DH is coming home from his ski trip with his friends, while I am looking forward to having him home I got quite comfortable with using the entire bed. I don't want to share.
Everything is working my nerves lately... ever-y-thiiiinnnnggg! I need to prepare for a presentation at work tomorrow, but I don’t even want to adult today... much less speak in front of people tomorrow. And if we have one more rainy, nasty day I think I’m going to scream. And I’m not sure what’s up with DH lately, but we aren’t seeing eye to eye. Only good thing about Monday is my new week starts today (17!!) and only three more weeks to anatomy scan. For some reason I feel like I realllly need to know the gender... still contemplating an elective ultrasound, but I keep talking myself out of it, because we could really use the money elsewhere!
@thirdtimesacharm2019 I feel you. I have to speak to a board of selectmen/women tonight and I just don't want to. It's 40 minutes from my house and at 7pm. Plus I I am the awkward fluffy stage where I don't look pregnant, but nothing fits. Yay for attempting to look professional with nothing to wear.
@Amdogger82 Ditto on nothing to wear. I generally don’t have dress too nice, but this meeting and another one on Thursday are in our main administrative building and it’s super fancy. I should be wearing a suit or at least a blazer, but the room gets super hot and I’ll die in that many clothes. Plus I’m trying not to spend a fortune on maternity clothes since I’m positive this is the last kid.
Everyone at work has stuff that needs to get done today. The rest of my week is empty, to the point I might need to charge the unassigned time code, which is a last resort, you will get called by upper management no-no. But today... everyone is calling me to do stuff. When I keep saying can I do it tomorrow instead, they either say no, I'll take care of it, or no, stay late if you have too. Which brings me to point #2. I know that as an accountant staying late is required especially between Jan and April. But I have a special deal with HR, that I get to work 9-5 and that's it. AND I TOOK A PAY CUT TO GET THOSE HOURS!!! So no don't tell me you have to work late, everyone else it doing it.
@WinchesterGirl I applaud you managing 3 tenants. We rented out our condo for a few years and I couldn't wait to get it sold and not have to deal with rent and tenants anymore!
I too will need more work clothes soon so we'll see how long I can last in my current pair of maternity work pants before I need more bottoms and tops.
I also got pulled into an all day training today that I didn't know I was supposed to attend. And obviously I'm paying attention since I'm writing on the Bump right now I've also hit the stage where when I sneeze, there's a 50% chance I pee a little.
Me: 31 DH:35 Started TTC in June 2014 Started seeing RE in June 2015 HSG in July 2015 = normal, started Clomid/Ovidrel/IUI cycle in August 2015 Cycle #3 in October afforded 1st month of mature follicles - underwent IUI BFP on 10/27/15 - EDD 7/8/16 DD#1 born on 7/1/16
TTC #2 in September 2018 BFP on 12/2/18 - EDD 8/16/19
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We were cutting trees near the house yesterday (pine and redwood, big trees!). I have told my Dad (brain aneurysm guy) 1000 times to always make sure my little dog is in the house when he comes through the 2 doors (laundry room) to come inside the house. I had a feeling I needed to check the dog so I did. I found him in the laundry room when he isn't suppose to be. My dad again did not pay attention and make sure Sprocket was in the house when he came through. The back door opens really easily so my little dog could have escaped and been crushed by a tree. I talked to my dad about it and he LAUGHED. So I yelled at him to get outside. I did not want him in my house, putting my dog in danger and laughing about it. I absolutely cannot wait until he is out of my house for good. I can't and should not be parenting a 63 year old man child.
I understand he has a brain injury but he is MUCH more capable than he shows people and he takes zero responsibility for anything.
@WinchesterGirl YES! The facility said it will take a while to find him a place so we are setting up a trailer on our property for him to stay in until then. He will at least be out from under my roof.
Went on a 1.5 mile walk today, trying to be healthy and all...and ended up with chaffed thighs from my dress pants. I think the seam is sitting wrong now that I'm wearing them a bit lower than designed due to my belly because I've walked in these pants a lot over the last year and never had a problem. Never. But OUCH!
