Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
February 2020 Moms
leksiL
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STM+ Check-In: October
leksiL
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OK I am selfishly starting this thread early this month because I forgot to post one in September and want to chat!
- How is everyone doing?
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK?
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)?
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing?
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty?
- How is everyone doing?
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK?
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)?
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing?
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty?
Me: 38, DH: 36
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Re: STM+ Check-In: October
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK? Bells did pretty well starting PK3. She loves loves loves her new teacher and really loves to learn so has been working really hard on her letters. They have some really cool toys, and this week have field trips to the library and to go apple picking! She has struggled a bit with the potty and has had a half dozen BM accidents at school. They don't seem to be very worried about it but I hope it clears up soon and she doesn't have an accident while on a field trip.
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)? I am considering getting the Kiinde pump to bottle system this time around. Also a sit and stand stroller which obviously wasn't needed last time.
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing? We had our fall fair in our town last week which was so fun. They had a large inflatables area and besides the plastic burn the kids had such a great time.We will probably do our own apple picking adventure because I love apples and maybe go to the pumpkin patch.
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty?
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
We're good. DD has a bit of a cold and DH is super busy at work which comes at a bad time because this week is a crazy week for us. We're getting new windows next week!!
Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK?
She was so happy to be back at daycare. They have the 3 big kids (she's one of them) nap in the basement on mats with one of the teachers down there. She had a tough time with that transition and ended up in a PNP in the basement with the other kids but had a few days she had to nap upstairs in one of the bedrooms because she was keeping the other kids awake at nap time.
What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)?
I want to get a Sit Me Up (we had a Bumbo for DD), and we may buy a swing/bouncer/play mat since we borrowed those from a cousin who may still be using them for her 2nd kid. Oh and lots of boy clothes!
It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing?
Fall has lots of birthdays in our family and extended family so we have been busy celebrating those. We'll go pumpkin picking in October and maybe apple picking.
How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty?
I'm not feeling guilty, I think DD will love being a big sister (mostly). She will love having a playmate as he gets older. If anything I feel guilty about our lack of "excitement" over baby #2. It's not lack of excitement really because he was very much planned and wanted, but it's more of a "been there, done that" attitude where I find myself not reading every update when I move into a new week and that kind of stuff. It's still interesting but last time I could tell you like how many weeks and days pregnant I was off the top of my head and now I have to stop and think.
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK? The transition has been really smooth. DD has been so glad to be back, and is loving her teacher and classroom. There is the family BBQ day on Friday, so I am excited to go in and have lunch with her.
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)? I am not sure yet! We have most big items from my DD. Shocked I kept them this long. But not sure if there is anything I will be getting that my daughter didn't have.
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing? We have lots of birthdays this time of the year. But we always hit up our favorite pumpkin patch each year.
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty? I am doing alright with it. I have been struggling with the idea of it not just being my DD anymore since by the time we have our little man, it will be almost a solid 7 years of just the three of us. I feel like we have life down, and now it is going to be rocked once he gets here. I am also nervous about the age gap, not now but later in life. I pray they are close and we didn't screw up too much by them being so far apart in age that they will not have a close relationship. My DD wants a sibling so bad and is so excited, but I am trying to prepare her that in the beginning it might be hard and that things will be a little different for everyone. I am afraid of that and do not in anyway want her to feel neglected or unloved at any point. My husband is afraid of the whole "how will I love this baby as much as I love her". I think after finding out it is a boy, he is a little relieved because we won't have a 2nd daughter to "compare" to our first. It is just a wide range of emotions over here! lol
We are doing ok! I think DS may be getting his molars because hes a bit grumpier and chewing incessantly. Currently transitioning him from formula/bottles to cows milk in cups and he is DISPLEASED. And my big boy turns 1 on Monday!
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)?
Nothing. We were really well stocked for the last one so we have everything ready! Just need to get DS's new furniture for his new room and then we will move him out of the nursery.
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing?
We went apple picking last weekend. This weekend is his birthday and in 2 weeks we are going pumpkin picking!
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty?
