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Group 1 Check In (7/1-7/8) w/o 5/13
Panaceia
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Est Due Date / Weeks + Days:
Baby is the size of a(n):
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out):
Upcoming Appointments:
How are you feeling?:
Rants/Raves:
Questions:
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day?
Re: Group 1 Check In (7/1-7/8) w/o 5/13
Baby is the size of a(n): 3 chocolate croissants
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): Pink:)
Upcoming Appointments: Next week
How are you feeling?: OK. Super nauseous and so so tired. Plus my hips have given up again. Oh and heartburn. Grrr.
Rants/Raves: I've been letting DD stay home from school with me since it's the first time I've been off work since she was 11 months old. She is in montessori and has been in the same class for 2.5 years already and still has one more year in the same class so I don't feel too bad about it. I think her teachers are getting annoyed but I don't really care.
Questions: What are your plans in terms of car seat placement? My 5.5 year old is currently on the passenger side. Not sure if I should leave this as is right now and put baby behind the driver side or switch it now. When baby moves to the convertible I'll have to put her behind the passenger side because the seat needs a lot of room rear facing and I'm tall so I need the drivers seat back a fair ways while driving.
GTKY: Nothing really. My nieces came over and played with DD for a while (they are both teenagers). SO was working but drove into town in the evening to drop off flowers and food. I stayed in my pyjamas all day. DD's friends ended up staying for 6 hours on Saturday so I was exhausted yesterday.
Baby is the size of a(n): squash
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): blue
Upcoming Appointments: regular appt next week
How are you feeling?: Good!
Rants/Raves: It seems trying for a vbac may be up in the air again. 😕. LO is now measuring large for gestational age so they’re going to recheck growth in a month. I won’t know til then if they’ll still recommend a vbac or not.
Questions: where is everyone in baby prep? We did a good bit awhile back, but then kind of just stopped preparing. We’re starting to tackle our to do list again now. We have to clean and set up pnp, get car seats installed, put supplies around the house, clean up DS’ toys to make some room for baby stuff, clean bottles, buy a monitor, and attach some furniture to walls.
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day?
going out to dinner, having a cookout, & going to an amusement park! Lots of great family time. 🥰
Baby is the size of a(n): feels like he's the size of a full grown gorilla!
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): baby boy
Upcoming Appointments: midwife checkin next week
How are you feeling?: baby boy is moving so much! it's not painful but it is VERY uncomfortable - I feel like he is constantly stretching all the way out. I feel like that scene in Alien!
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day? We just bought a house that needs a lot of work and got the keys on Friday, so I spent Sunday cleaning up the house while MIL babysat and DH did some handman stuff. We did Mother's Day early though and DH got me a pre-natal massage on Thursday
Rants/Raves: Life is insane right now. I have a completely new position at work (so basically I'm feeling super inept until I figure it out), I'm finishing my very last semester of a masters program at Harvard, I have an infant-turned-toddler (18 months) and I have no idea how to handle this new toddler behavior, and I'm 8 months pregnant. Oh and we bought a new house and are selling our current house, both of which are way more work than I was prepared for. So honestly, I forgot about Mother's Day. My mom and my MIL have been bending over backwards - literally taking last minute flights to come help us out, dogsitting for a month now, etc - and I forgot to plan something for them and I felt kinda bad bc this day is important to them. So in between disinfecting every inch of this new house and scrubbing nicotine off the walls since the previous owner was a smoker, I shot off a sweet Facebook message to thank them on Mother's Day so at least there was SOMETHING, because both moms like that kind of public attention. Well, that caused drama with my step mom-in-law, whose sister hopped on my post like "Oh, so stepmom doesn't make the cut?" I care about my SMIL, but DH and I are in our late 30s and she married my FIL like 6 or 7 years ago. It's not like she raised DH. And SMIL and FIL just aren't really around that much. That's fine, I don't ask them to be and I'm happy for any time they spend with my daughter, but I'm not going to pretend that she's the same mother to me and DH as our moms, who both raised us as single moms. So I had to do cleanup this morning to keep the family peace - including a sternly worded text to her sister about posting that on a post to my friggin' MOM (like, if you have an issue, just please reach out to me individually and privately), but I'm just emotionally exhausted by it, after dealing with everything else going on in my life. Come on people, we're too old for FB drama, we're not a bunch of teenagers.
Baby is the size of a(n): ?? Not sure at this point
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): two boys!
