Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
keikilove
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Re: TWW Friday 4.5
CD/DPO: 28/8
Timing: bad
Typical LP length: looks like 8 again
Testing: waiting on AF, huge temp drop
R/R: well, only 19 days till the appointment with my new *TW* OB who will be about to give birth - womp womp */TW* I have suddenly become very regular in the last four months, so at least AF and O should be easier to predict next cycle. DH is acting like it's my fault our timing wasn't good because "we did it a lot" and I "should have told" him we had "to do it more". 1 - can't be fighting him and my body, too 2 - I don't see myself getting knocked up without correction of this LP defect anyway. No joke, *TW* there have been 3 PG announcements and 4 births posted in my FB feed this week. */TW*
CS/Q:
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Month/Cycle: 9 / 1 AL
CD/DPO: ???/today
Timing: benched
Typical LP length: 9ish
Testing: nope
R/R: I posted in chart stalk, but I’m pretty sure I am actually ovulating or having a true LH surge, which would be SO exciting because that means I’m closer having my cycle back. Also - financial diet is going well after the first week. I’ll see if I can avoid buying random crap at home goods this weekend haha
CS/Q: it isn’t too pretty...
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
@chichiphin glad you've made it over here!
Month/Cycle: 22/20
CD/DPO: 24/10
Timing: decenr
Typical LP length: 12-13
Testing: debating tomorrow or Sunday
R/R: I could rant forever but I won't.... My brother is in town this weekend so we're having breakfast with him tomorrow and then we're doing a Brewers vs Cubs game on Sunday. So busy weekend.... Sunday may be better to test since I'll have time to process the results before we have to be out of the house.
CS/Q: my chart is giving me way too much hope
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC ended due to filing divorce
**New relationship starting May 2024**
Surprise BFP!! | 9.7.25 | EDD 5.11.26
@chichiphin Home goods can be hit or miss so good luck not over spending!
@inthewoods23 have fun at the game and with your visit with your brother! Pretty charts can be so frustrating, fx it means something!
Month/Cycle: 27/4 A/L
CD/DPO: 19/4
Timing: good
Typical LP length: 15
Testing: next week
R/R: rough start to the morning, hoping it is not a precursor of the weekend. I get to dig the extra mulch out of the flower beds tomorrow. Otherwise, no real plans. BIL and dh’s friend are coming over this weekend to help with house/barn projects again. Hoping I can sweet talk them in to doing something I want done. BIL was really sweet last week, apparently dh had told him I had been upset so he went out of his way to do something to cheer me up.
CS/Q: Logical me knows I am not 8 dpo, but there is a crazy side that says well, maybe you are.
@chichiphin Yay for possible O and getting back into the game!
I heard Kacey Musgraves’s song “Rainbow” yesterday and I almost lost it. The whole video is a TW for all sorts of struggles people may have namely depression from all different causes, but it also gives you an emotional release if you both need to cry (especially TTCAL) and to feel hope. It’s a beautiful song.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
CD/DPO: 22/8
Timing: ok
Typical LP length: 14
Testing: not yet
R/R: I think my thermometer may be crapping out? First temp this morning was 95.4 (I mean, I’m not dead...) and then trying again immediately it said 97.9 (which I don’t believe either - way high). I’m not going to temp while camping this weekend anyway, I guess, but now I’m doubting my recent temps? Ugh. Discarded it for chart below.
CS/Q:
@inthewoods23: fx so hard for you. Remind me - you’re not on progesterone this cycle, right?
@holly321: I also go back and analyze my chart and pick out other possible O days, even when I realize it’s irrational.
CD/DPO: 19/8
Timing: -5, -4, -3, 0 (x2), 2, 3 {Probably not spot on as I don't due any ovulation testing and I'm just basing this on cervical mucus consistency.}
Typical LP length: no idea
Testing: I might shoot for the April 11th or 12th.