Oh, and I had to wake up and go to work today. That was also painful.
Omg, my 2-year-old. A couple weeks ago she went on a nap strike. She JUST turned 2, and clearly still needs a nap. I thought we got over it but nooooo...it started up again yesterday. She has become “The Girl Who Cried Poop.” She says “poop, poop, poop” because she knows we’ll come running to change her diaper. And 95% of the time...no poop. So now I ignore her poop cries, and then feel all guilty wondering if she really does have a poopy diaper!
Not really bitching but a frustrated position I am in. I need a better job and have been job hunting since before I was pregnant. Now I nearly 16 weeks along and the ideal job is calling me for an interview. I REALLY want this job. It would be a great step up for our family, and a perfect opportunity. However, it is does require vehicle operation. I am praying and hoping that this does not hinder my ability to obtain this position. I would like to be completely honest with them and tell them upfront. I know I am not legally required to and I know its illegal to use pregnancy as a reason to deny employment. The idea of trying to deceive them doesn't sit well with me but I am also scared to be honest.
Not really bitching but a frustrated position I am in. I need a better job and have been job hunting since before I was pregnant. Now I nearly 16 weeks along and the ideal job is calling me for an interview. I REALLY want this job. It would be a great step up for our family, and a perfect opportunity. However, it is does require vehicle operation. I am praying and hoping that this does not hinder my ability to obtain this position. I would like to be completely honest with them and tell them upfront. I know I am not legally required to and I know its illegal to use pregnancy as a reason to deny employment. The idea of trying to deceive them doesn't sit well with me but I am also scared to be honest.
Hi! I just got an offer today and I am 16 weeks pregnant. My friend is an employment attorney and STRONGLY advises not to share the news of your pregnancy during interviews and there are two reasons:
1. Your protection--self-explanatory. 2. Their protection--you want them to make a decision based on the skills each candidate has and not feel obligated to hire you because of your pregnancy. It makes it that much sweeter when you get the offer! And once you receive an offer, it cannot be rescinded for any reason other than a failed background check. They will make accommodations and figure it out, but do not share your pregnancy ahead of time. It is protection for BOTH parties involved. You are not deceiving them--you are interviewing for a position based on the skills you have and you want to give them a fair opportunity to assess candidates based on experience level.
@lilmamabebe3 Thank you for all of that! It does make a lot of sense and I can see myself explaining to them that I wanted to be hired based upon my qualifications and not cloud their decision with the pregnancy. I just told my sister I think it would be best if I do not mention it during the initial interview but disclose it when offered the position. I do actually feel a lot better and more hopeful now!
@thirdtimesacharm2019@MollyH1987 I’m with you ladies struggling with work clothes to wear. I’m wearing maternity workout leggings under my dress today (that’s def on the top right side in the boobage area) because it’s cold and I haven’t bought a ton. I finally broke down and ordered stitch fix maternity today and it’ll be here on the 16th
@lilmamabebe3 Thank you for all of that! It does make a lot of sense and I can see myself explaining to them that I wanted to be hired based upon my qualifications and not cloud their decision with the pregnancy. I just told my sister I think it would be best if I do not mention it during the initial interview but disclose it when offered the position. I do actually feel a lot better and more hopeful now!
Good luck!! I am staying in my current role now (I was offered a position without interviewing from a previous boss today, but I declined), but I did take a new role at 15 weeks pregnant with my second and they were great! You got this!! Fingers crossed, and all the good luck!
@aecm uggg I remember the twins nap strike... some of those afternoons I nearly lost my mind... that being said it was not permanent. It went on and off for 2-3 months and then they were back to napping pretty regularly. They occasionally have days they don't want to nap now but Mom NEEDS those naps! I am not looking forward to the day they give them up all together.
@agpandme I did not tell my current job I was pregnant when interviewing... Actually I didn't say anything until I started...