Upcoming Appointments: NST tomorrow and Friday, growth ultrasound on Friday, OB appointment on Friday.. already exhausted just thinking about Friday 😂
How are you feeling?: I feel pretty good. My body is essentially not producing insulin at this point so I'm struggling with the thought of diabetes after pregnancy. It also hit me that in six weeks or less my babies will be here. I'm so excited, nervous and a bit sad as my three year old won't get all of my attention at that point. Irrational I know but these hormones kill me some days lol
Rants/Raves: I'm on medical leave before maternity leave begins so I'm enjoying the extra time to get stuff done and not rush around after a long work day.
Questions: none at the moment.
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day? We went to my mom's house and grilled some steaks and other foods in the afternoon. Then went home and relaxed as DH scrubbed the house from top to bottom and even did all of the laundry and took care of DS night time routine.
Baby is the size of a(n): celery
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): Pink
Upcoming Appointments: Growth US next Thursday
How are you feeling?: Tired, some heartburn, but generally good for being 7+ months down
Rants/Raves: Finally got a registry together, more as a checklist for ourselves than anything else since we aren't doing a shower, though I've also had a few requests. So much stuff to buy!
Questions: none at the moment.
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day? Still by myself in a new town (though H finally gets here this weekend because I told him he has to!), so it was uneventful. Worked on the registry, finally opened the pregnancy and childbirth book the OB gave me at my 8-week appointment, tried to take the dogs to the dog park, but it was closed, so took them for a walk around the lake instead, thought about cleaning but never got around to it.
@mama_bear19; @panaceia, y'all are way ahead of us. We've hardly even bought anything. Right now we have a few onesies, a play mat and some random toys people have given us.... and that's it. Nowhere for baby to sleep, no car seat, no diapers, etc., etc. Hence why I spent time with the registry this weekend. Now on to spending $$$.
@tsa208, sorry about the SMIL drama. Right there with you on the baby movements. Cool to have a reminder that there’s someone else in there, but also weird and distracting to have that someone else using my abdomen as a punching bag and dancing on my bladder. Good luck with all your transitions; I’m right there with you.
Baby is the size of a(n): US size 10 men's boat shoe
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): blue
Upcoming Appointments: next week
How are you feeling?: I'm good, uncomfortable, but aren't we all!
Rants/Raves: Ladies I am raving this week - much needed after my depressive rant last week! SO my midwife is forcing my office to allow me to work 3 days from home for the first two weeks in June and then the entire week from home the last two!!! Goodbye two hour commute each way!!! I am so relieved - just need to get through the rest of May!
Questions: Any STMs have recommendations for first year books? I can't seem to find any I like
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day? My mom's mother's day traditional is pizza and beer at the local brewery - so I ate well. Saw MIL for a bit as well which was nice, but DH and I divided and conquered this year to save time. Also, was so overwhelmed by my mom and DH spoiling me and the amount of mother's day texts I received - I guess I just didn't expect it as a FTM, can't even begin to think of this time next year without going all preggo emotional and tearing up!
@mama_bear19 yes sounds like we are on the same exact page - just add that I also really need to interview the pediatricians I researched as well.
@tsa208 wow so sorry you had to deal with that on Mother's Day - so unnecessary and rude!
Baby is the size of a(n): Hard Hat, Squash, Jicama, or Deerstalker (Sherlock Holmes) hat.
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): Pink
Upcoming Appointments: Regular check Thursday with the midwife, but I need to schedule one soon with the Dr. to check my placenta and previous scar tissue.
How are you feeling?: Couldn't sleep last night, but still feeling well overall today. The amount my mouse moves is uncomfortable bordering on painful these days.
Rants/Raves: Raves - last full week of school! Full 5 days this week, 3 student days and 4 teacher days next week and I am DONE! My grades will be done at the end of this week, and I think except for one issue student my SPED paperwork is mostly done.
Questions: None ATM
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day? My 11yr old made me poached eggs and a sweet rock garden, my DH got me my fitness watch (Fitbit knock off, but I'm good with it
Baby is the size of a(n): large bag of popcorn
Team: Blue
Upcoming Appointments: FFN, Ultrasound, TDAP shot
How are you feeling?: Bored out of my mind. This bed rest is driving me crazy...it will all be great with the end result.
Rants/Raves: My DH has been single dadding it since Easter. I cannot say how amazing it is to watch him take on everything including taking care of me.
Questions: none
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day? Being completely pampered by my DH and DS. They helped me out and picked up some of the things on my “need to order before baby gets here” list.
