GTKY: Weddings!

peachy13 · December 2018

I just got a few save the dates for weddings next summer/fall and am feeling the wedding (guest) fever! Tell me about yours!

*I know not everyone here is married, but please chime in if you are planning a wedding, not planning but have a dream wedding, or if you went to a crazy wedding and have a funny story. Everyone loves those.

What month/year did you get married?
What were your colors/theme?
What was your favorite part?
Any drama?
Any regrets?

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eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

I didn't have a wedding, so some of these questions can't be answered. But I'm playing along because I still love how we were married and it was still really special.

What month/year did you get married? January 27, 2012
What were your colors/theme? N/A
What was your favorite part? I still remember walking up to the courthouse. It was freezing, we were arm in arm. We didn't need a witness, so it was just the two of us and you could feel the nerves in the air. A mixture of excitement, happiness, and nervousness as we walked arm in arm through the cold to the courthouse. I don't know. That right there is my favorite memory.
Any drama? We had a small party that night and my best friend drank too much and we had to call an ambulance and the whole party ended up in the ER 😂
Any regrets? We didn't take any pictures. That's my only regret.

willmisspumpkinbeer · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? October of 2011

What were your colors/theme? We got married in Newport, RI. I didn't have a theme but I did a lot of navy and pale pink - with like a lobster bake the night before on the beach. I didn't go too nautical though-- I didn't want it to feel cheesy

What was your favorite part? I loved our food! We did a normal cocktail hour with passed apps but then for our main meal-- I wanted it to feel like a party the whole time. So, I did cocktail stations (not a buffet) -- they were all small plates meant to be held... like soup in little carved out pumpkins, a sushi bar, pad thai in chinese takeout containers, little cheeseburgers with milkshake shooters, lobster mac n cheese in martini glasses, small mini meals passed around... It was nice and I wanted it to be like a roaming and eating experience -- not people standing in line with a plate. I also got married in the mansion they shot Great Gatsby in and I loved it

Any drama? Um yes... My original venue cancelled on me like 6 months before the wedding. That was a shock! It was most likely being sold and the prospective buyer didn't want to do weddings. I got my deposit, of course, back but the issue was all my vendors were booked-- invitations were at the printer... people booked hotels already. And I booked my wedding venue two years in advance for a Sat night on Columbus Day weekend in one of the most popular wedding destinations in the country! They tried to help me find a new venue and they tried to convince me the "Tennis Hall of Fame" was comparable-- umm no. Anyway, one of the most beautiful venues that I didnt even look at because it was out of our price range had a cancellation that day. They worked with us and gave us a big discount because of what happened. So, my in-laws chipped in the difference and we had our wedding at a place that was 10x more amazing than the original.

Also, had some dress drama. My dress was wrong when I went to go for my fitting. I found a top I liked to one dress and the bottom I liked of another -- so they designer was able to make a custom one for me. And they missed a lot of bead-work detail I had wanted around the waist. But, it all got worked out!

Any regrets? I'm not sure I would have spent as much money as we did. I probably still would lol-- but every so often I think-- I could have used that money as the down-payment for our house (which we are still struggling to save)

kvh22 · December 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds oh wow, that IS some serious drama lol. Sad about no pictures but hopefully you got some at your party afterwards.

What month/year did you get married? May 2016
What were your colors/theme? Teal/seafoam, no real theme
What was your favorite part? I hate being the center of attention and was super nervous for the actual ceremony but my brother gave me away and cried when he hugged DH (they were really good friends in HS which is part of how DH and I got together, but it caused a rift in their relationship back then). Then DH cried little tiny tears throughout the ceremony and I kept wiping them away and he was like "yea, just leave it, it's not going to stop."
Any drama? Not day off. MIL was the only one who was difficult during the planning. I could (and have already) go(ne) on and on about this so I'll spare you all.
Any regrets? After having a child, the whole thing seems so silly from an expense perspective (my dad paid for most of it), but at the same time, I don't think I'd actually go back and change anything.

