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Any thoughts about this cycle? Well, I’m on Provera so my thoughts aren’t going on now
Any questions? DD has been disliking bedtime lately. She’s tired and needs to sleep but screams when we lay her down. Is it just this age? Is there something else I should try to do so we aren’t basically making her CIO every night?
Rant/Rave/Brag: DD has started singing more. I guess at daycare she even randomly started singing the other kids’s names haha. Hopefully that means that she has DH’s musical talent!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Right now, I’d really like to go to Ireland and Northern Ireland to see a lot of the GoT filming sites. I think that would be a fun vacation!
Hi everyone, I intro'd last week and am jumping in here.
@mokay19 Sorry about the bedtime ordeal No advice here as we still struggle with bedtime as well. But, solidarity! That's so cute your DD is starting to sing more. I hope the Provera gets things going for you and you can be optimistic about the next cycle!
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 6/4
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 15 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm optimistic, my DH and I will finally be living in the same place so I won't have to stress about timing (hopefully!)
Any questions? Not ttc related but my son and I are flying to see family later this week. We flew a bunch with him when he was itty bitty but I haven't been on a plane with him since he was 5 months. Now that he's super mobile anyone have any great plane tips to keep him occupied?
Rant/Rave/Brag: We had a babysitter for the summer while I got settled in the new house/job/etc, but my son started daycare yesterday. I'm stressing over all the things he needs to "work on". Definitely felt like a mom failure when I got the report from his teacher yesterday after school. Sigh.
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Oh gosh, we used to travel a lot but haven't been anywhere in forever. Alaska has always been on my list but we haven't made it there yet- so I'll go with that!
Any thoughts about this cycle? I was super positive and now I’m confused.
Any questions? None. Just waiting to watch my temps the next few days to see if I did ovulate yesterday or if today’s temp was a fluke spike.
Rant/Rave/Brag: My weekend was super fun. It was nice to get away from all responsibility but I definitely felt like I was missing something the whole weekend. My husband even told me to stop texting him and enjoy my time away. Ha!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Iceland! I want to see the northern lights.
@mokay19 Sorry about bedtime. I believe there is some sort of developmental regression with sleep/bedtime around 2. And sometimes it even impacts nap. As for your dream vacay, I hope you make that trip! We went for our first year anniversary and it was amazing. We went to Dublin to celebrate the new year and then rented a car and drove down along the southern coast until we got to Galway. It was AMAZING. We didn’t do Northern Ireland, though.
@rachelg777 Godspeed flying with a toddler. It’s definitely hit or miss. And don’t beat yourself up over what he should work on, he’s 15 months! I really think a lot of places have unrealistic expectations on what kids should/shouldn’t be doing.
@mokay19 Same on the whole bedtime ordeal! I know the more they develop mentally, the harder it can be for them to calm down and sleep sometimes. At least that seems to be our problem. We have good easy nights and bad ones still. I hope she sleeps better soon! GOT filming sights would be soso cool! DS loves to sing that song from the breakfest club. -dont forget about me, its so cute. @rachelg777 Ah, goodluck on the plane! My only advice would to bring lots of little activities, books or whatever he likes, and maybe an ipad with some videos. FX for you! @tyrion_ I hope you get some clarity soon! iceland would be beautiful!
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/1
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 20 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Nope, just staying cautiously optimistic right now. I had a HUGE temp drop this morning, so that might be good?? idk.
Any questions? nope, Id love to know how to get DS to sleep better too. Still working on getting him totally weaned at night.
Rant/Rave/Brag: Im nervous about bringing DS TW: to a funeral later this week, its for my half uncles mom. END TW: We haven't been close in years, but i spent a lot of time at her house growing up. I know that side will be happy to meet DS. I just hope he isnt too disruptive or anything. He spent a lot of time with his grandpa this past weekend while i worked and was a total terror when i got home. Thankfully a few days of normalcy has him back in line!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Ive never had the opportunity to travel much, but I would love to be able more. Right now, id love to visit the bahamas or something super tropical!
Any thoughts about this cycle? AF finished yesterday technically though it was all spotting, so maybe Sunday actually. I'm looking forward to getting a full month of temps and data.
Any questions? Not that I can think of
Rant/Rave/Brag: I'm taking DD to the zoo for the first time on Friday and am so excited! She loves animals and I think she'll have a blast.
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? A Mediterranean cruise. I'm dying to see several countries in Europe and love going on cruises.
Coming back for tags after I put DD down for her nap.
Any thoughts about this cycle? Meh, I'm pretty sure I am out (BFN on 10DPO), but I am holding out hope. AF is due tomorrow
Any questions? Nope
Rant/Rave/Brag: We had a storm yesterday early evening, it finished and the sky went from really dark to bright orange!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Hmmm, I don't really know. I am not a big travel person. I could go with a tropical place with nice beaches and a lot of fun activities or a winter vacation to go snowboarding in Colorado or Europe!
