Happy Monday! Today on the list of topics to discuss we have BABY APPAREL. So let's have our first serious baby clothes discussion! Looking ahead at the product topics, in later weeks we'll also have specific conversations on summer essentials and winter essentials for our growing babies, so we'll be able to revisit seasonal particularities, so don't feel the need to comb your brain for every last item! This thread can focus on what to get throughout our pregnancies to be ready for those first few newborn rollercoaster months!
So tell me all about tiny baby clothes! Do you have favorite brands? Where do you get your basics and where do you get your splurges? Does one even splurge for a newborn? Did you have a special coming home outfit? Any particular stylistic preferences to warn FTMs (e.g., do you avoid teensy buttons like the plague and only get zippered onesies)? Opinions on baby hats and baby socks?
How much do you REALLY need for a newborn: did STMs find you changed their onesie 10 times a day or, like, rarely? Any shopping tips to get a good baby clothes haul (which they'll inevitably use for 10 seconds before growing out of it)--did you get used baby clothes? What range of sizes should we get now that we have a little time to plan and shop: should you buy ahead and be equipped through months 0-6 or 12, or buy as you go? How do you dress them to sleep: do you use a sleep sack on top of pjs? Baby shoes: adorable accessories or complete waste of time? And while we're talking clothes, how do you wash baby clothes? Do you use special soap? Please share!
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As for how much you need... some days they are in the same thing the whole day and other days you do 5 outfit changes before noon... but summer babies clothing is really optional, especially in the house... as for range of cloth sizes, its hard. Every kid is different. My DD1 was in 3 month cloths till she was 9 months... so planning ahead by season was challenging, whereas her twin was in cloths according to his age... There are some babies who are in 6 month cloths by 2-3 months.... its really just a crap shoot to make sure you have the right cloths for the right season, again, another reason not to spend lots of money on them till they are older and wear cloths for longer...
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Socks never stayed on my boys so I ended up buying these cute little slippers from target that actually helped hold the socks on.
We didn't change outfits too much, but since we cloth diapered I think that saved a bunch of would be blowouts. We bought and received several items that were kind of genderless that will help if #3 is a girl, but I will still reuse all the things because, why not.
BFP 06/25/17 | EDD 02/24/18 | DS2 02/19/18
Also be ware of labels. Different brands have wayyyyy different labeling practices. Some 3 month clothes from one brand were the same size as 9-12 month in another brand 🙄 so store the clothes by like sizes in terms of what looks the same size when you hold them up against each other, not what the label said. We almost missed the window for several things bc they weren't labeled like the other brands.
Id say don't splurge. We existed almost solely on hands me downs and gifts until....now (17 months) haha. Between baby showers and grandparents we were solidly covered for the first year plus. so if I saw something totally amazing that I couldn't pass up, i felt free to buy it bc I hadn't really bought any clothes anyways lol.
No shoes until he was walking (or at least walking on our fingers regularly). We had a set of slipper things that were warm for his feet going outside and a set of moccasin type soft sole "shoes" that we were gifted that he wore sometimes but other than that, no shoes until he was walking.
Sleeping, you'll figure out as you go. We swaddled at first, but he preferred me to swaddle him rather than the premade swaddlers. Then when he was too big for that we switched to a sleep sack, but then he became mobile and hatred getting his legs tangled in it and slept way better in just a sleeper than with a sleep sack over. He is so warm blooded he also sleeps better with just a sleeper anyways.
In terms of sleepers I like the snap sleepers better.... access to the diaper without exposing the whole chest or having to bend the one leg with no zipper like crazy. Also I found the zipper sleepers would be too big for the longest time, with the zipper bunching up around his chin/mouth and being super stiff until they'd finally fit well for like, 3 days, and then they'd be too small. The snap ones were more forgiving in terms of fitting well for longer imo. This is all personal preference though. I have a bunch of friends who only wanted zipper sleepers.
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
I generally don't prebuy. It's impossible to know how long your baby is going to stay in one size, and what season they will need of the next size up. All of those places have fairly quick shipping, so once I determine my baby needs the next size I find coupons, and go on to do a big shop. It's rare that all of a sudden nothing will fit, you'll have enough of a window where things will be getting tight but you can still get them on, that you can take some time to shop.
I definitely second @olivemomma, I don't know why snap pajamas are much more common under 6 months, but take the time to find the ones with the zippers, so much easier!
My favorite newborn clothes were magnificent baby footies. They're pricey (I always give them as new baby gifts and stock up when they're on sale) and totally not necessary but so great to have--the magnet closures are freaking amazing when you're exhausted and you can leave the top partially closed so baby doesn't get cold during diaper changes (though probably less of an issue during August than February though
https://www.target.com/p/baby-girls-3pk-print-zip-sleep-n-play-cloud-island-153-pink-gray/-/A-53458250?preselect=53334881#lnk=sametab
BFP 06/25/17 | EDD 02/24/18 | DS2 02/19/18
I'm in Europe. No target, but thanks! Maybe that will be useful to someone rise. My son was on the short side anyways so I imagine the stiff bunching of the zipper would still have happened though. I was given a sleeper or two with the bottom zip (but he was older, like 4-8 months) and I still prefer the snaps
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
BFP 06/25/17 | EDD 02/24/18 | DS2 02/19/18
First, careful about pre buying because it is impossible to know how long LO will be in 1 size. DD was 8lb3oz at birth, DS was 8lb0z. It took DD 12 months to double her birth weight, DS doubled in 3-4. You just never know. Most babies will need NB clothes for at least a few weeks. Everyone said they were a waste...they were wrong.