laeberge3 · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? March 2014
What were your colors/theme? We used navy with white and green accents (mostly in flowers). The bridesmaids were in navy and the groomsmen had navy bowties.
What was your favorite part? The reception in general. I was so stressed from all the planning so I had a great time during the reception. I probably wasn't the greatest host, but it was so fun, it didn't matter.
Any drama? MIL caused planning drama for sure. About 2 weeks before the wedding, she wanted to add about eight people to the guest list -- family (cousins) of hers. I said no, and she went around me and called the venue/event planner there and tried to add them. I finally just caved because she said she would pay for them and whatever. They all came. I've never met or seen them since. And one showed up in his jean overalls. <facepalm>.
Any regrets? At the time, I was so regretful that we didn't get full family pictures, but I got over it pretty quickly. I regret how much money we spent to a degree, but it was such a fun celebration that I don't dwell on the cost.

sleepy33 · December 2018

I think fiance and I will do a courthouse thing sometime in January. We've talked about the idea of doing a party/reception thing after the baby is born, possibly like early September, but idk. It just seems kind of...odd to do it so much later like that?

chloe97 · December 2018

What month/year did you get married?
August 2015
What were your colors/theme?
We got married outside and our colors were lavender with grey accents and i would say our theme was “Romantic Sports.” Everything was flowery and romantic, but we did the table tent cards as all of our favorite sports teams. It didn’t go with our theme at all, but I had mentimed the idea to DH the day we got engaged and he wouldn’t let it go.

What was your favorite part?
DH is a huge Blackhawks fan and they had won the Stanley Cup that year after losing to the LA Kings in the Final the year before. DHs LA family were obnoxious about it, so I knew DH would love to rub it in their face, so after the cake cutting, I surprised DH with a grooms cake replica of the Stanley Cup and had it paraded through the reception hall to the Blackhawks theme song “Chelsea Dagger”. He lost his shit-it was awesome. As my mom said, it was the first and last secret I ever kept and it was the best.

Any drama?
I was sooo worried bc my parents are super cheap and DHs parents are well off and expect things to be nice. We worked really hard to make it a very comfortable event for both families. My mom still can’t believe we had an “open bar” 🙄. We were initially going to pay for it ourselves so we cut a lot of corners in the early planning, but my parents gave us $5000 and DHs parents ended up covering the rest. I know my dad felt uncomfortable with how “lavish” it was and the fact that ILs covered 90% of the cost, but overall everyone had a great time.

Any regrets?
We cheaped our on the photographer and our pictures were blah. Luckily we ha e a few talented friends who took amazing candids with their iPhones.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

@kvh22 unfortunately, no. There were only 5 of us at the party, and no one took any pictures. I wish they had. H got drunk and was being lovey and we danced to slow songs. It was super sweet. That's my only regret. We didn't take a single picture that day.

sleepy33 · December 2018

@chloe97 'romantic sports' is my new favorite theme tbh

peachy13 · December 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds that sounds like a really lovely memory

@willmisspumpkinbeer that's so crazy that they cancelled! It's like you hear of that happening but never think it will be you. Cool though that you got to get married in the Gatsby mansion!
@kvh22 your DH sounds so sweet! That's such a nice memory.
@laeberge3 I also didn't get full family pictures and am still kicking myself

