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March 2020 Moms
kagesstarshroom
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PGAL Check-in 9/9
kagesstarshroom
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1. Status/EDD
2. Previous loss(es)?
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
4. Any appointment updates?
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
6. Any milestones coming up?
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s?
2. Previous loss(es)?
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
4. Any appointment updates?
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
6. Any milestones coming up?
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s?
Re: PGAL Check-in 9/9
2. Previous loss(es)? 1 cp last fall, 1 mmc w/ d&c this past jan./feb.
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? It was a rough weekend. I've been having some pains/cramping off and on that are making me super paranoid. My appointment is Wed., and I keep saying if they get bad/are persistent, I'm going to call, but then they dissipate & I feel like my PGAL brain is making me nuts and the OB's office will probably just tell me what Dr. Google is telling me (if they are very bad or won't go away, then it's an issue). I am feeling okay to fine in the mornings, okay in the afternoons, and like hot garbage at night. I haven't thrown up (since I was 12) and twice this weekend I thought I might. I've got terrible heartburn and on and off nausea and tastes get stuck in my mouth. I can't wait for Wed.
4. Any appointment updates? We have an appt. Wed. where we do hearttones & bloodwork for NIPT. Really looking forward to hearing that heartbeat since I am so paranoid--and might break down and buy one of those doppler radars after that bc this whole "4 weeks between appointments" thing isn't great for my sanity.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? The Eagles won yesterday! But then I felt like garbage because I ate these very salty chips while I was at BWW. I have a big list of things to do today, but my new bras came in the mail, and that's making me feel like my list is possible.
6. Any milestones coming up? Yes, a big one 9/13 was my prev. EDD. I need my appointment Wednesday to go well.
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? Being with my Dad in Philly when the Eagles won the Super Bowl, for sure. And singing along while my mom played guitar at the many camping outings she would take us to--we still do this when she goes to the same festival DH & I go to. (My parents are divorced, so I don't have any memories of them together.)
2. Previous loss(es)? Two
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically I’m SO DONE. I hate saying that. I’m trying to be thankful. But good lord I’m almost 14 weeks and I started throwing up again. What gives?! I just want to eat food. None of my other pregnancies were like this. I also have insomnia despite the fact that I’m taking unisom. So that’s fun. Emotionally I’m glad that I have symptoms because it makes me feel confident in the pregnancy itself. I also started feeling flutters every few days so I love that!
4. Any appointment updates? My appointment last week was fine. Found the HB right away. OB cleared me to go on my trip to Colombia in December. So that’s nice!
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Can’t think of any.
6. Any milestones coming up? Nope!
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? That’s a tough question! Probably going hiking with my dad. We both have a vast love for the outdoors and are total kindred spirits. We like exploring new places together. And with my mom, a train trip that we took just the two of us from Virginia, to New Orleans, to Los Angeles, to San Francisco, to Denver, Chicago, and back to Virginia. It was such a cool experience!! I was 10 at the time I think.
As for the doppler, check your local FB marketplace or Craigslist. I found one for $15!! I love having it. I try not to use it daily, but I know it’s always there just in case I’m having an anxiety day.
And FX for your appointment!!!
2. Previous loss(es)? Two earlier this year.
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? I'm feeling alright overall. Emotionally, I am still out of control. I cry all the time about a myriad of things. I'm still nervous that something is going to go wrong, but I'm trying not to let myself think that way. It's just really hard not to be paranoid, as I'm sure you guys can relate. Physically, I am feeling good! My boobs still hurt ridiculously, especially when squished during a hug or something, lol. I'm having food aversions still and mild nausea in the mornings, but I feel like my energy might be coming back slowly. I started working out again over the weekend (just walking on the treadmill on an incline and doing some prenatal yoga and weight lifting) and I can already tell that it's doing wonders for my mental health overall. Unfortunately, it also has increased my fears that I'm doing something that could harm the baby, which I realize isn't true because exercise is encouraged during pregnancy. Long story short: I am okay but all over the freaking place.
4. Any appointment updates? I have an elective ultrasound on September 25 that I am super excited about. Then I have an OB appointment the next day for a check up (no US) and the second trimester screen blood work (which I am way less excited about).