Not guilty but freaking out about logistics...like when I get out of the car and have to go to the grocery store with my bags and two kids in tow that dont walk. Its gonna be a bit like having twins for a while in that sense.
We're going great! We are at the beginning of a crazy 6 weeks where one or all of us are out of town every weekend (this weekend I'm meeting up with some women from my D17 BMB!) But it's mostly fun stuff so I'm excited about it all, and feeling good.
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK?
Kai is in daycare and moved up to a new room. It was rough for awhile with tough drop offs, but I think we've rounded a corner this week and he's doing well.
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)?
So far I'm mostly just replacing a few things! Muslin blankets, nipples/pacifiers, more car seats...would love to read others' ideas of things to get! I'm super excited we're having boy #2, but also wish I had more to shop for, ha.
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing?
We've got 2 October camping trips planned, visit the pumpkin patch, apple picking, etc
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty?
I actually feel so much more excited about having #2 than I did with my first, because there's none of the anxiety about childbirth or becoming a Mom. I was so unsure about it all the first time, and now I just can't wait for him to be here! I know it will be an adjustment for #1 (and for us!), but it's a transition that most people go through at some point, so I know we'll all figure it out and adapt. I just want to make sure to still prioritize some one-on-one time w/#1.
@bg122785 What all do you have to do to get the room ready? There's still time!
@jvk2012 I definitely had a lack of excitement for awhile and still don't follow the weekly updates or anything like I did w/#1, but in the past few weeks have started to feel sooo excited for the new baby. I'm sure the excitement will come, even if it's after he's here!
@leksil I think I'll feel that "cheating" feeling more once he's here, like if I take the baby to do something and don't bring my older son I'll feel bad. But I'm sure once the baby's here and everyone had adapted all will be well
Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK? My DD is still at the same in-home daycare, but we're in the midst of potty training. (She turned two at the end of June and I'm doing everything I can to have her fully trained). She's doing great with #1, but we haven't had nearly as much success with #2s. @leksiL any tips?
What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)? I've been going back and forth with the idea of a co-sleeper. We had a queen size bed with DD, so we used the arm's reach bassinet next to the bed, but now that we have a king, I'm thinking about getting one of those mesh bassinets that go in the bed between DH and myself. Anyone have any experience with those?
It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing? I'm sure we'll hit up another pumpkin patch. There's a pretty big farm about an hour away that does a HUGE pumpkin experience that I'd love to take my daughter to.
How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty? I don't feel any guilt...yet. But I do feel some anxiety. We still need to figure out how we're going to do the nursery. I have some concerns that moving DD into another room might cause her stress, but we have some time to figure out how to best do this. My current plan is to have her be a part of the design process.
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK? Oh yeah DS had already moved up to primary (ECE3&4) a little early. He's still doing great in his class and we shelled out big money so he could do Soccer Shots which he's been loving.
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)? Beautiful newborn muslins/swaddles for the birth photos of us catching him. We paid for birth photos with DS and I didn't even think about it in advance, and couldn't have cared less while I was in labor, but salmon sheets and used pink loaner swaddles did not make for the best photos. Our photographer cropped and did a great job getting us some gems anyway, but this time I plan to make her life easier and bring some beautiful things.
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing? We are growing pumpkins in our community garden! We also go to the annual pumpkin festival every year and to a local corn maze.
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty? No guilt here- I think we're all just getting impatient already! DS seems excited and ready. We just bought him a twin bed and mattress and plan to let him pick new sheets this weekend, but he's already sleeping in his new bed, filling the storage drawers with his toys, and saying how is old "baby bed" is where his brother will sleep. I thought it'd be a tougher sell, but DS is down! Honestly I am so in love with this baby already and rather than getting second best, I kind of feel like I'm fixing a lot of things I screwed up the first time. I think DS is going to love having a brother, baby brother is getting better, more experienced parents than DS got, and I think DH and I will be better off when we can't sit around helicopter parenting. We try really hard not to, but find ourselves sitting around staring at DS, fussing and directing way too often.
@kiwi2628 when we switched DD from breastmilk to cow milk we transitioned slowly, so 25% cow milk for a week, then 50%, 75% 100%. It worked pretty well! We kept the milk in bottles and had open cups for water. Now at almost 3 she still spills open cups all the time and it drives DH batty.