@mama_bear19 Yes I think you're right. I should bite te bullet and move DD now. Hopefully then she'll get used to it before baby gets here so it won't be a big deal later.
@gbud630 I'm so glad they're letting you work from home. I can't believe you've been able to last this entire time with that ridiculous commute!
7/7 - 32+1
Baby is the size of a(n): yellow squash/license plate
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): Pink
Upcoming Appointments: 32 week growth ultrasound on Friday. DH and I can't wait to see our baby girl again!
How are you feeling?: Good overall. Pockets of tiredness. I'm finding a better balance between sitting and moving around, so I'm less achy. My work focus is suffering as a result though...
Rants/Raves:
DH made me feel extra special on Mothers Day. Made me extra sad to see him leave for his weekly work trip.
Questions:
We are slowly getting ready for the baby's arrival. We haven't put anything together or installed anything yet other than the new blackout curtains, but we own a crib, pack n play, and a carseat. We've also been gifted several outfits, so technically we are covered for a least a couple days!
Baby's room is still mostly the guest room & my office. DH has been using the closet as his overflow closet (the man has more stuff than I do!) but he started trying to clean out space over the weekend. There's now enough room for me to hang up LO's tiny, mostly pink outfit collection in between his suit jackets... So of course I hung them up!
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day?
DH did several loads of laundry for me as its getting harder for me to do it. We spent a lot of time together this weekend chatting about baby names and what we think she might be like. DH made me a waffle for breakfast, just as I wanted. We got lunch out together before he had to leave for the airport. I am missing him extra today...
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): Pink
Upcoming Appointments: This weeks got loved to next Monday.
How are you feeling?: Tired. Sore. Over it.
Rants/Raves: Cute baby movements have turned into LO looking like an alien is about to burst out of my stomach. I haven't gained as much weight as my previous pregnancies and I can definitely feel the difference with the movements.
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother' day? We had everyone over to out house for dinner. I was dead by the end of the night.
@Panaceia - When my oldest was 22 months & DS was born she was moved to behind the driver. I like to be able to see the the Youngest the easiest, so baby will move to behind the passenger seat. My 4 year old will move to behind the driver and my 6 year old will move to the third row. We have captain seats for the second row so I can't fit all 3.
@mama_bear19 - I still need to make a play area in the basement, and move our oldest two into a shared room. I also need to re-organize our master to fit baby for the first month or so. I at least have everything we need. It just all needs to be organized and rearranged.🙈
Baby is the size of a(n): cantaloupe
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): Pink!
Upcoming Appointments: one on Wednesday and 4d/had us on Thursday
How are you feeling?: mmm not the greatest, I'm not gonna lie. Finding out I have GD has really gotten me down. I've been so exhausted and work is stressing me out where I don't even wanna go. Baby is kicking all the time which I love but a lot are very jarring and hurt when she sticks something out of the side. Nausea is still goin strong too. Just can't wait for baby to be here!
Rants/Raves:
Questions:
Does anyone else not feel like working now more than ever? Sure there has always been the "bleh I don't wanna work" but lately it's hard to drag myself out of bed to go and deal with people yelling at me. All I wanna do is bawl up and cry and hug DH and my baby girl.
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day? DH made a very nice breakfast before he had to work and then I spent the day with my daughter at my parents house where I spent a while relaxing and working on a puzzle with my mom ❤
Baby is the size of a(n): pomelo
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): Girl
Upcoming Appointments: Had one today, have one next Monday. Baby girl's lookin good!
How are you feeling?: This weekend I turned the corner into Really Uncomfortable Land. I feel like the skin around my belly button is stretched so thin, I had constant cramps and little contractions...ugh.
Rants/Raves: EXPECTANT MOTHERS PARKING SPOTS
Questions: Are any of you fans of the "My Dad Wrote a Porno" podcast? Because they did an HBO special that just came out on Saturday and I died about a million times while watching it. So fun.
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day? Lazed around in bed, tried to take my mom out for lunch but my dad grabbed the bill before I could get to it ("because we're celebrating you, too!") so took them for dessert afterward instead. Then we drove out to my husband's mom's place and spent a couple hours chatting with her. Then went and bought new running shoes and a bike pump.
@BeatboxBaby I've been off work on medical leave for the past 2 weeks already. I wouldn't be able to handle work at this point. I'm just too sick and too exhausted. I don't know how I worked until almost 39 weeks with DD:/
I moved DD when I was about 34 weeks, which gave her a month to adjust to sitting on the other side. DD was born at 38 weeks, which is why we moved her as early as we did. DS ended up being born at 38 weeks too.