@mokay19 sorry about bedtime struggles. Can you put a book in bed with her? That really helped my DD with bedtime. She has a board book in her crib and when I put her to bed, if she's struggling to fall asleep, she'll read her book in bed. She does that in the morning when she wakes up too and it's helped us a lot. That's so cute about your DD singing more too. I love hearing mine sing. Also I agree completely about wanting to see Ireland and Northern Ireland for GoT filming locations! That's definitely on my travel bucket list.
@rachelg777 good luck with flying! No advice here. Alaska is also on my travel list. I think an Alaskan cruise would be fun!
@tyrion_ glad you got a nice weekend away to yourself!
@photographerwife good luck with the funeral. My grandma passed a few months ago and DD did pretty well at the calling hours. It's so hard though. Hopefully with all the family around though, you'll have extra help if you need it.
@tyrion_ Thanks, I needed to hear that. There was definitely some stuff she was a little unrealistic about this early, but oh well doesn’t hurt to try I guess. I hope you can sort out O and that your timing is good!
@photographerwife Thank you, those are definitely good ideas. I’m sorry to hear about your loss, I’m sure your DS will do great and the family will all love the joy a child brings during a tough time.
@gingermama29 yay for data!! Have fun at the zoo! We recently took my DS to a safari park drive through zoo where you can feed (with the zoo food) the animals from your car and it was so cute and a great time.
@mokay19 I'm just here to say solidarity. I don't know what is going on with DD, she has always been great at going to bed, but lately she just screams bloody murder and needs extra cuddles.
@rachelg777 Welcome! You are doing great, try not to stress about the report. These kids all develop at their own pace. Kids are resilient and I'm sure with time he will get the daycare thing figured out.
@photographerwife I'm sure DS will be fine, just be prepared with snacks and some quite toys. Also sit in a place where you can easily excuse yourself. I've brought DD to a few funerals and she has been great. This weekend we were just at a full catholic mass type wedding and she did amazing! She ate, walked between me and grandma, and played with the books in the pew.
@gingermama29 Happy early birthday to your LO! Have fun at the zoo.
@rachelg777 eh, okay. lol I don’t nurse at all during the day unless it’s a special circumstance. But he always wakes up and that’s the only way to calm him back down. But I have been cutting him off after a couple of minutes each time, so maybe we can do that until it’s nothing at all. Lol I don’t know what else to do. DH can’t stay up too much with him because he works super early. I might just bandaid them off in a week or so and see how that goes! Good luck!
Any thoughts about this cycle? Nervous and hopeful. It's my first medicated and IUI cycle. I'm hopeful for the medication and IUI to work but also nervous because I'm not sure how the timing will work out of when I O and when I have to travel again for work. It's really REALLY hard for me to let go of the fact that I CAN'T control things like this. I'm a planner, so I need to plan things out like timelines and such and I can't do that with this because there's no way of knowing (yet anyway) when I am going to O on the Letrozole. My RE is having me start the letrozole today (CD 2) instead of on CD 4 to try an get me to O a little earlier so that we can have good timing for the IUI before I travel again for work. Right now I'll be traveling on CD 15-17. I need to take a deep breath and just let it be and accept that what will happen will happen. I just don't want to waste a medicated cycle, ya know?!
Any questions?
Rant/Rave/Brag: Rant: I'm supposed to be boarding my flight right now to New Orleans for a work conference and my flight is delayed until 8:00... so I've got another 5 hours to go before I board. I'm so frustrated and being emotional from stupid AF doesn't help at all. Thank goodness my RE said I can have some alcohol on this medication
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Anywhere that my flight can't be delayed or cancelled?!?! hahaha I'd love to go to Italy, Paris, Iceland or Hawaii.... I have a large bucket list, I guess!
Our TTC Journey
TTC #1: May 2011 BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12 DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018 Me: 36 | DH: 39 Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled 9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks 10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN 11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN 12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN 1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst 3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP 11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
@mokay19 that is a strong sign that she has an ear infection. How is she? Is she pulling at her ears or touching them more than usual? Usually that's what they do when their ears hurt but another strong sign is when they scream when you lay them down, because the pressure hurts them. DS rarely pulled or touched his ears (even now at the age of 7 he doesn't fully feel pain when he has an ear infection) but when he was younger the only sign was how he acted at night and at bedtime. And he was calm when I held him and could only fall asleep that way. It might be worth it for you to make an appointment to have her ears checked. Also, I'm so sorry you had to start provera, but hopefully it will do it's job and kickstart your cycle.
@tyrion_ I don't know how to fully relax when I'm away either hahaha DH tells me to relax and enjoy myself but I feel like I'd rather know what's going on at home and how my guys are!! Honestly, I'd rather be with them!
@gingermama29 the zoo is so fun with little ones!! She's going to love it! And that cruise sounds like it would be amazing!!
@m6agua that sky is beautiful... also, your backyard is stunning!!! We have that same fence!
