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Weekly Group Check-in Groups 1&2 (Jan 1-16) w/o 30/9
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GTKY: What is something you are looking forward to once baby is born?
GTKY: What is something you are looking forward to once baby is born?
Re: Weekly Group Check-in Groups 1&2 (Jan 1-16) w/o 30/9
Baby is the size of a(n): Boule de pain or a butternut squash!
GTKY: What is something you are looking forward to once baby is born? I'm excited to see how DD and her new sibling will interact, as well as how it will be with two
will be here. When I think about it, it makes me feel a little panicky. More so that i dont have any baby boy things but mountains of baby girl things from dd.
Baby is the size of a(n): a pigeon
GTKY: What is something you are looking forward to once baby is born? Im curious to see how alike or different they will be compared to each other & also dd. Also A rare steak & a glass of wine, followed by something sugary and sweet like a jam donut or cheesecake.
Baby is the size of a(n): Kleenex box
Sore ribs still. I have a feeling it's not going to go away...
Still craving peanut butter and hot wings
GTKY: What is something you are looking forward to once baby is born?
I can't wait to see what eye colour he will have. I'm also very ready to not work.
Baby is the size of a(n): Acorn squash
Has anyone hired a doula yet? We had one the last time, but it is a huge expense.
GTKY: What is something you are looking forward to once baby is born?
Holding this little rainbow and seeing dd with her/him.
Not to scare any FTMs out there! There are actually a few things you can do and I think a thread in November is a great idea to start talking about it.
I think I'll start looking for a doula. Last time we hired ours she was a student doula and a lot less expensive...so I don't know if we can go back to her. It's a very small home birth/birth center birth community here though so it could be awkward if she finds out we went with someone else.
For us, the doula helped with everything else besides me in labor (my husband did all birth support), but it's impossible to predict what I will need for this birth. Maybe we just need a PA...
Baby is the size of a(n): Large cucumber
GTKY: What is something you are looking forward to once baby is born? Seeing how DS is as a big brother. I think he's going to be amazing, but time will tell. @leprechaunlady That rare steak and red wine also sounds amazing! I think I'll add a good Rainbow Roll to the mix!
EDD/Weeks + Days: 25 weeks
Baby is the size of a(n): TI 89 Calculator
GTKY: What is something you are looking forward to once baby is born? Seeing my daughter with her. While the routine will change, and I am not looking forward to that, she is excited for a sister and keeps asking for her to share a room and to go to school with her.
This time around I will be getting a Halo Bassinet (off of FB marketplace). We had a bassinet stroller that is certified for sleep and came with a separate stand that we kept in the bedroom. I think it will be a hassle for me this time to keep taking the bassinet up and down through my house while dealing with a new baby and DD. Last time it was somehow easier but it would be good to have the bassinet fixed in the bedroom and keep the bassinet stroller in the car or the stand with that portion in the living room. I am also debating on getting the 4moms momaroo (also on FB marketplace) since again having DD might be hard to carry baby around all the time even though I am really into baby wearing and never used any type of aid to hold her away from me last time. We need a carseat this time too, so that kind of sucks since it's a big cost. What about you?
My biggest "aha" item that I purchased with my second and loved was a cosleeper that connects to the bed. I hadn't really thought it was necessary with my first since we had a crib in the room, but underestimated how comforting it is for baby to be within arms reach during the night. We bought an Arms Reach Cosleeper last time around but can't find it now (probably didn't make the move to our new house), so we're looking at buying a Baby Delight Bedside Bassinet for LO#3 since it appears to be more adjustable and we have a rather low bed.
For me we got a Mammaroo the last time, and didn't get rid of anything so I still have it, and we used it once or twice. My kid hated it. We really liked the Sit-Me-Up and recommend to anyone and everyone!
@cats_in_a_window We know the baby will have to be in our room for the first couple of months because the rooms for the girls will share a wall. To help DD1 get the sleep she needs we will keep DD2 in our room. We are both agree with no co-sleeping but we need to find something that is higher then a pack and play that we can put the baby in.
I feel like I am also being super lazy and having my husband bring home the mini fridge from work so I can pump while I am upstairs and not have to go up and back to store milk over night. Also there will be times where I have him do a bottle in the middle of the night while I pump so we can both get a little more sleep.
Not sure what the aversion to cosleeping is, but if its worry about safety, I will specify that these are not for bedsharing. They attach to the side of mom and dad's bed so that the baby is on a safe, separate sleep surface, but are still at arms reach. We're not comfortable with bedsharing either, but a cosleeper ended up being a good compromise to keep baby happy. It sounds a lot like what you're describing, like a pack and play but higher.
If your reason for not cosleeping is something different, feel free to ignore this of course!
As I was telling another parent the other day, I am the most paranoid person ever, but we did bedshare following all of the official guidelines. It was NOT easy! In fact I am looking for alternatives this time around.
The biggest takeaway from everything is that even if you do not plan on co-sleeping or bed sharing just be informed on exactly what it looks like to do it with the utmost safety and know whether or not your baby is even a candidate for either. There are certain medical things that rule out either option. There may be a night when you are so tired and run down it seems like the only option. It is best to know, even if it is just for that one night, how to do it safely.
@ponyoisfun thanks for the book recommendation! I lean towards the attachment parenting side of things with my infants (without being too keen on giving my parenting a label), so I have done some reading on safe bedsharing and agree that it can be a great option for parents and babies who meet the criteria and put in the effort to create a safe sleep space in the family bed. In our case, we are not willing or really able to make the necessary adjustments to safely bedshare, so cosleeping was a game-changer for us with DD. I also think it's a great idea for all parents to read up on safe bedsharing, even if they don't plan to do it. As you say, it's way too easy to fall asleep with your baby accidentally or just feel like there's no other option when you've been up all night, and there's a huge difference safety-wise between falling asleep together on a couch/recliner (huge no-no) vs. on a firm mattress with pillows and covers removed. From your comments, I'm sure you know all this, I'm summarizing for the benefit of others who might be reading this thread.