What month/year did you get married? Oct 2015 - Halloween!
What were your colors/theme? black, gray, silver/gold, some peach. We didn't go nuts on Halloween stuff but had pretty/fun stuff scattered throughout. Nothing over the top.
What was your favorite part? My biggest priority and concern was making sure our guests had a great time and since DH and I were paying for most of the wedding ourselves, we skimped on a few things in order to have a great DJ and an open bar. Our guests had a ton of fun (as evidence from our wedding video), as did we, and the dance floor was packed all night. I had so much fun dancing to all kinds of music with all different guests.
Any drama? When we were sending save the dates, my mom approached me with about 40 people from her country club that she wanted to invite. 8 people, fine. But 40?! She hadn't brought up money or anything, so we had to have a pretty awkward conversation about saying yes to her guest list, with the condition that she covers their food and drink. It came out to about $5K which was actually a great deal, as this didn't include tax or gratuity costs. We told her the amount well in advance (at least a year in advance) and that we needed a check from her the day before the wedding, and reminded her many times about it. Sure enough, the day before the wedding comes along and my mom says she has a check for us but we can't cash it until the Monday after the wedding. Great. Thankfully, DH was able to cover her cost until we got her check, but we were pretty unhappy. My mom made it seem like no big deal. You may think it's strange that she belongs to a country club but has trouble coming up with $5K - yeah I think it's weird too! Her priorities are pretty f'd up and I know she goes to a lot of her friends' kids' weddings and wants to keep up appearances. Probably chimes in too when everyone talks about how much their daughter's weddings are costing. Also my brother got black out drunk while the guys were getting ready and as soon as the reception began, he passed out on a couch in one of the venue rooms. Family is fun.
Any regrets? I liked my dress but wish I had done better. Overall it was pretty but forgettable. My grandmother offered to buy my dress which was super generous of her, but when we went to go look at dresses, she wouldn't really give a price point, even when the sales person asked, and I felt very uncomfortable looking at anything over $1K, and told the sales person in private just to find stuff under that amount. I did try on a budget-friendly dress that I absolutely loved - it was an off the rack, champagne Vera Wang ballgown with pockets. It was so me. My grandmother said it was too much cleavage and grimaced when I tried it on. I still think about this dress all the time! I'm not that big into fashion and dressing up and stuff, but it actually sometimes hurts me when I see the gorgeous dresses out there, and how quick I was to settle on one. We probably put too much pressure on wedding dresses as a society to be honest.

peachy13 · December 2018

@chloe97 we cheaped on a photographer too and even though I would have rather had an open bar which we did, it sucks that I like about 2% of our pictures.
@sleepy33 my friends got married before their baby was born and did a courthouse followed by a dinner in a private room at a nearby restaurant with about 50 family and friends. It was very simple and elegant!

kvh22 · December 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds aww darn

@sleepy33 I don't think that's too weird. I'd definitely say you could do it if you want to. I have a former co-worker who got married on the DL (right after 9/11 while living in NYC - very seize the moment "we're in love so why not") and they had a party a year later. They're still together and had been for a while so it wasn't super crazy, just not what their families would have wanted (since they weren't there the first time).

@laeberge3 OMG to your MIL and the overalls! Why didn't she add them in the first place? My MIL had SOOOO much family I've never met and will never see again invited. She eloped and DH's older siblings had small ceremonies no one went to due to odd circumstances (SIL's husband stationed in Germany, BIL's wife was mormon and married in the church in DC that non-mormons couldn't go into). This was the "big hurrah" for her and there were way more people invited from DH's side than mine but she had the audacity to say that we had more people coming. NO! We just had people she'd actually met/heard of b/c they were close family, coming. We did have some late "nos" after we'd given the final headcount and my mom's friend and husband had asked to come to the wedding so we let them come at the last minute since it was already paid for lol. They're great and I actually know them pretty well but the wife used to be a good friend of MIL and they had a falling out but she sucked it up. My brother, DH, and her son are all the same age/same grade/same schools but the two mom's (not mine) had a weird competitive thing going on. I actually think MIL got an odd satisfaction out of the fact that she will forever be my brother's sister's MIL since the other mom is kind of obsessed with her son being friends with my brother. It's so weird.

bpietronicco · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? October 2005
What were your colors/theme? Red and platinum
What was your favorite part? All the family and friends that were able to attend and the beautiful pictures on the beach after
Any drama? There was a huge monsoon type storm. We had to wear plastic bags on our hair to not ruin it. We got married in a small church inside a moat and our limo almost got stuck in the tunnel going over the moat. I had to walk across the street from where I was getting ready to the church and the coordinator said they have never had it rain sooo hard. Thankfully the rain stopped right before and the light shining through the stained glass window was simply beautiful.
My sister got super sick at the reception from drinking too much and threw up outside the ballroom.
Any regrets? That we didn’t sit and enjoy a piece of cake- we cut the cake and got our little bite but by the time we made it back to our table they had everything all packed up and cleared away- also I had these little cocktail napkins made with our name and wedding date on them- the only thing Dh needed to bring and he forgot them- so we still have them- we plan on using them for maybe a 20 year or 25 year anniversary party.

