UO Thursday 1/10

suzycupcake · January 2019

My UO: Threads that are posted with a day of the week in the title should only be posted in for that day. Come on it's already a week later and we are still posting in those and now they're just turning into DDs.

catpants · January 2019

I love black licorice 😋

WinchesterGirl · January 2019

catpants said:

I love black licorice 😋

Bkech! That is gross even when not dealing with crippling MS.

deecherise · January 2019

LMAO, sorry @suzycupcake...guilty as charged. I'll keep that in mind.

My UO is that mayo is delicious and I'm not avoiding it for 9 months.

WinchesterGirl · January 2019

There is a wrong way to eat a Reese's. It's called Reese's Pieces. They do not deserve the name, they don't even have chocolate.

grangerhp37 · January 2019

@deecherise We’re supposed to avoid mayo?!?!?

deecherise · January 2019

@dogmomma096 I read something that suggested we should avoid mayo and aioli because of the egg. Regardless, it's a no from me dawg. I had a BLT+avocado for lunch and I slathered on the mayo.

MamaK225 · January 2019

I'm with @dogmomma096, @deecherise! I have not heard of this avoidance!! Nope, not gonna. It's made with eggs & oil, both of which - in moderation - are incredibly healthful and helpful in pregnancy!! What whacked vegan told you this?

Also - and I'm know I'm going to be roasted - wtf does UO stand for? I know I'm oldAF, but I couldn't see anything relevant on a Google search: I know it's not a university, a tween's favorite clothing store, or an RPG reference. Unpopular Opinion? That's all I've got

MamaK225 · January 2019

@suzycupcake - HAHAHA, I'm a huge offender. I feel like WTF Wednesday should be EVERY day.

abklynmom · January 2019

WAIT- I thought mayo was fair game and homemade aioli was out?

olivemomma · January 2019

@MamaK225 ha yes it’s for unpopular opinion.

Here’s mine: I think it’s kind of silly for women to spend a ton of money every month on keeping their hair, nails, and whatever else looking perfect at all times. We just moved to the South from out West (the Rockies area which I now realize is way more laid back) and the ladies here kill me. I’m all about treating yourself occasionally but I have met several women who must spend at least $500/month on their beauty regimens. I spend less then that in a year. It just seem so crazy

WinchesterGirl · January 2019

@deecherise mayo in the tub is fine. It's only fresh made aioli with raw unpasteurized eggs that's a no-go.

Amdogger82 · January 2019

@olivemomma Yesssss. In another lifetime I almost moved to SC with my boyfriend at the time. On a visit I couldn't help but notice how well put together the majority of the women were. I was like, Oh, I'm not going to fit in here at all. I'm in northern New England, I think we're generally pretty laid back here too.

mkrel · January 2019

@olivemomma Yes! We moved from Southern CA to Texas a few years ago and I miss the totally laid back lifestyle so much. There were obviously plenty of done up women there, but just the overall way of dressing and carrying yourself day to day was way more laid back. I haven't adjusted and don't plan to!

Mine is could be popular or unpopular depending on the group. It drives me crazy when people spend thousands for a pure bred dog from a breeder. There are so many good shelter dogs out there that need homes, not to mention you can find pure bred dogs at rescues or shelters too.

olivemomma · January 2019

@mkrel and @Amdogger82 I’m so glad I’m not crazy in my thoughts that the ladies of the south beat to a different drummer. To be fair, I think We partly brought this on ourselves because we bought in a very upscale part of the city - but I just feel all the women here are always done up to the nines, driving around in their pristine and pricey cars, walking their $2000 pure bred dogs (@mkrel totally agree with you there too!), dressing their kids in clothes that cost more than mine do, living their perfectly put together Instagram lives. I’ve yet to make a single girlfriend here because all of that is just not me - I’m a little to no makeup, hair up in a ponytail, hot mess rescue puppy kind of mom. I’m hoping to start a trend... it’s not looking promising

lilmamabebe3 · January 2019

I don’t think we should judge women on appearances 🤷🏻‍♀️

I love Sephora and my hair dresser and manicures. It doesn’t mean I’m not a friendly and kind person. Sounds pretty judgmental to me honestly.

EmilyA724 · January 2019

Apparently UO: I love Reese’s Pieces. That’s my go-to movie theater candy. But if I’m buying candy to watch a movie at home, then I go peanut butter m&ms

suzycupcake · January 2019

@deecherise Commercially made mayo contains pasteurized eggs.

purplg8r · January 2019

Yikes—I’m an UO apparently
I’ve been posting in threads throughout the whole week

I love Reese’s Pieces

and I totally have an expensive dog.

