Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
sorarose
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Blighted Ovum-Need Advice
sorarose
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I'm really frustrated with my doctor's office and would appreciate advice on how to proceed. I had transvaginal ultrasounds at 5w4d and 7w1d and all was seen is an empty gestational sac measuring a day ahead both times. OB wouldn't call it because the size didn't reach some threshold. I had hcg done the same day att 7w1d and it was 49,205 and 7w3d it was 58,611. Because I'm at 7 weeks, the doctor said a 20% increase is 2 days is still normal and wants me to get it done again tomorrow and a repeat u/s next week without actually scheduling it yet.
I'm very upset because I want this to all just be done with. There's clearly nothing there, and I don't appreciate the false hope and prolonging of my pregnancy symptoms. Is this typical, or should I be pushing back more? Will a pill be as effective at 8w? I would prefer not to do a D&C and getting even more anxious about this process.
I'm very upset because I want this to all just be done with. There's clearly nothing there, and I don't appreciate the false hope and prolonging of my pregnancy symptoms. Is this typical, or should I be pushing back more? Will a pill be as effective at 8w? I would prefer not to do a D&C and getting even more anxious about this process.
Re: Blighted Ovum-Need Advice
I can only tell it's far better to have a doctor who wants to be 100 percent sure than it is to have one that pushes non viable pregnancy too soon. I've had both. My son was diagnosed as a blighted ovum. My then OB pushed for a D&C. I chose to wait. He's six now. My most recent pregnancy, I knew wasn't viable. I knew there was something wasn't right. But, my OB chose to wait. I ended up naturally miscarrying a few days later. We all knew that was the likely outcome. But, I also knew without a doubt that everything possible was done to ensure we didn't terminate a viable pregnancy...and that brought me comfort.
I hope you have your answers soon. Many of us know how awful the limbo is, and are here to listen and support you.
When I went back, the NP could only find one egg sac, still no spinal development, just empty. She wanted to have me go to one more thorough ultrasound to make a firm assessment. I did that the next day, at would have been about 10 weeks, got a call that there was in fact no baby developing at all, and that I could take a pill to induce miscarriage. I opted to just let it happen naturally. It was weird- as soon as I let go of the idea that the baby was developing, and after what felt like a very invasive second ultrasound, I started bleeding. The following day, it was like my body wanted absolutely nothing to do with the pregnancy anymore and I started bleeding fiercely. I had to go to the ER for an emergency D&C, which I really didn't want to have to do. It worked out fine in the end, but it was all very surreal.
This time, I'm almost 6 weeks, and I'm definitely experiencing more pregnancy symptoms at the moment. My first child turns 9 this year, so my memory of pregnancy with her is very blurry. I hope if you do miscarry, that all goes smoothly. One thing that helped me not to feel so sad about the miscarriage was something I learned from yoga (here comes the hippy crap!)- they teach that a baby's soul doesn't reside in it's body until 120 days of pregnancy, so for me, that helped a bit. You'll still be affected by the loss, but know that your baby is still coming. Their soul is looking for you