ETA- that everyone from my work who attended had to leave because the building had caught on fire in one area.

poshspice · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? June 2012
What were your colors/theme? wedding theme! haha. We had white, silver, champagne, sparkly things, and raspberry accents
What was your favorite part? My dress! We also had a Chinese lion dance at the reception that was a surprise to DH. It was so awesome.
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Any drama? YES. UGH. My SIL kept trying to make everything about herself and talking about herself and her wedding which was upcoming and OMG. JUST LET ME HAVE MY WEDDING DAY. I was also super overwhelmed and when the minister asked me how I was doing right before the wedding I like burst into tears because of all the stress. I also couldn't get through my vows without crying - I didn't even write them. They were the repeat after me kind, and I was like whispering and crying. I was trying to "cry pretty" so my parents thought I was like laughing through the whole thing.
Any regrets? I regret putting SIL in my wedding party and I regret letting DH insist on having a big wedding. I would have been fine with 30 people max and a chill dinner reception. But he had to invite his entire giant ass family, most of which didn't even come because the wedding was in Honolulu. I'm not still bitter/mad about this, what are you talking about?

troystory17 · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? July 2017

What were your colors/theme? Rustic I guess, gold and lavender

What was your favorite part? we got married in NH about 3 hours from home so it was really fun that it felt like a big vacation our whole families were on. It was exciting watching people arrive, and walking through the hotel and knowing everyone. We had a big welcome bonfire the night before the wedding. Also we didn't have a wedding party, and I think that was one of the best decisions we made. Our daughter was my maid of honor, and our son was the best man.

Any drama?There was a tornado warning and down pours so I ended up getting married in the car port, but I was still happy to be outside and not in the awful space they had as a back up. Also my stepmother (at the time) caused a lot of drama showed up a day late, talked alot of crap, and stole the money out of the card my dad gave us. Happy to say they are now divorced lol

Any regrets? I paid SO much money for the alterations to bustle my dress, and nobody could figure out how to do it despite my mother and SIL coming to the fitting to learn how to do it so I tripped all night, on top of the fact I may have had too much to drink I still haven’t watched my whole video because I’m afraid to see myself 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

GeorgiaGirl1230 · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? We were married by a Justice of the Peace in November 2008, but our wedding celebration was June 2009. Most people didn’t know until this year that we were already married at our wedding.

What were your colors/theme? Well, it started off as a wine/white wedding. My bridesmaids dresses were wine colored. But my amazing florist took over and created wonderful arrangements with all kinds of beautiful color.

What was your favorite part? I love that we had our own little sweet ceremony together. And Having everyone together at the wedding was wonderful. My husband was in the military, and it was a huge party because we were so happy he was home for a few days lol.

Any drama? Two guys threw up. One in a potted plant and the other was a youth minister.

Any regrets? Just that I can’t remember it all. It just flew by so fast. I wish i could have taken it all in more. I just remember moments and the overall feeling...which is what mattered. Also, I wish we’d taken photos before the ceremony. We wasted a lot of time and didn’t get to the reception as quickly as I’d liked. All of the white wine was gone. That’s more a testimate to our friends than how long pictures took...but still.

fatmonica · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? July 2006.
What were your colors/theme? Lavender and grey. We were married in a glass chapel.
What was your favorite part? It was all a really good day. I remember my husband kept trying to kiss me in the middle of the ceremony and I was making him wait. Our reception was a lot of fun, but the whole day is kind of a blur.
Any drama? I can't think of anything, but maybe I was shielded from it all. I do remember we went to open gifts the next morning with both our families before our honeymoon and walking into that room felt really awkward.
Any regrets? Not really. I'm not close with my MOH anymore (we just drifted apart). Also, I only had 1 weekend to pick out a dress with my mom and we had a huge blizzard that weekend. There was another dress I wish I had picked in hindsight, but its just a dress.

mrskoz428 · December 2018

What month/year did you get married?
April 2018
What were your colors/theme?
Black and Gold; Great Gatsby Theme
What was your favorite part?
I loved my reception! And my dress! 😍
Any drama?
Well, they served the wrong food so that was freaking annoying and very stressful
Any regrets?
Honestly, not really! Although there were bumps, I wouldn’t trade my day for anything. It was perfectly imperfect!

