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Re: WTO Thursday 7/11
Good morning, ladies! Sorry the thread got away from me yesterday. It was a loooong, busy day.
Month/Cycle: 12/11/1st cycle AL2
CD: 8
WAYDTGKU: Prenatal vitamins, Fertility Friend, temping, OPKs, observing CM, currently undergoing testing with an RE
R/R: Ultrasound this AM to check out my uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. I am not looking forward to the catheter and cramping part, but I am interested to see what it looks like in there! Wish the ultrasound place wasn't an hour away. It's going to be super-fun driving through the city during rush hour with no idea where we're going!
CS/Q: Nope. Nothing to see but one lonely dot.
@emeraldduchess Good luck today! Hoping it’s an easy process for you!
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD: 8
WAYDTGKU: Prenatal vitamins, Fertility Friend, OPKs
R/R: I was completely knocked out yesterday with a stomach bug and was miserable. Luckily I woke up better today and will be playing catch up the rest of the day.
CS/Q: nope
@newmomtx06 sorry about the stomach bug 😔 summer sickies are the worst!
Month/Cycle: 7/5/3 AL
CD: 7
WAYDTGKU: BBT, OPK, CM, FF, PNV, folic acid, HIO EOD
R/R: My meeting yesterday was great! I love our new admin from the other schools... she even provided margaritas! Now THAT’S a teacher meeting! My teaching BFF and I got asked to do a training for the new teachers in August on our leadership program we do at our school, and I am pumped! I’m proud to be seen as a teacher leader!
This is my last full day with my nephew. We are going to try to get to the pool today! He doesn’t know this yet, but we are taking him out for ice cream tonight ! MH has been so sweet and patient with him!
CS/Q: just glad to be seeing the end of AF.
@emeraldduchess - GL on your ultrasound today! I know you've been looking forward to it/dreading it. Hopefully you get some answers!
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD: 8
WAYDTGKU: PNVs, BBT charting, CM & CP tracking, OPKs, Pre-Seed, Mucinex (begin on CD10), and baby aspirin.
R/R: Rant - I cannot wait until grad school is over. I feel like all I do is work, eat, do homework, and sleep. Oh, and last night DH did that thing again where he falls asleep as soon as he gets home and doesn't wake up until the next morning. He only briefly got up to move from the couch to the bed. I was so aggravated, I wanted to tell him, "You know, once we have a kid, that shit's not gonna fly because I can't do this by myself." But, I didn't. I just kept my mouth shut, because I know this is still new to him (he's been working this new job less than two months), and I know how hard he's working and I don't want to make him feel bad.
CS/Q: Nada
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
CD: 13
WAYDTGKU: Femara, Metformin, prenatal, Conceive Plus, HIO EOD, BW on CD21, temping/tracking with FF.
R/R: My work neighbors moved in yesterday...it hasn’t been too loud yet, but we will see! This may decrease the time I can be on here...I do mobile and really shouldn’t be on my phone so much, but I’ll still try and check in when I can. Also, first day with no coffee...I feel good about it because I don’t need the caffeine or all the calories from the creamer! I may change my tune later today though! Haha.CS/Q: No, just waiting for O.
@emeraldduchess good luck with your US today...I know you are looking forward to getting a glimpse, and hopefully the cramping after won’t be too bad! Hopefully the drive will go smoothly too!
@newmomtx06 sorry you had a stomach bug yesterday! Glad you feel better today, hopefully you can take it easy even though you have stuff to get done!
@ejoseph16 sounds like your meeting went great...and that’s very exciting you were chosen to lead training!! Have fun with your nephew today, swimming & ice cream sounds like the perfect day!! There isn’t anything much sweeter than seeing your DH interact with a little one, is there?! ☺️
@ttcbabyodo sorry grad school is a bit overwhelming right now! How much longer do you have? That definitely stinks your DH slept through the whole evening/night and you had no time together! Hopefully that won’t happen again tonight!
@bluetickgal MH is a constant reminder of how I know he’s going to be an amazing father! Last night he did bed time routine and it was the sweetest. MH came into my life after my nephew was born, so to hear him say “I love you, uncle JJ” is the sweetest. It melts my heart! I admire your ability to cut coffee! I cut back to 8 oz. of caffeinated coffee a day, but giving it up completely?! Props. Major props!