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Tonight we were planning to take the kids to swim lessons and then school conferences for DS were right after. Here is how our evening has gone... 3:55 in the middle of starting to make an early dinner when DDs school calls and wenchy office lady says, "Ummmm, hi we still have C here when are you guys picking her up." To which I replied that she takes the bus EVERY Monday!!!!! Got a text from teacher apologizing, apparently she got in the wrong line and never made it on her bus. Sent DH to pick her up where he found out they did not give DD her meds at lunch because they could not get it out of the bottle. DD comes home and is screaming, crying throwing temper tantrums about everything...DS starts feeding off of her energy and I am trying to finish cooking.
Once dinner was ready I was scrambling to gather all of the things necessary for swim lessons between shoving bites of food in my face. DH ran to the neighbors house to help move a piece of furniture (perfect timing right?). After mass chaos we have everyone ready to go and kids are calm, but excited to swim. As we were walking to the car DD mentions she locked the car after school...we keep the key in the car and long story but do not have a spare in our house. Our other car only has 1 carseat so can't take that. Cue 30 minutes of screaming and crying from both kids while DH unsuccesfully tried to pick the lock. DH ended up driving to his parents house to get a spare but that would not leave enough time to get to swim. Now I will go to conferences alone and plan to take my sweet time.
Also, we have all been hit with colds in the past week and I am sick of peeing myself when I cough and sneeze.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
I just found out that one of my husband's Aunt's is a plague enthusiast who didn't vaccinate any of her 4 children. They are all adults now (early 20s), but it seems none are interested in getting vaccinated.
As I'm sure most of us have heard, Thanks to all the plague enthusiasts in North America, measles has made a come back. We've had 2 confirmed cases in our city.
Which means baby and I will not be attending any family functions. Which sucks. We have to talk to our OB about possible dangers of exposure while pregnant to know if I have to start avoiding them immediately, or just once baby is born.
I'm pissed that baby and I will be the ones punished and miss out on Christmas and other family functions, just because some people are stupid. I can't believe our family is some of the stupid. I had no idea. So much shame...
@chillycanadian That’s so stressful! Do you usually enjoy those family gatherings?
We told ILs the sex of the baby this weekend. BIL&SIL (also pregnant) were very excited, as was FIL. MIL looked like a deer in headlights & told BIL that they still had the chance to have a girl. When BIL&SIL said they wanted a boy bc we were having one, she told them not to say that bc she wants a girl. When I said people, including aunts, etc, will need a tdap+flu shot if they want to hold baby, she responded, “Does that mean me, too?”
@jrm_14 yes! I love family, and get togethers and holidays. Even though it's a big family and can be overwhelming haha. They are all lovely people and I love spending time with them. So it's super disappointing.
*Facepalm* how is it that some people think they are special exceptions?! Also, kind of unfair of her to say they can't want a boy because she wants a girl....does that mean she will be upset and love a boy less? My hormonal ass would probably end up crying about that
It’s 1:30am I woke up to pee and can’t go back to sleep. DH is snoring so loudly I came into my DS room to get some quiet, however, there’s a beeping sound on and off I can’t find. I cannot stand MIL, she stays with us because she does not drive and during the week she watches LO. She gets paid to watch LO but does not respect our wishes. It’s a weekly argument because DH will not talk to his mother about it. I work for the school district so I look forward to every single break we have. She’s a nice lady but thinks raising 4 kids makes her all knowing. LO is starting daycare in September thankfully! I haven’t been able to eat much most things make me nauseas and I think it’s affecting my sleep so cranky all the time this pregnancy 😢
@chillycanadian, ugh people are the worst. My cousins don’t vaccinate their daughter and it’s so irritating. I already told my parents they can’t invite them when we visit for Christmas. I didn’t even think about her attending the shower. I did get my MMR boosters 3 years ago because I like to make sure all my vaccines are up to date so hopefully that covers me.
@chillycanadian I’m sorry that’s so frustrating. People argue that they have the right to not vaccinate their children based on beliefs or religion. Fine, but your kid is not allowed to attend school, or be a part of society, in my opinion. I just don’t understand it
@Allycat11 holy day batman! wow.... I'm sorry you had to deal with all of that. @chillycanadian ugg that is super frustrating. Though I like the term "plague enthusiast"
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@jrm_14 my mom said something similar about her grandchildren. She said she doesn't "click" with the boys, girls are so much more fun. I'm like "You are grandma, you just have a be grandma and love them all equally even if you think boys are icky".
