FFFC 3/8

MollyH1987 · March 2019

lilmamabebe3 · March 2019

I have never felt more rage over naming a baby in my life. I do not like the name my husband loves but I am half tempted to use it just because a friend of mine has been such a fucking bitch about it. A person she hates has a daughter with this name and like, that's not my problem? But she has had a ridiculously strong and rude reaction, which has been so hurtful to me and she doesn't even care. So that's the confession, I am thisclose to naming my daughter a name I don't like just to spite my friend.

moon1417 · March 2019

Ohhhhhhh @lilmamabebe3 you have gaaame! I really want to know the name!

thirdtimesacharm2019 · March 2019

@lilmamabebe3 I read something recently about thinking of your child’s name in the context of screaming it across the playground vs. how cute it would look monogrammed on something. Definitely want to be prepared to say it a lot. DH can’t figure out why I don’t like some of the names we both liked with DS2... ummmm... that was seven years ago?!?

lilmamabebe3 · March 2019

To be fair, it's a totally normal name and I have a few friends who have named their daughter this. And I love my friend and she has 100% right to hate this person. But her vitriol reaction has been extremely hurtful and I feel like I can't call it out because of a million other reasons and I know she didn't mean to be hurtful but she was extremely abrasive and not self-aware in how she spoke to me.

I am just a stubborn asshole and when people tell me what to do with my babies it pisses me off. Plus, I am already in a fragile state so logical me knows I am taking this way more personally than I normally would and her intent was not her impact and she doesn't know that because I haven't told her. I love her. I would defend her to the ends of the earth, but this just really hurt me.

@moon1417 it's Riley. I just don't love it. I don't hate it but it's just not ...the one? Idk. We're going back and forth on a few and every time I tell someone and they tell me their favorite I'm like well that's off the list because IDGAF what your favorite is. I am an asshole when pregnant, and I internally cringe at myself but I can't help it. Pregnancy fucks me up apparently. I am like an angry drunk all the time without the alcohol when with child.

moon1417 · March 2019

@lilmamabebe3 hahaha to you being a angry drunken preggo lady without the alcohol. I do like the name though - but I'm totally biased bc it's my 15yo nieces name annnd I like slightly gender-neutral girl names. I am on team, you need to find one you both love - forget your wacky friend! I would tell her that's what you decided to name your kid and then actually name her something else.

Eta -- I totally get you though bc my MIL hated the name Harper which was one we were considering for DD and it annoyed me so bad and I wanted to name her that. I went with something else. She hated it because there was a TV character with that name that she didn't like. w t f - keep that to your self lady.

lilmamabebe3 · March 2019

@moon1417 I think it's a great name! A good friend of mine has a daughter named Riley (she's just my friend, we don't get together as families or anything) and she's the cutest and sweetest. It's not some made up stupid name, at all! It's just not *the one* and we are still deciding on what that will be. It's hard not knowing! I am so type A that not having a name is driving me bonkers.

peachy0709 · March 2019

@lilmamabebe3 - If it's any help, my mom reacts this way every time we tell her names, and the last two times it didn't matter because I was already set on the name, but we are 100% name our son the name we picked because my mom liked it least of our list. No Fs given.

mrosek91 · March 2019

We tell everyone we're team green even though we find out at the anatomy scan, because we like being the only ones who know.

wabash15 · March 2019

@lilmamabebe3 SIL told us DD2's name was terrible and that the whole family would hate it... (as a side note, she is named after someone in DH's family)... DD2 is 14 months old and SIL has yet to call her by her name. it makes me so ragey. I get that you don't love the name but really your going to take it out on a sweet innocent baby?!? WTAF

FFFC: we bought a box of gummy bears for the kids....(a BIG box) they have yet to have any and the first box it gone...

EmilyA724 · March 2019

@mrosek91 do you keep it secret the rest of the pregnancy? I'm impressed, I think I would definitely slip up.

I definitely understand wanting to act out of spite. My MIL pissed me off the other day and I am so tempted not to find out the sex at the a/s because I know it would drive her insane.

mkrel · March 2019

@lilmamabebe3 That is really annoying. My Mom does not like our name and kept making suggestions of other names for a few days, I eventually told her we have been discussing this for months, we have decided on a name, and that is is. I don't get why she thinks her opinion matters!!!!

