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MollyH1987 · April 2019

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lilmamabebe3 · April 2019

I am in such a crappy mood today I feel like I am either going to really hurt someone's feelings or cry, and I am at work so both of those are terrible. I don't even know if thats an FC. I am just so tired and so grumpy I want to be mean. Hormones are a bitch.

wabash15 · April 2019

I took a shower this morning and could not remember the last time I showered...

MamaK225 · April 2019

I was planning to take a half-day so I could get my hair trimmed (it's been six months) and get a pedicure - mostly because DH makes such a big deal for me getting 60-75 (depending on wait and traffic) to get a pedicure ONCE A MONTH. You know, when I often tell him to go see a movie - he's a big movie guy and I'm just not in the mood to pay for a sitter, stress about times, etc. - at least as often. SIGH. Anyway. Instead of doing that, I'm feeling petty. So I made an appt to get my haircut AND get a pedicure right after and then come back to work; and if anyone says anything, I'll just blame it on having to wait a little bit before I was able to get in the chair for my haircut

#comeatmebro #didnthavetousevacation #ireallydoneedavacation

ETA: the original plan was a half-day because I live about 30 min away and was going to do these things in that town. Current plan is doing it all in the town I work in, so it's a 1.5 mi drive there and then 1.5 mi drive back.

mrosek91 · April 2019

@wabash15 in the winter I usually only shower once a week...

sourlemon · April 2019

We've had a visibly dusty spot under the china cabinet for months that has been driving me crazy. I'm still too lazy to get on the floor and clean it. A Swiffer duster would probably get 80% but I'm still too lazy!

Avrilmai · April 2019

@wabash15 I debated last night on the last time I washed my hair. I'm still not 100% sure. I'm guessing it is a side effect of pregnancy, but my hair looks fine, I'm loving this. (i used to have to wash it every other day)

Allycat11 · April 2019

@sourlemon I am in the same boat with my TV stand. Right now I am staring at how dusty it is...and have been for a very long time, and still not doing anything about it.

moon1417 · April 2019

@lilmamabebe3 I feel the exact same way. I am tremendously ragy today. Like I'd really like to throw something, and break it.

goldfishcraker · April 2019

I had a tough time falling asleep last night, and a tough time staying asleep since poor DH is still sick. The dog woke me at 730am to go out. FFFC... I went back to sleep at 915 and slept till almost 11, since DH has to work 😂 And now, even though I have a MASSIVE amount of stuff I need to do, I'm sitting on my butt being nearly completly unproductive. And I don't even feel guilty!
(And then in an hour, I'll have to start racing around to frantically complete the 6 hours of to do list, in a few hours before DH gets home haha.)

Plus...baby is dancing up a storm lately, and I feel I deserve to marvel and enjoy each little movement. (I hear I'll get to the point that I'm begging baby to chill out. But for now, I'm going to thoroughly enjoy the thing I never thought I would get to have!)

Also...I haven't showered since Wednesday night. (Which is crazy for me.) I'm glad I'm not alone in the no shower department haha

wabash15 · April 2019

@chillycanadian I vote for enjoying all the baby movement, the chores will get done eventually (or not...)

peachy0709 · April 2019

I threw DD1 a big birthday party, and I've done nothing to plan anything for DD2 and her birthday is in 12 days. Poor baby is somehow already fully a middle child before this third kid even gets here.

emqbee · April 2019

I’m cleaning my house for the first time since.....uhhhh...who knows-like seriously I. do. not. know. But it’s to the point that I would be humiliated if even the people closest to us and have seen it messy were to walk in right now. It’s bad. I’m pretty sure the last time it was neat and clean was before the first tri symptoms started. There’s cobwebs that make it look like Halloween here....

Beauxbaton · April 2019

If I open a thread when it's first posted, read it it, and then come back a few days later and there 30+ new responses I dont catch up on it.

EmilyA724 · April 2019

Just had my monthly doctors appointment and I gained 8 pounds. Ooops.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · April 2019

@EmilyA724 I gained 20 pounds in one month with DS 1 (I think it was month 6 or 7)... 60 lbs total.... then 69 total with DS2... I’m alreadv up 20+ on this one. I just can’t stop eating when I’m pregnant.

sourlemon · April 2019

@EmilyA724 according to my doctor yesterday I had gained 5 pounds in the last month. Woke up this morning and had a glorious poop and my weight was down 2.5 pounds from last Sunday on my home scale.