The vaccine thing is odd to me. If your child is vaccinated, why would unvaccinated people matter? Your child has the vaccines, so in theory they will be okay, right?. Personally I'm not a "plague enthusiast" (LOVE this term ) with people but I do practice minimal vaccinations with my animals. We do titer tests instead. The different opinions are interesting to me.
@agpandme - babies don’t complete their full course of vaccinations for about a year, so until then they are susceptible to catching vaccine-preventable diseases from unvaccinated people. Also, some kids with immune disorders or who have cancer and are undergoing treatments that knock out their immune system CAN’T receive vaccines, so they are very much at risk from people who are not vaccinated. That’s why, “plague enthusiasts” (lol, love that term, @chillycanadian) are a menace to society, and IMO, pretty rude.
@agpandme Yes, like @aecm it's the spacing of the doses. You can ask my friend about her daughter who got chicken pox before she was able to receive the second round of the vaccine. I think some take as many as four rounds/boosters if I remember correctly.
@agpandme I have an autoimmune disorder that requires immunosuppressive medication. Even though I was vaccinated as a child, I am far more susceptible to illnesses bc of the immunosuppression. Also, this baby will be born with some lowered level of immunity for a period of time due to my meds (they’re safe, we have Went over risk/benefits, etc). Also, I can’t be up close & personal with people who have recently had active/“live” vaccines. So, I’m not sure what that will mean for LO’s vaccination schedule. If there isn’t a medical reason to not vaccinate, they protect people such as myself and my baby. A couple of years ago, I caught pertussis (whooping cough) from someone I found out was not vaccinated. I was incredibly ill & it was the most terrifying illness. I can’t imagine small babies dealing with it
@jrm_14 When I was 21, my boyfriend had whooping cough because his vaccine had worn off. I echo what you said about it being terrifying and that I could never imagine a baby coughing that hard. I haven't kept up with him but I bet after that he was super pro-vaccine.
@agpandme the problem is my newborn won't be vaccinated. MMR is administered at 1 year I believe? Baby will only be 4 months at Christmas. And those who are unvaccinated can be exposed and not show symptoms for 10-12 days. Might not even know they've been exposed, as measles can be airborne, and survives outside the host for quite some time. So the cousins at Christmas could infect or even kill my baby and not even realize they were actually sick.
There is also a small percentage of people who recieve the vaccination but it doesn't take. Which isn't a big deal if everyone get vaccinated. But for heard immunity to work, at least 85% need to be vaccinated. There are people with allergies or who are immunocompromised (or newborns) who depend on the heard immunity because they can't be immunized themselves.
Also, diseases mutate. Viruses are particularly good at it. So if someone who is unvaccinated catches one of these diseases, it can thrive and mutate in the host. Which can create a new strain which no one has imunity to.
So yea. Those are some of the reasons unvaccinated people scare me.
(However, I do agree that we over vaccinate our pets. I've been meaning to do research...how are dogs immune systems so different from Human's that they need yearly vaccines? Seems odd to me....)
@chillycanadian choosing not to vaccinate is such a privileged choice, and I'm so sorry that you'll be left out in an effort to protect yourself and your baby. I just read an article about an 18 year old in Ohio who was not vaccinated as a child and has since done research on vaccines and is choosing to get fully vaccinated, even though his parents don't agree with this choice. So there is hope.
@AKuzReve I'm so sorry! I know it's hard not to be stressed about that, especially when pregnant. When I was pregnant with my first I was around someone who had just been diagnosed with shingles and she chose to come around to a work event anyway. Even though I had chicken pox AND pediatric shingles as a child, it still freaked me out. All was okay in the end!
@sw1122 Yes! Your kid, your "choice," but your choice should not be allowed to hurt someone else.
