My UO...ummm...most TV drama series are only good the first few seasons. They keep trying to UO the ante on the drama and after awhile they just get ridiculous.
I haven’t taken a single bump pic yet. I feel gross. I don’t want it documented. I think I only took 2-3 last time. I think others are adorable, just not mine lol
I do not like the show impractical jokers. My sisters, BIL, nieces and nephew always put it on when they’re at my house and I hate it. It’s idiotic and to me that’s not funny
My UO is that I haaaaaaate flying but I love traveling. I seriously cannot calm down lately on planes, it started about 2 years ago and IDK what to do. :-/ Taking all suggestions
I'm not sure how unpopular this is, but I feel like people don't do it very often. But I like going to the movie theatre by myself. I don't mind going with other people, but I have zero qualms about going alone.
@ktmaesim -- I'm the same! Though I know when my fear started...really bad flight through a thunderstorm when I was 13, haven't been the same since. ANYWAY, earlier this year, I read a book called "This is your Captain Speaking" by Ray Stark--he's a former Southwest pilot, and wrote it specifically to help calm people's fear of flying. He basically walks you through every single aspect of the flight process so you intellectually understand what's happening, gives statistics about the safety of flight, and even provides a list of resources in the back if you need further "fear of flying" help. I read it right before flying to Chicago, and while my fear isn't completely cured, I wasn't as jumpy, and I was a little more relaxed. I even brought it on board with me to help refresh myself as I was going through the flight. It helped.
My UO ties back to the recent weekly random conversation -- I'm not a fan of people trying to dump their secondhand baby items on me. I'm all about hand me downs if in good condition/useful, but most of that hasn't been the case, and they're just trying to use my pregnancy as an easy out to get rid of their old stuff. It's obnoxious.
Another UO -- I do think it's possible to have a nice house and have babies/toddlers. I know I'm a FTM and haven't experienced it yet, but I've seen friends who have been able to keep a decent place without the kid's stuff totally taking over. Hoping to fall into the same category as them, because I hate clutter.
@rjgmcmanus you're definitely getting some weird stuff handed over to you, a soap dish, really!?! 🤣
My local buy nothing group has been awesome. I've gotten: 50 outlet covers 2 unopened pacifiers Mobi wrap Baby bathtub with infant sling 2 books about newborn care Toddler training potty And in the process of scheduling a pickup for a baby bouncer
I've also gotten a bunch of gender neutral clothes for $1 a piece at the goodwill. I worked at a goodwill 20 years ago and I loved it. The prices have gone up substantially since then lol.
@rjgmcmanus I completely AGREEEEEE with the "clean" house thing. I cannot stand when people say stuff like "oh just you wait - it'll be a disaster when u start having kids!" Like, no. It won't. I don't plan on accumulating unnecessary items or thousands of toys, and I am good at staying on top of getting rid of things if they are not being used. I know plenty of people who keep it together and still have little kids. I'm not really sure why it irritates me so much when people say this stuff but it does. And I'm not judging anyone who isn't as tidy as I am...we're all different.
And thank you so much for the book recommendation. I was just telling my husband I wish I understood it intellectually more because I think it would calm me down! Cannot for the life of me find it online though, all sold out and Amazon has it listed for $89.00! haha
@ktmaesim@rjgmcmanus i just realized i posted something in the baby gear thread a couple days ago re: baby crap but didn't tag you guys in the post. duh! i just edited and added you. #teamnoclutter
as for flying, with southwest you should be able to request preboard due to anxiety and maybe that would help making sure you can get a seat you're super happy in?!
@bookworm492 See, I wish people would offer good stuff like that to me! Your stuff sounds awesome, and I'd totally accept that! I'm just getting offered things with missing pieces, crusty stains, or...yeah, teddy bear soap dishes.
@rjgmcmanus 👋🏼 Fellow clutter hater and STM. It’s totally doable to not be completely overrun by toys and baby junk. My issue was the unmatching toy storage in our family room. No matter how hard I tried, the toys ended upon every room so in the corner there was the hideous toy box or shelf with brightly colored, beeping toys. That was my compromise, a corner of my otherwise tidy and clean room that was dedicated to a pile of toys that kept finding their way to our family room.