R/R: I just want to go back to bed at this point. ^^; Not really in a chatty mood, so sorry if there aren't a lot of tags today. Maybe some green tea will perk me up.
We got some much needed rain last night, so I'm hoping some of the pollen will be knocked out of the air (at least temporarily). I have to go do cardio today, so wish me luck!
Dating Anniversary: 1999. Marriage Anniversary: 2001.
TTC #1 since 3/2019
CD/DPO: 17/??
Timing: if I’d get my crosshairs back it would be good
Typical LP length: 13
Testing: probably not
R/R: DH slept through his alarm this morning so it was like a whirlwind trying to get ready so he could get out of here. To be a good wife, I got up and made his lunch and coffee 😆. I absolutely hate that feeling of being late. On a brighter note, I blew
off all the things I wanted to get done and went for a mani/pedi yesterday. It was so worth it and something I’ll for sure be keeping up with.
CS/Q: ff is mad at me and took away my crosshairs. Still pretty positive I o’d cd16/17 though.
@NYTino24 I’m sorry you are having a tough time right now. I hope your ob appt goes well!
@chichiphin great work on your financial diet! It’s amazing to see how much is spent on just random crap. Fx your body is finally getting it together!
@inthewoods23 have fun with your brother and at the game! Fx for testing!
@holly321 have fun with your projects! Nice of your BIL to try and cheer you up! Sorry you had a rough start this morning.
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD/DPO: 22/4
Timing: -2 (which you all have convinced me there's still hope!)
Typical LP length: 12-14
Testing: waiting for AF
R/R: Rant: DH and I got into a fight last night, and he's still being rude this morning. (Full rant in TFAS) Hoping we can manage to not let it ruin our Friday & weekend.
Rave: We plan to go to the zoo tomorrow with some friends and finally get the rest of our house back in order after our renovations.
CS/Q: Will add in spoiler
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
@MrsVP614 I haven't been to the zoo for months, perfect time of year to go! Have fun!
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC ended due to filing divorce
**New relationship starting May 2024**
Surprise BFP!! | 9.7.25 | EDD 5.11.26
@chichiphin FX you're ovulating and getting back on track!
@inthewoods23 Your chart looks great! I'd test Sunday so you can enjoy your weekend and look forward to it.
@holly321 Hopefully this morning is not indicative of your weekend and you get lots done.
@lcking82 Yeah, sounds like maybe it's time for a new thermometer. Have a great time camping!
@flowntheloop Enjoy your cardio and (hopefully) pollen free breathing!
@kbrown2385 I'm the same way! I hate being late and it stresses me out when someone else is going to be late - like I'm late by association or something. I'm sure YH appreciates your help.
@MrsVP614 Have fun at the zoo and I hope YH gets over the fight soon.
Month/Cycle: 19/10
CD/DPO: 9dpo
Timing: Good
Typical LP length: 12 days
Testing: BFN today.
R/R: MH is so nonchalant about this entire process and its driving me crazy. It's like he doesn't realize we're spending money on TTC at this point and IT ALL MATTERS.
CS/Q: Chart's in spoiler. Looks like it might be starting to trend down.
As for the pollen, I just got this on my feed. Totally screwed: [spoiler]
Dating Anniversary: 1999. Marriage Anniversary: 2001.
TTC #1 since 3/2019
Also, I saved that song on my Spotify playlist to listen to later. I can't risk a breakdown at work.
@chichiphin *TW* I ovulated pretty early after my MC. I still had HCG about a week after I started miscarrying and I ovulated a few days after that. I didn't test my HCG until halfway through my TWW, so I don't know how much I had, but I was expecting a longer cycle and got a short one.
Way to go for no spending this week!
@inthewoods23 - Oh that chart is making me jealous. Beautiful, beautiful! My hopes are so high for you.
@holly321 - I convinced myself that I was 10 dpo yesterday. Your mind can do crazy things, but those OPKs don't lie (unless you don't O, then they do lie).
