High Risk Check-in July

kbrown2385 · July 2019

Est Due Date / Weeks + Days:

What makes you high risk?:

Upcoming Appointments:

How are you feeling?:

Concerns/Rants/Raves:

Questions?

noranorabobora · July 2019

Est Due Date / Weeks + Days: 1/17, 12+5

What makes you high risk?: Factor V clotting disorder, AMA (37), hx of PCOS, large SCH

Upcoming Appointments: today! NIPT and ultrasound

How are you feeling?: Super tired. All. The. Time.

Concerns/Rants/Raves: As time goes on for us all, I'm feeling more disconnected from the rest of the pregnant moms in this group. After being told by the OB I would likely miscarry, and being told by MFM not to announce the pregnancy or buy anything for the baby yet, I feel I'm having a much different pregnancy experience than most. It's been difficult to relate to posts about product spotlights, and pregnancy announcements and day-to-day gripes and concerns, when I'm still bleeding every single day and trying to convince myself that Baby and I are going to beat the odds. I wish I could share in the joy of pregnancy with you all.

Questions? Any other mommas out there who can relate? I see there's not a lot of high risk pregnancies here, (which is a great thing!), but isolating for me.

leprechaunlady · July 2019

I guess i go here now............

@noranorabobora im sorry you have so many things to deal with, being pregnant and everything going well is tough at the best of times, never mind the added worry and stress of complications

Whilst i'm considered high risk, im on the lower end of the scale so cant necessarily relate to the exact issues youre dealing with but i would say that here is a safe space to talk about your worries and fears, put it out there and we will support you and help in whatever way we can! I know the group is all quite new but my previous bmb was the same initially & now they are the best support i couldve imagined and talking things out with them helps massively!

Est Due Date / Weeks + Days: 8th January / 14 weeks today

What makes you high risk? Twins, GD & AMA

Upcoming appointments: tomorrow i go the hospital to start on insulin for GD, then the next appointment is 24th July for a twin clinic. Not sure now that im going to be insulin dependent if i will have to go to the endocrine clinic earlier than my next scheduled appointment of 7th August.

How are you feeling? ive been a bit pissed off at my blood sugar readings being out of range as i was hoping that gd wouldnt kick in til much later but thankful that they keep such a close eye on my to make sure that the babies are ok even though its a pain in the ass attending the hospital so bloody often!

Questions: Not so much a question more just a concern - whilst i know legally there is nothing my work can do or say about the high number of appointments im going to have but i feel kind of shit about it myself. Again, i know most people dont mind or have an issue with it and that the babies and my health comes first but im paranoid that people will think im milking it or that i cant do my job properly because of having to go to the hospital so often for so many different appointments with different specialist teams and consultants.

amb0924 · July 2019

Est Due Date / Weeks + Days: 1/23/20- almost 12 weeks!

What makes you high risk?: Twins, Factor V Leiden, Factor II Prothrombin, PCOS

Upcoming Appointments: July 16th with MFM for my Nuchal and just looking forward for a chance to see the babies hopefully squirming and healthy!

How are you feeling?: I'm feeling mostly okay. I had a great appointment yesterday where my OB was able to hear two distinct heartbeats on the Doppler, so it was a huge relief. Now on to panic until I see the babies again. I'm just generally anxious/exhausted/moody and starting to get more headaches. But I'm also starting to get my appetite back so that's a plus!

Concerns/Rants/Raves: concerned with twins and PCOS about GD, but so far I think I'm doing okay. I know this is such a silly concern, but since I'm on Lovenox 2x a day, I'm nervous about doing that needle when my belly starts getting harder. I guess it's acceptable to do it in the thigh (but there's way less fat there than my belly!)

Questions? How do other moms feel about the whole mani/pedi while in first trimester? I feel like I could use one, but I've been putting it off. The chemicals in regular nail polish plus the UV light with gels has me a little nervous, but I haven't seen anything definitive.

leprechaunlady · July 2019

@amb0924 I have acryllics with gel polish done every 3 weeks & did all the way through my previous pregnancy & have done so far in this one 🤷🏻‍♀️

kbrown2385 · July 2019

@amb0924 I get regular mani/pedis with gel polish. I did the same when I was pregnant with ds. I believe it’s similar recommendations as getting your hair colored. As long as it’s done in an open, well ventilated area it should be fine.

amb0924 · July 2019

thanks @leprechaunlady and @kbrown2385 !