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I hate getting blood drawn. It used to not be a big deal back when I'd only have it done once in a blue moon, but since getting pregnant, it has been a huge issue. My veins are small and they roll a lot, so the techs have to try multiple times and it's soooo uncomfortable (and painful). They can get blood fast if they use that little spider contraption (lol I don't know what it's called), but they NEVER start with that thing even when I remind them how difficult it is to get a needle into my arm. Ahhh... so annoying.
6. Any milestones coming up? I've passed all of my milestones, but I am incredibly happy to get to the second trimester. That is a milestone in and of itself, I think. Almost there!!!
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? Oh man, my parents are my best friends and we spend so much time together, it's hard to choose. I think going away on family vacations (just mom, dad, me and my sister) was the best and most bonding experiences we've had. Be it Hawaii or Cancun or Florida or our annual Chicago Thanksgiving weekend trip... it's always a good time, being with the people who know me best. My parents have amazing senses of humor, and I am an exact replica of my dad. I'm trying to narrow it down and choose some specific memories, but everything just floods together. I love my parents so much; they are my biggest supporters, even to this day.
@miss.sally I am so sorry you're still so sick!! That is so unfair, and I'd be completely livid if I was starting to feel better only to get sick all over again. Hang in there!
2. Previous loss(es)? CP, MMC at 8 weeks, loss at 13.5 weeks
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally - I was disappointed, but slowly coming around.
4. Any appointment updates? Standard check-up tomorrow. Hoping to hear a healthy heartbeat.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave, I agree with @malidocious, I'm excited for 2nd tri - excited to rid myself of all my 1st tri worries about miscarriage.
6. Any milestones coming up? I just passed the milestone of my last loss - baby had passed at this time during my last pregnancy at 13w5d.. however, I continued to carry until 15w without realizing he had already gone. I still feel I have passed this milestone, since I had good NIPT results and everything seems to look great so far.
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? Well, I'm estranged from my parents now (due to abuse issues I went through as a child, not wanting them to have contact with my kids to repeat the cycle) so this question is a hard one for me. But, in spite of the past, I do have some good memories of them - mostly summer vacations. they liked to travel and shared that with their kids. I'm from the midwest but got the opportunity to see mountains and the ocean, which made a big impact on me as a kid coming from the flatlands.
2. Previous loss(es)? 4
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally I'm doing okay most of the time, probably because I still haven't gotten rid of the nausea. My midwife recommended adding b12 at my appointment last Friday, and I had DH pick some up for me Saturday night. It seems like it's helping at least a little bit, taken the edge off, my lows don't feel as low as usual if that makes sense. I do still have those horrible days where out of nowhere I have this flood of intrusive thoughts that something's wrong and baby isn't doing well and I just don't know it. For the most part they're pretty contained though, and I've gotten good at distracting myself when they pop up.
4. Any appointment updates? I had an appointment last Friday, and we got to hear his heartbeat! She warned me it might be hard to find, on top of she was letting her student practice by doing it, but I definitely felt very nervous when they didn't find it right away. They eventually did though, and we got to hear his little heart fluttering away. When we talked about my nausea being bad she said most women are deficient in B vitamins even before pregnancy, and if B6 (or B6 alone) wasn't doing it for me, to add B12.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Nope
6. Any milestones coming up? Not anytime soon. I've passed all my loss milestones but I need to tick over to the second tri before I think I'll be able to let my guard down a little.
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? Oh man. *TW - death* I think I have to go for most meaningful memories here. When I was 18 my dad had a series of major strokes. He lived alone at the time (my parents divorced when I was in 1st grade) and he only ended up in the hospital a few days later after trying to drive somewhere and ending up in a ditch on the side of the road. I hadn't seen my dad much for a while before, but I spent every single day after work in his room until visitors hours ended. My dad was pretty abusive my entire childhood, and the weeks he spent in the hospital and rehab center were the way we began to try and mend the relationship. He got as close to apologizing as he could with his new limited brain function, but it was much more than I ever thought I'd get. He ended up passing away last year when he had another stroke. There's a photo of him holding my son at his first Father's Day as a grandpa hanging in my living room, and I've never owned anything that matters more to me.
@miss.sally I know you're taking the unisom+b6, you might try adding b12! I feel you on how bogus it is to have trouble sleeping while taking 1.5 unisom tabs a day. Like, are you for real? Hoping you kick your nausea for good soon!