I hate that weight is made into such a big deal. I gained 40 with my first and my doctor was so so mean about it. Gained 40 with my second (started 15 pounds heavier than before) and that doctor didn't say a word. So far I've gained about 10 and my doctors office mentions the gain strength every single appointment. I am barely eating enough...but still gaining. It happens. We only have so much control honestly. Hormones And swelling play a huge part!

Allycat11 · April 2019

@peachy0709 at least she is having a party. DS turns 3 on Tuesday and we aren't even doing a party for him. He has a doctor's appt in the morning, that afternoon he will stay home with DH while I take DD to OT and dance, then we will come home to do pizza, cake, ice cream and presents just the 4 of us.

About a month ago I signed DS up for a parent tot sports sampler class at the Y on Friday mornings. I pulled him from it after 1 week because I missed our lazy Fridays and did not feel like chasing him around a semi structured environment. We were going to start a different sports sampler class next session (he will now be old enough for no parent) but none of the times are super convenient. He is doing soccer instead because it is the same time as DDs gymnastics class. Poor second child.

I really hate the amount of pressure put on women to only gain a certain amount during pregnancy. Some workout and eat well and gain 60+, others only gain 15 with no effort. When I saw a NP around 11 weeks she made a rude comment about how I was clearly eating because I gained 2 pounds in 1 week. As of Monday I am somehow only up 3 total (trust me, I have PLENTY to spare) and I have been sitting on the couch, eating whatever sounds good. With my other 2 I gained right around 30 total and imagine this one will probably be similar in the end.

MamaK225 · April 2019

@Beauxbaton - Same! I try to keep up on the few that I'm in, but that's about all I can handle. If there's more than like 10, I'll consider dropping out

I think as long as numbers (sugar, blood pressure, etc) stay in check - who cares. I mean, you don't want to put on triple digits, but ... some people just gain more. Especially the ones who started out thin. Thankfully, I have plenty of reserves and I'm still chilling where I am.

I have gotten on a schedule where I wash my hair on Wednesdays and Sundays, but shower every night. And I'm about to ask my housekeeper if we can move from a semi-monthly to a weekly schedule when I hit around 30 weeks because I just don't know what I'll be up for at that point.

olivemomma · April 2019

My house only looks somewhat clean because of my glorious roomba that cleans my floors daily for me. However, that’s only downstairs, I’m too lazy to take it upstairs so it can clean there too. My kids laundry has also been sitting folded in their laundry basket for almost a week, I’m too lazy to put it all away and instead just keep pulling clean pieces out of there for them to wear.

MamaK225 · April 2019

@olivemomma - I'm there with you on the laundry baskets ... that was me for 2-3 weeks until this past week. Sometimes you just need a break. I've also resolved to teach DD1 where/how to put away her laundry in the coming weeks. FX.

Allycat11 · April 2019

@olivemomma our robot vaccum was one of the best purchases ever! It really helps with cleaning up the animal hair and crumbs so thay we do not need to lug out the big vacuum as often.

I have been behind on laundry for the majority of the past few months. We had it covering our kitchen table for a few weeks so we were eating in the living room or at the island. About a week ago I got caught up on laundry and was so proud...clearly that did not last.

peachy0709 · April 2019

@Allycat11 - I'm not so sure she'll have a party!! I was thinking of just using the Easter egg hunts as part of the celebration......

thirdtimesacharm2019 · April 2019

I keep nice emails from colleagues (usually thanking me for something I did) in my inbox for the purpose of re-reading them when I have a crappy day.

goldfishcraker · April 2019

Speaking of doctor weight shame...
Last appointment the OB kept repeating "well you're such a big girl..." "You're such a big girl, we'll need a higher dose..."

And he says I'm a "big girl" at every appointment when he's taking my BP.

I've already gained about 10-15 lbs with this pregnancy so far. (Bed rest is not conducive to maintaining weight through regular exercise...)
I had to tell DH my weight the other day, and he was like "no way. Not possible. You don't look that!!" Which is nice of him to say.

Weight is a number, and we shouldn't be shamed for that number.

And while yes, I'm overweight and have been my whole life, I'm not THAT big. I'm 5'10 and a size 12. So yes, overweight, but the doc reeeeally doesn't need to keep calling me a "big girl"....

emqbee · April 2019

Im sorry. 5’10 and size 12 does not equal ‘big girl’. That’s making me kind of ragey for you @chillycanadian

and by kind of, I mean a lot ragey.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · April 2019

@chillycanadian GTFO!! If my OB said that if be finding a new doctor, and he’d be searching for his testicles. Even if someone needs weight management, which you clearly don’t, there’s a tactful way to go about it.