ElleJDubs · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? May 2010

What were your colors/theme? Light aqua and chartreuse
What was your favorite part? The dancing at the reception!
Any drama? None really except for the In Laws deciding to "gift" us Open Bar because their friends would expect it. So wasnt really a gift and they decided to do it 2 days before the wedding. Annoying but I am glad my friends got free drinks haha.

Any regrets? Sometimes I wish I had an evening wedding but it was a beautiful day and the location had picture windows overlooking a beautiful harbor! Would have been a shame to waste the view!

misskimsue · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? September 18, 2010
What were your colors/theme? burgundy & champagne. We were married in France in the country and I guess the theme could best be described as "French country"- rustic, vintage-y, romantic.
What was your favorite part? I love French weddings. They last all day and night, they are full of great food (and wine, of course), laughs shared at the table, silly games, dancing into the wee hours. We were married in a beautiful, humble, little old church in a tiny village, which I love. Our reception was in a vine-covered country estate, where our closest friends and family could stay the night. It was fall, my favorite season in France, with all its wonderful colors and mild weather.
Any drama? Yeah, there was a little of that...
- When we chose the location, we visited the church, which was situated on a hill lined with mature trees overlooking the countryside. The day before the wedding, we went to rehearse at the church and (this is not a joke) they were in the process of chainsawing down all the beautiful trees, so there were just stumps on the wedding day! Hahahahaha.
- I really wanted my husband to drive me from the church in his old beater car that he'd had since he was a teenager. We've known each other a very long time and maybe it seems dumb, but this was very significant to me. My BIL lost the keys in the middle of a huge field while playing soccer and we ended up using my other BIL's brand new car, which everyone else thought seemed much more suitable, but it just didn't hold the same meaning to me.
- One of my BILs got drunk and puked into my cousin's shoes.
Any regrets? I was kind of a zombie the whole day. Except for the food and the photographer, everything in our wedding was DIY. I wouldn't say I regret this exactly, because in retrospect I think everything was perfect and the cost well-managed, but I had wedding-related PTSD for quite a long time afterwards. It probably didn't help that I had just taken the bar exam recently and wouldn't get my results until I was on my honeymoon. I do wish I wasn't so stressed out and could have personally enjoyed my wedding more.

Stormiewinter · December 2018

Dh and I actually got married twice. Since I was in the process of immigrating to the US, we decided to elope in the winter so that I could have the paperwork out of the way before the next school year. So out first wedding was in March with our parents only and we were married at the court house in NYC.

What month/year did you get married?
july 2011

What were your colors/theme?
we had a rustic sort of theme with yellow being th remain color, everything was daisies and sunflowers. We got married in the 200 year old chapel on the college campus where we met.

What was your favorite part? Honestly we just had a great time! I love that we got married at the college since it was such a special place for us, and having so many college friends there it was a blast!

Any drama? Since dh and I originally said we were going to have a small wedding with just family, dhs parents decided to pay for the wedding, so they could invite their friends and more extended family. I come from a really poor family so they really couldn’t contribute much and dh and I were still pretty college broke. It was appreciated but balancing our wants with what our ils wanted (since they were paying) was tricky at times. All turned out so well though I have great memories of the day.