@treetop19 I totally get being disappointed about not getting the family you pictured. My husband had a similar disappointment in that in his mind, he was so convinced we were having a girl that he was shocked when we found out it was a boy. He's still happy and excited, but he has to change the way he had been thinking of our family and it threw him for a loop.
@miss.sally Glad your trip got cleared for you!
@hellobabys Sorry to hear about the struggles with your dad growing up, but I am glad you have that photo! :hugs: I am SO hoping whoever they have find our HB Wed. is an expert bc I am so nervous. I wonder if it will be the same person as the u/s tech we've had? she knows I'm PGAL bc she was the one who had to tell me last time that there wasn't a HB anymore, so she has been great the two times we've been into the office to get an u/s at telling us right away that it's there.
2. Previous loss(es)? D&C 12/2019
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally I’m feeling much better, had an US last week and a check up today, and heard baby’s heartbeat both times, such a sweet sound! Physically I feel the most blah I’ve felt so far. I have no energy, no motivation to do anything and nausea has returned (it was fleetingly gone in week 10). Ready to feel like myself again, and I hope finally being ready to start a registry and decorate a nursery will get me my excitement and motivation back.
4. Any appointment updates? Had a regular check up today and another one scheduled for 10/7. The one after that will be the anatomy scan... what?! That happened fast.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Definitely in a funk this week... there’s so much to do around the house and I just can’t bring myself to do it. Hopefully I’ll get a few things done this weekend. It’d be helpful if DH wasn’t just as lazy as I am lol. Also, now that close family and friends know, I just want to spill the beans to everyone so I can be open on social media, at work, and at larger social situations about it. I’m usually a pretty open book and hate keeping secrets!
6. Any milestones coming up? Passed my loss, 2nd tri is so close!!!
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? My parents divorced when I was a toddler, and my dad moved to the opposite coast, so I don’t have too many memories of him, but he moved back when I was an adult and I love hanging out with him! Honestly I think he is better suited as a friend than parent. 😜 My mom and I were best friends and worst enemies growing up. My favorite memory now is her on my wedding day, just enjoying herself and the sweet toast she and my stepdad made.
@miss.sally I’m really sorry you’re still so sick! Also—read about your passport drama with exH over on the Monday thread. That added stress definitely can’t be easy and I hope you’re able to go around him. Seems like you’re doing 99.9% of the parenting anyway.
@Malidocious +1 for exercising and then worrying I’m hurting the baby. My OB literally told me in our last appt “exercise is safe” and yet I find myself doing a crunch and thinking like “well, but what if she didn’t know I was doing THIS exercise...” 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
@treetop19 I agree you’re totally fine to have a little disappointment when something doesn’t align with your expectations! DH and I are both convinced this one is a girl, and while I’m a strong believer in intuition like that I’m also like maaaaaan if it turns out to be a boy we’re going to have to really shift our mindset! Of course we’d be thrilled but that mental adjustment would take time.
2. Previous loss(es)? MMC March ‘19
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Feeling mostly better physically. I’ve been noticing cramping/twinging a lot, especially if I move quickly which I know is totally normal. But, it freaks me out still and then sends me into an emotional downward spiral. Emotionally, I know it’s nearly time to start telling people (and getting serious about our own planning) since we’re heading into 2nd tri. But, I still get very scared to be open about it. I wish that fear was going away because it feels so unfair to this baby to be so cautious and still acting like this is an “if” not a “when.”
4. Any appointment updates? Tomorrow is my routine checkup and bloodwork for NIPT. Hoping to hear HB and that bloodwork is quick and painless!
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Tomorrow I’ll have to have my first substitute of the year for the appointments because of course I can’t get in before or after work. It’s way sooner than I like to be out so I’m just anxious that everything in my classroom goes okay until I get in at lunchtime.
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? As some others have said, my parents and I are still really close which I count as a huge blessing. We went to Disney World a bunch as a family growing up, so a lot of my special family memories are there. We still go now as a family, too! My dad, sister and I would go on the teacup ride together and spin the teacups as crazy fast as we could. I remember my mom prepping me to meet characters for the first time so I wouldn’t be scared of how big they were in “real life!”