I love the name Riley though. It was on our list for a while too!

lilmamabebe3 · March 2019

@wabash15 that is fucking terrible!! My parents split up when I was little and he wanted to name me Nicole, but my mom hated it and it's my middle name. My father's parents would always call me Nicki when I was over there and it was confusing AF and I hated it. As an adult I see why they did it (to be spiteful that my mom didn't let their son name me) and it's so fucked up! Just use my name. It's my name whether you like it or not! I would be so pissed at your SIL. That is bullshit.

mkrel · March 2019

@EmilyA724 My cousin and his wife actually found out the sex and didn't tell anyone else. It drove people crazy knowing that they knew, but wouldn't share until the baby was born. You could just tell her you know, but have decided not to share with anyone and play it off for as long as you want to drive her crazy!

lilmamabebe3 · March 2019

@mkrel why do people take such personal and intense interest in what parents are naming a baby. My best friend even said, "I've been thinking, and X name on your list is the best one because it sounds the best with the boys' names." Great. Not using that now, fuck you very much. (See? I am v. angry and it needs to stop.)

I am just so annoyed. I don't want opinions on what to name my baby. Are we struggling with naming her? Yep. But one way or another we'll do it! I don't need outside influence and all it does is annoy me. I am 100% done talking about the name with other people.

mkrel · March 2019

@wabash15 You SIL sounds like a piece of work. What is her problem?!

AFM: I judge people who throw lavish birthday parties for babies/very young kids and spend tons of money. I guess judge may be the wrong word.... I don't care what you do with your money, but I would way rather put that 1k I know some people spend based on local mom group posts towards a vacation that the whole family can enjoy together than a party for a few hours.
Another: I work from home and I sometimes forget to brush my teeth until lunch time.

wabash15 · March 2019

@mkrel I am with you on not having lavish birthday parties... especially for young kids, they don;t even know whats going on.

olivemomma · March 2019

@lilmamabebe3 my mom is very vocal about not naming a baby anything that is really high on the “popular” name list. So much so that they didn’t name me what they really wanted to when I was born bc it was too popular. I got a small satisfaction naming DD one of the most popular names of the year. Man did she cringe

olivemomma · March 2019

@mkrel agreed! I’ve never made a huge deal for a birthday. Even when DD turned 5 she got to have a few friends, cake, and only gifts from family - and guess what - she felt super special! I’m lucky in that she hasn’t been to an over the top extravagant party because I’m sure she would then feel we are denying her but I just can’t do it. I barely celebrate my birthday at all - i want to go out to dinner and have my immediate family and close friends wish me happy birthday but that’s about it.

EmilyA724 · March 2019

FFFC: We ended up spending well over $500 on DD's 4th birthday. It wasn't even lavish, it was at the children's museum with her class and cousins with pizza and cupcakes. I don't even know how it happened.

peachy0709 · March 2019

Yeah, another one here who has spent a ton of money on kid's birthday parties. Insert shrug.

mrosek91 · March 2019

@EmilyA724 Yep! Although with DS#1 we told people we knew we just weren't sharing. And after he was born a number of family members said they figured it out from things we said.
It's amazing how much people felt entitled to know, some would not stop asking, that's why we started using the team green fib.

ElcaB · March 2019

@lilmamabebe3 that's exactly why we don't share names until the baby is born.

My FFFC: A lot of wedding cakes are ugly.

grangerhp37 · March 2019

On the naming business: so many people have asked us if we have any names yet. I think I’m going to refuse to share our thoughts until we’ve decided on one for sure, then just tell people it is what it is and is not up for discussion. So learn to love it! I despise the thought of people giving us their opinions of our ideas or suggestions for new ones (unless we really had no ideas or ASKED for opinions). We plan to talk about names this weekend.

thirdtimesacharm2019 · March 2019

This is the first day all week I’ve been productive at work and spent more time actually working than crusing the Internet.

#sorrynotsorry

BigBadWolf12 · March 2019

FFFC: I rarely have an original UO or FFFC and just play off of other people's.

mia8263 · March 2019

My hubby loves Riley too. I’m not a fan but it’s not awful ❤️

jrm_14 · March 2019

When I’m having a painful poop, I have to coach myself “You can do this. If you can get through this, you can birth a baby!” Or “If you can’t do this, you’re never going to be able to have a baby!”

mrosek91 · March 2019

@jrm_14 ME TOO!! Except mine is usually a varient of "you've already pushed out two babies, this should not be this hard"

jmesue1030 · March 2019

@wabash15 I bought a bag of gummy bears while in line at Nordstrom rack last Sunday. The next day my business partner brought me a bag of gummy bears because she knew they are my guilty pleasure. Both were gone by the end of Monday. I may have given DS about 3.

Beauxbaton · March 2019

@lilmamabebe3 we purposefully don't share our favorite names until like the week before delivery and we throw in some really out there names just for fun. With DD I'm not sure we told anyone we were even considering the name we chose. My mom keeps asking if we have talked about names and I just keep telling her she middle names we have talked about.

Want a personalized experience?

FFFC 3/8

Re: FFFC 3/8

Choose Another Board

Search Boards