Y’all I’m in an awkward predicament. My cousin passed away last night. We weren’t super close because it was by marriage, they live far away, and he was severely autistic so he didn’t talk to anyone. Anyway, if they have an open service for him I’d like to go. The only problem is I’d have to bring Nate and my mom will be there. She hasn’t spoken to me in 4 years and hasn’t made a single attempt to ask about or meet Nate. I don’t want him around her and if family is present she’ll probably put on a show and act like she cares which is going to send me back through my emotions about this relationship. It’d be so easy to just not go, but also so wrong to not go.
Oh @mccurleya I’m sorry. Is there any one to watch Nate so you can go alone? I guess you could always send flowers because you shouldn’t feel like you have to go if it will bring you to unhappy feelings, you know?
@mccurleya I would go, because you want to. No advice on how to deal with your mom. I have similar issues with my mom and I don’t know how I will respond the next time I see her. That relationship is so done with me that I doubt her presence or show would bother me, but then again I don’t know. I am sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry, @mccurleya - for your loss and for the situation you find yourself in. Do you have other family in the area? Maybe they would have a local babysitter that you could trust to leave Nate with while you attend services? I agree with @ddrrt1982 that you should go because you want to go, and I 100% get wanting to keep Nate away from your mom - maybe there's a way to do both.
Taxicab confession that I'm posting here because I can't stop thinking about it and I can't say it to anyone else: I am panicking about how stupid my husband and I have been. The doctor didn't give me the IUD at my last appointment - despite the countless times I stated I wanted it and the paperwork I filled out to get it, the office just never ordered it and now I can't get it until the end of this month. We've been using condoms, but not 100% as reliably as we should. I've now put us on a full sex freeze until I get my period because I just don't trust us to be safe and the anxiety is killing me. GAH.
I am still feeling well. I expect by the end of next week I should start feeling like crap.
I did make myself really nervous. I was getting my hcg tested and my numbers weren't doubling as quickly as my other pregnancies. Mind you, they were still doubling every 36 hours, which is still great, but it made me nervous. My gut says everything is fine with this baby, but it's hard to not compare. I just need to remember every pregnancy is different.
We had LOs 15 month appt this week and they asked about words. He says dada, ball, baba, and again. Lol he will NOT say mama no matter what i do to get him to say it. If someone says "wheres mama" he will look for me but he wont say it. So frustrating!
@sgrn18@mccurleya V is the opposite. She says mama, but won't say papa. If you ask where's papa she'll point right at him. And she has called him that, but won't when we ask. Sometimes she calls him mama, lol. She says a few words, some are more "right" than others, and lots of animal sounds. Which maybe are words?
and she is such a toddler! Walking. Won't eat what she liked a few days ago. Shakes her head No and pushes things away. Fights sleep - omg - we'll take any advice on that one!
@fatstagnation Nate is the same. He’ll only eat chicken nuggets, goldfish, and junk food now. I hate it, but if he’s eating I guess it’s fine for now. And the tantrums are reaaaaal. Let me know if you get that advice because I could use it too 😂
Omg yes the tantrums are next level crazy! LO is getting all 4 canine teeth at the same freaking time on top of his wild mood swings lol. Its been a very tiring weekend.
@sgrn18 Nate is getting his next teeth too. I’m guessing k9. It’s rough! I’m trying everything to keep him happy and calm. Currently freezing ice pops now. Haha
@fatstagnation I have been feeling awful for about a week now. I have the appetite of a toddler and my food aversions are extreme. I know I am not, but I honestly feel too old for all of this. I can’t wait for this to be done so I never have to do it again. Second tri can’t come fast enough. I know I sound like a brat and I am sorry. I am still so appreciative.
My ultrasound is in two weeks at 8w2d. It would have been this week, but the holiday will put a gap where they can’t scan me due to the holiday. In the event something is wrong, I pushed it out. I don’t want to worry, so I am waiting until after the holiday.
This is another month that I'm not pg. DH was at another conference during my fertile window. I'm starting to get mad at him lol.
Yes, the temper tantrums! sheesh usually they're over nothing! Also, all she wants to eat is cheese. She even says cheese (it sounds like ssshhhjjjeeese) and points at the fridge. She will also eat cheeze its. Sometimes she'll eat fruit, and she seams to like oatmeal some days. hahaha
@fatstagnation I didn't realize you were trying again - fingers crossed for you!!!
Add Nora to Team Eat Like a Toddler. Although I was originally opposed to them (for no damn reason), our saving grace has been those fruit and veggie pouches. She thinks they're a special treat and they make me feel like she got SOMETHING healthy into her on a day she's eating junk. She likes Buddy Fruits & Veggies (which are super cheap at BJ's), Gerber, and HappyTot (but HATED HappyBaby 🤷🏻♀️).
Nora's not so tantrum-y these days, but has been very clingy and if she's tired, she cries hysterically if I am not holding her. She's also entered a SUPER fun hitting phase.
@ashtuesday we are also in the hitting phase. He slaps everyone in the face. He hit my 6 year old in the eye with his water bottle and she cried forever. He also enjoys getting behind you on the couch and kicking you until you move.
Well, Nora spilled hot coffee on herself this morning and I want to lie under a bus. She is fine - we acted fast, she's just got a red spot on her belly that we're treating with aloe and a prescription our doctor called in, but holy crap. I stupidly put my coffee down on the table and turned my back for a minute. Jesus Christ.
