Having to be up at 630 for echo, my silly toddler deciding TODAY is the day she will sleep in til 8 (of course when dad is home with her she sleeps), having an hour break between appointments at the same hospital complex, so no reason to really go anywhere, and waiting on the glucose test while seriously starving. All I want is a cup of coffee, a nap, and a snack.
My TW is a family member, and I can't find a way to condense the reason for the post but just trust me she is, lol.
Also my dishwasher. It's been off and on not working for a while. A few months ago I declared it officially dead. Out of curiosity this week I decided to switch the breaker back on for it to give it a try and it worked for three loads!!! Today, not working again 😭 dishes is my least favorite chore; it kills my back to stand at the sink so long and I always, no matter what, get soaked lol so now my dishwasher is packed with a load of dirty dishes I'm going to have to hand wash and I'm so sad
@purplefan1 Good luck on all the tests! Hope the morning flies by for you!
I have 3 TWs today: me, MH and my hormones On Sunday night MH offered to get groceries after working all day. He got home after 9 and was grumpy. I asked why he got rolls when the grocery list said buns for sandwiches and he snipped that I should've specified - which I did. So I decided to just go to bed and let him be grumpy, I knew he was tired (I was actually being rational!). Well, then my hormones kicked in and I got mad and upset that he was grumpy for doing something that I normally do regardless of how tired or busy I am. My stubbornness really kicked in Monday morning and I didn't speak to him all day yesterday except to check on daycare drop-off over text. I can be stubborn normally, but I'm just extra emotional lately. This argument (if you can even call it that) is so ridiculous it's funny. He called this morning after drop-off and asked why I was mad and we chatted through it. I'm still not fully over it (hormones!), but I'm also tired from giving him the cold shoulder ha.
Also - typing this out made me feel really crazy about the whole thing - so maybe I should just blame it all on the hormones and heightened emotions?!
@bnbt you were being perfectly rational!! He was the one being grumpy. Honestly, I'm the same way too. @ABabyMarshall ughhhh I'm sorry about the dishwasher! there is nothing I like doing less than washing dishes @purplefan1 hope you get your nap and a good lunch in today after that morning!
My TW is the friggin' receptionist at the OB office. I had an 8:45am appoint...she calls me at 8:48am to ask where I am and says "You are the first appointment of the day so if you're late, everyone else will be late today too." I damn near lost my effing mind. I was literally in the parking lot. She really drives me up a wall!! Like really? You're going to try to guilt trip me about being a few minutes behind??? After such a traumatic week. And then trying to schedule things with her after was a nightmare - LIKE ALWAYS. I need to get my cervical length checked before my trip and my OB suggested a day before...and she was like I can bring you in next Monday (4 days before?!?!). OMG.
@ABabyMarshall that sucks about your dishwasher! I always get soaked too and wonder if I'm doing something wrong ha! I would probably cry if ours broke.
@mc0303 that is a terrible receptionist! Normal policies are like 15 minutes, maybe even 10 before they get mad. But calling you 3 minutes past your appointment?! Ugh
I know it’s not Tuesday anymore but TWs are always on the prowl!!
I explained to my manager what had been happening and asked if I could work from home 1-2 days a week based on what my OB has suggested...it didn’t go well. I was shocked. Maybe I shouldn’t be. I just feel so unsupported and depressed. I know my OB would write me a note in a heartbeat, but I honestly just don’t want to work somewhere that doesn’t value me or my health. I’m now trying to figure how to best exit without burning too many bridges. My job and is my forever TW. 🤬
@mc0303 That is such BS. In today's world, it is so easy to work remote. I don't know why more people don't embrace it. I'm sorry you're in this situation, hopefully you can either find something new or get them to work better with you.
@BNBT thanks 😔 Yeah I just don’t get the anxiety over working home....considering they let so many people here work from home. Blahhh I just need to close this chapter and be awesome somewhere else!
@mc0303 - That sucks!!! I definitely agree to find someplace better. If they aren't being supportive now when it is from a doctors recommendation then they aren't going to be supportive later when you have a baby. That is why I left my last job.
My TW is the weather. We lost power the other day from a quick thunderstorm and putting the kids to bed sans lights and a/c was rough stuff. They both woke up in the middle of the night because their night lights weren't on and they were hot. Poor babies. Plus I couldn't sleep because 80 degrees is too darn hot for inside the house.
@mc0303 do you have maternity leave at this job? Or sick leave/vacation time? Are you planning on leaving before the baby or after? I just want to make sure you max out your benefits before telling this TW to go stuff it.
Did you go above your manager to HR? They should be making reasonable accomodations especially because it is doctor recommended and others work from home.
@purplefan1 I don’t have any company sponsored maternity leave. I was going to take pregnancy disability leave and bonding leave (I’m in CA). I have some vacation and sick, but nothing crazy.
I’m thinking about going to our HR person but haven’t yet. I work for a small company and it’s so tricky trying to navigate what I feel is a super personal situation with these people.
@mc0303 ugh so sorry about that, hope you can find some reasonable accommodation until you get out of there. You should definitely make a fuss and get a note if you have to and also use up allll your PTO if you have any like @purplefan1 said
@Dancer688 losing power has been my worst fear this summer, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. ☹️
@mc0303 - Just make sure before you take all the benefits that it doesn't mean you have to come back afterwards. I took my maternity leave and then got an email from one of the HR saying I didn't owe anything if I left once the maternity leave was over. Then another HR person tried to bill me so I fwded that email back to them and I haven't heard anything since
@cl4157 NINE? My goodness, I feel for you. I'd be falling asleep at the table, plus feel like garbage going to bed after eating dinner that late. I hope it's yummy at least...!
