FTM Check-in - June

marebear15 · June 2019

EDD/Weeks + Days:

Size of baby:

How are you feeling?

Questions for STM+?

Are you doing anything to capture/journal your pregnancy?

peppyj9 · June 2019

I know I'm not the only FTM... but I'll get us started!

EDD/Weeks + Days: Jan 20, 20/7WKs1day

Size of baby: blueberry

How are you feeling? Pretty good other than fatigued. Anxious formy first real appt.

Questions for STM+? I mean I have questions about how painful labor really is, but I'm scared to ask. 😅

Are you doing anything to capture/journal your pregnancy? Well, I have a notebook with all the pg tests taped to it because I kept taking them until I got a line stealer. Is it normal to keep the tests? Like I want to, but also, they're pee sticks. I've thought about starting to do video documentation for the pregnancy but I'm not really sure what I'd film other than showing my bump grow. I guess document symptoms and appts? I dunno! What have other moms done?

stashattack · June 2019

EDD/Weeks + Days: Jan 17th/7w4d

Size of baby: jellybean

How are you feeling? Didn't sleep well last night because all the nausea is preventing from doing workouts and that is causing my scoliosis to flare back up. Though kitty was super cuddly last night and was planted between us most of the night.

Questions for STM+? how do you all manage to stay active with all this nausea?!?!?

Are you doing anything to capture/journal your pregnancy? No? IDK i'm not the journaling type. Though I feel guilty saying that too LOL.

somewhereinnyc · June 2019

EDD/Weeks + Days: Jan 5th/ 9 + 2

Size of baby: an olive

How are you feeling? Doing a bit better this week w the N/V but it’s still there. Nervous and just hoping everything is ok in there.

Questions for STM+? None in particular but open to any advice..

Are you doing anything to capture/journal your pregnancy? Not really.. maybe after first tri when I feel more confident

biolprof · June 2019

EDD/Weeks + Days: 7 or 8 weeks. Not sure yet. Waiting for first ultrasound next week.

Size of baby: bumblebee or raspberry likely?

How are you feeling? Terrible to be honest which is comforting actually.

Questions for STM+? What is the one thing you were happiest you got to help with new baby?

Are you doing anything to capture/journal your pregnancy? Nah I'm not really a journaler and I get annoyed at the weekly bump photos on Facebook so I don't plan to partake.

dumbledoredies · June 2019

@stashattack I don't have bad nausea but I actually feel better when I'm moving and active. It's when I sit down that I start to feel tired and crappy. So I guess having another kid is a good distraction for me.

@biolprof like help from other people? My mom would come over once a day (in the evenings) for I think the first week or 2 so I could go upstairs and sit in a bath for 20 minutes. She would also go around and pick up, do laundry, etc. It was so helpful. She stayed with us our first 3-4 nights home. We were at the hospital for 5 days and barely got any sleep so she helped me with the baby overnight the first 2 nights so my husband could catch up on sleep. It was such a huge help because then he was able to help me.

marebear15 · June 2019

@peppyj9 - The thing about labor is it's unpredictable. For some tough ladies, it could be the worst thing imaginable, and for other "wimpy" ladies, they might pull through like a boss. I didn't find the pain too intense until transition and then pushing came as a relief. Just prepare yourself for a long labor and let yourself be prepared to use meds or the epidural if it becomes unbearable.

@stashattack - I'm not really staying active, just pushing through the nuasea. I know it's only going to last another 5-7 weeks and then I can get back to my normal routine of yoga, walks, and light workouts.

@biolprof - I was happiest for meals after the hospital. But honestly I was overwhelmed with "help" from my family. MIL came to the hospital all day every day we were there, and right around 5pm, everyone (my 3 sisters, 1 brother, MIL, FIL, BIL, SIL and 3 kids) would come and it was overwhelming. 2-4 weeks postpartum, my parents came to stay with us and help out. And while my mom did clean my house, do my dishes, and drive me everywhere, I hated having people in the house. I couldn't just go braless and trying to figure out this nursing mothering thing. I had to actually get dressed and go in a separate room every time I had to nurse.
In hindsight, I should have just laid out some ground rules about when I would accept visitors, but everyone said that I would want the help.

biolprof · June 2019

@marebear15 interesting that you felt overwhelmed by help. I can't imagine we will get much help. My parents and in laws live 5 hours a way. I hope they don't want to stay with us but I do wonder if they will come for a little while to stay in town. My parents likely will be helpful. I have a feeling my in laws will be less than helpful. How do I navigate setting ground rules?

marebear15 · June 2019

@biolprof - I am very blessed to have two families that are in town and I'm on good terms with all of them. My ILs are FIL, MIL, SIL, BIL, and their three kids. I then have an older sister and three younger siblings that also live in town. My parents live out of state but visit often.
This time around, I'm going to set up an hour every day in the hospital that people can visit. I will try to rotate so that everyone gets to visit once, but not everyone all at once. Once back home, I'm going to do the same thing, where people can visit from say 6pm-7pm every day. And my parents are not going to stay with us when they come visit. Of course, when they come down, they can visit more than an hour a day, but I don't want them waking me up at 6am doing dishes or making breakfast.
I'm simply going to tell people, when they ask when they can come visit, that visiting hour is blank to blank. Thankfully no one really comes over unannounced, and they normally ask.

persnickity · June 2019

@biolprof We established ground rules before the birth. No one could stay in our house. People could come over on certain days during certain hours. I think the best thing we did was say no visitors the first few days home from the hospital. It gave us a chance to bond as a family and figure out things.

That said, I get more stressed by having people around than doing things on my own. Also, DH handled all of the meals. I didn't have to deal with any of that.

What helped the most for me was having a carrier. It made my life so much easier. DD loved being worn and I got my hands back.

dumbledoredies · June 2019

I never would have been okay if people were staying in my house (except the first few days when my mom stayed). My mom is literally the only person in the world that I knew I could handle having stay over and it was honestly a last minute decision. I was pretty anxious the first few nights and wanted my mom there to help. She was also the only other person besides MH that I would just whip my boob out in front of to BF because that's incredibly stressful to figure out the first few weeks.

@marebear15 I love the idea of setting out specific times people can visit. I may have to use that this time. Everyone was pretty respectful of our time but I had to turn my BIL away once at the hospital because he just showed up with no notice and my IL's tended to overstay their welcome at our house (2-3 hour visits) and I would end up crying (once they left) because I was overwhelmed.

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