Hi Welcome. This group acts more like a community than other boards so if you would like to stick around I’d encourage you to introduce yourself in the intro thread and get to know the ladies on the board. We typically discourage posts that are “all about me”. Also, there is a name thread around her somewhere that you’ll get a better response to.
@KylaMendes I think you got a very polite and informative reply from @nmbrcrnchr1. Nothing she said was mean, she was simply explaining how this board typically operates and even suggested a thread for you to check out. We take great respect in each individuals background and story, both which we would know more about you if you had provided and Intro.
Yea I did edit my post bc I found recently that the bump admins DGAF about us regulars (you know the ones who actually participate on the board!) and tend to side with random posters who do whatever the hell they want. I realized that this post was not worth getting a warning or the ban hammer.
But my initial thought still stand. If you want support from this community become a member. Lurking for 4 years =/= member
for anyone wanting to see how mean I was...here was my original post.
And again, with my past two children I was very active in posting and supporting members ...given circumstances and life I am unable to post regularly but will check threads regularly to know the women who post ... opinions are fine but attacking others is not...
My husbands best friend just had a baby boy and names their son the name we were set on for two years... what do i do?!?! Suggestions. My son is Anthony our daughter is Giuliana and baby is due in June. We were set on Cristian James our friend just named their baby Christian...
OP you sound entitled about your SS post and the name you picked for your kid. No one owns a name.
@nmbrcrnchr1 was really nice about welcoming you into the community.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
And she simply stated one-off posts are not usually welcome and explained the very simple guidelines, there is literally a name thread. No one attacked you, your weird feelings about it are on you.
Its a post about a name, ergo belongs in the name thread... if you were a regular and read the other posts like you claimed you’d know that is exactly the kind of thing that is discussed there.
@KylaMendes she was only trying to tell you we have some of the exact same conversations in that name thread. This question would have not been out of the norm.
@Dcwtada its not a name post as I am asking for opinions if others would still keep the name or try to think of something else. And as I stated above, having the opportunity to post is far and few, but will check the boards regularly... I am simply looking for advice, since I had the opportunity to post, if this is a community board that is supposed to be accepting, some are making that hard
Post it in the name thread. No amount of you explaining why your circumstances are the special exception is going to make it any different.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
This exact topic is discussed in the name thread. For any of the other regulars who are wondering why the board is so dead, these SS posts are why. They make our board like the trimester boards and everyone knows how awesome they are.
For the OP, I am sure you are busy and may not have time to read through everything on the board or do a search, but it’s a lot harder to be “supportive” of someone I don’t know anything about and will likely never hear from again. You are, of course, entitled to post anything you want, but you would likely get a lot more positive responses if you went with the established guidelines. Just my two cents.
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ETA: change my words.
But my initial thought still stand. If you want support from this community become a member. Lurking for 4 years =/= member
for anyone wanting to see how mean I was...here was my original post.
@nmbrcrnchr1 was really nice about welcoming you into the community.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Cristian and Christian are two different names.
Post it in the name thread. No amount of you explaining why your circumstances are the special exception is going to make it any different.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
For the OP, I am sure you are busy and may not have time to read through everything on the board or do a search, but it’s a lot harder to be “supportive” of someone I don’t know anything about and will likely never hear from again. You are, of course, entitled to post anything you want, but you would likely get a lot more positive responses if you went with the established guidelines. Just my two cents.
This thread has been closed to new posts as a result of the shift in topic. To find threads regarding (this topic), we encourage you to use the search function to post to an active thread or start a new discussion.
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