My UO is I don’t think parents should pay their children for chores. DS feeds the dogs, scoops poop, takes out trash, makes his own bed and even sweeps if I ask. We’ve never paid him. He’s a child, they don’t typically go anywhere without their parents that they need money. We give him money if he goes somewhere with a friend and unless it’s outrageous we buy him a game or toy when if he wants. He does get money from grandparents for helping them and for bdays and Christmas that he can spend on special things but for the most part we buy everything, I think that’s our job?
@k_mama91 I think that's a decent compromise! Right now, our plan to help with toy storage is dependent on my parents' move. We currently own 3 small/medium sized bookcases--one that we purchased ourselves, two that were hand-me-downs that we just plain no longer like, and only took because we needed something. With my parents moving, they've offered up their SUPER nice, super large bookcase that will fit all the books we own. When we get that, we're putting that in our bedroom, with all our books. Once that is in, we'll move the medium sized one that we purchased into the nursery to use for baby's books and toys--we have those nice canvas cube totes that go across the bottom shelf of that, so that's where we're planning to keep things. And we will FINALLY be able to get rid of the two ugly hand-me-down book cases. Also probably going to register for the tote thing @anniemarie887 suggested. Hopefully, between those two things, we'll be able to minimize clutter/toys everywhere.
@rjgmcmanus I hope I can get a nicer storage system this time. Last time it was a last minute purchase bc I couldn’t take the clutter anymore! We’re in a different home this time with an open floor plan and the nursery is right next to the family room so I’m hoping we can keep the cross contamination of toys to a minimum.
@k_mama91 When we were little, my parents literally gave us an allowance of 50 cents a week...it wasn't so much that they were paying us to do chores, it was that they were trying to teach us money management at an early age. But they didn't do more than that because of the same reason--they bought everything we needed, we were with them for the most part, and on birthdays/Christmas, they got us the things we wanted, so there was no reason to give us more. When we got older, into middle school/early high school and we were more independent and doing things without them, they raised it to $10 a week, because by that point we were wanting to go to the movies with friends, go out to eat, etc. But if we didn't do chores, we didn't get paid, so we couldn't afford to do what we wanted. And then when I hit 16, I was cut off and told to get a part-time job after school.
@rjgmcmanus I did chores but don’t recall being paid until around 13ish. I cleaned our entire house every Saturday for 40 bucks. Which is a rip off thinking about it and that’s where my ocd for cleanliness probably comes from (thanks mom). I definitely get the money management aspect and I’ll be honest we need to enforce it more with ds. Hes old enough to get the concept but we pay the difference if he doesn’t have enough for something.
I never received a weekly allowance or money for any chore. My sisters and I were just expected to take care of our rooms, set and clean the table and then usually Sunday we all cleaned the house. When I went out with friends my parents gave me money for whatever I was doing, mall/movies/dinner. By jr year of HS I had a job and my sisters too so we could have the freedom of buying more lavish/splurge items. Probably will do the same with these kiddies.
@rjgmcmanus tonight I got a baby bouncer, a baby holder thing that hangs from a doorway (we need to test it out in our apt to make sure it fits our doorframes), a pack of size 1 diapers, bottle caddy's for the dishwasher, and all these clothes
@k_mama91 in retrospect I also was ripped off. As I got older I did all the laundry and ironing in the house for $10/week. At the time my father wore starched shirts 6 days/week. I was a sucker.
My basic chores (cleaning room, clearing the table, etc) did not get an allowance. I only got paid for the above mentioned laundry/ironing.
Here's an unpopular opinion: I haven't seen any reality TV shows in at least 10 years. Never seen an ep of real housewives or any of those Kardashian shows or whatever that show was with honey boo boo or dancing with the stars or any of those American idol spinoff/knockoffs. I did see AI waaaay back when it first started.
