Gender disappointment confession - I'm still really really sad that we're having a second boy. DH is super sad too, so I don't want to pile on to his and try to be really excited about another boy. But secretly I'm hoping somehow we're in that super tiny minority where the gender blood test was wrong and the A/S next week shows a girl (and a happy, healthy little one, that's more important, obviously).
I'll still love this little one no matter what. Nibble on toes and give kisses, etc. I always wanted two boys growing up, but DH has made me want a little girl more than I ever thought I'd want one. We're still planning on adopting our third, so maybe we'll get a girl then, but it's... hard right now.
@foodislove I felt that way with my youngest son. I was disappointed a little right up until he was born. It happens and you will be an awesome boy mom.
My FFFC is I'm really heartbroken that I will never get a baby shower. Not even for the gifts, though it would be cool to not have to buy some of the big stuff, but because it feels like no one is really going to celebrate my little mouse outside our immediate family.
@foodislove before I got pregnant with my 1st I had always just known I was going to have 2 kids a boy first and then my second one would be a girl. "The perfect family." When we found out that my second was indeed another boy I was definitely a little disappointed.
Now I couldn't imagine it any other way! Feel whatever you need to feel. You already know you are going to love this LO no matter what. I think this is a somewhat normal feeling, especially if you have imagined or had your heart set on having a particular sex. ♥️
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@foodislove, I’m still pseudo disappointed we are having a girl. You aren’t alone, totally normal.
My confession....I’m taking the second half of the day off to take my daughter on her field trip, and I’m not going to tell anyone or use PTO. Because my boss is a prick.
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my next FFFC I am so done with work. I just want to sit at my desk and crochet as my students eat waffles - I do Waffle Friday with the the first Friday of the month. We have been pushing for the end of the marking period stuff and I am wore out.
I never had a burger with all the fixings until last summer. Growing up I always ate plain cheeseburgers with mustard, but last year I finally tried a burger with lettuce, tomato, onion, cheese, ketchup, and mustard. Now I understand why people love burgers!
I am really worried that my MIL is going to over feed our baby as she helps us care for the LO.
She and her sisters love cooking and feeding people, which is awesome, but they are always pushing people to eat another helping. DH and every one of his cousins were overweight as children.
Obesity and diabetes are problems for both of our families, so I don't think my concerns are completely unfounded. I do not want the LO to be body conscious; I'm just hoping to encourage a healthy relationship with food.
My FFFC is a day late this week. It hasn’t been frequent, but I feel like I’ve lost my shit a little too often with my 2 yo son lately. I struggle with bipolar disorder, it’s not super severe and I can manage it without medication, but it takes a lot of patience and work. With the added pregnancy hormones, I’ve had a much harder time handling it on my own. Especially when I’m home with DS all day and I’m exhausted by the end of it. It’s really unfair to him for me to get irrationally angry about small things, and I immediately feel guilty about it after it happens. I try to remind myself that raising toddlers (especially the 2’s) are challenging and everyone runs out of patience now and again, but it’s hard not to beat myself up about it and feel like I’m creating bad memories for him. Feeling a lot of mom guilt over here but it feels good to at least admit it 😔
@mamahmh2 You're right, toddlers are hard, don't blame yourself. Every day is a new day and you can start afresh in whatever way that you have the energy for
@mamahmh2, I won’t pretend to know what it’s like to live with bipolar disorder and all those challenges. But I do know my patience is slim with my 4 yo and I get the same guilt. I make sure to tell mh that I’m in one of my moments and need help. When he’s home, ask him for some help and space!
I’ll probably get flamed hard for this but here goes: I’m deathly afraid of getting more stretch marks. I only got them with DD on my sides last pregnancy because I wasn’t putting the oil on them, only on my belly. So I’ve been over-sensitive about putting the oil everywhere (belly, boobs, sides, butt...) I know they’re “tiger stripes” and we should be proud of them, but I’ve always had a bad body image and I’m not sure if I can handle anymore of them.
