UO: I don't think perfume should be a thing. There are so many people in the world who are sensitive to scent, and can be triggered into migraines, nausea, etc when encountering a person wearing too much perfume. I've always felt this way, but since becoming pregnant my feelings on the topic (and my physical reactions to perfume) have intensified. 🤢
UO: I know I’m not supppsed to have a gender preference. I’m supposed to just want a healthy baby. But, I really, really want a girl. I know that’s awful and I should be happy either way, but I just feel like I’m just so much more suited to raising a girl. Also, DH has talked about only wanting one child though he could change his mind, so that puts a ton of pressure on this one.
FFFC: I started a baby registry and I only have girl items on it. Picked out the most darling crib and bedding. I know I’ll probably add boy stuff eventually, but I can’t even wrap my mind around it right now. So awful, I know! Good thing we’re finding out through NIPT at ten weeks. If it is a boy, I’m definitely going to need time to adjust to the idea.
@novicemama no judgment on your preference, but a little anecdote! My first was a girl and when pregnant with my second I also felt like I was probably best suited to raise girls (and lets be honest baby girl stuff is cuter and more plentiful.) However, my son and I have such a connection (even different than the one with my daughter.) He's my little bestie and it's been so wonderful to have a boy. Don't sell yourself short on what you're suited for as a mom!
@novicemama no judgment on your preference, but a little anecdote! My first was a girl and when pregnant with my second I also felt like I was probably best suited to raise girls (and lets be honest baby girl stuff is cuter and more plentiful.) However, my son and I have such a connection (even different than the one with my daughter.) He's my little bestie and it's been so wonderful to have a boy. Don't sell yourself short on what you're suited for as a mom!
Thank you for the reassurance and lack of judgement. That’s a very comforting thing to hear! Sounds like the two of you have the quite the bond 🥰 I hope I feel similarly if I do have a son!
@novicemama when I was pregnant with DS1, I could only imagine myself as a girl mom. I remember crying because I had no idea what to do with a boy and only ever envisioned girls. It took me a couple days to be excited about having a boy. Now? I wouldn’t have it any other way. He’s my buddy (and so is DS2). Like @LMMama said, don’t sell yourself short.
Confession: I’m leaving the husband and kids for a whole weekend to go to a family event in SoCal. I am SO EXCITED to not have to take care of anyone for a weekend. In fact I’ll be with my parents and grandmother most of the time so people will be taking care of me! This is the first time my husband has had both kids by himself for a few days. I’m super curious to know how it goes when Mom isn’t around to cook, clean and run errands.
@novicemama I thought the same. I have one sister and a million girl cousins. I had no idea how I would take care of a boy and so far I have two. If you end up having a boy, I know you’ll surprise yourself with how capable you are. But fingers crossed it’s a girl. 😉
@galentine perfumes can be pretty polarizing. I really like wearing perfume but I hate hugging old people and smelling like their musky tangy perfume for the rest of the day.
Thank you both for the vote of confidence, @cmbt2 and @brownbarista ❤️ I think it’s FTM anxiety combined with not growing up with any brothers. I’m glad I’m not the only one to have this fear, but also that it doesn’t have to be true. Just three more weeks until we can find out (at the very earliest). The suspense is already killing me!🙈
Confession: I’m leaving the husband and kids for a whole weekend to go to a family event in SoCal. I am SO EXCITED to not have to take care of anyone for a weekend. In fact I’ll be with my parents and grandmother most of the time so people will be taking care of me! This is the first time my husband has had both kids by himself for a few days. I’m super curious to know how it goes when Mom isn’t around to cook, clean and run errands.
I go to Houston at the end of March for a week and CANNOT wait to not have to mom for a week 😂🙈
Confession: I’m leaving the husband and kids for a whole weekend to go to a family event in SoCal. I am SO EXCITED to not have to take care of anyone for a weekend. In fact I’ll be with my parents and grandmother most of the time so people will be taking care of me! This is the first time my husband has had both kids by himself for a few days. I’m super curious to know how it goes when Mom isn’t around to cook, clean and run errands.
How wonderful! Hope you get some quality you-time as you spend time with family!
