Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
chichiphin
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Re: Babymoons (or last vacations before baby!)
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
We are currently down to Key West or Disney.... If we get to Disney before Nov 19 it will still be Food & Wine Fest - so I'd be all about the food part of that trip haha
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
Then we are taking a big trip down to South America (Colombia) to visit SIL and her family to stay in an all-inclusive on the beach there with all the family for Christmas. This is the current plan, but I definitely want to talk to my OB because of all the Zika scares and everything. There haven’t been any cases in this particular region, but I’d rather be safe!
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DS was a similar season baby (April) so we took the longest train ride ever (15 hours down and 18 to come back) to go someplace warm in Feb/March: Charleston, SC, and then Savannah, GA. The train was okay, but I can’t imagine doing that trip with a toddler.
Since we live in NJ, I think our only realistic babymoon option would be like a snowy cabin getaway in the NE in January or something. But my favorite part of winter trips are the hot tubs
edited bc words are hard
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
We do have lots of travel miles we could cash in, so I'm going to look at our options. I'd love to go away during Christmas week, since we already have some time off and wouldn't have to use any of our precious PTO time for another vacation.
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
It wasn’t a baby moon bc we did it after DS was born (we were moving when we initially planned on doing our baby moon due to some hiccups in the house buying process so we pushed back our babymoon) but we spent a night away with baby DS and went to an aquarium a few hours away and even though it was short it was a lot of fun! We’ll probably do the same trip when this baby is born bc we had so much fun before! We had a fun vacation this summer so I don’t think we’ll do any babymoon this time either. Hopefully we’ll get in a couple day trips with DS though!
Edited for grammar
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I'm hoping we can do a quiet weekend cabin trip closer - something within a few hours.
EDD: 3/19/20
@miss.sally Zika is such a pain in the ass!! We had to wait 3 months after Thailand to start trying to conceive.
AFM...
We actually really want to knock off New York from our bucket list before baby! Maybe spend 4-5 days over there, and catch a Broadway show (most likely Harry Potter & The Cursed Child #potterhead). But I’m a FTM so I’m not sure if that’s too much of a site seeing trip aka lots of walking for a pregnant woman? I was thinking of going around 20 weeks.
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
We also talked about getting away sometime in January when the holidays are over. His birthday is December 29 so it could be a birthday/baby celebration, lol. Just not sure at all where we would go.
also i should note daycare in Toronto is absurd. It’s something stupid like $2500/month for infants and you are lucky to get a spot. I’m extremely fortunate to have my parents who live close and are excited to babysit while I’m at work like I was by my grandparents as a kid but shit, it’s hard to make ends meet in such an expensive city to begin with. A lot of people are taking the 1.5 years because it’s saves a lot of money to put an 18 month old in daycare vs. a 12 month old.
So babymoon is on hold 😂 we’ll probably do a lovely cottage in Ontario. Maybe a spa weekend in Tremblant, but as someone said here the hot tub (with wine!) is the best part of winter getaways so I’ll be sad to sit that out.