@jenniferjoy37 I hate them too. I didn’t get any until the very end of my pregnancy with DS and then they spiderwebbed up from the bottom of my bump. I’m hoping it won’t be as bad this time if I watch my gain but I’m prepared for the worst.
@mamahmh2 hang in there! I think the best thing is that you are aware of it, you’re doing the best you can in the moment. Don’t beat yourself up.
@jenniferjoy37 im a FTM and I’m also afraid of getting stretch marks. I know I can’t really prevent them other than watching my weight gain but I put on so much lotion each day on my bump, hips and boobs. I know my husband will love my body no matter what, but I’m not so sure I will. (He has some stretch marks and I could care less about them)
I thought this confession is better here than the food thread... I still eat sandwiches... not from anywhere... but if I feel like a Publix sub, I'm going to get one! I think my chances of getting listeria are higher from produce... But they can't tell pregnant women they can't eat anything
My late to the party FFFC... i was a little happy to go to the ER yesterday because it meant I could skip the niece’s 3 y.o. Birthday party. I did NOT want to go. I don’t really know the child. It’s my husband’s brother’s kid. I saw her a bit as a newborn, but the mom is a biotch. So we never see them. Bro and her just split up around Christmas and bro had a new GF in the matter of 2 weeks. And she was going to be there and I was so not interested in meeting her. Thank goodness for my iron clad excuse. Plus, the kids are CHAOS. The bro and in-laws just let them go nuts and their solution to tantrums is to give them what they want instead of manage the tantrum. My hubs went and I’m sure will be sicker than sick (he already didn’t feel well). And he said the 1y.o. Nephew was breaking everything at the in-laws. Muahaha.
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I'll still love this little one no matter what. Nibble on toes and give kisses, etc. I always wanted two boys growing up, but DH has made me want a little girl more than I ever thought I'd want one. We're still planning on adopting our third, so maybe we'll get a girl then, but it's... hard right now.
My FFFC is I'm really heartbroken that I will never get a baby shower. Not even for the gifts, though it would be cool to not have to buy some of the big stuff, but because it feels like no one is really going to celebrate my little mouse outside our immediate family.
Now I couldn't imagine it any other way! Feel whatever you need to feel. You already know you are going to love this LO no matter what. I think this is a somewhat normal feeling, especially if you have imagined or had your heart set on having a particular sex. ♥️
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My confession....I’m taking the second half of the day off to take my daughter on her field trip, and I’m not going to tell anyone or use PTO. Because my boss is a prick.
@nopegoat @ameliabedelia-2 Thanks for the commiseration.
She and her sisters love cooking and feeding people, which is awesome, but they are always pushing people to eat another helping. DH and every one of his cousins were overweight as children.
Obesity and diabetes are problems for both of our families, so I don't think my concerns are completely unfounded. I do not want the LO to be body conscious; I'm just hoping to encourage a healthy relationship with food.
Feeling a lot of mom guilt over here but it feels good to at least admit it 😔
@jenniferjoy37 im a FTM and I’m also afraid of getting stretch marks. I know I can’t really prevent them other than watching my weight gain but I put on so much lotion each day on my bump, hips and boobs. I know my husband will love my body no matter what, but I’m not so sure I will. (He has some stretch marks and I could care less about them)
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i was a little happy to go to the ER yesterday because it meant I could skip the niece’s 3 y.o. Birthday party. I did NOT want to go. I don’t really know the child. It’s my husband’s brother’s kid. I saw her a bit as a newborn, but the mom is a biotch. So we never see them. Bro and her just split up around Christmas and bro had a new GF in the matter of 2 weeks. And she was going to be there and I was so not interested in meeting her.
Thank goodness for my iron clad excuse. Plus, the kids are CHAOS. The bro and in-laws just let them go nuts and their solution to tantrums is to give them what they want instead of manage the tantrum. My hubs went and I’m sure will be sicker than sick (he already didn’t feel well). And he said the 1y.o. Nephew was breaking everything at the in-laws. Muahaha.