What a sweet BIL! Is this YH's brother?
@lcking82 - Lol, I hope you aren't dead! I'd check the battery, maybe it's dying.
@flowntheloop - We got some rain yesterday too, and now it is so nice outside after a cool week! Hopefully you don't have as much pollen in the air now. (Ugh, just saw your next post, I'm sorry. Tree pollen affects me the most.)
@kbrown2385 - Look at you, wife of the year award for that! I'm glad you enjoyed your mani/pedi yesterday. That's something I need to do more often than once every other year.
AFM, I tested yesterday and it was a BFN, but it help me calm down and stress less. DH is at work all evening, so I was thinking about going to the beach and watching the sunset. It'd be a beautiful day to do that!
@ruby696 ugh I'm sorry YH seems to be nonchalant about it. MH is that way too - he tells me it should help me to relax lol
@kbrown2385 me too!! I'm the one always rushing out the door to be 5 min early to everything haha
@holly321 I'm hoping the weekend is better and you get a lot done around the house/barn
@inthewoods23 that is a good looking chart... I'm hoping for good news on sunday!
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
*TW current child mentioned. It took DH and I two years for our first (MFI issues)... if he had even once told me that our lack of child was “my fault” I would have slapped him from here to next Tuesday *end TW
@chichiphin FX things are getting back on track body wise for you. ❤️ That OPK question ended up being so enlightening, I’m glad you asked it!
@flowntheloop that’s what I love about here, if you’re not feeling chatty it’s perfectly fine. People still show interest in your journey and how you are doing. Sending you good vibes for the day!
@kbrown2385 you’re such a good wife! I would smirk at my DH running around like crazy (ok... I might have made him coffee too
@marebear15 the beach sounds like a great idea!
Month/Cycle: 5
CD/DPO: 18/3
Timing: -2 and 0/1? BD happens at 1:30am so not sure how to count it.
Typical LP length: 14-16
Testing: Testing day is the 16th. I’ll probably test 12 DPO though on the 14th.
R/R: I’m glad to finally have crosshairs.... but still iffy since I fudged some missed temps. Getting nails done today! Man they need it!
CS/Q:
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC ended due to filing divorce
**New relationship starting May 2024**
Surprise BFP!! | 9.7.25 | EDD 5.11.26
@chichiphin yay for the fact you likely O'd! woo! I'm so glad for you.
@inthewoods23 I have lots of hope for that chart too! FXFXFX.
@lcking82 When I first starting temping, my temps were whack. I switched to temping vagianally, and now only occasionally do I get a whack temp? And then I re-temp usu. to a more normal one? Maybe the thermometer will get some rest this weekend while you're camping...
@kbrown2385 Ah, The Great FF Crosshairs Removal (which sounds like a really weird children's book or like bank heist). I'm mad jelly of yr mani/pedi.
@ruby696 Sorry for the bfn & non-chalant YH =/
Month/Cycle: 6/5/2AL
CD/DPO: 21/8
Timing: -2
Typical LP length: 14-15
Testing: 4/9, I've decided. Hopefully I can be firm w/ myself on that one.
R/R: Just got a "violation notice" for a toll we didn't pay when we were traveling in Dec., $50 more than the toll itself. I called to inquire & have decided, based on that call, to enclose a note & check for the toll only &... hopefully that works bc DAYUMN. / Got my & DH's new vitamins in the mail today! It's the little things, yall. Also, I just realized, bc TB did a weird thing where I was looking at this thread for min. like an outsider, that I have everyone's signatures turned off. I wonder if that's from my "Knot" days. Also, the "siggy" challenge makes MUCH more sense now lol.
CS/Q: lol at the pinterest button.
@marebear15 sorry for the bfn! Enjoy the sunset today. I always find it so relaxing. I used to get my nails done regularly and just have put it off. It’s time to get back to taking care of me again and thankfully dh agrees.