FTM jitters I guess

peppyj9 · July 2019

@noranorabobora I'm so sorry you're dealing with so much and that you feel isolated. I can sort of relate in terms of how that can feel. I don't have actual complications with my pregnancy at this point in time but I am severely obese (BMI over 40) and that in itself makes my pregnancy feel isolating, more in real life than on here where no one can stare at my body and judge me for being pregnant. When I went in to confirm my pregnancy my primary told me I would probably miscarry and to not get my hopes up. She was actually quite rude about the whole thing and clearly judged me for getting pregnant in the first place. My OB and their whole office have thankfully been amazing and positive while still being realistic, though I sometimes get funny looks from other women in the waiting room. And although I can't say for sure, I'm pretty sure I won't get a cute pregnancy bump, as from what I've researched, women my size tend to get a "B" belly where the bump pushes the fat to the top and your belly looks like a "B" and basically you just look fatter. And as excited as I am to finally announce in another week or so, I am also dreading the judgement and behind my back gossip that will happen from certain family members and friends who will judge me and make assumptions that I can't do this. I've struggled with my weight since I was a child so I know the drill. People like to assume I'm incapable of certain things, so yea, definitely will be judged for being pregnant and have people assume I'll lose my baby because of my weight, or even just judge how I will be able to parent. There's also just general concern on my blood pressure, developing GD and complications with labor. I currently have to go in every 2 weeks to make sure I'm ok and as I get further along will have to go in weekly. So, even though no actual complications yet, there's plenty of doubt all around that I will carry to term and have a successful delivery. And while I know this isn't quite the same as what you're dealing with, I hope it helps you feel a little less alone. And, I don't know if it would help you mentally, but I'm personally choosing to celebrate this pregnancy regardless of the outcome because the fact that my baby exists at all is worth celebrating and I'm allowing myself to assume all will go well and planning like anyone else would. *hugs* to you. I hope you feel like you can participate here anyway, we're all rooting for you!

@noranorabobora put my response in a spoiler because it's super long!

@leprechaunlady don't feel guilty for doing what you need to do! I admire your work ethic, but, your health and babies are priority #1. Unless you're lounging around asking people to do your work for you when you're capable, I don't think anyone will think you're "milking it" if you already have a reputation of being a good worker then there's no reason to worry about taking the time you need for your and babies' well being.

@amb0924 Good question! I'm wanting to get a pedicure next weekend with my friend but wasn't sure if I should.

Est Due Date / Weeks + Days: Jan 25th/12 weeks today

What makes you high risk?: Mostly my weight but also AMA (36)

Upcoming Appointments: July 25th

How are you feeling?: relieved after ultrasound on Wednesday. And in general, more like myself now that I'm almost at 2nd tri.

Concerns/Rants/Raves: just anxiously waiting the 13 week mark!

Questions? Do any of you worry about sleeping position? I know you're supposed to sleep on your left side but I'm most comfortable on my stomach. I use a pillow to help keep me on my left side but I often end up rolling to my stomach for a bit until I remember to go back to my side.

Edit: typo

leprechaunlady · July 2019

@peppyj9 im sorry youre experiencing such judgement, your pregnancy and baby are worth celebrating & fuck the haters quite frankly! I understand the feeling, im overweight & in my notes from my last scan read “difficulty scanning due tot high bmi” & whilst I know I need to loose a few pounds, seeing that written was not a nice feeling & added to coming out of the appointment feel kinda shit & overwhelmed made me cry all the harder. I also have gd & am insulin dependent at 14 weeks 😕
Youre going to be an amazing mummy to a very much loved little baby & you will surprise yourself with the strength you didnt even know you had to be able to do this! Be an advocate for yourself & dont take shit from anyone about it!
& if it gets too much, come here, chat to us, its a safe space where people are more likely to understand & offer support not judgement!