I do a mix between cheaper essentials and cute splurge boutique items. My go to stores are Carter's, Kohls, Target, Amazon, and Baby Gap. I used to love Gymboree before their quality and style went to crap but they are going out of business anyway. There are a few local boutique shops that I love, but I mainly shop sales and coupons. Some of the nicer brands that I love are Kickee Pants, Tea Collection, KPea, Mayoral, Petit Lem, and Sweet Bamboo. I also shop garage sales and mom to mom sales. Baby clothes are often barely used and in great condition. Re-sale value is something to consider. Carter's is affordable, practical and most babies wear a lot of it (mine included) but they wear out faster than nicer brands and are only worth roughly .50-$1 a piece at a garage sale. Boutique brands hold their resale value much better.
I HATE baby socks. They are awful and never stay on. We basically avoid buying socks and shoes for our infants and they mainly wear zutano booties or snow and arrow slippers.
As cute as itty bitty outfits can be, footed sleepers/ sleep n plays are the most practical for the first few weeks. I prefer the zipper ones as snaps are a lot more work, especially in the middle of the night. Magnetic ones are great too but I have only seen those from expensive brands. I love sleep sacks that zip over their jammies for when it gets cold out. Sleep gowns are an awesome option too because you just pull it up for middle of the night diaper changes.
For washing baby clothes I just use the same free and clear detergent that we use for the rest of the family.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
I am on team zipper sleeper--I just go batty snapping and unsnapping them, and I always seem to mismatch them in the middle of the night.
@velvetskyy Thank you for posting that link! I may need to snag some!
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Also, I have heard it said you shouldn't even bother to register for clothes because people will buy what they want. But I wonder if it makes sense to register for a few items so people have some idea what you like? Plus clothes are pretty affordable shower gifts. I am expecting some hand-me-downs from my sister too.
I personally think 10 of each type of item (sleepers, onesies, pants, etc) in the smaller sizes is a good starting point. I include NB sizes in that, because we were in NBs with my son for 6 weeks. He has stayed right at 50th percentile for height and weight and tracked the other sizes really consistently to his age. My method though for buying is when I do my big "next size up" shop, I also buy 1-2 things in the size beyond. That way if we hit a sudden growth spurt, I at least have a few things on hand.
Baby pants, I really really love old navy soft pants. They are the most accurate to size for us also.
Onesies/sleepers my favorite is Carter's. There is an outlet near us, so we can get very good deals & their stuff is nice quality.
Definitely plan to try a few different brands of socks, because if your baby has chibby/skinny feet, different socks will fit and others won't. Since we are having summer babies, booties won't be a big deal right away but plan to have a pair or two for the winter to go over the socks. I liked the zutano fleece bootie style, but there is a cheaper option on Amazon that has worked well for us.
I think ink cotton is the way to go in summer months. Depending on how warm or cool you keep your house you could do anything from a footed sleeper, to a onsie, to just a diaper underneath.
As you you get into bigger sizes you will notice they start to lose the upper Velcro section for swaddling and move more into a sleep sack version with arm holes. We used those until at least 2 years old. You need to stop swaddling before the baby can role. It can be a tricky transition because they need to learn to sleep with their arms free. I think I stopped around 4ish months. I took about a week to transition and would do 1 arm at a time for a couple of nights and then would saddle tightly around their chest with both arms free but that way they still had the the swaddle feel on their body. They may startle to wake a little more frequently making the transition. I would register for swaddles but not the clothes.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
The zipper vs snaps preferences is strong. You either love one and hate the other. I’m planning to see if I can get both. I’d like to try to find some reverse zipper ones but don’t know if available here.
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I also realized that we became team snaps as DD got older. At a couple months old DD started kicking around too much and would kick her legs out of the leg holes on zippered sleepers. By 6 months she could wiggle her entire itty bitty body out of any 1 piece sleeper. These were never problems with DS.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
-FYI: the “Just One You” brand by Carter’s sold at Target tends to run smaller than regular Carter’s. I always got one or two things from there when my kid was in-between sizes.
-Generally I’m team zipper, but if it’s just three or four crotch snaps I don’t mind.
-Halo sleep sacks are fantastic. My 2yr old is still in their XL wearable blanket. Get (register for) at least two in each size. (I use these at night, and swaddled in blankets during the day for the first couple of months).
-Bathing suits (DD started swim lessons at 6mo so she’s almost always had at least one)...I love the iPlay swim diapers, and for lessons we use the iPlay suits with built-in swim diapers.
-No shoes really for a year / til they’re walking. We did have a pair of soft Robeez boots I threw on her in the winter (they were soooo cute).
-My “splurge” shop (for a girl) is RuffleButts. Such cute stuff!!
@zamora_spin yes, sleep sacks are generally used after a baby outgrows swaddles. Babies aren't supposed to sleep with loose blankets for at least a year and most babies move around a lot when they sleep once they're mobile, so staying under a blanket doesn't work that well anyways. I know some parents get addicted to sleep sacks and still have their 3yo in sleep sacks (they make some with feet holes so the toddler doesn't top when trying to walk) but my son hated sleep sacks from about 8 months. He'd get too tangled and he's super earn blooded anyways so he prefers just his pj's year round. You'll figure out what your baby likes as you go
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
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My plan is once the babe is born I’ll order more clothes online from gap, ON, and carter’s, etc.
However, if you’re a FTM+ and know the gender you’ll get a plethora of clothes at a baby shower.
Picture of my neutral stash so far 😍
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