Our TTC Journey
TTC #1: May 2011 BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12 DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018 Me: 36 | DH: 39 Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled 9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks 10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN 11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN 12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN 1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst 3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP 11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
@mokay19 DS went through an awful sleep regression right around 2. It got better, but he still resists bedtime when he is over-tired. Keeping with a consistent bedtime routine is the only thing that has really helped. I think he does better when he knows it's coming at the end of the routine. I also started letting him pick which animals he gets to sleep with each night, and he gets one last sip of water once he's in bed. I also second what @kpearse99 said about making sure it's not an ear infection.
@rachelg777 Don't worry too much. All kids that age have lots of things to work on. They are still trying to figure out how to be little humans!
@tyrion_ Sorry you're feeling confused! I also want to see the Northern Lights! I just really don't want to have to go somewhere even colder than where I live to do so.
@photographerwife Sorry about the big temp drop. FX it was a fluke. GL with the funeral. If he gets too rowdy, you can always step outside with him. I'm sorry for your loss
@gingermama29 A Mediterranean cruise is my dream vaca too. We wanted to do one for our 5 year anniversary last year, but used too much vaca time on DS being sick, so we ended up just doing a week in Italy instead. Maybe for our 10 year...
Any thoughts about this cycle? I was optimistic, but now I'm afraid it might be an-O. Which would suck because we've been HIO like bunnies.
Any questions?
Rant/Rave/Brag: DS is speaking in like... full paragraphs, and it amazes me. On days when he has no potty accidents, we give him a little mini reward (we didn't do rewards to start with, but they helped during a recent regression). The other day, when I picked him up from daycare, he said to me "Mommy! I had no accidents. I want to watch songs on the TV, not on Alexa!" I guess I didn't have to guess what he wanted his reward to be that day, haha!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? +1 for Mediterranean cruise! That way we could see many cities and could do the traveling in between at night while we sleep.
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
@kpearse99@shamrocandroll hmm... I never even thought about her ears. Can you check at home for an ear infection? haha she has her 2 year appointment on Friday evening but if I could check at home, that'd be better.
@mokay19 I'm not sure of how you can really check at home. Honestly a big indicator is that they are screaming when you lay them down. Does she do it with naps too? It's usually worse at night as well. Has she been running any low grade fevers?
@shamrocandroll isn't it crazy how fast they catch on to reward systems and things like that?!?! Good for him! haha
Our TTC Journey
TTC #1: May 2011 BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12 DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018 Me: 36 | DH: 39 Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled 9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks 10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN 11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN 12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN 1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst 3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP 11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
@mokay19 The few times DS has gotten an ear infection, it's when he has a runny nose or pink eye. He also tends to tug at his ears. Nowadays, he can just tell me "my ear hurts" but he hasn't gotten one in a long time.
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'd love for this to be my cycle but... I'll test Friday morning (probably). I keep having to talk myself out of testing earlier. Our timing was really good but this isn't a perfect system, right?
Any questions? I'm not temping now but I'd like to be more sure of O. Do those of you that temp have a strict schedule? I feel like it would make sense to start temping with the new school year in September when my schedule is more regular. Next cycle I'll have vacation and camping still.
Rant/Rave/Brag: DH didn't bring the potty seat out this afternoon when we were running errands. I had a long fight with DD in the bathroom at home depot about how I wouldn't let her fall in. So much screaming (on her end)!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? South of France. I think I'd rent a chateau near a vineyard.
@shamrocandroll how cute!! I bet that is so sweet! I’m exicited, and not rushing DS to get to that stage. They’re really little humans! 😭 I hope it’s a fluke too, but I’m not holding out to get KU on our first cycle...
@jrouge12 I know a lot of people temp when they wake up. But since those times are inconsistent for me on a daily basis with work and what not I always set my alarm to temp at 5:30 am, it sounds crazy, but it takes me about a minute and my thermometer is blue tooth and syncs right to it, and if I forget to open the app before I lay down it has like a 30 temp recall! You should temp! It’s a learning curve, but it does give me peace of mind. And something to focus on during all of this! A vineyard sounds soo wonderful! DS hates public bathrooms too!
@mokay19 that’s so cute about your DD’s singing! This is what seems to work for us at bedtime - we pick out 2 stories to read in the chair in DD’s room and then I hand her “goodnight moon” - if she takes it, I put her in her crib and read it there and then she will usually go to sleep after. If she pushes it away, I let her pick out another book or we read one of the books again. Then hand her “goodnight moon” again and repeat the process. (This will probably backfire someday and she’ll ask for 20 books, but she has kept it reasonable so far haha) I think she likes that she has some input on when she’s ready for sleep? She does make us sit in her room until she falls asleep so it’s not a perfect method but it works for us right now. I also agree with @kpearse99 about ruling out an ear infection!
@rachelg777 Welcome! What in the world does the daycare want a 15 month old to work on??
@tyrion_ I’m glad you had fun on your getaway! I always feel like something is missing when I’m away from DD overnight too
@photographerwife I’m sorry about your uncle! Try not to stress too much about your DS at the funeral. I feel like people just like the distraction of cute LOs in those circumstances
@gingermama29 ohhh a Mediterranean cruise actually might be my new answer. We actually looked into it once but didn’t pull the trigger. Have fun at the zoo!