@cl4157 I typically have to eat dinner at 9/930 and it sucks. Pretty sure it is contributing greatly to my heartburn situation and it makes me really dehydrated so throughout the night I want to get up to drink water. Which then means I have to pee more often. Hopefully the dinner was delicious and your husband owes you some major massage time!
@Dancer688 yes to making sure you dont have to come back or pay back! Ive known many women who take maternity leave and then find out they have to come back for two weeks or a month or they have to pay back benefits (insurance coverage etc) that was covered while they were gone. Also, I think if someone has no intention of coming back it can suck for the rest of the team to cover their work for those 3 months, have them come back and post their notice, and it isnt until then that we can start looking for someone to replace them. Ive been in many situations at work where I have helped cover a job for sometimes 6 months before we could hire a replacement and as a salary employee I had to cover the job with no extra pay. It made me really bitter towards pregnant people for a long time.
@dancer688@purplefan1 wow!! I had no idea that was even a thing. Luckily I have my medical through MH, but I randomly signed up for dental with my company even though I already had it through MH too. I don't pay anything for it and it would be super POed to have to pay anything back for it. As far as the team, I've had really frank convos with my only other teammate and, since he knows the much bigger picture, is fully supportive. For real, for real.
Ok, well past Tuesday, but I just have to. Our neighbor across the way just threatened to call the police on their upstairs neighbors because their children walk around at night and he hears them. He said, to my husband, that "this complex wasn't meant for people with kids, it's for young professionals without kids" ...and he knows we have a toddler. DH just stared at him speechless.
@purplefan1 they are in their 60s, they have grown children who never visit them. I hear her yelling at people on the phone often and we hear their TV across the way often. I am sure their upstairs neighbors have some complaints of their own.
Re: Twat Waffle Tuesday
Also my dishwasher. It's been off and on not working for a while. A few months ago I declared it officially dead. Out of curiosity this week I decided to switch the breaker back on for it to give it a try and it worked for three loads!!! Today, not working again 😭 dishes is my least favorite chore; it kills my back to stand at the sink so long and I always, no matter what, get soaked lol so now my dishwasher is packed with a load of dirty dishes I'm going to have to hand wash and I'm so sad
I have 3 TWs today: me, MH and my hormones
Also - typing this out made me feel really crazy about the whole thing - so maybe I should just blame it all on the hormones and heightened emotions?!
@ABabyMarshall ughhhh I'm sorry about the dishwasher! there is nothing I like doing less than washing dishes
@purplefan1 hope you get your nap and a good lunch in today after that morning!
My TW is the friggin' receptionist at the OB office. I had an 8:45am appoint...she calls me at 8:48am to ask where I am and says "You are the first appointment of the day so if you're late, everyone else will be late today too." I damn near lost my effing mind. I was literally in the parking lot. She really drives me up a wall!! Like really? You're going to try to guilt trip me about being a few minutes behind??? After such a traumatic week. And then trying to schedule things with her after was a nightmare - LIKE ALWAYS. I need to get my cervical length checked before my trip and my OB suggested a day before...and she was like I can bring you in next Monday (4 days before?!?!). OMG.
@mc0303 that is a terrible receptionist! Normal policies are like 15 minutes, maybe even 10 before they get mad. But calling you 3 minutes past your appointment?! Ugh
Lucky this time it was only like 20 minutes of overflow.
I explained to my manager what had been happening and asked if I could work from home 1-2 days a week based on what my OB has suggested...it didn’t go well. I was shocked. Maybe I shouldn’t be. I just feel so unsupported and depressed. I know my OB would write me a note in a heartbeat, but I honestly just don’t want to work somewhere that doesn’t value me or my health. I’m now trying to figure how to best exit without burning too many bridges. My job and is my forever TW. 🤬
home. Blahhh I just need to close this chapter and be awesome somewhere else!
My TW is the weather. We lost power the other day from a quick thunderstorm and putting the kids to bed sans lights and a/c was rough stuff. They both woke up in the middle of the night because their night lights weren't on and they were hot. Poor babies. Plus I couldn't sleep because 80 degrees is too darn hot for inside the house.
And that sucks so bad about the power! It’s impossible to sleep in that kind of heat. I hope it’s back on!
Did you go above your manager to HR? They should be making reasonable accomodations especially because it is doctor recommended and others work from home.
I’m thinking about going to our HR person but haven’t yet. I work for a small company and it’s so tricky trying to navigate what I feel is a super personal situation with these people.
@Dancer688 losing power has been my worst fear this summer, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. ☹️
my husband
On his way out the door to work tells me we have NINE PM dinner plans. Twatty twat twat twat.
PS I ♥️ Herman Munster
@Dancer688 yes to making sure you dont have to come back or pay back! Ive known many women who take maternity leave and then find out they have to come back for two weeks or a month or they have to pay back benefits (insurance coverage etc) that was covered while they were gone. Also, I think if someone has no intention of coming back it can suck for the rest of the team to cover their work for those 3 months, have them come back and post their notice, and it isnt until then that we can start looking for someone to replace them. Ive been in many situations at work where I have helped cover a job for sometimes 6 months before we could hire a replacement and as a salary employee I had to cover the job with no extra pay. It made me really bitter towards pregnant people for a long time.
This is just a category 3 grumpy old man 👴 (though I wouldn't normally categorize 60s asold).