Randoms - Week of 5/6

MJDsquared · May 2019

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MJDsquared · May 2019

Okay, I'll go.

Last week (before I knew I was pregnant) my daughter's toddler daycare teacher asked if we were going to have more kids. This morning I had to drop her off in the infant room because the toddler teacher wasn't there yet and the infant teacher asked the same thing. The old assistant in my office is engaged to a sales rep here and they're due in November, so the office is full of talk of that. My mom watches my daughter Thursday-Friday and has been making comments about us having a second for a while (not in a pushy way, just an abstract way); last week when I was SO fatigued she was like, "Could you be pregnant?"

All that said...it is driving me CRAZY keeping this secret (but also it's so early so I'm not actually ready to tell)! My first appointment is scheduled for 5/23. Since it's a Thursday, if it goes well, we'll tell my mom afterwards since she'll be at our house. (But IDK how to not spill the beans this coming Thurs-Fri and next week too...)

Xstatic3333 · May 2019

I hear you @MJDsquared, I really hate keeping early pregnancy a secret. Even though we haven't seen the heartbeat yet I've already told most of my closest friends. They are the same people I'd seek support from if anything were to happen, so it's okay. We won't tell our families until a little later since they would not handle it well if anything went wrong and we'd end up having to comfort them. Basically my opinion on telling is do it when you feel like it, screw the "rules."

marebear15 · May 2019

@MJDsquared - I had someone at daycare drop off asking me when I was going to give my daughter a sibling and I literally said, "We are trying!" (I didn't know I was pregnant at the time) I thought about adding that "It's really hard when infertility gets in the way," but instead I said that she has one sibling in heaven that we lost in January.

Today in my wedding anniversary! DH took me out to breakfast and we are going to dinner at an all you can eat meat place that he loves. This positive pregnancy was the best anniversary gift I could have ever gotten.

mommystuebs · May 2019

I put 2020 for the date on all my paperwork yesterday so there's that. The pregnancy brain is real

MJDsquared · May 2019

@Xstatic3333 I think I'll tell my mom even if we get bad news. I wouldn't mind telling my mom now, but I do feel kind of bad because DH's parents aren't close by and we're not going to see them until May 31st. I'm not sure I can keep it from my mom until our appointment, so we'll see.

@marebear15 Seriously, what an amazing anniversary for you guys! I'm glad you said something to that person at daycare.

crf4 · May 2019

I literally feel like just avoiding everyone 🤣 I told my best friends and my mom and we plan on telling my MIL this weekend except now my SIL and FIL (MIL & FIL are divorced) are coming too and they are not people we can trust with a secret. Starting to brainstorm my reason why I won’t be having a mimosa on mother’s day lol

leprechaunlady · May 2019

Its so hard to keep quiet when its so early in the pregnancy. Im the worlds worst liar & feel like everyone knows im lying!
I have told my mum & a few other close friends, aswell as my f17 bmb who knew just after my husband lol. I left it up to my husband if he wanted to tell his mum at the weekend & he chose not to.

jaceru · May 2019

For some reason, I don't feel like telling anyone yet this pregnancy. We told our parents right away with our first so it's kind of weird. My best friend is having her bachelorette party in Miami in June and I know I am going to have to tell her since I won't be drinking, but I keep putting it off.

@leprechaunlady I am also the worst liar! I was at a wedding this weekend and I felt so awkward trying to keep it a secret.

leprechaunlady · May 2019

One of the close friends I told is coming to visit from london in a few weeks time with her husband & daughter for the weekend. I told her as she would know immediately when I wasnt drinking when shes visiting. She called me back later that evening, she took a test after we had spoken & shes pregnant too, 4 days behind me!

marebear15 · May 2019

@leprechaunlady - That's awesome that you and your friend are pregnant together!

Xstatic3333 · May 2019

So fun @leprechaunlady! I had a friend pregnant with me for S and it was nice to go through it together.