@creativesoul83 Thank youuuu for your reply and reassurance! As I just said above, it's so encouraging to hear that other people are experiencing a similar thing, even if it's a thing I hope goes away for us all soon.
1. Status/EDD 13 weeks + 6 days (which seems crazy it’s this far and also, OMG so much time until I am even half way lol)
2. Previous loss(es)? Lost LO this last May and had a D&C on May 8th.
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? I think pretty good! I’m very tired at the end of the day, but I work full time and have two kids to care for (DH travels for work M-Thursday), so OF COURSE I am tired!
4. Any appointment updates? Boring appointment last week… just how I like them. My next one will be the anatomy scan at 18 weeks.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Is it Friday yet?
6. Any milestones coming up? I guess I’ve really and truly passed all mine. So, so, so grateful. I’m stressed out a lot and find myself starting to complain and worry about things and then I just remember how lucky I am to be here with this (so far!) healthy little one.
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? Gosh, all of them. My parents are my best friends, and I bought a house two doors down from them. I know how incredibly fortunate I am to have the relationship I do with my parents. I try to VERY hard to not ever take it for granted. I think one of my favorite memories is seeing my dad with my firstborn when she was just starting to walk. They would go on SLOW walks around the block together. Melted my heart.
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@kagesstarshroom UGH I hate that cramping is also a NORMAL part of pregnancy. I hope you are feeling better. I also strongly recommend the Sonaline B doppler. When my mind starts wandering, it really, really does help calm me. And at this point (13 weeks +) I can find it in 2 minutes.
@miss.sally What the heck nausea! And also yay for flutters. I think legit movement is going to start in a few weeks, and I can’t wait.
@malidocious I hope your energy does come back and you can find ways to channel all of the emotional ups and downs. Seriously, it’s great that just the slight working out already is helping you! I totally feel that when I go for a walk!
@treetop19 I third your opinion re: second trimester!
@hellobabys Man, I hope the nausea subsides for you. I really hate that for you. I had it for SO long with DS, essentially the entire pregnancy, and it made it challenging to get too excited about things. Also sending you all the hugs.
@creativesoul63 I feel you on the funk! I finally set aside two hours at work to order things for DD’s party and just get my organization in line. I really need to do more around the house on a consistent and routine way so it doesn’t pile up!
@hmjensen Hugs. I totally get the if not when mentality. I want to say I’m passed that now at 13+ weeks… but then I’ll feel it creep up again. I hope you heard the HB and it helped!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
2. Previous loss(es)? 2
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Still anxious, but better. Despite my fears, everything seems to be going well. I'm still gassy and have heartburn. The tiredness seems to be going away a bit.
4. Any appointment updates? I had my appointment today and my OB couldn't find baby's heartbeat, but she picked up a couple of kicks with the doppler. So I ended up in the ultrasound room because she thought we might have an anterior placenta and baby is perfectly fine, just hanging out in the farthest corner of my uterus possible, curled up on its side (sleeping I guess?). I also had blood drawn for NIPT and the nurse really struggled with it. The vial was just filling so slowly.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave: My OB cleared me for international travel up to mid December. DH needs to go to London for business sometime before Christmas and I've been terrified that I wouldn't be able to go with.
Q: Where is everyone getting their dopplers?
6. Any milestones coming up?
7. GTKY: What's one or two of the best memories you have of your parent/s? Hockey games with my dad. It was a me and him thing growing up.
@EmilyLove25 A boring appointment is always a good appointment!
Our appts Tuesday were great, though lengthy. Our NT scan took a really long time, but it was 45 minutes of watching lil babe kick and move around like crazy on the screen! We also got to hear a HB. 💜 Hoping NIPT comes back much sooner than the 2 weeks they said! We started telling our wider list of friends and family. This weekend I’m on a girls’ trip and will have to tell them soon....!
@aerie_star I turned out to also have an anterior placenta and the HB couldn’t be picked up at first. Of course! Just needed that quick moment of panic 🙈
Question that may be too personal, but has anyone encountered thyroid concerns while pregnant? My OB called me after our appt to say that my TSH levels were “very slightly” elevated, so I have a follow up with my regular doctor next week. Killed the buzz of our exciting appointment quite a bit. Will definitely do what doctor says, just wondering if anyone else has experience with this.