@m6agua holy cow that sky picture is awesome. I’m with you on the basically being out but holding out hope. Maybe we will both get a surprise tomorrow!
@kpearse99 oh I’m so glad you are going to be able to attempt the IUI! I know you were worried about the timing of AF showing up and being away for your trip at the beginning of this cycle. I’m glad your RE has a plan to accommodate your work schedule too. I’m crossing everything for you this month!
hahahah I’m kidding obviously, I know what you mean! We thought about doing one as well and I forget why we didn’t but we decided to just do a week in Sonoma instead. That is so cute about your DS and his reward. And I’m very impressed that he said all of that at one time. I love when they do things that make them seem more like little people.
@jrouge12I temp at 5 M-F. I don’t set an alarm on the weekends but I still usually wake up briefly around the same time so I’ve just been temping whenever I wake up and then go back to sleep
Any thoughts about this cycle? Still holding on to a shred of hope, but if it’s not the month I’ll be okay. I can handle waiting a little longer, it’s the fear that it’s never going to happen that gets me.
Any questions? Nope
Rant/Rave/Brag: We leave for Hilton Head on Friday and I’m so excited. I think DD is going to have the time of her life. We are driving and I was planning on bringing up our RE referral again on the way (I had an OB appt right when we hit the 6 month mark and they gave me the referral since I’m over 35.) DH had said he wanted to wait through the summer, which I was totally fine with, but I thought I’d have to remind him since we haven’t talked about it since. He beat me to it today and said “let’s try for one more month and then let’s get the testing done” yay! He would have done it anyway if I had asked but I’m glad he’s on board. I just would like to know if there is some hurdle we’re up against.
GTKY: My dream vacation would definitely involve a beach, so I’m going to say Hawaii, although I’m sure there are other places that I’d like better. Someday!
@kpearse99 good luck with the first round of IUI. FX crossed for success!! Sorry about delayed flights. Hopefully you're finally on your way there.
@shamrocandroll that is so adorable about your DS! It amazes me how quickly their language skills grow! And yay for no potty accidents!
@jrouge12 I started temping last cycle. I don't set any alarms but end up temping somewhere within an hour of 7am, as close to 7 as I can. It'll probably get moved a little earlier when the school year starts up again but for now, 7ish is pretty close to my normal wake up time so that's when I temp. Also a chateau on a vineyard in France sounds amazing.
@bows22 so sorry about your BFN. Have fun on your vacation!! That sounds like it'll be a great time!
@bows22 Well the kind of bogus things I think were that he wanted her to be in sight at all times or he would cry (um it is a new place with a stranger of course he was a little scared), that he wanted to be picked up a lot when they were outside (same thing), and that he wanted to be in her lap when she put his shoes on instead of sitting by himself on the floor..... yeah. And the other things were warranted - he pushed a little girl (he will learn, he hasn't been around kids much since he was at his other daycare at 8 months), and nap time.
ETA I'm sorry for the BFN, fingers crossed it's still early. I'm glad you and your DH are on the same page, have fun in Hilton Head!!
@kpearse99@shamrocandroll I took her temperature and there is no fever. She did have a swollen eye over the weekend but it cleared it up in about a day or so... maybe she does have something going on. Also, she might be teething more because she asked for medicine for her teeth last night and then went to bed easily and slept great!
@bows22 yes, we have our routine of 3 books in the glider and then we sing and lay her down. She's usually really good about sticking to that plan and she's been seemingly good at it, but once you leave the room she would start screaming. We had no cries or screams last night so hopefully it was just a short phase! ETA: I'm happy that your DH is on the same page as you for the testing and using the RE referral! Have a great vacation!
Side note: the 2 screaming nights, she was laid down by DH and last night I did the whole bedtime routine... coincidence?? I think not!
@rachelg777 That’s pretty annoying. He’s still so young and like you said it’s a new place and situation and he’s going to need some extra attention to get through it. DD loves daycare and there are still plenty of days that she is in a teacher’s arms when we pick her up. Definitely don’t feel like you are doing anything wrong!
@mokay19 oh I’m so glad your DD had a better night last night! Hopefully whatever was bugging her is over.
@shamrocandroll Sorry about the confusing cycle. I think you mentioned before that you've had a slow temp rise after O previously too? Just wanted to point out that can be normal (your new normal maybe?), my BFF has a slow rise after O, every single time. That is so cute about the no accidents! I really need to get more serious about training, I have a chart with stickers/rewards but we have been so busy and not consistently home that I haven't started yet. I got a note from daycare that she will be starting morning 3 yo Pre-K and in order to get the discounted rate, she needs to be potty trained.
@mokay19 I was going to say it doesn't sound like an ear infection to me, I think you are on the right track with who is putting her down effecting it. FWIW when DD has had an ear infection the signs we have gotten from her is not eating much, I tend to see more ear wax, her balance is off and tripping/stumbling more, and I will see her poking her finger in her ear more often.