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
@newmomtx06 Welcome! Glad you are feeling better.
@ejoseph16 Glad the meeting went well. Margaritas? That’s awesome! That’s great that you are going to be doing some leadership stuff.
@ttcbabyodo When is grad school done? It will be such a relief for you!
@bluetickgal GL with the no caffeine! I tried and failed with that.
Month/Cycle: 11/11
CD: 14
WAYDTGKU: Ava, OPK, Acupuncture, Chinese herbs, fertility testing
R/R: Today I really need to get packing/organized for my trip! I also have an acupuncture appointment this afternoon. No signs of O yet so I guess that means HIO creepy ninja style while staying with my sister..
CS/Q:
TTC since 9/2018
10/19- First RE visit
2/20- DH had surgery for bilateral varicoceles
7/20- IUI with 5 mg letrozole- BFN
9/20- IVF. 9 eggs retrieved, 9 mature, 8 fertilized with ICSI, 7 blasts, 4 PGT-A normal
11/20- Mock transfer/ERA
12/20- FET #1- transferred one 4AB- BFN
3/21- FET #2- transferred one 3AB- BFP! Due Dec 2021
12/21- Baby girl born!
@newmomtx06 Yuck. Sorry about the stomach bug. That’s the worst.
@ejoseph16 So glad your meeting was awesome. Enjoy the last day with your nephew. I hope the pool is great.
@ttcbabyodo I definitely don’t miss grad school. Hope things slow down soon. Sorry about your H falling asleep on you again. It’s so hard to feel like you’re alone in everything. I hope he gets acclimated soon so you can get more time with him.
@bluetickgal I hope things keep going well with the work neighbors. I gave up coffee in law school when I was doing Jenny Craig also because of the calories in the creamer. Switched to black tea for the caffeine boost. It worked. I don’t put cream in tea, so less calories.
@misshelen86 Have a great trip. Hope the ninja style does the trick for you.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
CD: 14
WAYDTGKU: FF, BBT, OPKs, CM, Metformin, Clomid, etc.
R/R: No positive OPK yet, so we’re just moving along. DH wasn’t feeling well last night so we missed a chance. It’s frustrating, bc I’ll make it happen EOD even if I feel sick and he won’t. It’s just another reason that I wonder if I want it more or if he’s just still so optimistic that he doesn’t worry about it. I can’t tell.
CS/Q: Nope.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
@emeraldduchess - I hope all goes well with the u/s!
@newmomtx06 - Oh no, I hope you're feeling better today!
@ejoseph16 - that's exciting that you're being recognized as a leader! Have fun at the pool and getting ice cream! How fun that he got to spend a week with you. So sweet about your H!
@ttcbabyodo - yeah there are a couple things I've wanted to be like "do you think this is going to fly if/when we have a kid??" We can bite our tongues together....or not!
@bluetickgal - good luck with no coffee!
@misshelen86 - good luck packing and have a nice acupuncture appt!
Month/Cycle: 11/11
CD: 13
WAYDTGKU: OPK's, CM, EOD, prenatals, shatavari, evening primrose oil, preseed, Ovia, acupuncture
R/R: rant re: SA in spoiler because I'm long winded....
CS/Q: Maybe TMI (if there's such a thing as TMI on a TTC board) - have we all heard that saliva can be harmful to sperm so shouldn't used as lube? It's one of those tips that I've mostly disregarded for the sake of my mental health, like you can't seriously tell me no one has ever conceived when there's been oral sex involved. But now almost a year in I'm thinking maybe I've been too lax about random pointers like that. I did start using preseed, but I mean...sometimes there's saliva involved too beforehand honestly. It's sex after all! Anyway, do other people keep this in mind when HIO?
And about the saliva thing: yes, the though crosses my mind. And because I'm such a worrier, I try to use as little as possible during HIO, especially in FW. Squeezing a tube of PreSeed just isn't as romantic as...well, other things, lol.
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
@ttcbabyodo wow, you are a busy, busy lady!! Hopefully the next few months will fly by and at least grad school classes will be off your plate! What are you getting your degree in? Will you leave the military after or still have time left on your contract?
@misshelen86 thanks, we’ll see if I can stick it out! Haha, good luck with the creepy ninja style...that should make it interesting!
