My friend is a twat waffle. So this is a weird situation... I told her the girl name we chose, and she said that name was her “second choice girl name” and has been weird toward me ever sense.
1. She just had a baby BOY three months ago and 2. How would I know what your second choice girl name is? Wtf am I supposed to do? ..ask everyone their top three names for each gender??
She brought it up again the other day.. basically saying how if she has a girl next she will be able to use her first choice, Isabella Pearl and there will already be a Lily. I’m especially annoyed that she tried to make me second guess my choice by saying “Liliana Lamattina haha” , calling it a tongue twister and has too many syllables. Like, go away!!!!
edited to add: I also told her our boy name choice which is Nico. She said, “oh if we didn’t name our son Micah it was going to be Domenic and we were going to call him Nico.” WHAT!? Those are two different names.... Nico is from Nicolas. I can’t.
there are some typos in her texts but you get the idea:
My cousin who is trying to take claim for 1/3 of my dad's estate is a twat waffle. Legally only my brother and I are entitled (dad died without a will) but she's my brother's sister (they have the same mom. My dad had my brother with my aunt, his brother's widow. Yes, it is all kinds of twisted. My cousin and I have the same brother) anyway, when my dad first died she was all sweet and like "we really want to split it 3 ways" and I didn't really disagree because my dad loved her and I had just lost my dad and was emotional, etc. but once I signed my brother as executor because I live out of state, she stopped communicating with me and I just recently discovered she blocked me on Instagram (after I commented about some of the mildly questionable things she was posting, like how did you afford a new car when you told me you we're broke since you quit your job to help our brother with my dad's estate) anyway, in itself it's not a huge deal if she wants to block me on Instagram, but I feel super ragey about it, because it just feels shady and now I'm struggling internally because now I don't want to split my inheritance with her, but also, I feel like my dad would probably want me to anyway. But I REALLY don't want to. It'll be a while before the estate is settled so I have time to think on it, but I'm really pissed at her behavior and what feels like backstabbing. She is being a twat waffle!
@peppyj9 that sucks! You have enough going on with dealing with losing your dad! What a money grabbing biatch! Have you discussed it with your brother at all? What are his thoughts on it?
I’m nominating my In Laws again. This weekend we went to MH’s grandpas funeral so I had to be nice, but internally I was livid because apparently everyone there had been told I was pregnant. (Side note: haven’t even been able to tell my own gramma yet) And to make it even better, my MIL apparently felt the need to tell at least my SIL about my previous MC...which I found out because SIL’s boyfriend knew about it.
I week and a half ago 2 teenage boys stole our cat off our back porch. Despite an outpouring of community support and a large search effort, no one has seen our cat, Jack, since. The teenagers claim they carried him around for a few blocks then put him down. It's pretty obvious they are lying, but the police aren't doing much about it. My husband and I have been devastated and stressed. We're not sleeping well and now I'm having complications with my pregnancy (SCH). June has been terrible.
@peppyj9 I hate when family makes the emotional side of death harder by mixing in financial stuff. It's not a popular opinion, but if your dad didn't leave a will, he decided not to state an opinion.
@leprechaunlady I haven't yet talked to my brother. He was on board with splitting it 3 ways and because they were raised together more than he and I were because they share a mom, he is closer with her. So I already feel the odd man out. Legally speaking, she doesn't have a leg to stand on as she is my dad's niece and is fairly low on the totem pole of successors. My dad had no spouse, so it is legally split 50/50 between myself and my brother. I just know it will cause bad blood with my brother if I choose not to cut her in too. But to be honest, we didn't have much of a relationship anyway because we were raised separately by our own moms. I'm much closer with my brother through mom. But that doesn't mean I want to cause an even bigger rift. Half of me is like "it's just money and we don't even know how much yet, just play nice and take your 1/3" the other half of me is like "your cousin is a shady bitch, who will inherit her own dad's money when my grandpa dies (she was put in place of her dad in my grandparents will since he died when she was a baby) and you are starting a family, this is your birthright and she'll have to wait for hers" God, typing this out feels like such a soap opera!
@persnickity that's what my friend says too. And that's what the law says. But I want to try and do what feels right. I don't want to feel like I have "dirty money" I mean, truthfully I feel like I would deserve every penny based on my childhood, but, I would definitely cause a rift with some family if I don't cut her in.
@MrsJessS it's SO frustrating! I'm sorry about your in laws too! Omg, do they not have things of their own to discuss?? How disrespectful to share YOUR personal business without your permission!
