I have not had sex with MH since finding out I was pregnant. Technically, my RE said not to.... but when pressed, they said it was because sometimes sex causes spotting and then people freak out. So the sex ban was really more so they didn't have to deal with patients freaking out over nothing - not for any real medical reason. I did not tell MH this. I'm hoping 2nd tri gives me a little more motivation... 😬
@ruby696 Sex has been a tough spot in my marriage. He has a higher sex drive and when I was going through health issues postpartum last time my sex drive was severely effected by the hormone imbalance. It took a year of treatment to get my body back to "normal". We had sex a handful of times in the beginning of this pregnancy, but then nothing for weeks. He brought it up and I confessed that it was partly our schedules, fatigue, but also I had been having some left hip/ovary pain and was scared to do anything. I'm hoping to make more of an effort soon now that symptoms are calming down.
@ruby696 I totally laughed at that. Yep, this happens. I think my clinic has done something similar since they asked me to stay on pelvic rest once I hit that fertile week of the transfer cycle. I asked at my appointment Monday morning to come off of the pelvic rest and we indulged once so far. I didn't spot, so was relieved. Some women really have a 2 tri boost to the sex drive, maybe this pregnancy that will happen. My fatigue was so bad with the twins, I was just exhausted by the end of the day that we switched to trying in the mornings for intimate time. Right now if the attempt isn't made before 9 p.m. DH can kiss his chances goodbye.
@ruby696 We've been on self-induced pelvic rest too... DH actually approached me the other day and basically said "not that I'm not interested, but I don't want to hurt the raspberries". I told him he wouldn't, but I'm nervous about spotting so I'd rather wait until 2nd tri. And maybe I'll be less tired then, too.
@ruby696 With DS2 I was on pelvic rest almost the entire time. In the beginning for estrogen supplements and towards the end for placenta issues. And honestly it was a huge relief. I HATE pregnancy sex. It’s uncomfortable, I can’t get into it, I just don’t feel like dealing with it. MH has been driving me crazy for weeks and I just want to puke on him one time so he’ll leave me alone.
@stella_700 I say the same, if you don't want to make an attempt before I want to go to sleep it's not happening. MH is a night owl and being pregnant and having a toddler means I go to bed shortly after she does and I'm a morning person normally any how so we have the schedule problem even before kids.
@ruby696 When I was pregnant with DD I think we dtd maybe 10 times in the 39 weeks. This time, I think we've already passed that in 8 weeks. I swear this baby must be a boy and I have a ton of testosterone running through my blood.
My FFFC my principal gave us "IOU duty coverage" slips and I planned mine out for yesterday because I have crossing guard duty this week and it was torrential down pour yesterday. I gave it to her on Monday so it wouldn't look like a planned it, but definitely checked the weather for the week before giving it to her. I might be on her shit list, but the duty is bogus. We get about 5 kids crossing and most of them cross with their parents or are high school students.
@m6agua MH already knows he's going to go through a major dry spell after the babies are born. Post partum sex is horrible for me. I think breastfeeding makes it worse. It starts getting tolerable around 6 months, but doesn't feel normal again for like a full year. I suck it up and put out occasionally because I know MH has needs (and he's an amazing dad) so I try to throw him a bone every now and then.
@jhysmath You guys need one of those cute, elderly crossing guards who is a community volunteer! They're adorable and they love chatting with young people.
Our poor DH's. Mine looked at me already in bed with the covers over me at 9:20 last night and said sadly, "some day we will go back to our normal" I didn't want to crush him so I didn't say anything just smiled and blew him a kiss.
MH really wanted some last weekend and I just can’t when I constantly feel sick and hungover. I do kind of miss him so I’m hoping that I feel more into in a couple weeks when second tri hits.
My confession... yesterday was a crap day and both kids got into trouble while I was puking in the bathroom. I feel bad for yelling but I don’t feel bad that my oldest picked up his toys in the floor over the past week for the first time in forever. Also, I am super ridiculously irritable right now and don’t know why. Like I don’t want to be around me but I can’t seem to stop it.
@ "the pelvic rest" convo: DH just keeps saying "when you feel better" which at least we both know is coming. I'm too tired and too nauseous. Not in the mood. I don't even get the fun dreams.
@jhysmath What a bogus duty. Good for you! I got out of a duty this year because of another role. How am I using that time? I'm on TB! 😂
I bought cookies from the vending machine this morning. I had other (maybe better for me) snacks but they ALL sounded terrible at the time.
@jrouge12 I've had two breakfasts every day this week. I'm currently starving and can't wait to go get a sandwich in 20 minutes. Eat all the cookies you want!
