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Ask a STM week of Dec 31

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Re: Ask a STM week of Dec 31

  • rgarrett2006rgarrett2006 member
    Wondering if anyone has gone through this at 35 weeks... Been super overly emotional starting last week. Like crying at the drop of a hat. If my fiance is too sweet to me or watching anything baby related I bawl! Also been having strange feelings of guilt? Like I dont deserve to be this happy or everything to be this good in life. I struggled for years knowing I probably could never have kids. Then when I met the man of my dreams I was able to conceive by God's grace. I've been completely happy up until now and I am really hoping it's just hormones getting the best of me?? Sorry for the long post but just so tired of feeling like I am crazy! Hope everyone else is doing good.... We are in the home stretch now mamas!
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  • disneybaby84disneybaby84 member
    @rgarrett2006 do you have a history of depression? Post partum depression can start while you are still pregnant. 
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  • sjnsjnsjnsjnsjnsjn member
    I agree with @disneybaby84 plus the hormones are just NUTS right now. I definitely am emotional over every little thing!
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  • rgarrett2006rgarrett2006 member
    @disneybaby84 only when my Grandmother passed away about 5 years ago. But this past month one of my Aunt's unexpectedly passed. That might have something to do with it I guess... Now that holidays are over nothing to distract me? But I am going to talk to my pregnancy counselor about it just in case. I'm hoping it's not PPD early because I really am excited for lil man to be here!
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  • shellperryshellperry member
    @rgarret2006 everything your feeling at this point is completely normal. Your whole life about to change and and it seems like your getting everything you wanted all at once. Hormones can be overwhelming. If you start feeling alone or like everything is too much reach out to your OB. But it’s vary common to be 9 months pregnant and cry over everything and nothing at the same time. Your letting go of a person who will no longer exist and becoming someone else’s everything. Take some you time in the next 5 weeks and try to enjoy some alone time with you and Your SO. When your baby comes it will be like they have been there the whole time and you’ll barely remember what it was like befor baby.
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  • sjnsjnsjnsjnsjnsjn member
    @shellperry As a STM, agree that is so true and great advice!
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  • hezzehhezzeh member
    Did anyone get prescribed fluconazole 150mg? My Dr. just gave me a prescription for it for a yeast infection but she didn’t even check to see if I have a yeast infection. I just told her I had some itching and she said it was probably that and gave me this pill. Everything online makes it seem like you should not take it at all and just use monistat. 

    I guess I should just trust my doctor, but I really hate that she prescribed me a medication without actually checking to see if that’s what I needed. 😕 I’m 31 weeks so I don’t know if that’s what makes it okay to take but my last dr. told me to only use monistat and to not even use that internally. That was in the first trimester though so maybe it’s different. 🤷‍♀️ 
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  • rgarrett2006rgarrett2006 member
    @shellperry and @sjnsjnsjn thank you both so much!! It's nice to know this is normal... I'm not the kind of person to use "it's my pregnancy" as an excuse but at this point it definitley does seem accurate 😂
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  • Fluffy1187Fluffy1187 member
    I'm curious if any of you STM/TTM's have any recommendations on items to purchase for post birth care for moms? Also - for first time breast feeding mom's what are the essentials - i know i will need a pump, nursing bra/tank, but what else?
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  • disneybaby84disneybaby84 member
    @Fluffy1187 you will want breast milk bags for storage, nipple cream, take some nipple cream to the hospital as well. Post birth care:  feminine heavy pads, witch hazel, no white clothes. 
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  • sjnsjnsjnsjnsjnsjn member
    @Fluffy1187 If you’re in the US, hospitals typically give you the big sanitary pads, a spray bottle, and a tub of tucks on the way out, so you may not need to buy, fyi!
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  • nataliezbrungartnataliezbrungart member
    Is being sick while pregnant extra exhausting? I have a slight cold and I feel like I can barely function. You ladies that have had more serious sickness and issues during pregnancy are saints! 
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  • catwoman8731catwoman8731 member
    This is probably better intended to TTMs+, but I’d also like input from you STMs as well. I have no idea how to make a plan for going to the hospital. With child #1, it was easy because I could just call my husband, get in the car, and go. I feel like so much more planning is needed since we need someone to watch DD while we’re at the hospital this time. I keep trying to make a “plan” - I’m looking for something along the lines of “if/when ______, we will ____”. But DH keeps telling me there are so many different scenarios that could happen that I’m overthinking it. For example, I work 45 mins from the hospital I want to deliver at. There is one closer to work, but that’s farther from home and doesn’t have any of the doctors I know, and it’s just not as well-regarded. It could happen while I’m at work. It could happen after I stop working. I could have DD at home with me, or she could be at day care/with family who watches her. It could be day or night or weekend. We also have DH’s family right in town, and my family about an hour away. My family would drop everything to come help; his, not so much. 