@agpandme Unvaccinated people aren't the concern for the vaccinated population, they are the concern for those who are unable to get vaccinated and are more susceptible to disease: people who are immunocompromised, babies who are too young to receive vaccines (MMR vaccine isn't given until 12 months of age), cancer patients, asthmatics, people who have allergies to certain ingredients in vaccines (like people with an egg allergy can't get the flu shot because it contains an egg preservative), etc. Herd immunity is only effective when somewhere between 83 and 94 percent of the community is immune. Ultimately the pro-vaccine argument is about the responsibility of members of a society to do their part to protect those who are unable to protect themselves from preventable illnesses.
Thank you for all the thoughtful answers! It is quite interesting how Measles was essentially eradicated but is now making a steady "comeback" since 2010 and the devastation that it has brought upon early populations. Yes the MMR vaccine CAN be given at 6 months but generally they need an extra dose when it is given early as the efficacy is lessened due to the influence of the mothers immune system. Fascinating!
If anyone is interested to learn more about diseases, there is a great podcast called "This Podcast Will Kill You". Very entertaining and informative. Although it sounds like many of you already know enough to get by
My interview went well. I suppose I will know soon if they offer me the position. It would require a 1.5 hour commute for 6-8 weeks of training which I do not look forward too but it will be worth it when I'm working in my own town.
Re: Monday B*fest, 2/4
Also have 2/3 tenants waiting to pay rent to the last second. Sigh. Come on guys, the first comes every month.
BFP 06/25/17 | EDD 02/24/18 | DS2 02/19/18
Which brings me to point #2. I know that as an accountant staying late is required especially between Jan and April. But I have a special deal with HR, that I get to work 9-5 and that's it. AND I TOOK A PAY CUT TO GET THOSE HOURS!!! So no don't tell me you have to work late, everyone else it doing it.
I too will need more work clothes soon so we'll see how long I can last in my current pair of maternity work pants before I need more bottoms and tops.
I also got pulled into an all day training today that I didn't know I was supposed to attend. And obviously I'm paying attention since I'm writing on the Bump right now
Started TTC in June 2014
Started seeing RE in June 2015
HSG in July 2015 = normal, started Clomid/Ovidrel/IUI cycle in August 2015
Cycle #3 in October afforded 1st month of mature follicles - underwent IUI
BFP on 10/27/15 - EDD 7/8/16
DD#1 born on 7/1/16
TTC #2 in September 2018
BFP on 12/2/18 - EDD 8/16/19
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I understand he has a brain injury but he is MUCH more capable than he shows people and he takes zero responsibility for anything.
Oh, and I had to wake up and go to work today. That was also painful.
1. Your protection--self-explanatory.
2. Their protection--you want them to make a decision based on the skills each candidate has and not feel obligated to hire you because of your pregnancy. It makes it that much sweeter when you get the offer! And once you receive an offer, it cannot be rescinded for any reason other than a failed background check. They will make accommodations and figure it out, but do not share your pregnancy ahead of time. It is protection for BOTH parties involved. You are not deceiving them--you are interviewing for a position based on the skills you have and you want to give them a fair opportunity to assess candidates based on experience level.
Good luck!
@agpandme I did not tell my current job I was pregnant when interviewing... Actually I didn't say anything until I started...
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Once dinner was ready I was scrambling to gather all of the things necessary for swim lessons between shoving bites of food in my face. DH ran to the neighbors house to help move a piece of furniture (perfect timing right?). After mass chaos we have everyone ready to go and kids are calm, but excited to swim. As we were walking to the car DD mentions she locked the car after school...we keep the key in the car and long story but do not have a spare in our house. Our other car only has 1 carseat so can't take that. Cue 30 minutes of screaming and crying from both kids while DH unsuccesfully tried to pick the lock. DH ended up driving to his parents house to get a spare but that would not leave enough time to get to swim. Now I will go to conferences alone and plan to take my sweet time.
Also, we have all been hit with colds in the past week and I am sick of peeing myself when I cough and sneeze.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
They are all adults now (early 20s), but it seems none are interested in getting vaccinated.
