Advice About Baby Father!!

nancynoo91 · April 2019

my baby father has put me through hell since the beginning of my pregnancy and even before it. I had to go back on anxiety medication and domestic violence was involved. he is a master manipulator and liar. he was wanting me to have an abortion 3 times and he hit me back one time and went behind my back to find out where I lived. i loved this guy and he wanted to try for a kid. these pregnancy hormones have me up the wall and knowing what he did to me even though he lives about an hour away from me still fucks with my head! if I dont bring up what the baby needs he wont do it and he lied to me about getting certain stuff for the baby just so he could see me. IM OVER THIS FUXKIN GUY MY HEART HURTS SO MUCH I FORGAVE HIM SO MUCH AND HE JUST KEPT FUXKING SHIT UP. I'm now 22 weeks! i initially told him to order the crib and mattress to my house after finding out he knew where I lived but now I have changed my mind. how could someone treat u like this and still get the easy way I'm not doing it with him anymore! i told him of he cant agree to send me the money by 12am then i dont want him in my sons life I swear to God. I hate him with everything in me.

rant over. please leave my helpful advice or comforting words I feel so overwhelmed.

cato99 · April 2019

I’m so sorry you are going through this and I hope you have contacted the authorities, have documented every interaction, and have counseling support. Domestic abuse is very complicated and does not tend to get better when the baby arrives, so please take measures now to protect yourself and your baby.

This community is here for support but we discourage one-off posts like this because it will fill up the page and make all conversations harder to find and maintain. If you check out the “Read First” thread and introduce yourself on the intro thread, you can start to get a sense for our questions threads, ranting threads, and informational threads so that you can be a part of the community and hopefully not feel so isolated. But one-off posts like this are unlikely to bring you the support you are looking for, since we have been working together to build a sense of community for some time.

zamoraspin · April 2019

nancynoo91 said:

my baby father has put me through hell since the beginning of my pregnancy and even before it. I had to go back on anxiety medication and domestic violence was involved. he is a master manipulator and liar. he was wanting me to have an abortion 3 times and he hit me back one time and went behind my back to find out where I lived. i loved this guy and he wanted to try for a kid. these pregnancy hormones have me up the wall and knowing what he did to me even though he lives about an hour away from me still fucks with my head! if I dont bring up what the baby needs he wont do it and he lied to me about getting certain stuff for the baby just so he could see me. IM OVER THIS FUXKIN GUY MY HEART HURTS SO MUCH I FORGAVE HIM SO MUCH AND HE JUST KEPT FUXKING SHIT UP. I'm now 22 weeks! i initially told him to order the crib and mattress to my house after finding out he knew where I lived but now I have changed my mind. how could someone treat u like this and still get the easy way I'm not doing it with him anymore! i told him of he cant agree to send me the money by 12am then i dont want him in my sons life I swear to God. I hate him with everything in me.

rant over. please leave my helpful advice or comforting words I feel so overwhelmed.

I’m sorry you are experiencing this. My advice is that men like this do do not change - nothing you can do will change him. What is happening is not your fault, but, unfortunately the only way your situation will change is for you to take action and make changes for yourself. Abusive men will only escalate and put you and your baby at further risk. Seek counseling and the support of family and friends to help you to learn to stay away from this man.

As the pp said, this is a community where we get to know each other so if you want to stick around please introduce yourself and join in the community.

WinchesterGirl · April 2019

Sounds like he has shown you his true colors, and you are smart to realize that someone who treats you that way and abuses you is not someone you want in your or baby's life. As PP have said, make sure to document everything in case you need to get a restraining order.

And again, feel free to jump in on established posts rather than one-off.

law_and_little1 · May 2019

@nancynoo91 Hugs to you.

lilmamabebe3 · May 2019

My advice is to leave him. Babies are awful. They do not help any relationship. They are expensive and they cry and it is a complete lifestyle change. They are incredible and amazing and wonderful, obviously I think so, I am having my third. But they do not help relationships. This guy is already abusive and manipulative. What state are you in? There are a lot of resources to get help and to get away from him. Do not feed the troll. You don't owe him anything--if he wants to see the baby he can take you to court and let a judge decide.

If you need support, this community is great. Stick around and read the pinned posts for more info.

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