Don’t judge me too much, guys!

olivemomma · January 2019

@lilmamabebe3 I’m not trying to be overly critical and didn’t mean to come off that way. I also have a hairdresser, have spent time in Sephora, and have gotten my nails done from time to time. There just seems to be this level of extremism here that I have never experienced before and I can’t wrap my casual laid back mind around it. But yes - I think spending thousands of dollars a year on it is over the top and sends the wrong message and I don’t think it’s healthy to have to be perfectly put together from head to toe everyday - that was ultimately my UO.

Editing to add - I have also noticed a correlation of unfriendliness and cattiness associated with it. I’m not saying that women who do their hair and nails are unfriendly and catty. But I have noticed when there tends to be more of an obsession with ones looks and extreme effort put into it that correlation does go up.

wanderlustsoul · January 2019

@mkrel, I agree. I used to do rescue work and still follow them all and it’s sad that people get from breeders when so many dogs need homes. It breaks my heart. I would love to rescue so many more dogs if I could.

suzycupcake · January 2019

@purplg8r

WinchesterGirl · January 2019

I guess I have to confess that I did have two full bred yorkies from a breeder. However, I have severe pet allergies & those are the only dogs I'm not allergic to & the yorkie rescues near me did not have full blooded dogs. We now have no pets except a toddler (ha), but I do not regret buying my fur babies so I could have fur babies.

purplg8r · January 2019

@mkrel @AKuzReve I do have to say that I wanted a yorkie puppy specifically and I tried for several years to get one through rescues but the puppies were always taken so quickly.

@suzycupcake lol

EmilyA724 · January 2019

I’ll confess too: we currently have two rescue dogs, but after they’re gone DH and I are planning to get a puppy from a breeder. I love my dogs, but they have been challenging, and I would like the next dog to be a little more predictable with the breed known.

database6 · January 2019

@olivemomma what do you mean “send the wrong message”? I Completely agree with @lilmamabebe3 that we shouldn’t be so judgmental in women and how they choose to express themselves via their appearance. I live in the south and am likely one of the “put together” ones you are referring to. Even if not, I know a ton of them and they are the sweetest. Assholes are everywhere and in every size and shape and dress.
What is not healthy is generalizing a population and judging women for what they wear, their makeup, and how they look. EVER.

missbmama · January 2019

I guess I’m the other end of the UO... I’m for buying from a well established breeder and for people doing a lot of research on breeds of dogs before adopting or purchasing. Temperament and special needs change a lot depending on breeds and I think there are many shelter/rescue dogs because people haven’t done their due diligence of understanding the type of dog they’re getting. My sister has a very well established Husky breeding business. She does extensive vetting when it comes to choosing owners for her pups and has a contract that makes the owner return the puppy to her to be rehomed if they realize they can’t handle the husky breed or something else comes up. She breeds because she LOVES her dogs and wants to bring that type of love to others through information and accountability. Maybe my view is skewed because of her but I think it’s unfair to say that people are wrong for buying from a breeder. Many breeders work their butts off for their dogs and have a lot of love for that specific breed.

lilmamabebe3 · January 2019

I still can’t tag. But my point was it’s just another way for women to be pitted against each other. And I can understand about your mean girls comment but people aren’t inherently mean because their priorities are different.

I understand this is UO but I cringe at stuff like this.

becks68 · January 2019

I hate peanut butter - not allergic, won't let DH kiss me if he's had some. Ironically, DH's family always puts peanut butter candy in my Christmas stocking... maybe they are trying to give me a hint.

ETA: Wish the Bump could change the "love it" to "hugs" - feels like it would be a lot more appropriate in like 90% of discussions

olivemomma · January 2019

Alright let me try to clarify again as I think my previous wording may have worked against me. I’m not trying to attack women who wear makeup, do their hair, or whatever else. If you look nice every day, kudos to you. There was a time in my life when I worked in the corporate world where I was put together most of the time as well. But I do think our society, and women specifically, Place a lot of emphasis on physical appearance and how they are perceived by others. I have been told recently how brave I am for going to the store without any makeup on. I have been told “oh honey your cuticals are just screaming for a manicure.” I have been at a mom function where nothing other than clothing, hair, makeup, etc was discussed and even heard how one person had been *gasp* buying used clothing for their kids (catty yes??). All of these comments made by moms of little girls who they are the example for. So yes I’m judging the emphasis ive seen placed on appearance recently and the amount of money and effort that goes into constantly projecting this flawless existence. And yes, I think it can most definitely send the wrong message, especially to our girls. Im not walking down the street judging this woman or that woman based on how she looks or what she is wearing. If I don’t know you I honestly don’t care about it. But if I have met you and you comment on my lack of apprearance, someone else’s inability to afford namebrand clothing for their kids, or you know more about this seasons hottest trends then what is transpiring on the news I get a little judgy. Obviously I don’t think this is indicative of an entire population of women or likely even most of the women I’m surrounded by. But I also can’t overlook that it exists in a way I have never noticed previously since moving. I think we should teach our daughters it’s okay to leave the house not looking perfect and that you don’t need to spend a butt load of money on your appearance, that other things are more important. But wear what you want, buy what you want.