@jrouge12 I try to temp around the same time each morning. Since DD was born almost 3 years ago we have been using temping to avoid pregnancy so I didn't have to go on birth control. My temping times have been all over the place, they are generally around 6 am, but can really range from 3am-6:30am. I miss days here and there too. With all of that, I still can see a general temperature shift. Pairing that information along with CM, I am able to figure out O, even if FF cannot. It is about collecting the data and learning how your cycle works. Once you have several under your belt, it is much easier to predict.
@m6agua We used the Oh Crap! Potty Training method. It worked, but it's exhausting for sure. Those first 3 days I felt like a prisoner. Re: my temps... Not a super slow rise, no. Here are my last 2 cycles for comparison. They were based on oral temping and this month I've been doing vaginal.
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
@photographerwife Thank you! I never even thought about a bluetooth that just syncs. I've been looking on Amazon already. I'd definitely like some peace of mind my cycles go from 26-35 days!
@m6agua Thank you. That's what I was worried about. But if I can still get a general idea even with a few inconsistent days I'll have to give it a try.
@gingermama29 I'm definitely not looking forward to my wake up time moving back to early with the school year. But at least I'll be consistent!
Rant/Rave/Brag: I am just struggling emotionally right now. I had a traumatic birth with my son, so around his birthday is always hard. I thought we would have completed our family by now too, so there is that. I think if we don't conceive this month or next(for a may or june delivery) we are going to push it off until it would be an October delivery. I just can't emotionally deal with a delivery date so close to my son's after everything that went wrong.
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Croatia! There are sailing cruises I would LOOOOOVE to do
I have to catch up but wanted to share this because only you guys would understand.
I was prepping lunch and I heard my kids laughing and talking about being ninjas. Well. My kids found the little lube syringes in the preseed package (unused of course) and were using them as nunchucks 😆
@whatsbumpinpumpkin I 100% understand what you mean. I had a very traumatic delivery with DS as well, and for a while I said he would be an only child. Now if course I'm struggling TTC, and cursing myself for ever saying that. Hugs.
Re: TFAS week of 8/5
Month/Cycle? Month 15
WTO/TWW? On Provera
Ages of other child(ren)? 2
Any thoughts about this cycle? Well, I’m on Provera so my thoughts aren’t going on now
Any questions? DD has been disliking bedtime lately. She’s tired and needs to sleep but screams when we lay her down. Is it just this age? Is there something else I should try to do so we aren’t basically making her CIO every night?
Rant/Rave/Brag: DD has started singing more. I guess at daycare she even randomly started singing the other kids’s names haha. Hopefully that means that she has DH’s musical talent!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Right now, I’d really like to go to Ireland and Northern Ireland to see a lot of the GoT filming sites. I think that would be a fun vacation!
@mokay19 Sorry about the bedtime ordeal No advice here as we still struggle with bedtime as well. But, solidarity! That's so cute your DD is starting to sing more. I hope the Provera gets things going for you and you can be optimistic about the next cycle!
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 6/4
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 15 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm optimistic, my DH and I will finally be living in the same place so I won't have to stress about timing (hopefully!)
Any questions? Not ttc related but my son and I are flying to see family later this week. We flew a bunch with him when he was itty bitty but I haven't been on a plane with him since he was 5 months. Now that he's super mobile anyone have any great plane tips to keep him occupied?
Rant/Rave/Brag: We had a babysitter for the summer while I got settled in the new house/job/etc, but my son started daycare yesterday. I'm stressing over all the things he needs to "work on". Definitely felt like a mom failure when I got the report from his teacher yesterday after school. Sigh.
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Oh gosh, we used to travel a lot but haven't been anywhere in forever. Alaska has always been on my list but we haven't made it there yet- so I'll go with that!
Month/Cycle? 3/3 AL
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 4 and 2
Any thoughts about this cycle? I was super positive and now I’m confused.
Any questions? None. Just waiting to watch my temps the next few days to see if I did ovulate yesterday or if today’s temp was a fluke spike.
Rant/Rave/Brag: My weekend was super fun. It was nice to get away from all responsibility but I definitely felt like I was missing something the whole weekend. My husband even told me to stop texting him and enjoy my time away. Ha!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Iceland! I want to see the northern lights.
@mokay19 Sorry about bedtime. I believe there is some sort of developmental regression with sleep/bedtime around 2. And sometimes it even impacts nap. As for your dream vacay, I hope you make that trip! We went for our first year anniversary and it was amazing. We went to Dublin to celebrate the new year and then rented a car and drove down along the southern coast until we got to Galway. It was AMAZING. We didn’t do Northern Ireland, though.
@rachelg777 Godspeed flying with a toddler. It’s definitely hit or miss. And don’t beat yourself up over what he should work on, he’s 15 months! I really think a lot of places have unrealistic expectations on what kids should/shouldn’t be doing.
