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This is goodbye **Trigger Warning**

cookiemonstermamacookiemonstermama member
in January 2020 Moms
Hi ladies. I haven't had a chance to post much on here and sadly unless there's a miracle I won't be posting again. *Warning, very sad news and graphic terms used*

I had an ultrasound on Tuesday and my bf and I walked in excited to see our little one and find out the sex. As it turns out, we would leave in tears. After the ultrasound the doctor started with "Well, this isn't the conversation I was hoping to have with you" and proceeded to tell us that there are some serious issues with the baby. The technical terms are cystic hygroma, hydrops, and oligohydramnios. The baby has fluid in it's stomach and large pockets of fluid around the back of it's neck. I also have very low amount of amniotic fluid. All of these things on their own are bad, but all together leave no room for hope. The doctor believes the cause of all this is a chromosomal issue and I am waiting to get authorization to have testing done for that to be confirmed and find out what exactly it is. From what I've read things could end at any time now, and there's a 10% chance the baby will make it to birth. Due to the severity of what I could see in the ultrasound photos, I don't expect to have too much longer. I'm beyond devastated. It's incredibly difficult knowing the baby has all these terrible issues and there's nothing I can do for them. I still don't even know if it's a boy or girl. There's no history of anything even close to this happening to anyone in my family or my bf's family, and I never in a million years would have suspected there would be any problems, much less this. It all seems surreal, like I might wake up and it's just a nightmare, but I don't and it's not.

I wish you all the best with your little ones and hope everything goes smoothly! I'm going to bow out now because it will be too painful to stay...
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  • kbrown2385kbrown2385 member
    I am so incredibly sorry you are dealing with this. I hope you are able to get some answers and that it brings you some peace. Take care of yourself 💜. 
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  • peppyj9peppyj9 member
    @cookiemonstermama I'm so very sorry you are going through this. 😔 be gentle with yourself
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  • MollySmMollySm member
    I am so sorry.   Sending love. 
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  • DalexRNDalexRN member
    I am heartbroken for you.  I suffered a second trimester loss with my last pregnancy and it's a pain few understand and I don't wish on anyone.  Take time to grieve, name your baby and celebrate his/her life.  Baby will always be with you and will guide you through life until you can meet again.  My thoughts and prayers are with you. 
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  • brimarie91brimarie91 member
    I'm so sorry that you're experiencing this. Sending you and your family love and prayers during this difficult time. 
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  • leprechaunladyleprechaunlady member
    Oh @cookiemonstermama I am so sorry. I cant even begin to imagine how heartbreakingly devestating for you this is. I hope you can get some answers through testing. Please take care of yourself. Sending you all the creepy internet hugs 😢
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  • jacerujaceru member
    I am so very sorry. I can't imagine how difficult this must be. Sending prayers to you and your family. 
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  • EmilyE13EmilyE13 member
    @cookiemonstermama I’m so terribly sorry you’re going through this. Please take good care of yourself. Thinking of you and your family. 
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  • alisonreif2alisonreif2 member
    I cannot imagine the grief you and your boyfriend are experiencing. I am so sorry for your loss and am thinking about you and your family.
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