You can always pm me if you want to talk about it in a more private space.

peppyj9 · July 2019

@leprechaunlady thank you ❤ I'm sorry you had to see that on your notes. It's never a good feeling. Every after appointment visit I have has notes about my BMI and "high risk obesity pregnancy complications" even though I haven't actually had any complications yet 🙄 I feel like the medical community in general tends to focus on weight and assume the worst. When I first went in for a physical before TTC, my bloodwork all came back perfect and my primary (same rude one) wrote "remarkably everything is within normal range" like she just couldn't believe it lol. Anyway, I have been loving having this bmb so far. It allows me to participate and talk about my pregnancy like a "normal" person. I'll admit I get nervous about my ability to keep up with a toddler, but I have a few years to get there lol. I'm just kind of hoping mother instinct will kick in and I'll be a good mom. Our baby is already very loved. 🥰 anyway, thank you again, it's so nice to have people on your side 😊 and the same is extended to you if you ever want to chat about anything.

kbrown2385 · July 2019

@peppyj9 I am also in the same position weight wise and I just want to let you know that all of
your fears are normal! You will get a bump and you will definitely be able to tell you are pregnant. Granted it won’t be the super cute beach ball but there are plenty of women at normal weights who don’t carry that way either. You will also be able to keep up with your toddler. Regardless of size, they are exhausting lol. I’m sorry you feel you are going to be dealing with backlash over your pregnancy. Although it’s easier said than done, ignore it all. Enjoy what your body is doing, because it’s amazing. You aren't alone here. You are going to be a great mom ❤️.

peppyj9 · July 2019

@kbrown2385 thank you ❤❤

noranorabobora · July 2019

@peppyj9 It's absolutely awful that you've been judged for your size. Nobody has the right to make you feel undeserving of being a mom, it's the most natural instinct in the world. You'll be a great momma, and great mommas come in all different shapes and sizes! I'm overweight too and I've wondered what my bump will look like. I just told my husband yesterday, "there's a bump under this fluff, just wait and you'll see!" even though so far I just look fatter, lol. Luckily my drs haven't mentioned my weight, to me at least, maybe because there's other concerns. That's the way it should be, I think, the weight is not a problem unless it becomes a problem. You haven't had complications, thank goodness, so there's nothing to be worried about. I love that you've consciously decided to celebrate your pregnancy no matter what. I've almost gotten there mentally. After my last appt, the drs seem to know even less than before. The MFM specialist said that what was diagnosed as a giant hematoma, might be a fibroid. Or endometriosis. Or cancer. Or a giant hematoma after all. I'm starting to feel like the medical community doesn't really know what they're doing, and I'm over here fretting over each apocolypical diagnosis they throw my way. I can't maintain this level of stress, it's exhausting. So, I canceled all my future appts until my 20 week anatomy scan. We'll see if baby and I do better on our own. I never expected the FTM pregnancy experience to be like this.

peppyj9 · July 2019

@noranorabobora thank you ❤ I'm sorry you're not getting definitive answers as to what's going on with your bleeding. I think sometimes we have to remind ourselves that at the end of the day, Dr's are just people and if it's something they've rarely encountered, if at all, they kind of have to learn as they go. It's not very reassuring, but sometimes they just don't have the answers. And also sometimes the human body marvels the most experienced medical professionals and defies logic. I hope you find it in you to have faith in your body and your baby and just take it one day at a time.

amb0924 · July 2019

I just wanted to say to everyone on here that reading through this has made me feel so supported! I too am overweight and have spent way too long on Pinterest and Google searching for "plus size baby bumps". Luckily my OB or RE when I was trying to get pregnant haven't harped on my weight to me. I think they figure I know it's always a risk, but they've been so great in not making me feel bad about it. I too am nervous to be 'out of shape' and running after TWIN TODDLERS (TERRIFYING!) but right now I like to think I have a little extra cushion of warmth for these growing babies and maybe a little more love to give them

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