Allycat11 · April 2019

@chillycanadian jaw drop over those comments. Completely unacceptable.

goldfishcraker · April 2019

Aww thank you ladies! You made me feel better!❤️

purplg8r · April 2019

@Avrilmai I thought it was just me! I take a shower every night but only get my hair wet/wash my hair every night. But lately I’ve been able to get away with washing my hair every 3-4 nights!

Beauxbaton · April 2019

@chillycanadian when I was pregnant with my first I was with a different ob than I am now. He wanted me to take the glucose test at 18 weeks even though I have no family history of diabetes or anything. When I asked him why he grabbed my stomach fat and said "because of this." I found a new doctor the next week.

goldfishcraker · April 2019

Wow! @Beauxbaton! That is Completely unacceptable!!!!! 😠😠😠 How could he possibly think that was ok?!

agpandme · April 2019

I got sick of my hair and cut off about 8 inches a few days ago. No ragrets lol

Your weight gains are making me feel better. I dont' keep a home scale and according to my doctors scale I gained 7 lbs in 1 month. Thats with a full bladder and full clothed. I was really shocked to see a number that I've never seen in my life. I know I went into this pregnancy heavy (Looking at you Thanksgiving and Christmas), but the number had me reeling. I know the weight is temporary but I really don't want to gain that quickly.

lilmamabebe3 · April 2019

I have had the weight talk every pregnancy (except this one so far). With my first, my hyperemesis was so bad that I was constantly berated by one doctor in the practice (not mine) for losing so much weight. Umm I’m trying? She asked, and not kindly, if I had an eating disorder because that would be selfish and the baby deserved a better mother than that.

With my second, I gained every pound in my second trimester. My doctor was much kinder about it but still brought it up a few times. I didnt gain a single pound in my third trimester so whatever. Our bodies are going to do what they want. Do your best to get through pregnancy, it’s hard enough without unnecessary criticism.

WinchesterGirl · April 2019

All of the weight comments are so inappropriate! I'm mad for all of you!

I have no idea how much I've gained. I lost several from the HG, and then jumped 8 in a month when I was able to start eating again. I really felt like I was starving after having trouble keeping anything down for so long, and I'm just not worrying about it.

After my first, I lost all the weight and some more I had to lose within a year, and was actually in better shape than pre-baby. So, I know I can lose it and get into healthy shape. Getting your muscles to recover from a c/section and pregnancy... significantly harder!

My FFFC is that I am averaging about 1-2x a month for shaving. My back hurts, and bending over sucks. Pants for life!

BigBadWolf12 · April 2019

My last pregnancy I think I was weighed 3 times total, all optional. "Do you want to see how much you weigh today?" And then I could tell her the number or not as I liked. One at intake, one at the end, and one in the middle for curiosity. Maybe it would be different if there was a specific big concern about it, but it seems they make it into SUCH a big deal in North America and I've had so many friends stressing about weight during pregnancy.

They also don't even do the glucose test here unless your blood sugar is high (which they measure regularly) or unless you've had it before/runs in the family. But no general population glucose test.

wanderlustsoul · April 2019

My midwife has never weighed me and when I asked this week if I should be doing anything about weight, she was just like eat well and healthy. I only know what I gained thus far because the internal specialist weighed me for my thyroid appointment. I don’t even own a scale. North America puts too much pressure on weight. Unless you’re eating unhealthy and baby is being impacted, live life. Your body will gain what it wants/needs.

Also, like @BigBadWolf12, they don’t do the glucose test here unless those same reasons. I have to do it because I’m indian origins so higher chance and my sister has diabetes. But my sugar has always been fine so without those two, I wouldn’t have too.

Beauxbaton · April 2019

I'm pretty sure at the clinic I go to if you decline it they treat you like you have GD

MamaK225 · April 2019

Even though I started my pregnancy "heavier" (5'7" and also a size 12, @chillycanadian), my OB hasn't commented about my weight once. He knew it was a sore subject for me with DD1 - when I had switched to him at 16-17 weeks from my original OB who was just awful. My weight/size trending nearly identical with DD2 so he's not concerned (and doesn't comment on it). I don't test for GD until 28 weeks; I was kind of surprised because I swear I did it at 24 with DD1 and he seems to be really hung up on the AMA aspect this time around. I would think if I'm higher risk, I would be tested earlier, but I'm ok waiting a few more weeks. I just hope they have the same "flavor," I hear the others are just awful.

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