@k_mama91 I hate emptying the dishwasher too. I came up with a really easy compromise for myself though. Since I don’t like to use the drying setting, I put all the dishes in the sink to dry. Which will look cluttered and annoy me and I will actually put them away.
i don’t really remember getting an allowance. We lived about 30 minutes from everywhere, so when I was younger, my parents didn’t want me to get a job, since it would have been hard on them, so they told me if I helped cook and clean they would give me stuff/money. I doubt my kids will get an allowance. We sometimes will give DS money for doing yard work though, but he enjoys it and works his little butt off.
@holly321 That would motivate me too! I’m counting down until DS is old enough to unloading money dishes without breaking them. I almost feel bad making someone else do it 😂
@bookworm492 I’m totally in your boat on the reality shows- I just don’t like reality TV! I was actually working in television around the time that reality TV became a big deal, and the whole industry was rather annoyed by it, due to the fact that the rules for workers just weren’t the same. Plus, you didn’t have to have any actual talent to be featured...it’s just annoying honestly 😛. Sorry, ladies, my opinion is very unpopular on this, I’m sure!
@cpk3535 I haven't owned a TV since I moved a year ago, we just stream online to my husband's gaming monitor. He watches a lot of movies, but I'm not really a tv/movie person at all, I'd rather read or putter around online in my down time.
Re: UO 7/31
My UO...ummm...most TV drama series are only good the first few seasons. They keep trying to UO the ante on the drama and after awhile they just get ridiculous.
Married 1/28/17
TW:
BFP #2 10/10/17, MC 11/4/17
BFP #3 12/17/17 Birth 8/13/18
BFP #4 4/21/19 Birth 12/5/2019
I haven’t taken a single bump pic yet. I feel gross. I don’t want it documented. I think I only took 2-3 last time. I think others are adorable, just not mine lol
Married 1/28/17
TW:
BFP #2 10/10/17, MC 11/4/17
BFP #3 12/17/17 Birth 8/13/18
BFP #4 4/21/19 Birth 12/5/2019
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16)
DS born 12.13.14
DD born 10.15.16
BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18
Another UO -- I do think it's possible to have a nice house and have babies/toddlers. I know I'm a FTM and haven't experienced it yet, but I've seen friends who have been able to keep a decent place without the kid's stuff totally taking over. Hoping to fall into the same category as them, because I hate clutter.
My local buy nothing group has been awesome. I've gotten:
50 outlet covers
2 unopened pacifiers
Mobi wrap
Baby bathtub with infant sling
2 books about newborn care
Toddler training potty
And in the process of scheduling a pickup for a baby bouncer
I've also gotten a bunch of gender neutral clothes for $1 a piece at the goodwill. I worked at a goodwill 20 years ago and I loved it. The prices have gone up substantially since then lol.
And thank you so much for the book recommendation. I was just telling my husband I wish I understood it intellectually more because I think it would calm me down! Cannot for the life of me find it online though, all sold out and Amazon has it listed for $89.00! haha
as for flying, with southwest you should be able to request preboard due to anxiety and maybe that would help making sure you can get a seat you're super happy in?!
This looks more reasonable: https://www.abebooks.com/Captain-Speaking-Flight-Training-Passengers-Ray/17328253683/bd
Or this: https://www.ebay.com/p/This-Is-Your-Captain-Speaking-Flight-Training-for-Passengers-by-Ray-Stark-2002-Paperback/119661492
@anniemarie887 YESSSSSSSSS. Need to add to registry! Thank you!
Still can't get over that one, lol.
My basic chores (cleaning room, clearing the table, etc) did not get an allowance. I only got paid for the above mentioned laundry/ironing.
Married 1/28/17
TW:
BFP #2 10/10/17, MC 11/4/17
BFP #3 12/17/17 Birth 8/13/18
BFP #4 4/21/19 Birth 12/5/2019
i don’t really remember getting an allowance. We lived about 30 minutes from everywhere, so when I was younger, my parents didn’t want me to get a job, since it would have been hard on them, so they told me if I helped cook and clean they would give me stuff/money.
I doubt my kids will get an allowance. We sometimes will give DS money for doing yard work though, but he enjoys it and works his little butt off.