@noranorabobora I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! Those rotten boys! I hope your cat turns up soon. MH told me that before we met, his roommate had a party and someone let his (now our) cat out and she was missing for a month before she turned up on the doorstep looking ragged and hungry but otherwise ok. I hope you have a similar outcome. FX things get better FM with your pregnancy too ❤
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Edit: can I also add they originally wanted to cut their brother in too? The brother that they share a mom with, who is not a blood relative of my dad at all. I put my foot down quick with that one. Igh, the more I think about how everything transpired the angrier I get.
@peppyj9 im so sorry, that is so stressful! Its such a tough decision for you but ultimately you need to do what you feel is right for you & your own little family. She sounds like a right shady character! Who quits their job to help sort an estate? & then buys a new car? Shady af! I hope you can find peace with whatever decision you come to, as im sure it wont be an easy one.
@peppyj9 If you want to maintain a relationship with your brother, then all that matters is that you are on the same page at the end of the day. It might be something where you talk about giving her a lesser amount, but still something in recognition of the relationship. But the brother getting cut in too?? Um, no. That's just greedy.
@persnickity that's actually not a bad compromise. She definitely had a relationship with my dad, I can't deny that. I need to sleep on it some more. I'm still angry so probably shouldn't be making decisions while my emotions are running high. But yea, I immediately said no to them trying to cut their brother in, that was just crazy talk. Thanks for your input ❤
@peppyj9 ugh, this sounds so stressful. I’m sorry! If your brother feels so strongly about it, he can cut her in from his half of the inheritance. Your half isn’t his to give.
@noranorabobora My heart breaks for you. I’d go to their parents. The police have to take theft seriously—especially caught on video—and if there’s a possibility of animal abuse or cruelty, that just compounds the situation. Really frustrating that they aren’t being more helpful, but if you keep in touch with them they’ll know you aren’t going anywhere. I truly hope your kitty comes home soon!
Re: Twat Waffle Tuesday 6/18
1. She just had a baby BOY three months ago and 2. How would I know what your second choice girl name is? Wtf am I supposed to do? ..ask everyone their top three names for each gender??
She brought it up again the other day.. basically saying how if she has a girl next she will be able to use her first choice, Isabella Pearl and there will already be a Lily. I’m especially annoyed that she tried to make me second guess my choice by saying “Liliana Lamattina haha” , calling it a tongue twister and has too many syllables. Like, go away!!!!
edited to add: I also told her our boy name choice which is Nico. She said, “oh if we didn’t name our son Micah it was going to be Domenic and we were going to call him Nico.” WHAT!? Those are two different names.... Nico is from Nicolas. I can’t.
there are some typos in her texts but you get the idea:
This is long so I'll put it in a spoiler.
@peppyj9 oh that’s so frustrating!
I’m nominating my In Laws again. This weekend we went to MH’s grandpas funeral so I had to be nice, but internally I was livid because apparently everyone there had been told I was pregnant. (Side note: haven’t even been able to tell my own gramma yet) And to make it even better, my MIL apparently felt the need to tell at least my SIL about my previous MC...which I found out because SIL’s boyfriend knew about it.
@persnickity that's what my friend says too. And that's what the law says. But I want to try and do what feels right. I don't want to feel like I have "dirty money" I mean, truthfully I feel like I would deserve every penny based on my childhood, but, I would definitely cause a rift with some family if I don't cut her in.
@MrsJessS it's SO frustrating! I'm sorry about your in laws too! Omg, do they not have things of their own to discuss?? How disrespectful to share YOUR personal business without your permission!
@noranorabobora I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! Those rotten boys! I hope your cat turns up soon. MH told me that before we met, his roommate had a party and someone let his (now our) cat out and she was missing for a month before she turned up on the doorstep looking ragged and hungry but otherwise ok. I hope you have a similar outcome. FX things get better FM with your pregnancy too ❤
Edit: spelling
Edit: can I also add they originally wanted to cut their brother in too? The brother that they share a mom with, who is not a blood relative of my dad at all. I put my foot down quick with that one. Igh, the more I think about how everything transpired the angrier I get.
I hope you can find peace with whatever decision you come to, as im sure it wont be an easy one.
@noranorabobora My heart breaks for you. I’d go to their parents. The police have to take theft seriously—especially caught on video—and if there’s a possibility of animal abuse or cruelty, that just compounds the situation. Really frustrating that they aren’t being more helpful, but if you keep in touch with them they’ll know you aren’t going anywhere. I truly hope your kitty comes home soon!