Any regrets? It’s not a total regret, because I’m really glad I did it, but in the moment I was like this was probably not the best idea. I am really Into cake decorating, and I decided I was going to make my own wedding cake. I refused to pay who knows how much for something that I could do myself. However, being at the wedding venue stacking a three tiered cake the day before my wedding was a little stressful. All is well that ends well though, it was such a big hit that dh and I never got a piece besides the two bites we had for pictures.

kmw611 · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? Last month, Nov. 17, 2018
What were your colors/theme? Burgundy, gray and silver
What was your favorite part? The first look photos
Any drama? I feel like everything leading up to the wedding was drama. I wanted to elope and my husband insisted on having a big wedding but he didn't want to help plan it. Every time I asked for his opinion I got anything you want babe or whatever you want as an answer🙄 Not helpful at all. My bridesmaids really did nothing, his groomsmen didn't even show up for the rehearsal. I also bought their suits because they didn't bother even going to look for anything. If it weren't for my mom and my brothers' fiancés it would have been a very minimal wedding.
Any regrets? Not sticking to my guns and insisting on a small wedding or eloping. Don't get me wrong we had a great time at the reception but I really think we wasted a ton of money because hubs wanted a big wedding. I may have felt differently if we were back east where my family is instead of in Washington.

MelissaMay82 · December 2018

@troystory17 Where did you get married?

What month/year did you get married? August 2013

What were your colors/theme? Fuchsia, Navy Blue, and Silver. We didn't really have a theme. We got married in a "castle" that is high up on a hill that over looks Lake Winnipesaukee in NH. We kind of just let the beauty of the venue/landscape/views be the theme.

What was your favorite part? I actually really liked wedding planning. But my favorite part was just the wedding day in general, it was an amazing day. The whole weekend was really amazing to be honest.

Any drama? My mother had several temper tantrums regarding the guest list and seating chart (just to mention that we paid for the wedding ourself with only a little help from both sets of parents). On the wedding day, one of my BMs husbands (who is a real douce and did this to be spiteful I'm sure) showed up late and wore a stained green polo shirt and jeans...I was not impressed.

Any regrets? I wished we had gotten a videographer and a photo booth.

knarlytaurus · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? August 5, 2011
What were your colors/theme? Navy. & purple for the most part, but wasn't too exclusive. Mainly navy (maritime theme).
What was your favorite part? We got married and had our reception onboard a ship that sails around Lake Champlain. It was a hot day, but the evening was amazing - clear and beautiful and not too hot. And we were on a SHIP. It was pretty cool and the whole day was awesome.
Any drama? Not really much drama, but some stress. The spring and early summer prior to the wedding saw record flooding on the Lake and in the watershed. We were not too worried about the flooding affecting whether we would be able to go out on the ship, but DH and I both work for the State rivers program and deal in flood response. It was so crazy busy at work leading up to the wedding. About 3 weeks after the wedding we also had another record flood, so it was really hard to get thank yous out in a timely manner.
Any regrets? Only one was not hiring a photographer. DH's uncle liked to do photography, and my SIL (brother's partner) was doing a lot of it and taking courses in photography and both said they would take photos. We didn't want them to feel pressure or have to work the event, so having two people seemed like a good way to do this. However, DH's uncle didn't bring his camera (we soon learned later that he had dementia), so my poor SIL was stressed trying to make sure she got lots of pictures and I kept telling her not to worry. I felt so bad and wish we had hired someone so she didn't get stressed!

brie_and_almonds · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? August 2014 -- We got married when DD1 was about 18 mos. old. We had been "together" for 8 years at that point, but were young when we started dating so we waited a long time. After DD1 was born, I felt like I wanted to have the same last name as her and DH, so that was a big driving force behind us finally getting hitched.
What were your colors/theme? Yellow I guess -- DD had a pretty yellow dress, so DH and I coordinated with his tie and my shoes (which were incredibly painful and terrible despite several attempts at trying to break them in beforehand).
What was your favorite part? We didn't do a big wedding, we just went to the courthouse with our immediate families. My brother-in-law is an amateur photographer, so he took pictures for us -- we spent more time standing outside taking pictures afterward than the actual ceremony lasted

Any drama? Our moms both tried to make it a much bigger "thing" than it was, which was annoying. They kept trying to add to things and make us have a reception and stuff... we did end up going back to MIL's house for cake afterward, but then DH and I ditched everyone and went out to dinner alone.
Any regrets? Inviting our families? Lol. They probably would have caused a much bigger stink if we hadn't, so I guess it turned out all good.

