Community› The Bump Month Clubs› November 2019 Moms
November 2019 Moms
New Discussion

Twat Waffle Tuesday 6/4

ABabyMarshallABabyMarshall member
in November 2019 Moms
It's Tuesday, and that means it's time to tell us about that special Twat Waffle in your life... 

Report Reply to Post

Re: Twat Waffle Tuesday 6/4

  • ABabyMarshallABabyMarshall member
    My sister. I'm a little hurt by her lack of caring about this pregnancy. She's a Labor and Delivery nurse (!!!) and hasn't even had anything on the clinical side of things to offer or ask-- forget sisterly. When I told her, she never even asked how far along I was or how I was feeling-- and she still hasn't. She does home visits on the side, so has a doppler and other devices at her disposal to check up on things,even just for fun, but hasn't offered. I feel like she really doesn't care.
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • purplefan1purplefan1 member
    @ABabyMarshall any chance she is jealous?
    Report Reply
  • ABabyMarshallABabyMarshall member
    @purplefan1 I mean, I guess it's possible although she says she really doesn't want kids or at least not yet. They have some financial goals and traveling they want to do before then. But even at that, her and her spouse have a lot that we don't have (mainly financially) and I manage to not be salty and even legitimately happy for them. 
    Report Reply
  • purplefan1purplefan1 member
    Poke her. Hard.
    Report Reply
  • ABabyMarshallABabyMarshall member
    @purplefan1 😂 I'm trying not to sweat it 


    Me:

    Report Reply
  • rogro118rogro118 member
    @ABabyMarshall that’s annoying.  My sister was like that with my first pregnancy (granted she’s in finance, not l&d).  It ended up that she was jealous since they had been trying for a couple years and just started fertility testing.  She had not shared that with me, otherwise I would have been sensitive to it.  Anyways, she ended up pregnant and was due 15 weeks after me and that completely changed her outlook on my pregnancy too.  I know the feeling and it stinks!!

    My first TW ever...My SIL is back to being all friendly.  We haven’t spoken with her since she was awful to us on Christmas and that was the final straw of her and my husband’s already strained relationship.  She’s legitimately crazy and has always lied to us constantly, will be awful, then disappear for a few weeks and just ignore the fact and start being nice again without apologizing.  It’s a toxic and exhausting pattern and I don’t want my kids to know her like we do.  Anyways, she has sent two presents to my son this week via my in laws (she lives literally up the street so could easily drop by and apologize at anytime over the last 6 months buuuut whatever) and keeps texting asking if he likes them.  This is her way of trying to get back on our friendly side and I’m just not having it.  She said so many nasty things about my infertility and me in general and I don’t want to put myself or my family in that vulnerable situation again.  I hate this and knowing her ways causes so much anxiety.  My in laws think we should be all lovey dovey because she just had (another) baby, but we’re just not going there again.  I’ve tried for years to be the positive one trying to maintain her and my husband’s relationship, but now I see what he’s dealt with for his whole life and having children puts a new outlook on it.  I just feel like this 🙄🙄🙄
    Report Reply
  • emeraldcity1214emeraldcity1214 member
    @rogro118 do not feel bad for cutting toxic family out of your life. I have recently done the same and it was the best decision I have made. I should have done it years ago! 
    Report Reply
  • ABabyMarshallABabyMarshall member
    @rogro118 family is really exhausting and frustrating. Definitely stick to your guns about family you've decided to cut off. I read a quote recently that said "boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously" and it's really true. If she's hurt you guys through the years, it's a great act of self love to say no more.
    Report Reply
  • mc0303mc0303 member
    @rogro118 I agree with @emeraldcity1214 and @ABabyMarshall. Do not for a second feel bad about who you choose to be close to you. I have zero space in my life for toxic people, let alone toxic family. MH doesn't speak to his father and I would never want that man to have a presence in my baby's life and I do not feel one bit badly about it. Toxic people reap what they sow. 



    Report Reply
  • emeraldcity1214emeraldcity1214 member
    Boundaries are your friend. DH and I set them with family all the time. I have no patience for people who want to insert themselves into our lives and cause chaos! 
    Report Reply
  • blg116blg116 member
    @ABabyMarshall kick her in the shin.

    @rogro118 dont feel bad setting boundaries or even cutting her out completely. Your health and sanity is more important than trying to make a relationship with her work, even if she is "family". We recently cut out MHs cousin, and I set a huge distance between myself and my mother 8 years ago. No regrets on either, even though people try to tell me I can't cut my mom out like that. I can, I did, and I do not regret my decision in the least. Family or not, you dont need someone in your life that thinks it's ok to act the way your SIL is. 


    My twat waffle this week.. mother nature. And my dog. It was like 65 and raining last week, and today its freaking 99. I havent even made it in to work yet and I'm dying, its gonna be 105 in there easy. And my freaking 70 pound shepherd puppy really needs to learn where her feet are, I'm about sick of waking up to her leaping on my face.
    Report Reply
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"