As I'm sure most of us have heard, Thanks to all the plague enthusiasts in North America, measles has made a come back. We've had 2 confirmed cases in our city.
Which means baby and I will not be attending any family functions. Which sucks. We have to talk to our OB about possible dangers of exposure while pregnant to know if I have to start avoiding them immediately, or just once baby is born.
I'm pissed that baby and I will be the ones punished and miss out on Christmas and other family functions, just because some people are stupid.
I can't believe our family is some of the stupid. I had no idea. So much shame...
We told ILs the sex of the baby this weekend. BIL&SIL (also pregnant) were very excited, as was FIL. MIL looked like a deer in headlights & told BIL that they still had the chance to have a girl. When BIL&SIL said they wanted a boy bc we were having one, she told them not to say that bc she wants a girl. When I said people, including aunts, etc, will need a tdap+flu shot if they want to hold baby, she responded, “Does that mean me, too?”
*Facepalm* how is it that some people think they are special exceptions?! Also, kind of unfair of her to say they can't want a boy because she wants a girl....does that mean she will be upset and love a boy less? My hormonal ass would probably end up crying about that
I cannot stand MIL, she stays with us because she does not drive and during the week she watches LO. She gets paid to watch LO but does not respect our wishes. It’s a weekly argument because DH will not talk to his mother about it. I work for the school district so I look forward to every single break we have. She’s a nice lady but thinks raising 4 kids makes her all knowing. LO is starting daycare in September thankfully!
I haven’t been able to eat much most things make me nauseas and I think it’s affecting my sleep so cranky all the time this pregnancy 😢
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@chillycanadian ugg that is super frustrating. Though I like the term "plague enthusiast"
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
And those who are unvaccinated can be exposed and not show symptoms for 10-12 days. Might not even know they've been exposed, as measles can be airborne, and survives outside the host for quite some time. So the cousins at Christmas could infect or even kill my baby and not even realize they were actually sick.
There is also a small percentage of people who recieve the vaccination but it doesn't take. Which isn't a big deal if everyone get vaccinated. But for heard immunity to work, at least 85% need to be vaccinated. There are people with allergies or who are immunocompromised (or newborns) who depend on the heard immunity because they can't be immunized themselves.
Also, diseases mutate. Viruses are particularly good at it. So if someone who is unvaccinated catches one of these diseases, it can thrive and mutate in the host. Which can create a new strain which no one has imunity to.
So yea. Those are some of the reasons unvaccinated people scare me.
(However, I do agree that we over vaccinate our pets. I've been meaning to do research...how are dogs immune systems so different from Human's that they need yearly vaccines? Seems odd to me....)
@AKuzReve I'm so sorry! I know it's hard not to be stressed about that, especially when pregnant. When I was pregnant with my first I was around someone who had just been diagnosed with shingles and she chose to come around to a work event anyway. Even though I had chicken pox AND pediatric shingles as a child, it still freaked me out. All was okay in the end!
@sw1122 Yes! Your kid, your "choice," but your choice should not be allowed to hurt someone else.
@agpandme Unvaccinated people aren't the concern for the vaccinated population, they are the concern for those who are unable to get vaccinated and are more susceptible to disease: people who are immunocompromised, babies who are too young to receive vaccines (MMR vaccine isn't given until 12 months of age), cancer patients, asthmatics, people who have allergies to certain ingredients in vaccines (like people with an egg allergy can't get the flu shot because it contains an egg preservative), etc. Herd immunity is only effective when somewhere between 83 and 94 percent of the community is immune. Ultimately the pro-vaccine argument is about the responsibility of members of a society to do their part to protect those who are unable to protect themselves from preventable illnesses.
If anyone is interested to learn more about diseases, there is a great podcast called "This Podcast Will Kill You". Very entertaining and informative. Although it sounds like many of you already know enough to get by
My interview went well. I suppose I will know soon if they offer me the position. It would require a 1.5 hour commute for 6-8 weeks of training which I do not look forward too but it will be worth it when I'm working in my own town.