@rachelg777 Ah, goodluck on the plane! My only advice would to bring lots of little activities, books or whatever he likes, and maybe an ipad with some videos. FX for you!
@tyrion_ I hope you get some clarity soon! iceland would be beautiful!
Month/Cycle? 2/1
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 20 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Nope, just staying cautiously optimistic right now. I had a HUGE temp drop this morning, so that might be good?? idk.
Any questions? nope, Id love to know how to get DS to sleep better too. Still working on getting him totally weaned at night.
Rant/Rave/Brag: Im nervous about bringing DS TW: to a funeral later this week, its for my half uncles mom. END TW: We haven't been close in years, but i spent a lot of time at her house growing up. I know that side will be happy to meet DS. I just hope he isnt too disruptive or anything. He spent a lot of time with his grandpa this past weekend while i worked and was a total terror when i got home. Thankfully a few days of normalcy has him back in line!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Ive never had the opportunity to travel much, but I would love to be able more. Right now, id love to visit the bahamas or something super tropical!
Month/Cycle? 2/2
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 18 months on Friday 😭
Any thoughts about this cycle? AF finished yesterday technically though it was all spotting, so maybe Sunday actually. I'm looking forward to getting a full month of temps and data.
Any questions? Not that I can think of
Rant/Rave/Brag: I'm taking DD to the zoo for the first time on Friday and am so excited! She loves animals and I think she'll have a blast.
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? A Mediterranean cruise. I'm dying to see several countries in Europe and love going on cruises.
Coming back for tags after I put DD down for her nap.
Month/Cycle? 5/4
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 2.75
Any thoughts about this cycle? Meh, I'm pretty sure I am out (BFN on 10DPO), but I am holding out hope. AF is due tomorrow
Any questions? Nope
Rant/Rave/Brag: We had a storm yesterday early evening, it finished and the sky went from really dark to bright orange!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be?
Hmmm, I don't really know. I am not a big travel person. I could go with a tropical place with nice beaches and a lot of fun activities or a winter vacation to go snowboarding in Colorado or Europe!
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- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019@rachelg777 good luck with flying! No advice here. Alaska is also on my travel list. I think an Alaskan cruise would be fun!
@tyrion_ glad you got a nice weekend away to yourself!
@photographerwife good luck with the funeral. My grandma passed a few months ago and DD did pretty well at the calling hours. It's so hard though. Hopefully with all the family around though, you'll have extra help if you need it.
@photographerwife Thank you, those are definitely good ideas. I’m sorry to hear about your loss, I’m sure your DS will do great and the family will all love the joy a child brings during a tough time.
@gingermama29 yay for data!! Have fun at the zoo! We recently took my DS to a safari park drive through zoo where you can feed (with the zoo food) the animals from your car and it was so cute and a great time.
@rachelg777 Welcome! You are doing great, try not to stress about the report. These kids all develop at their own pace. Kids are resilient and I'm sure with time he will get the daycare thing figured out.
@tyrion_ I'm glad your weekend was fun!
@photographerwife I'm sure DS will be fine, just be prepared with snacks and some quite toys. Also sit in a place where you can easily excuse yourself. I've brought DD to a few funerals and she has been great. This weekend we were just at a full catholic mass type wedding and she did amazing! She ate, walked between me and grandma, and played with the books in the pew.
@gingermama29 Happy early birthday to your LO! Have fun at the zoo.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019@m6agua I’ve got my fingers crossed for you. That photo is super neat!
What number are you trying for? THB #2
Month/Cycle? 11 / 9 (AL)
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 7
Any thoughts about this cycle? Nervous and hopeful. It's my first medicated and IUI cycle. I'm hopeful for the medication and IUI to work but also nervous because I'm not sure how the timing will work out of when I O and when I have to travel again for work. It's really REALLY hard for me to let go of the fact that I CAN'T control things like this. I'm a planner, so I need to plan things out like timelines and such and I can't do that with this because there's no way of knowing (yet anyway) when I am going to O on the Letrozole. My RE is having me start the letrozole today (CD 2) instead of on CD 4 to try an get me to O a little earlier so that we can have good timing for the IUI before I travel again for work. Right now I'll be traveling on CD 15-17. I need to take a deep breath and just let it be and accept that what will happen will happen. I just don't want to waste a medicated cycle, ya know?!
Any questions?
Rant/Rave/Brag: Rant: I'm supposed to be boarding my flight right now to New Orleans for a work conference and my flight is delayed until 8:00... so I've got another 5 hours to go before I board. I'm so frustrated and being emotional from stupid AF doesn't help at all. Thank goodness my RE said I can have some alcohol on this medication
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Anywhere that my flight can't be delayed or cancelled?!?! hahaha I'd love to go to Italy, Paris, Iceland or Hawaii.... I have a large bucket list, I guess!
BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12
DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018
Me: 36 | DH: 39
Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years
BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving
July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF
August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled
9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks
10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN
11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst
3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP
11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
@rachelg777 welcome to TFAS!!