@lanie1000 so DD has been full time in underwear since April and still has BM accidents occasionally. I am probably not the person to give tips LOL. However rewards seem to work - stickers, promises if she goes on the potty we will have a popsicle after school, etc. I think as @jvk2012 suggests we just have to be patient and buy lots of underwear
@craftywitch I love your attitude about this baby getting the best. Specifically, I totally feel you on the helicopter parenting from DH's perspective. I am a free range parent and DD has the bumps to prove it. DH is helicopter to the max. I'm hoping we can tone it down with DD2 or we will drive ourselves all mad. We didn't get birth photos (I had a cesarean and there is one picture with my abdomen open but YECK) but my one regret is not agreeing to be in the newborn pictures. I was so bloated from all the drugs. I hope I can have a drug-free birth this time and look normal, but regardless i'm gonna be in the freaking pictures!!!
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK? Our preschool doesn’t end so he was fine as far as going to school. But the new kids in the class and a new teacher who came in definitely threw him off for a little...but I think his school behavior is back on track now.
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)? A baby carrier. I think it will be almost impossible to not have one with a toddler running around.
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing? Picking out pumpkins at some point - and we always take a family photo at the pumpkin patch since DS is an October baby. We took the first one there when he was only 10 days old! Other than that, and his birthday of course, we don’t have any fall specific plans.
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty? Super excited! I hope DS will be sweet. He’s always been very into other people’s babies and is concerned whenever anyone cries. He tried to rock my friend’s baby in her carrier the other night when she was crying. I’m not feeling any guilt....yet. I’m sure it will come.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
- How is everyone doing?
I am doing pretty well. I’m a teacher, so I’m on my feet most of the day. I honestly feel like it’s helping not to gain a bunch of weight. I’m mostly just tired and sore because I’m old. 😂
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK?
We’ve been back to school since August 5. My daughter started Pre-K this year, but has been in daycare since 10 weeks. It wasn’t a huge transition.
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)?
I’m not sure if I’ll buy anything that I didn’t last time. I kept nearly everything from my daughter, so really just some outfits, a lovey, and some pacifiers?
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing?
I have a huge family with 6 siblings, all of their significant others, 10 grandkids, and my parents. Every October my parents throw a huge “Day at the Farm” where they live. We play kickball, have an egg toss, scavenger hunt, pitch-in, bonfire, and hayride. It’s my favorite day of the year.
Also, over fall break, my best friend and I take our daughter’s to the pumpkin patch.
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty?
This was a huge surprise for us, so I’m finally getting excited now that we’ve had our anatomy scan. I sometimes feel guilty because it’s just been my daughter for the last five years, but I’m glad I’m giving her a sibling.
- How is everyone doing? Doing well. So tired but I blame my 3 and 1.5 year old for that. Actually enjoying second trimester a bit now that nausea and headaches have eased up.
- Did everyone's bigs transition to school OK? Ds1 started 3 year old preschool and has been doing great. An adjustment for sure but overall great.
- What are you buying for this baby that you didn't the last ones (if anything)?
Nothing as of now. Furniture and bedding once we find out gender. I’ll need nothing clothes wise if it’s another boy- anatomy anatomy scan is this afternoon
i thought about a doc a tot but the safe sleep crazy in me doesn’t think I will buy one
- It's Fall! What fun fall activities is your family doing?
we went to a pumpkin patch last weekend and the boys painted pumpkins and helped carve one for our gender reveal tonight.
- How are you doing emotionally with adding #2? Is anyone else feeling guilty? I had some guilt adding number 2 but I’m feeling really anxious about adding a third. There is only one of me home with them all day and the boys are currently needy AF. Like extremely clingy and obsessed with me and fighting for my attention daily. I’m doing my best to make one on one time but holy hell its been a rough few weeks here.
@craftywitch love your attitude about this kid getting better more experienced parents. ❤️
I will say the absolute best moment of my life so far was ds1 meeting ds2 for the first time. It was everything I hoped for and more and even more wonderful than holding each boy for the first time.