@mercury94 Thanks! Oh, that’s a good alternative! I do like tea, but would probably need to put a bit of sugar in it. I’m gonna try and stick with the no caffeine for now, but that’s definitely an option if I feel like I need some! That stinks DH wasn’t feeling up to it last night, hopefully he’ll make up for it tonight! That’s definitely frustrating to feel like you are putting in more effort, but maybe it’s like you said and he’s just optimistic about it.
@whitealbum29 that stinks you all had a not-so-great convo about the SA! Hopefully he’ll come around and be willing to do one! As far as the saliva thing, that’s something I think about and try to limit as well...I would think with using sperm-friendly lube as well, it wouldn’t be that big of a deal! Although now you have me thinking more about it...
@newmomtx06 ugh, sorry about the tummy trouble but glad you're feeling better!
@ttcbabyodo sorry about all the stress with school, work, and the busy/sleepy DH. I often wonder how we're going to juggle everything with a little one, too. DH is more than aware that his Saturdays of sleeping until 10 and watching soccer all day won't be a thing anymore.
@bluetickgal good luck cutting back on the caffeine! I never like coffee but cutting back from 2 cups of tea to one caffeinated/1 decaf has been tougher than I thought. Not as hard as cutting back on the wine, though.
@misshelen86 good luck getting organized today! I am excited for you and to hear about your trip.
@mercury94 I get the frustration when DH isn't up to HIO. My DH is still optimistic and chill about it, but now that we're hitting the 1 year mark, he's starting to understand that sometimes you need to power through.
@whitealbum29 my DH got a little upset/defensive about having his SA done, too. His mind immediately jumped to the worst case scenario but he calmed down once his did some reading and found out that there are many things that can be done that are non-invasive and won't cost thousands of dollars. I'm sure he'll come around like mine did.
Got back from my hycosy scan a little while ago and everything checked out! Nothing is blocked and there don't seem to be any structural issues. It was uncomfortable, but not worse than period cramps. DH came in with me for the procedure and he just kept saying "damn, you handled that well!" Obviously he's never had two people and a camera all up in his business like that. I think he feels quite silly about dragging his feet on getting his SA!
@ttcbabyodo so much respect to your schedule! You got this.
@mercury94 I can feel this way about DH too. I am all in, tracking, temping, and taking OPK’s. During my FW last time he “just didn’t feel like it.” I was so angry. I am trying to be understanding because he has had a very busy few months But it’s hard to feel like you’re the only one who cares.
@misshelen86 enjoy the trip!
@whitealbum29 so sorry about SA troubles. Hopefully he gets on board soon!
@emeraldduchess glad everything went well today and that you got some extra points with DH!
Thanks, ladies for commiserating on the DH not feeling up to it stuff. We had lunch today and I mentioned it to him. He said that he’s just still optimistic and he figured that it’s only really required when I get a positive OPK. Also that he doesn’t really do well with just telling him we are supposed to. He wants me to help him get in the mood, which I can’t do when I’m not in the mood either and I’m just initiating for baby making purposes. It’s frustrating, but we’ll figure it out. I just hate that I’m over here tracking everything and trying to figure out when our best chance is and he’s expecting romance.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
And thanks @newmomtx06 & @emeraldduchess! I feel crazy for wanting to add a child to the mix, but I kinda feel like at our age it's now or never, you know? Plus, when I was younger, I always told myself, "I'll have kids when I'm ready" and I've never felt more ready than I do now. I'm at the most stable I've ever been, and even though it's scary to think about becoming parents, I know that time is tickin'!
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
@ttcbabyodo sounds like you have a great plan! That’s awesome you have been able to get your Masters while serving, although I’m sure that has not been easy at all! Big props to you!! That is exciting you will be able to have a second career after you retire...although I’ll admit a little funny to think about retiring at 37! I’d say being a school therapist will be a nice change of pace from the military. What branch are you? My husband was a Marine, but before I met him...so I’ve heard lots of stories, but have not experienced military life.
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
Have you ever seen "The Great Sperm Race"? It's a documentary that you can find on YouTube. It's kind of silly in some ways(humans portray the sperm), but it does a really good job of showing all the obstacles that sperm face on the way to the egg. If you can get your SO to watch it, it might help him understand why it's not a bad idea to have a SA!