    Sorry for the super long, specific post. I guess my question is am I overthinking this? Should we just wait till it happens, since we’ll still have to call someone and wait until they arrive for DD? Or should we have several different if/then plans?

    I was going with DH saying I was overthinking it, because I typically do, until his mom asked the other night if we’d call her in the middle of the night if I went into labor, and she seemed concerned that I didn’t have a real answer. Which then made me concerned all over again. 

    If you actually read all this, thank you!!
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  • sjnsjnsjnsjnsjnsjn member
    @catwoman8731 I am/was having anxiety about the same thing, ie what to do with my two year old when it is game time!  It’s really so much harder than the first time. We don’t have any family closer than a 6 hour drive on a good day, so we have a plan... first, I have a backup date for an induction (I was induced with DS), and so the ILs will plan to come for that date to stay with DS.  Buuuut, they are fully aware that they are on call should something happen sooner and have bags half packed for that.  For the gap before they’d arrive, I have a close friend who offered to be the gap filler.  So, if I go earlier, she gets called and so do the ILs, and she stays until they arrive.
    i would definitely talk to your childcare plan people, sounds like maybe your parents?, so they know what your plan is, can have a bag half packed, and have contingencies for any of their own responsibilities!  But the good news is, if they’re ready to come to you, an hour is not a lot of distance when considering how long it takes contractions to build typically, and if you are in a more urgent situation, you could even prep the ILs to be the gap fill folks.
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  • whattalife525415whattalife525415 member
    edited January 2019
    @Fluffy1187 I would buy some of the heavy duty pads. The hospital send you with some but I bled heavy for 2 weeks (I think). I bought 1 box of the pre-mixed formula in case we got to desperate measures, breast pads, definitely milk bags. 
    @catwoman8731 TTM here and have ran thru our game plan too. We have a couple people on call. The thing I haven't really thought of is what to do with their carseats and where I should leave them? Future problem?
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  • catwoman8731catwoman8731 member
    Thanks @sjnsjnsjn and @whattalife525415. 

    I’m also nervous because I was induced a week past my due date last time, so I’m still not even sure what real contractions feel like, or the timeline. But it’s a good point that I’ll have time to wait it out at home; I had forgotten that that’s typically the case. 
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  • ginger1228ginger1228 member
    @whattalife525415 - do you have two car seats/cars? I’m planning on leaving my car keys at home for MIL if she has to transport DD so that I know the seat is installed correctly. But I don’t plan on her needing
    to go anywhere. 

    Unless you're worried you have to leave your car at work - is there someone who could go get it? Otherwise not sure about that one. 
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  • BourbonBiscuitsBourbonBiscuits member
    @catwoman8731 this is my second and we’ve had the same anxiety about what to do with our almost 2 year old! I was induced with my first, so I’ve never gone into labor on my own, but I know even short labors are a number of hours long. So if you start feeling the contractions at work, you’ll still have plenty of time to leave and get to whatever hospital you want. It’s soooo rare for it to go from a normal day to needing to be at the hospital that quickly. That’s helped calm
    me down a lot!
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  • catwoman8731catwoman8731 member
    Oh gosh, @whattalife525415 I haven’t even thought about car seats! Whole new level of stress now! Thanks for the reminder! 
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