AW pic in the spoiler!

jessrl · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? September 2014
What were your colors/theme? Green, animals (we were married at the zoo)
What was your favorite part? Getting married at the zoo! I love all of our pictures and our cocktail hour with the polar bears. We also had an awesome DJ.
Any drama? My MIL was the worst. Called me a gold digger multiple times (I made way more than my husband at the time and we're both teachers so what money??), threatened to call her lawyers, threatened to not come to the wedding, made lots of demands about flowers and favors and guests, and called our wedding planner a racist... I could go on
Any regrets? I didn't ask one of my best friends to be a bridesmaid because I felt like I had so many ppl in the wedding party and I still regret it. It hasn't ruined our friendship or anything, but I realize that was a stupid reason and I should have asked such a great friend to stand up with me.

jwalters2019 · December 2018

My husband and I got married last Sep through court. We had our big ceremony this August.
Our colors were blush and gold our venue was at a barn.
My favorite part was stopping at our grocery store to pick up our wedding cupcakes 😂 so typical of us.
Any drama? Haha of course my mother in law called my husband after our church ceremony threatening not to come to the reception because my brother and I made her feel “uncomfortable” 😂🤦‍♀️ I was late to church and apperantly that set her off and she was rolling her eyes at the situation and my brother just looked at her.
Any regrets? Yes! Not had a bridal party! All the guys left the tuxedo rentals last minute and all they did was stressed us out threatening not to stand up for us because they didn’t have the money for the rental. And of course my mother in law called my husband chewing him out asking him how he expected so and so to pay $150 for a rental.
My maid of “honor” was legit no help. 🙄 she’s my aunt who’s a year younger. I had people that I wanted to invite but could because of our limit.

Our wedding was still so much fun all the stress was definitely worth it.

mrskoz428 · December 2018

@jessrl omg!?! A zoo wedding! That sounds absolutely incredible! I love animals so much. Probably would have been a vet if I wasn’t a teacher. Polar bears are my favorite arctic animal!

jessrl · December 2018

@mrskoz428 I'm pretty sure we're the same person! Haha I'm also a teacher and love animals, especially polar bears! I would have been a vet too, but my mom was one and showed me the reality of what they do to animals. I'd rather just pet and hold them than do surgery on them.
I have a lot of regrets about the drama of the wedding, but I love that we had our amazing time at the zoo! We go back to the same one about 5 times a year with my daughter now

troystory17 · December 2018

@MelissaMay82 we got married at Attitash. Did you get married at castle in the clouds? that must have been amazing so pretty!

k2k2tog · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? May 2010

What were your colors/theme? Red and black

What was your favorite part? The getting married part. I actually don't have a huge fondness for my wedding, mainly because I'm just not very good at big parties.

Any drama? Yes! We had no hydro! There was a snow/wind storm that day, and the hydro went out about two hours before the ceremony. DH had to come to my parents house to shave because they had no water at the B&B he and his guys were staying at, so I had to sit in the kitchen, already decked out in my wedding dress while he scrambled to shave as quickly as he could and then get back to the B&B to get ready. Friends of ours brought a generator to the church, but it could only power the sound system so we got married in the dark. And then, other friends pulled some strings, called some local government officials and managed to get the HUGE emergency generator for the community centre so we could still have light and food and such. Hydro was finally restored at around 9pm.

Any regrets? A ton of small things. I didn't relax enough. I felt like DH and I should be attached by the hip the whole time because we were SO IN LOVE that I couldn't enjoy spending time with all the other people who were there. We forgot about our speech, so I had to stumble through something when the MC introduced us. And then I remembered to thank everyone except for our MC. Also, I have some regrets about my wedding party... I chose my sister as my MOH, which I don't regret, and I chose my best friend at the time as a bridesmaid. My sister lived far away at the time and my best friend was never really a very good best friend, so she didn't step up to fill some of those rolls. I would have liked to have had friends there when I picked out my dress, I would have liked to have a proper bachelorette party (I threw one together for myself last minute when I realized how disappointed I was going to be - she couldn't make it.), and it would have been really helpful to have a little extra emotional support around the day before during set up. I wouldn't have not chosen her, but I wish we had had a slightly larger wedding party.