@cdnrunning I'm torn on social media announcements. Part of me wants to do one because this is obviously a cause for celebration, but the other part of me finds them gimmicky. Like you said, I've spoken to the family and close friends that I trust with this special information. I also know that there are many women (and their SOs) on social media who have been trying to conceive without success yet, and sometimes a flashy pregnancy announcement is a punch in the gut for them.
Here's my confession and I expect full on hate: I like playing Christmas music year-round. In fact, I'm playing it right now. It soothes me when I'm stressed, and helps me stay positive.
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
@elle-0409, I love that you listen to Christmas music all year! I usually pick one day in June or July and have a Christmas music summer day. Because, why not?! Christmas is the greatest!
@cdnrunning I'm torn on social media announcements. Part of me wants to do one because this is obviously a cause for celebration, but the other part of me finds them gimmicky. Like you said, I've spoken to the family and close friends that I trust with this special information. I also know that there are many women (and their SOs) on social media who have been trying to conceive without success yet, and sometimes a flashy pregnancy announcement is a punch in the gut for them.
Here's my confession and I expect full on hate: I like playing Christmas music year-round. In fact, I'm playing it right now. It soothes me when I'm stressed, and helps me stay positive.
Definitely having mixed feelings about social media for all the reasons you mentioned. I especially remember seeing tons of announcements as I was miscarrying and it was so painful. Also, I’m just not really feeling sharing such a personal thing with such a wide audience. With that said, DH is an animator and I know he’ll want to draw something special for our announcement and I am excited about that.
Chrisrmas cynics, be damed! If it makes your pregnancy less stressful, do it! I love singing to ease anxiety.
I do a single social media announcement. I have friends I don’t speak to often (sorority girl), and it’s easier to do a single tell. The friends I know that have battled IF or had a loss get a heads up that it’s coming so they can unfollow if needed.
I rarely post about my kids; I don’t plaster the feeds with photos. I don’t do a birth announcement— I only post a new profile picture of me + kid.
My UO on this is I don’t understand people who have to post about their kids daily. I have one friend in particular who does this daily, and it drives me batty—when she was pregnant, she also told FB land she was being induced and why 🤦🏼♀️
I do a single social media announcement. I have friends I don’t speak to often (sorority girl), and it’s easier to do a single tell. The friends I know that have battled IF or had a loss get a heads up that it’s coming so they can unfollow if needed.
I do a single social media announcement. I have friends I don’t speak to often (sorority girl), and it’s easier to do a single tell. The friends I know that have battled IF or had a loss get a heads up that it’s coming so they can unfollow if needed.
Here's my confession and I expect full on hate: I like playing Christmas music year-round. In fact, I'm playing it right now. It soothes me when I'm stressed, and helps me stay positive.
Yes! I love Christmas music all year round! I even had a few Christmas songs on my playlist when I was being induced (I played it on my phone with headphones on; I didn’t subject everyone to it lol).
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Re Announcements: I plan to do a social media one because I do have a lot of distant family who will be happy but it's too hard to get the word out. Being RPL and being gutted by announcements when I was struggling, I plan to be delicate. I have posted about my losses so it will definitely be worked in that this has been a long and painful journey.
@elle-0409 I’m obsessed with Christmas music as well and omg @manillabar I love that idea 😱 adding that to a list of things to do before October, add Christmas music to labor playlist 😆
I got a bagel and cream cheese on my way to work for breakfast, I went through a drive thru on lunch, and I have a dinner date at a pizza place with my mom tonight! So my confession is I'm eating out for all three meals today 😬
FFFC: I was weak when I went grocery shopping this week. I usually buy very very little frozen or processed foods and I hate to get the side eye of judgment from other shoppers or the checkout clerk when I do. This time, I bought so much frozen 'pop it in the microwave' food that it didn't all fit in the freezer. So ashamed.
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
@cooaladolly Last night I was thinking about how I need to do this! I’m the same way...normally I don’t buy any of that stuff but right now it’s necessary for survival.
My friend gave me her home Doppler and even though I damn well knew it’s too early (8+3) I tried it anyway. On the positive side, I have a nice strong heartbeat. 😂
Here's my confession and I expect full on hate: I like playing Christmas music year-round. In fact, I'm playing it right now. It soothes me when I'm stressed, and helps me stay positive.