@tyrion_ I don't know how to fully relax when I'm away either hahaha DH tells me to relax and enjoy myself but I feel like I'd rather know what's going on at home and how my guys are!! Honestly, I'd rather be with them!
@gingermama29 the zoo is so fun with little ones!! She's going to love it! And that cruise sounds like it would be amazing!!
@m6agua that sky is beautiful... also, your backyard is stunning!!! We have that same fence!
BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12
DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018
Me: 36 | DH: 39
Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years
BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving
July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF
August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled
9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks
10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN
11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst
3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP
11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
@rachelg777 Don't worry too much. All kids that age have lots of things to work on. They are still trying to figure out how to be little humans!
@tyrion_ Sorry you're feeling confused! I also want to see the Northern Lights! I just really don't want to have to go somewhere even colder than where I live to do so.
@photographerwife Sorry about the big temp drop. FX it was a fluke. GL with the funeral. If he gets too rowdy, you can always step outside with him. I'm sorry for your loss
@gingermama29 A Mediterranean cruise is my dream vaca too. We wanted to do one for our 5 year anniversary last year, but used too much vaca time on DS being sick, so we ended up just doing a week in Italy instead. Maybe for our 10 year...
@m6agua What a cool photo!
@kpearse99 I hope the plan with the letrozole works and you can get good timing for your IUI!
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
Month/Cycle? 13/4 AL
WTO/TWW? WTO (still.........)
Ages of other child(ren)? 2.75
Any thoughts about this cycle? I was optimistic, but now I'm afraid it might be an-O. Which would suck because we've been HIO like bunnies.
Any questions?
Rant/Rave/Brag: DS is speaking in like... full paragraphs, and it amazes me. On days when he has no potty accidents, we give him a little mini reward (we didn't do rewards to start with, but they helped during a recent regression). The other day, when I picked him up from daycare, he said to me "Mommy! I had no accidents. I want to watch songs on the TV, not on Alexa!" I guess I didn't have to guess what he wanted his reward to be that day, haha!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? +1 for Mediterranean cruise! That way we could see many cities and could do the traveling in between at night while we sleep.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
@shamrocandroll isn't it crazy how fast they catch on to reward systems and things like that?!?! Good for him! haha
BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12
DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018
Me: 36 | DH: 39
Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years
BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving
July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF
August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled
9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks
10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN
11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst
3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP
11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
@rachelg777 My gma took me to Alaska when I was 12! I'd love to go back someday!
@shamrocandroll Lol. DD specifies that she wants to dance to songs on the TV not Alexa too. She figured that out quick!
@m6agua Sorry for the BFN!
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/1
WTO/TWW? TWW
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'd love for this to be my cycle but... I'll test Friday morning (probably). I keep having to talk myself out of testing earlier. Our timing was really good but this isn't a perfect system, right?
Any questions? I'm not temping now but I'd like to be more sure of O. Do those of you that temp have a strict schedule? I feel like it would make sense to start temping with the new school year in September when my schedule is more regular. Next cycle I'll have vacation and camping still.
Rant/Rave/Brag: DH didn't bring the potty seat out this afternoon when we were running errands. I had a long fight with DD in the bathroom at home depot about how I wouldn't let her fall in. So much screaming (on her end)!
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? South of France. I think I'd rent a chateau near a vineyard.
@jrouge12 I know a lot of people temp when they wake up. But since those times are inconsistent for me on a daily basis with work and what not I always set my alarm to temp at 5:30 am, it sounds crazy, but it takes me about a minute and my thermometer is blue tooth and syncs right to it, and if I forget to open the app before I lay down it has like a 30 temp recall! You should temp! It’s a learning curve, but it does give me peace of mind. And something to focus on during all of this! A vineyard sounds soo wonderful! DS hates public bathrooms too!
@rachelg777 Welcome! What in the world does the daycare want a 15 month old to work on??
@tyrion_ I’m glad you had fun on your getaway! I always feel like something is missing when I’m away from DD overnight too
@photographerwife I’m sorry about your uncle! Try not to stress too much about your DS at the funeral. I feel like people just like the distraction of cute LOs in those circumstances
@gingermama29 ohhh a Mediterranean cruise actually might be my new answer. We actually looked into it once but didn’t pull the trigger. Have fun at the zoo!
@m6agua holy cow that sky picture is awesome. I’m with you on the basically being out but holding out hope. Maybe we will both get a surprise tomorrow!
@kpearse99 oh I’m so glad you are going to be able to attempt the IUI! I know you were worried about the timing of AF showing up and being away for your trip at the beginning of this cycle. I’m glad your RE has a plan to accommodate your work schedule too. I’m crossing everything for you this month!
@shamrocandroll “just a week in Italy”
hahahah I’m kidding obviously, I know what you mean! We thought about doing one as well and I forget why we didn’t but we decided to just do a week in Sonoma instead. That is so cute about your DS and his reward. And I’m very impressed that he said all of that at one time. I love when they do things that make them seem more like little people.