So I had a coworker who I am very friendly with but not close enough to tell this early guess I was pregnant yesterday because I was overly enthusiastic about saying I would need a chair for an outdoor field day event next week

I froze up and admitted it. I really hate keeping it a secret.

laurenmicheley · May 2019

Yesterday, a friend who is 16 weeks asked me if I might be pregnant. She knows about my recent loss, so I did think it was a little insensitive to ask. And I answered no, because I’m really not ready to tell people. So far, only my husband and doctor knows. I haven’t even notified the RE, yet. But, now I feel weird about telling her no because it’s sort of like jinxing it and I wish she didn’t ask - though I know it came from a good place. I’m terrible at keeping secrets and we are going to be seeing both our families on Sunday - so I need to make a decision about heather to share the news or not. Also, my very best friend is KO and it’s been very challenging not telling her. I just don’t want to put her in a weird emotional state of something goes wrong, again.

marebear15 · May 2019

@laurenmicheley - That was rather insensitive for your friend to ask. What if you were undergoing another miscarriage right then!

laurenmicheley · May 2019

@marebear15 I know. And to boot, what if I wasn’t and then I just felt terrible about my recent MC? Not the most tactful move, but I’ll give her a pass since she’s a nice girl.

KristinUM12 · May 2019

I made a comment to my coworkers yesterday about how my youngest is 14 months, walking, and is officially a toddler, followed by "so my husband jokes that I guess it's time for another one!"...totally OT thinking that it implied actually being pregnant. And one of my coworkers coworkers immediately said "OMG are you pregnant?!?"...Lol. I just said " I can neither confirm or deny that, and I'm not answering any more questions" but I'm pretty sure my face gave it away!

That being said, we always tell everyone pretty early, so once my husband's family knows this weekend we're not going to keep it a big secret anymore.

leprechaunlady · May 2019

@Xstatic3333 @marebear15 I am so excited for us to be pregnant at the same time but it sucks that we dont live closer & it takes a plane ride & a hell of a lot of organising to see each other in person 😕
when she comes to visit in 2 weeks time, it will be our first time meeting each others daughters (we speak a lot on face time but its not the same). I havnt seen her in person since I visited her last feburary when she was heavily pregnant!

leprechaunlady · May 2019

On the other side of the telling people coin....my bff is having fertility issues & I have no idea of how to approach telling her.
we have have her cousins hen weekend (bachelorette) at the end of june. All going well, I will be just over 12 weeks by then. I know I need to tell her before that so she has time to process it & not find out in a group situation with other random people but I absolutely hate the thought of how much this will hurt her when I know im literally the only person in the world who she has spoken to about the issues she has.

marebear15 · May 2019

@leprechaunlady - It's great that you are already so sensitive to her feelings surrounding your pregnancy. Knowing that she will want to be told in person, and have some time to process it, is being a good friend! For me, when I found out about good friend's pregnancies, even though it stung a little that it wasn't me, I was still so very happy for them. Sure I might have cried about it once or twice, but it was never anything to break up a friendship over. Now those annoying "friends" on facebook, yeah they got blocked.

EmilyE13 · May 2019

One of my really close friends who has the same birthday as me was going through IVF this month, and I have been biting my tongue on telling her about my BFP because I have been hoping like crazy that it worked for her and wouldn’t want to say anything yet if it didn’t. She got the news today that it worked and she’s pregnant, and so if all goes well maybe our babies will have similar birthdays, too!

ruby0902 · May 2019

@leprechaunlady - I was in a similar situation with my bff. Her and SO started trying almost a year ago and I got pregnant back in Oct. 18. That time telling her wasn't difficult bc she was still really optimistic and we were both excited. Then she was a great support to have when I was going through my mc. All the time they were trying, but have had no luck. We have supported each other through all of our ups and downs. I was very fortunate to get pregnant again quickly after everything healed, but this time was VERY difficult to tell her. However, I know she would never want me to keep it from her and would feel more upset if she found out roundabout or found out late after I told a bunch of other people. So I did some research online about different ways to tell her and decided on a face to face approach - I found the information to be really helpful and insightful. The next time we were together, I told her we could talk about it as much or as little as she wanted to, but that I wanted her to be one of the first to know that i was pregnant again. While i could tell that it definitely stung a little for her, i also saw her genuine happiness and excitement for me too. We talked about things a little, then got on with the rest of our night and had a great time. Even though it was scary to tell her, it really ended up being for the best.

leprechaunlady · May 2019

I had my first well done steak today since my last pregnancy. I usually take it very rare. 😒

Xstatic3333 · May 2019

@leorechaunlady I’m not a steak eater but that barely sounds worth it! Lol. I carried around a beer can and discretely switched off with my husband today like a boss, but I still think my mom has a hunch. Luckily she’s too polite to ask.

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