@jhysmath I'm in a similar boat with this pregnancy. I'm much more interested in sex than I ever was during my pregnancy with DD. Also, sex used to be kind of painful for me before I had DD, but once I recovered from delivery, things were stretched out just enough for it to no longer be painful, so now I'm much less averse, lol.
MH’s sex drive is lower than mine to begin with, and he was sick of me making him be a “circus seal” while we were TTC, so he’s glad to have a sex break.
My confession: he’s been giving me the hairy eyeball about my Target expenditures...so every time I go to the grocery store I buy a $25 target gift card so it doesn’t look like I’m spending that much money. To be clear, we are fine on money, he just doesn’t understand that yes, I do need more maternity leggings because the ones from baby #1 are threadbare!
@mdfarmchick I've done this so that way I get to choose when we're on a long drive and we don't end up at Chipotle for the 100th time. I loved Chipotle until he decided we needed to eat there every time we passed one. I'm just like oh look there's an olive garden gift card in our pile from Christmas let's go there! And really I slipped it in before the trip 😂
About the sex: even though I have a sex drive, my anxiety stops me. DH would loooove to have sex, but I’m way too nervous. Now that he has HFM and his bodily fluids will be contagious for weeks, I’m using that as an excuse to wait until after the anatomy scan 😂😂
My FFFC: I’m 10 weeks tomorrow and I wore maternity pants to work today. Soooo much more comfortable!
@mokay19 Bwahahahaha. although HFM, no thank you! I've yet to experience that with my little two, I'm so not looking forward to it.
My FFFC: Several friends reported to me that cases of croup are popping up everywhere. Grrrr, my DS is especially susceptible and had to be given vaporized epinephrine last time in the ER to ease his breathing. We are hibernating all weekend.
@stella_700 When did he have Croup last? DD had it for the first time at 13.5 months that required an ER trip. She got it again exactly a year later and it was not nearly as bad and no ER trip required. We just did steamy bathrooms and cold air and medicine to control fevers. I'm pretty sure it was because she grew and there was more space in her vocal chords/throat so the swelling didn't impact it as much. She just recently had a croup-y cough again, about 10 months since the last one and it was really no big deal this time, we didn't have to do anything to manage it and it was gone after 2 nights.
I'm guessing you know this, but just in case you don't. The adult version of Croup is Laryngitis. We have much more space so we just lose our voice with the swelling and don't get the croup-y cough.
@m6agua This was back in early summer. He's actually had a worse case each time he's had it (three times now.) I told DH that if it happens again we will be looking at having him assessed by his pediatrician for a referral to a pediatric pulmonologist. Hopefully he's grown enough to not have more issues. I tried all the tricks to get it to ease up, it didn't and he grew more panicked so off we went.
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- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019@ruby696
When I was pregnant with DD I think we dtd maybe 10 times in the 39 weeks. This time, I think we've already passed that in 8 weeks. I swear this baby must be a boy and I have a ton of testosterone running through my blood.
My FFFC my principal gave us "IOU duty coverage" slips and I planned mine out for yesterday because I have crossing guard duty this week and it was torrential down pour yesterday. I gave it to her on Monday so it wouldn't look like a planned it, but definitely checked the weather for the week before giving it to her. I might be on her shit list, but the duty is bogus. We get about 5 kids crossing and most of them cross with their parents or are high school students.
@jhysmath You guys need one of those cute, elderly crossing guards who is a community volunteer! They're adorable and they love chatting with young people.
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My confession... yesterday was a crap day and both kids got into trouble while I was puking in the bathroom. I feel bad for yelling but I don’t feel bad that my oldest picked up his toys in the floor over the past week for the first time in forever. Also, I am super ridiculously irritable right now and don’t know why. Like I don’t want to be around me but I can’t seem to stop it.
@jhysmath What a bogus duty. Good for you! I got out of a duty this year because of another role. How am I using that time? I'm on TB! 😂
I bought cookies from the vending machine this morning. I had other (maybe better for me) snacks but they ALL sounded terrible at the time.
My confession: he’s been giving me the hairy eyeball about my Target expenditures...so every time I go to the grocery store I buy a $25 target gift card so it doesn’t look like I’m spending that much money. To be clear, we are fine on money, he just doesn’t understand that yes, I do need more maternity leggings because the ones from baby #1 are threadbare!
My FFFC: I’m 10 weeks tomorrow and I wore maternity pants to work today. Soooo much more comfortable!
I'm guessing you know this, but just in case you don't. The adult version of Croup is Laryngitis. We have much more space so we just lose our voice with the swelling and don't get the croup-y cough.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019