@jrouge12I temp at 5 M-F. I don’t set an alarm on the weekends but I still usually wake up briefly around the same time so I’ve just been temping whenever I wake up and then go back to sleep
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 9
WTO/TWW? TWW - BFN today at 11 DPO
Ages of other child(ren)? 1.5
Any thoughts about this cycle? Still holding on to a shred of hope, but if it’s not the month I’ll be okay. I can handle waiting a little longer, it’s the fear that it’s never going to happen that gets me.
Any questions? Nope
Rant/Rave/Brag: We leave for Hilton Head on Friday and I’m so excited. I think DD is going to have the time of her life. We are driving and I was planning on bringing up our RE referral again on the way (I had an OB appt right when we hit the 6 month mark and they gave me the referral since I’m over 35.) DH had said he wanted to wait through the summer, which I was totally fine with, but I thought I’d have to remind him since we haven’t talked about it since. He beat me to it today and said “let’s try for one more month and then let’s get the testing done” yay! He would have done it anyway if I had asked but I’m glad he’s on board. I just would like to know if there is some hurdle we’re up against.
GTKY: My dream vacation would definitely involve a beach, so I’m going to say Hawaii, although I’m sure there are other places that I’d like better. Someday!
@shamrocandroll that is so adorable about your DS! It amazes me how quickly their language skills grow! And yay for no potty accidents!
@jrouge12 I started temping last cycle. I don't set any alarms but end up temping somewhere within an hour of 7am, as close to 7 as I can. It'll probably get moved a little earlier when the school year starts up again but for now, 7ish is pretty close to my normal wake up time so that's when I temp. Also a chateau on a vineyard in France sounds amazing.
@bows22 so sorry about your BFN. Have fun on your vacation!! That sounds like it'll be a great time!
ETA I'm sorry for the BFN, fingers crossed it's still early. I'm glad you and your DH are on the same page, have fun in Hilton Head!!
@bows22 yes, we have our routine of 3 books in the glider and then we sing and lay her down. She's usually really good about sticking to that plan and she's been seemingly good at it, but once you leave the room she would start screaming. We had no cries or screams last night so hopefully it was just a short phase!
ETA: I'm happy that your DH is on the same page as you for the testing and using the RE referral! Have a great vacation!
Side note: the 2 screaming nights, she was laid down by DH and last night I did the whole bedtime routine... coincidence?? I think not!
@mokay19 oh I’m so glad your DD had a better night last night! Hopefully whatever was bugging her is over.
@mokay19 I was going to say it doesn't sound like an ear infection to me, I think you are on the right track with who is putting her down effecting it. FWIW when DD has had an ear infection the signs we have gotten from her is not eating much, I tend to see more ear wax, her balance is off and tripping/stumbling more, and I will see her poking her finger in her ear more often.
@jrouge12 I try to temp around the same time each morning. Since DD was born almost 3 years ago we have been using temping to avoid pregnancy so I didn't have to go on birth control. My temping times have been all over the place, they are generally around 6 am, but can really range from 3am-6:30am. I miss days here and there too. With all of that, I still can see a general temperature shift. Pairing that information along with CM, I am able to figure out O, even if FF cannot. It is about collecting the data and learning how your cycle works. Once you have several under your belt, it is much easier to predict.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019ETA Tag
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
@m6agua Thank you. That's what I was worried about. But if I can still get a general idea even with a few inconsistent days I'll have to give it a try.
@gingermama29 I'm definitely not looking forward to my wake up time moving back to early with the school year. But at least I'll be consistent!
Month/Cycle? Jan 2018
WTO/TWW? WTO. CD2
Ages of other child(ren)? Three on Saturday
Any thoughts about this cycle? Too early to tell.
Any questions?
Rant/Rave/Brag: I am just struggling emotionally right now. I had a traumatic birth with my son, so around his birthday is always hard. I thought we would have completed our family by now too, so there is that. I think if we don't conceive this month or next(for a may or june delivery) we are going to push it off until it would be an October delivery. I just can't emotionally deal with a delivery date so close to my son's after everything that went wrong.
GTKY: What or where would your dream vacation be? Croatia! There are sailing cruises I would LOOOOOVE to do
I was prepping lunch and I heard my kids laughing and talking about being ninjas. Well. My kids found the little lube syringes in the preseed package (unused of course) and were using them as nunchucks 😆
I just about fell over from laughing so hard.
@photographerwife what did your temp do today?
@gingermama29 Enjoy the zoo Friday! Hope she loves it.
@m6agua Sorry about the BFN yesterday. Your backyard is incredible.
@kpearse99 Twisting myself like a pretzel crossing all the things for you that this is your cycle!
@jrouge12 I set my alarm for 5am everyday, temp and pass back out. My thermometer has a recall so I just check it when I wake up.
@bows22 That’s awesome you and your husband are on the same page about the RE but I really hope you get your BFP before you get there.
@whatsbumpinpumpkin I wish we had more support for traumatic births/NICU stays. I’m sorry this is a hard time of year for you.
@tyrion_ OMG dead. 🤣
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020