So I’m supposedly 28 weeks, but at my 10 week sonogram, doctor said the due date may be a week sooner and then at the 20 week one I and baby were measuring a week bigger (21 weeks for baby and 29 fundal height). So we scheduled another sonogram to check growth and on Monday baby was measuring 31 weeks and is apparently 3.5 pounds already! WTH?! 3 weeks is a big difference! So to me, the due date is off but the doctors office seems stubborn about that and don’t change it... my doctor is out of town until next week and now I’m freaking out that either something is wrong with baby or I’m doomed to have a very painful delivery and/or forced to have a C section I don’t want. The nurse who called today wasn’t helpful at all and kept saying it’s a big baby and apparently is in the 90th percentile. This is my first but I have talked to friends and no one else had anything similar happen so I don’t know what to think...help/advice appreciated!!
Re: Anyone else gestational age not match the size baby is measuring?
2) ultrasounds are notorious for being off up to +/- 2lbs. Examples: I was supposed to have a 9+ baby, constantly measuring "big" she was 8lbs12oz. My friend was supposed to have a 10+ baby it was just over 8lbs. My sister, they were afraid she wasnt gaining enough weight, baby was small and concerned with the fetal growth: baby was born 7lbs 8oz.
3) Your attitude about labor and delivery needs to be more optimistic. You may be "doomed to have a very painful delivery and/or forced to have a C section you don’t want" with a petite baby and you may deliver just fine with a "big baby". You do not know how your body will handle delivery, there may be a need for a C-section not even related to baby's size. There are petite women who deliver large babies with no problem; there are taller wide hipped women who need a C-section for petite babies. You may need a C-section due to baby's position, baby's heart rate dropping, etc. There are so many reasons for a section. Is it what people want? Not necessarily, but it happens. When going into delivery you need to realize that you have your wishes, but they are not guaranteed.
FWIW, my due date got moved to a week later based on an early US (I knew ovulated late), and I went into labor exactly on her original EDD. She also was smaller than what her 36 week scan predicted. Babies do what they want.
That said, unless you’re going for an elective CS (which it doesn’t seem you are) there’s not much you can do about it. Focus on what you can control, prepare your body and mind for labor, practice some pain coping techniques, have a few last minute date nights and evenings out with friends, try and make life easy on yourself after baby arrives by making freezer meals and stocking up on essentials. Having a newborn is no cake walk whether you went med free or had a CS.
It's pretty uncommon for due dates to be adjusted based on fundal height because of how much it can vary. With my second, I was measuring right on. Then, my baby flipped to breech and was sitting very high (I had an ultrasound to confirm position, and when they put the scanner down low, my uterus looked empty! They had to move it up to see her bottom), and I measured two weeks ahead. Two weeks later, the baby had flipped to head down and once again was measuring right on.
Even if your baby is "big," that's as likely as not not a bad thing. I have now had two larger babies - my first was 8 pounds, 12.5 ounces (which is half an ounce away from an official macrosomia, or "big body," diagnosis) and my second was 8, 11. And both were born outside the hospital with no pain meds and quick deliveries. I don't say that to brag but simply to say having a "big baby" is not, in and of itself, a bad thing or a huge risk. The vast majority of women can vaginally deliver their baby, and diagnoses of cephalopelvic disproportion are often wrong. (Source: https://americanpregnancy.org/labor-and-birth/cephalopelvic-disproportion/)
Also, fwiw, I found labor to be much easier with my second (smaller) baby, but the actual pushing part and delivery was worse. It really depends. I had a second-degree tear with my first and a shallow first-degree with my second. Healing was pretty quick and almost painless. I took a six-mile hike 2.5 weeks after having my first.
Also, do some googling on how inaccurate weight estimates based on ultrasound are. They can be off by a lot, so definitely don't take them as gospel and push back if your doctor seems to.