@ruby696 sorry for the bfn. I understand your frustration with yh. Hope he comes around for your sanity.
@flowntheloop hopefully the pollen gets over with soon so you can start feeling better!
@MrsVP614 sorry for the fight with yh. Sounds like he needs a swift kick in the ass. I will add that dh and I went through that as well at one point. It took a big discussion for him to see that this is a partnership, not a one sided situation and that I needed help. Hopefully he comes around and cuts you some slack.
CD/DPO: 20/3
Timing: Excellent
Typical LP length: 13-15 days
Testing: nope
R/R: my H had his varicocele repair surgery this morning! It went very well. He had a grade 3 varicocele which is the highest. He will get a SA in 3 months and another one in 6 months. We hope his number will be improved. Onward and upward! in other news, I slipped in my stairs last night and have bruises on my butt and arm. That was scary.
CS/Q: FF moved my CH this morning. I agree with FF about O day but they are now dotted CH.
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
@chichiphin resist the urge!! my biggest motivation to not buy all the things is thinking about all the crap I would have to hauled if I moved.
@inthewoods23 this is a great looking chart. Also, your brother's April's Fool joke was great. This is how you do it people!
@holly321 you are NOT 8DPO
@lcking82 if I have a doubt, I take my temp 4-5 times in a row and record the most consistent one.
@flowntheloop good luck with cardio!
@kbrown2385 you saved his day! I am also as confused as FF about your chart.
@MrsVP614 I hope you don't stay mad all weekend long. Go have a drink/food outside the house. Being in a different atmosphere helps.
@ruby696 this doesn't mean much. Temps could be back up tomorrow. Do your temps take time to go down or is it sudden?
@marebear15 wow, having the option to go watch the sunset on a beach sounds like a dream. Do it!!
@madcouplewithabox Enjoy getting your nails done.
@kagesstarshroom lol, what were you thinking about the siggy challenge? Although, I can't talk. I just realized there were random threads where you could talk about, well, random things!
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC ended due to filing divorce
**New relationship starting May 2024**
Surprise BFP!! | 9.7.25 | EDD 5.11.26
Month/Cycle: 2/2
CD/DPO: 15/10dpo
Timing: 0 and 2
Typical LP length: 14
Testing: BFN the last 3 days and now just WFAF
R/R: Husband is mildly irritating me, wallowing in disappointment with my BFN. Cycle 2, bro. I am irregular, 35 and you are 40. It has been, like a minute.
CS/Q: nope, nope
TTC #2: Jan 2019
DS: 2.5 yo
EDD: 12/2/16 DOB: 10/22/16
(Previously MBS2016 Dec 2016 board
@rikiteacup and @marebear15 I had a theory about the opks! Haha, I drink too much water and didn’t have a good sample. In my defense, they had progressed to close to positive and then didn’t, plus I missed one day, so clearly I could have missed my positive! Don’t mind my craziness.
@marebear15 it was one of dh’s brothers. enjoy the beach!
@rikiteacup I hope your dh has a smooth recovery!
@kbrown2385 that was sweet of you to help your dh. I am ridiculously ocd about time and hate being late for anything.
@marebear15 definitely NSFW because of all the feels. At first it makes me want to cry and then it makes me feel hopeful.
@rikiteacup Good news all around, but sorry that you fell!
@bobbyflies2020 Sorry for the BFN
@madcouplewithabox I definitely laid it out numerically so he couldn’t really argue with how much more I’m doing. Here was his response / attempt at humor instead of apologizing. Should be really interesting if we end up at an RE after the six month mark. I’m nearing the end of the fourth... He apparently schooled some guy at work when he corrected him about Fallopian tubes, but in reality he doesn’t know much about any of this. He thought temping was over the top at first, but he saw how it helped in the past and told friends about it and OPKs. He doesn’t know many people who have struggled though.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility