This is a place for FTMs to ask questions and S+TMs to share the wealth of knowledge they've accumulated on baby/pregnancy-related products. Each week we'll spotlight a new category of product. Feel free to comment on these threads throughout your time at the board, not just during its week in the spotlight, if you discover something new/are new to the board. This week we're talking.... Books! And this means books about pregnancy etc., not pregnancy journals/baby scrapbooks, (though let me know if you think I should add those to one of our pre-registry weeks? We have three open slots-- I can always move the registry stuff forward, too... See posts from last week on the Board Organization thread for more.)
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Re: Product Spotlight Series: Books! 1/18
I basically went with recommendations from friends on what to read.
The Dr. Sears Baby Book has everything you need for after baby and I love his non alarmist take on issues.
Like a Mother -Angela Garbes
Expecting Better - Emily Oster
Both are new books that review the data to help you make informed decisions about decisions during pregnancy while avoiding fluff and too much “should” or “should not” without real back up.
@ternsetc Definitely going to check out that podcast!
Anyone have any specifically feminist or environmentalist book reccs for books on parenting OR pregnancy?
Prev. answers the the "feminist" question via some googling has led me to a shortlist--if I had unlimited funds, I'd buy them all-- Like a Mother by Angela Garbes, Expecting Better by Emily Oster, The Hip Mama's Survival Guide by Ariel Gore, and Up the Duff by Kaz Cooke. As is, I haven't decided which to buy yet.
Real Food for Mother and Baby by Nina Planck - Planck's diet philosophy aligns pretty closely with my own, so I found it helpful as a more specific guide to nutrition during pregnancy. It also introduced me to the idea of baby-led weaning, which my DD (now 15 months) had a great experience with. Some of her ideas are a little out-there (feeding my infant raw ground beef? thanks but no thanks), but overall I got a lot out of the book.
Expecting Better by Emily Oster - The ONE book I'd recommend. Oster is an economist and mother who evaluates the science behind conventional pregnancy rules and lays it out in a non-judgmental and easy-to-comprehend way. This book cut through so much of the anxiety and confusion I felt during pregnancy and empowered me to be an informed advocate (both medically and socially) for myself and my baby.
Great with Child by Beth Ann Fennelly - This is a beautiful, poetic collection of letters from the author to a young friend who's pregnant with her first baby. It's not a traditional "how-to" book, but it's full of wisdom about pregnancy, parenting and life in general. Highly recommend!
The Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp - A wonderful resource in the early, disorienting days (and nights!) of parenthood. There is SO MUCH conflicting advice out there on how best to comfort and care for your newborn. My best advice is to pick one method and ignore all the others. In my experience, The Happiest Baby on the Block is a good way to go.
The Expectant Father and The New Father by Armin Brott - My husband's recommendations. Unlike many other books geared towards new dads, this series treats the reader like a mature, evolved human being who genuinely wants to a supportive partner and engaged parent.
As others have mentioned, podcasts are also a wonderful resource. I spent many hours walking and listening to the Birth Hour, as well as the Longest Shortest Time (a parenting podcast with a few fascinating episodes on pregnancy and childbirth) and the Pea in the Podcast (an older show that's no longer in production but has episodes offering practical, straightforward advice that are still available for streaming).
As for books that I don't own yet but am hoping to get my hands on, I would love to read Waiting for Birdy by Catherine Newman. I've heard that it's a funny, sweet memoir about expecting a second baby while raising a toddler
One I’ll add is The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. This book helped me so much when I had questions in the MOTN and how to get those damn clogs out, along with a multitude of other questions and inspiration to just keep going. I credit this book along with a few good friends from my Bmb with how I was able to breastfeed as long as I did (2y4m).
The first one is really helpful for planning meals and workouts during pregnancy. The latter two give scientifically founded research on parenting through years 0-5.