@mama_bear19 I have zero baby prep done. I feel so far behind!
@tsa208 I’m so sorry about the SMIL drama. That’s so petty. If she’s not around, no need to wish her a HMD! Wow.
@gbud630 Yay for your midwife! That’s awesome news! I’m sure that commute is killer. Mine is an hour each way and I’m over it!
@indulgentgypsy happy last week of school!!! Woooo! And yay for DTD!
@BeatboxBaby I have zero motivation to go to work. I just want to relax all day before this LO rocks our family of 3’s world!
Baby is the size of a(n): squash or armadillo
Team (Green, Blue, Pink, Finding out): 💙
Upcoming Appointments: had my first NST yesterday, and another NST this Thursday. I started my biweekly appointments yesterday.
How are you feeling?: It really depends on the day. Some days I feel great! Other days, not so much. I find if I sit for too long, or lay down for too long, my SPD pain is horrendous! If I’m up and about, I’m usually feeling good.
Rants/Raves: Because of my biweekly appointments now, I get to miss about 2 hours of work on Monday mornings! Yay!!! But I’m hourly, so that part sucks.
Rant: I’m afraid I won’t get a baby shower this go around. I told myself I wouldn’t be too disappointed if I didn’t get one for baby boy. I also told everyone that they’re more than welcome to throw me one for baby boy, but I don’t want to know about it. I told DH that I’m a little disappointed, but it’s really my fault. My mom suggested doing a summer BBQ meet-n-greet with baby, and I’m thinking that’s what we may have to do. I may be petty, but I kinda want a baby shower now... is that bad?
Questions: Anyone still yet to have a baby shower? With DD, I had mine at 34 weeks.
GTKY: What did you end up doing for mother's day?
We had brunch at a golf course with both our families (my parents, his parents, and his brother.) which was really nice. Put DD down for a nap and did some yard work. DD got to put her bathing suit on (for the first time!) and go in the kiddie pool outside! Then we went to DQ for dessert before dinner, and picked up Chinese food. I didn’t cook all day. It was glorious!
FIL and SMIL have babysat one time, almost a year and a half ago when DD was first born. My FIL stops by our house occasionally (every other month or so) to see DD and SMIL doesn't even come with him - he stopped by yesterday and she went out with friends instead. She didn't even wish *me* a happy mother's day, which I didn't realize until today because it doesn't really matter much to me. I really do like her, and consider her a friend, one of those friends you never see (maybe like 3x a year) but when you do, you have fun together. But she's not a mother figure to me or DH, since she and FIL got together when we were in our 30s, and it feels weird to pretend she is. IDK, it's blown up into something, so if I'm missing some kind of social norm, someone please let me know! DH understands where I'm coming from and agrees with me, but says it's the norm to just treat stepparents as parents for purposes like this. I never had stepparents. Apparently, I made her cry, which just confounds me.
@tsa208 I don't know of any social norms around this kind of thing. I'm sorry that it's become such a big issue. It can be really hard to know when one person may take something so personally, especially when you don't have a long history together. Family politics can be tricky... I lean on my DH to help guide me through handling his family members, and he relies on me to steer him through mine. Everybody is different, and sometimes even the best of intentions can misfire. Just know where your heart was - there was no malicious intent.
I haven't done a shower yet and I wasn't going to, but apparently there are a few different people who have asked my mom/husband if they could throw me one. So, maybe I'll have one? The thing is, I've already been given so many hand-me-downs that there is only a small, specific list of things I need/want, and I'm so paranoid about seeming gift-grabby, and I feel so bad when people spend money on things I absolutely do not want, that I seriously just want to ask people to not bring gifts. And I absolutely do not want to play shower games like "guess her cervix measurement" or whatever people do at baby showers, lol. Do I need to get over myself if I agree to a shower and just let people do what they'll do?
@key33 Thank you! Baby will be here at 39 weeks at the latest and since I'm already 33+2 it looks like SO will be doing some car seat installing in the next week or 2!
@jenniferjoy37 It's definitely not bad to want a shower, but having a BBQ after the fact sounds like a great idea. I'm not a shower person so turned down all the shower offers I had for DD, but the party my mom hosted when DD was about 3 months old was great! Everyone was told not to bring anything so I didn't feel awkward about it, but everyone still brought something which was really sweet. Plus they got to see DD which is what I really wanted anyways. I just wanted to show her off and spend some time with my family:)