ETA: N took a nap an hour after it happened and woke up without a mark on her and no sensitivity when you touch it. I am very grateful - and have officially had the fear of God put into me when it comes to always keeping an eye on her!
Nate is all over the place. One day he’s happy to play alone and eat whatever. The next day it’s like he’s on a hunger strike and is super clingy. He’ll never turn down a Cheeto or a cookie though... He’s also just now hitting separation anxiety. He won’t let me leave him with ANYONE. My husband will be home tomorrow after two and a half weeks being gone and I’m wondering if I’ll even be able to leave him with my husband. And yes to the hitting. I get slapped in the face at least twice a day.
Sam is the first of my kiddos to throw temper tantrums. And, heaven forbid you give her less than what her brothers and sister get. She so desperately wants to be older...at least until 8:30 pm when she wants to nurse all night. She is definitely spunky.
The hitting! Mostly me. Then she does a cheesy smile like “oh, mom! I’m just playing!” My fear is she’s not showing empathy when I’m act sad about it but maybe I’m expecting too much there? @ashtuesday that’s scary. I’m glad N is ok. These kids are quick when they want to be. @fatstagnation I’m sorry. It’s so frustrating. We’re a negative this month too...
Thanks, ladies. It's kinda like, define "trying". I def wouldn't tell a doctor we've been trying unsuccessfully. But we've been open to it for a while now. I'm starting to get antsy. The funny thing is we took V out to eat and she totally was into the waiter. usually she's stranger danger toward adults, but she loved this guy. By the end of the night he was like, OK, she's so cute I'm ready for another. My wife has wanted one for a while... lol
OMG the rocks. We have a gravel driveway. and yard, now...
@shoretobe Nora started by hitting just me (and I'm still her primary target), then branched out to my husband. She plainly stares at us, watching to see how we'll react, and has even attempted to hit Murph and the dogs to really test us. We consistently tell her we don't hit, show her how to do nice and say sorry. We're not as worried about her empathy-wise (she'll often hang her head in shame after hitting), but her new MO is to hit and then immediately say sorry and go to kiss. I worry because I don't want her to a) think she can do whatever she wants so long as she apologizes or b) think that kissing is a way of apologizing... But also, I probably need to remember that she's one lol
@ashtuesday I wouldn’t even have thought about learning (or really the ramifications of learning) kisses mean “I’m sorry” - good catch on that. I keep saying ”we’re not mean girls” and try to show her gentle I’m a big offender of forgetting she’s one. I’m working on it
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Is there any one to watch Nate so you can go alone? I guess you could always send flowers because you shouldn’t feel like you have to go if it will bring you to unhappy feelings, you know?
@ashtuesday good luck! (But secretly, give us another since the rest of us aren’t!)
I am still feeling well. I expect by the end of next week I should start feeling like crap.
I did make myself really nervous. I was getting my hcg tested and my numbers weren't doubling as quickly as my other pregnancies. Mind you, they were still doubling every 36 hours, which is still great, but it made me nervous. My gut says everything is fine with this baby, but it's hard to not compare. I just need to remember every pregnancy is different.
@mccurleya thats hilarious!
She says a few words, some are more "right" than others, and lots of animal sounds. Which maybe are words?
and she is such a toddler! Walking. Won't eat what she liked a few days ago. Shakes her head No and pushes things away. Fights sleep - omg - we'll take any advice on that one!
How are you feeling?
My ultrasound is in two weeks at 8w2d. It would have been this week, but the holiday will put a gap where they can’t scan me due to the holiday. In the event something is wrong, I pushed it out. I don’t want to worry, so I am waiting until after the holiday.
This is another month that I'm not pg. DH was at another conference during my fertile window. I'm starting to get mad at him lol.
Yes, the temper tantrums! sheesh usually they're over nothing! Also, all she wants to eat is cheese. She even says cheese (it sounds like ssshhhjjjeeese) and points at the fridge. She will also eat cheeze its. Sometimes she'll eat fruit, and she seams to like oatmeal some days. hahaha
Add Nora to Team Eat Like a Toddler. Although I was originally opposed to them (for no damn reason), our saving grace has been those fruit and veggie pouches. She thinks they're a special treat and they make me feel like she got SOMETHING healthy into her on a day she's eating junk. She likes Buddy Fruits & Veggies (which are super cheap at BJ's), Gerber, and HappyTot (but HATED HappyBaby 🤷🏻♀️).
Nora's not so tantrum-y these days, but has been very clingy and if she's tired, she cries hysterically if I am not holding her. She's also entered a SUPER fun hitting phase.
ETA: N took a nap an hour after it happened and woke up without a mark on her and no sensitivity when you touch it. I am very grateful - and have officially had the fear of God put into me when it comes to always keeping an eye on her!
@ashtuesday that’s scary. I’m glad N is ok. These kids are quick when they want to be.
@fatstagnation I’m sorry. It’s so frustrating. We’re a negative this month too...
The funny thing is we took V out to eat and she totally was into the waiter. usually she's stranger danger toward adults, but she loved this guy. By the end of the night he was like, OK, she's so cute I'm ready for another. My wife has wanted one for a while... lol
OMG the rocks. We have a gravel driveway. and yard, now...
I’m a big offender of forgetting she’s one. I’m working on it