 6:20 at the very latest.

feather_heather · October 2019

@ziggymama06 - Ohh good to know you use vinegar on your hardwood floors - I'm reading conflicting information on that online. Not having to cancel a massage is always good news! I also use an AVA bracelet to temp and would recommend it.

@mvt2003 - Going to look into the activated charcoal right now! Anything to get rid of the smell! Have fun this weekend!

mvt2003 · October 2019

@feather_heather I have 6 bags of it if you need to borrow some!

bluetickgal · October 2019

*Lurking from TWW*

@ziggymama06 so sorry you are back over here! As far as temping tips go...like @mvt2003 said, no need to temp in the middle of the night unless you have majorly inconsistent sleeping patterns. As long as you get 3-4 hours of constant sleep, that’s good. The key is consistency, so try and temp as close to the same time as possible each morning without getting out of bed first. I set an early alarm for the weekend (which sucks) and then just go back to sleep after temping. If you don’t get a thermometer that has Bluetooth, I’d suggest getting one that has a backlight so you can see it in the dark! The first one I got didn’t and I had to use my phone light to shine on it so I could read it...super annoying when you are half asleep!

ssbl · October 2019

@ziggymama06 Yeah, you just wear it when you’re sleeping. I remember reading you can use it during pregnancy too, but I didn’t pay too much attention to that at this point. I bought it after six months TTC when I was starting to lose my mind and pretty much would try anything. I figured if I used it for just one cycle I’d be too happy to care about spending the money lol. I also hope to have more than one child so I hope to get use out of it in the future.

ziggymama06 · October 2019

@feather_heather Since we purchased our home almost 10 years ago we have only used vinegar (mixed with water) to clean the wood floors, after vacuuming. We had the floors refinished when we moved in. We read back then that using typical floors cleaners add a film to the wood that can layer/cake up over time, so we never used them... and vinegar is much cheaper in comparison lol. Good luck with the cleanup... let us know how you make out. I'm so tempted to buy the Ava...

@bluetickgal Aww thanks girl! I appreciate all the tips! I'm a bit torn between splurging on the Ava or getting a BBT with the bluetooth (I love that idea!!). Will do some research this weekend. I'm anxious to get started so will likely go with the BBT since I can buy it on Amazon and begin right away!!

@ssbl Thanks! I didn't really think about using it again for the next child. Ideally I would like more than one as well... so that's a good idea!

kmalls · October 2019

@ssbl - it's amazing how quickly you feel protective of this group, isn't it? I wish I could put a bubble around everyone to keep out the hurtful driveby's.

@feather_heather - oh no! Rotting pumpkins are so gross! I hope you were able to get rid of the smell before dinner tonight!

@ziggymama06 - ugh I'm sorry you're over here in WTO. I'm glad you've found a silver lining in the wine and massage, though!

@mvt2003 - All the props to you for a morning run. I can barely walk to the coffee maker in the morning, let alone going outside and (GASP!) exercising.

kmalls · October 2019

Month/Cycle: 1/1

CD: 16ish

WAYDTGKU: BBT, tracking in FF, OPKs, etc etc...

R/R: ugh, a rant: TL;DR - Sex didn't happen on O day and I'm mad.

So as I've said before, this is my first cycle post-IUD removal. It's taken longer to ovulate than usual (which is fine and expected) so I've been temping and using OPKs to stay on top of things. My husband is SO INTO having a kid and has been really interested in seeing where my cycle is at (ie: asking if the OPKs were positive yet, how's the temp graph looking, etc). Finally got a positive OPK a couple days ago, we DTD accordingly, but I knew I hadn't ovulated yet due to temps. Yesterday I was positive it was O day, and wouldn't ya know...we absolutely could not find time to DTD. Husband got stuck in traffic on the way home from work, meaning we had to immediately go out to a previously scheduled family obligation, and then he had stupid bowling league at night. I asked him like 7 times not to go to bowling but because someone else on the team already wasn't going, he felt like he had to. So f'ing annoying, it's not like they're pro. It's a damn beer league. Then when he *finally* got home, he and my mom (who had been hanging with me as my dad is on the same bowling team) got into a huuuuuuge political conversation that lasted until 11:30pm. After that sex just wasn't going to happen -- he was too tired, I kept dozing off, and the next thing we knew it was morning. I temped and my temperature went way up, meaning yesterday was almost certainly O day. I'm so freaking annoyed that after all this goddamn waiting, he couldn't skip bowling. JUST SKIP BOWLING, DUDE

CS/Q: Nothing.

ssbl · October 2019

@kmalls Ugh, I’m so sorry. That’s super frustrating. At least you squeezed it in a couple days ago—still good timing!

faith_2911 · October 2019

Sorry I'm late, but still wanted to join in!

@ssbl I'm glad you found a less stressful way to use OPKs! That's how I use them too. Taking them to work sounds super annoying. Also, yay for O! I've read some of the Peggy Posts too and am always baffled when they receive a kind and gentle response and still don't listen or sincerely apologize. Smh. I know this is a terrible attitude to have, but sometimes on the more extreme ones it makes me feel like it's wild that they're about to be or already are parents... and like, couldn't it have been someone a little more mature instead? But I know those are unproductive thoughts.

@feather_heather Nooooo! Sorry that happened to you. That is a lot to deal with after a day of work. I hope you were able to save your floors and rug! Sound more like evil stepmother pumpkins

@ziggymama06 Sorry for CD 1

I hope you have a fun birthday week and treat yourself! A massage sounds wonderful. Do you do them regularly? I've never gotten one, but this school year has me strongly considering it!

@mvt2003 Congrats on running even when you weren't feeling it! Hope you're enjoying your fun weekend!

@kmalls I'm so sorry. That is really frustrating. I would have gotten very annoyed as well. I hope ya'll were able to talk about it afterwards so that YH can understand how to be a better teammate next time!

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