Lol! Inspired by you, here's my fffc: My sons current favorite movie is Polar Express. We've pretty much watched it once a week since the new year.
My friend gave me her home Doppler and even though I damn well knew it’s too early (8+3) I tried it anyway. On the positive side, I have a nice strong heartbeat. 😂
I got DS1 at 8w4d 🤷🏼♀️ DS2 was a few days after that. If you don’t know what you are looking for, watch videos. It sounds way different
I don't know if this will be a UO or not, but can I just rant about something? This ad campaign that says "take a moment to be a dad." Like I know it's well meaning, and trying to address a real problem in our society. And they're cute. But every time I see one I just want to scream at the TV, "Meanwhile women have to be a mother EVERY moment of every day and never get special commercials celebrating those moments, but sure, take a moment to be a dad."
@cmbt2 maybe I’ll give it another try in a few days.
There’s so many factors that go into finding it. They’re also very good at hiding so just because you found it one day, you may not find it the next and vice versa. It’s part of the reason providers wait until 12w to pull them out. I found I had to be absolutely flat with a completely empty bladder, but I know others who needed a full one 🤷🏼♀️
Your friend probably told you this so ignore me if I’m just repeating things, but the mindset with a home doppler has to be “just because I didn’t find it this time doesn’t indicate a problem.” (I’m throwing this out there for anyone considering getting their own).
@cmbt2 I tried it again this morning and we found the heartbeat! Just for a few seconds and then it went away and I couldn’t find it again. Sounded like a fast little train ❤️ So glad that DH was here to hear it!! The empty bladder and watching YouTube videos were a great tips!
And i agree, you have to have the mindset that the chances are you won’t be able to hear anything and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong. (Just in case any other ladies give it a try!)
I don't know if this will be a UO or not, but can I just rant about something? This ad campaign that says "take a moment to be a dad."
So weird. This commercial came on at the very moment I was reading this post.
I also hate the campaign. I love my SO and I think he's a great dad, but I feel like he and other dads of the world just don't get it. He's out providing for us until late into the evening, and I have huge appreciation for that, but when he comes homes all our DS can say or want is Dada Dada Dada. This has lead him to believe that he's the favorite parent, while I'm over here thinking yeah, he's just sick of seeing mama at this point and wants his 10 minutes he gets of Dada before bed so badly.
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
@cooaladolly That's so annoying! It reminds me of an old Chris Rock bit where he was talking about men who boast about the fact that they're raising their kids...."You're SUPPOSED to raise your kids!"
Re: UO/FFFC 2/22
FFFC: I started a baby registry and I only have girl items on it. Picked out the most darling crib and bedding. I know I’ll probably add boy stuff eventually, but I can’t even wrap my mind around it right now. So awful, I know! Good thing we’re finding out through NIPT at ten weeks. If it is a boy, I’m definitely going to need time to adjust to the idea.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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Chrisrmas cynics, be damed! If it makes your pregnancy less stressful, do it! I love singing to ease anxiety.
I rarely post about my kids; I don’t plaster the feeds with photos. I don’t do a birth announcement— I only post a new profile picture of me + kid.
My UO on this is I don’t understand people who have to post about their kids daily. I have one friend in particular who does this daily, and it drives me batty—when she was pregnant, she also told FB land she was being induced and why 🤦🏼♀️
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Re Announcements: I plan to do a social media one because I do have a lot of distant family who will be happy but it's too hard to get the word out. Being RPL and being gutted by announcements when I was struggling, I plan to be delicate. I have posted about my losses so it will definitely be worked in that this has been a long and painful journey.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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On the positive side, I have a nice strong heartbeat. 😂
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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Your friend probably told you this so ignore me if I’m just repeating things, but the mindset with a home doppler has to be “just because I didn’t find it this time doesn’t indicate a problem.” (I’m throwing this out there for anyone considering getting their own).
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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@wintersong we watch a lot of Grinch (Jim Carey eddition). I mean, once EO week at least.
The empty bladder and watching YouTube videos were a great tips!
And i agree, you have to have the mindset that the chances are you won’t be able to hear anything and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong. (Just in case any other ladies give it a try!)