@database6 I did not mean to offend you and realize I over generalized a bit. I have not met these sweet well put together ladies you speak of but have no doubt they are out there. Being in a new community and feeling judged a bit myself because I don’t fit into this mold that I do believe is very real has been hard and I have judged back. Again definitely not trying to personally attack or over generalize to a larger population

suzycupcake · January 2019

wanderlustsoul · January 2019

I get why people do it. I am very allergic to dogs and I will likely only have a shih tzu. Finding them for adoption isn’t easy. But I always see owner surrender dogs so possible to find and just can take time. Sometimes it isn’t so if you tried and can’t find, that’s one thing.

Amdogger82 · January 2019

@lilmamabebe3 @database6 I'm sorry I offended or if it seemed like i was making character assumptions about folks based on how they take care of themselves. I was empathizing with the sentiment of feeling like a fish out of water.

deecherise · January 2019

I know "put-together" women that are as sweet as can be, and I know "tomboys" that are catty, horrible people. I agree that it doesn't set a good example to over-prioritize appearances, but I lean more towards not making judgements about people based on appearances. Depending on what day of the week you catch me, I could fit in either category...also in the nice vs. catty 😝

suzycupcake · January 2019

Animal prints should be accessories only or accents, not entire outfits. Not even half outfits. Nope.

MamaK225 · January 2019

@suzycupcake - Agreed, although, I do put DD (a cute, chunky 2.5 y.o. with perpetual pigtails) in a pair of leopard leggings from time to time. I'd look like I was swallowed by a ravenous zebra if I tried

Disregarding subject titles. Pregnancy is already hard enough when there's a variety of people going through it together, but feeling like you can't share or commiserate because some people showed up and derail the intentions of a group - picking a group that sends to be more active for more views or possibility of responses, but either off-topic or making others in the group feel uncomfortable. Huge bummer.

MamaK225 · January 2019

@Amdogger82 - Awww, it's not so bad down here. Originally from RI, have been living in SC for ... Almost 17 years now. The weather is awesome, food is decent (I do miss cold water seafood), and the people are pretty interesting.

Gender reveals.

olivemomma · January 2019

deecherise said:

I know "put-together" women that are as sweet as can be, and I know "tomboys" that are catty, horrible people. I agree that it doesn't set a good example to over-prioritize appearances, but I lean more towards not making judgements about people based on appearances. Depending on what day of the week you catch me, I could fit in either category...also in the nice vs. catty 😝

@deecherise I do agree with you and I think you have chosen your wording much better than I did.

i want to apologize to anyone I may have offended and over generalizing my comments of several specific people I have encountered to a larger population. I don’t respect when others do that and there I am sticking my foot in my mouth.

database6 · January 2019

@olivemomma I think I understand from your last post what you were trying to say, in that you don’t like the group of ladies in your community judging you for being different or not like them, just because of how you present yourself. Also, society sucks for pressuring women to always looks put together, regardless of it the women likes to present herself that way. Couldn’t agree more, sorry for the misunderstanding and taking it personally since it was not intended that way. 💕 I blame hormones, but also just got defensive💕

Thanks for clarifying, it’s hard to just type thoughts out on the internet sometimes and get the intent to be Clear. Glad we, and this board, can talk things out like real ladies.

lilmamabebe3 · January 2019

I'm commenting on a Thursday thread on a Friday--yikes!!

In any case, I do understand where you guys are coming from and the point I was trying to make was that your comments were the same as what you were feeling insecure about. Judging these women by their appearances because you feel judged or like an outsider.

When my husband was in the military, I hated it! I felt the same way. I didn't know any other military wives that worked and felt so insecure about leaving my baby in a daycare that I judged them for doing nothing because I was insecure about working. We've all been there. But we can be better that. #womensupportingwomen is my life goal.

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