I'm coming to you from the December mom month club. I had my first bfp on 3/25. My doctor said he wouldn't see me until after 10 weeks. I went in and saw him two weeks ago and he thought he heard a heartbeat but couldn't find it for us to listen to. He seemed to think everything was going ok. I went in today for my first ultrasound. They told me the baby stopped growing at around 7 weeks and it is a miscarriage. I started cramping a bit yesterday and worse today. I'm starting to spot a bit but it's mostly brown still.
I'm 31 and this is my first pregnancy. I'm pretty upset because we told our families on Mother's Day. I wanted to keep it a secret until after we had a doctor's appointment to make sure everything was ok and I thought it was after the 10 week appointment. I am frustrated the doctor didn't do an ultrasound when he couldn't find the heartbeat so I wouldn't have told everyone and spend the last several weeks not knowing.
I'm not really sure what to expect from this point on physically or emotionally beyond what my first few initial google searches are coming up with. We had a party planned for June 1st to announce it to our friends and now this feels really awkward. I also told my coworkers and don't look forward to telling them otherwise. I'm actually switching jobs after this coming week so might just lie this week-- easier than letting them know and going through that roller coaster of emotions in front of them.
I'm going to read these threads and see what everyone else has been through and hopefully find some companionship and guidance. I'm mostly worried about my husband. I know he's hurting event though he's trying to put on a rough exterior. If you've had a miscarriage in the past, how soon did you start trying after? Were you successful? Any tips on dealing with disappointed family or loved ones when you have to "untell" people?