kvh22 · December 2018

@k2k2tog I planned my bachelorette party, too. My sister was my MOH but she's 6 years younger so was in college and away studying abroad the semester right before my wedding. She's not into partying or a social life, really, but also not the super responsible, organized type, either. She and one other bridesmaid were across the country and my 3rd bridesmaid was 5 hours away. Everyone came to my bachelorette but I didn't have any of the normal support you'd get from a MOH. Mine was a weekend in Sonoma and worked out really well considering (it was just a drive for everyone but my MOH/sister, bridesmaid, and our 3rd college roommate who flew in). Then the wedding was in New England so those who traveled for the bachelorette didn't have to travel for the wedding. I agree that I wouldn't have changed it - she's my sister and we're super close - but it wasn't the "normal" support.

chloe97 · December 2018

Maybe this is UO, but I didn't expect much from my wedding party. My MOH was my best friend from high school had just had a baby and my other BMs were my best friends from college and DH's sister. I was just happy they bought dress without complaint and paid for a hotel room for 2 nights at the wedding. My BM did plan a bachelorette party for me in a town about an hour from here, but MOH did not come. Only one of my BMs came to my wedding shower. It was what it was and I never expected them to do any work around the actual wedding.

mrsdee15 · December 2018

Fun thread!

What month/year did you get married? August, 2015
What were your colors/theme? We did kind of a subtle fairy tale theme, our colors were navy blue and gold, with light pink and green flowers (kind of an enchanted forest thing). Our cake had a very subtle Harry Potter reference and our table names were all fictitious places (Agrabah, King's Landing, 100-Acre Wood, that kind of thing). My dress was from the Disney dress collection at Alfred Angelo.

Image: https://cecafesf.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/top-result-disney-store-cinderella-wedding-dress-beautiful-disney-wedding-alfred-angelo-cinderella-216-size-5-wedding-photography-2018-kse4-of-disney-store-cinderella-wedding-dress.jpg

What was your favorite part? We got hotel rooms for our entire wedding party at a resort where we did the rehearsal the night before, and so the next morning we sat out with everyone by the pool having mimosas. That was so freaking nice. We are hoping to do a staycation there again after Little Guy is born. It's right on the bay here in San Diego, and it's beautiful.

Any drama? Just my mom telling me my dress wouldn't fit when she was lacing me up... I already have pretty big body issues, so I intentionally didn't lose weight for the day, it would have been really detrimental to my mental health. And for the record, my dress fit fine.

Any regrets? I wish I had gotten a different dress, my mom pushed me for this one and I liked other styles better. I also kind of wish we'd just eloped, part way through the planning process we were both so over it and we talked to getting married here and then just going to Ireland or something, and I wish we'd done that. I don't like being the center of attention, and felt super guilty people spent their time and money to come to our wedding.

kvh22 · December 2018

@chloe97 idk if that's a UO although from bridezilla stories, it sounds like it is. I agree with you, despite what the above may have sounded like. I am organized and a planner so if it was going to happen, I needed more proactive bridesmaids who were going to force me to take things off my plate. I never expected anyone to plan something for my bachelorette but have been to (or invited to but right after DD was born) a couple where the MOH literally does everything for the bachelorette party since having mine and just think "oh if things were different, that would've been nice. I was planning around my sister being back and SIL (brother's now wife) had her bachelorette party before me even though there wedding was 4 months after ours (on a more normal timetable, honestly, so no resentment aside from the added stress). I went to hers in Charleston one weekend, my shower in Boston the next weekend, my bachelorette party in Sonoma the weekend after that, then had 2 weekends before my actual wedding. It was a lot all at once to accommodate my sister being able to be there. The girls were super easy and flexible - there was no drama, they paid for their dresses and hotel and I paid for their hair getting done and gave robes for pictures while we got ready.

MelissaMay82 · December 2018

@troystory17 attitash is awesome! Yes, it was Castle in the Clouds, it was so pretty, I never get sick of those views.

minnemiska · December 2018

What month/year did you get married? February. Winter wedding.

What were your colors/theme? Navy and gray/silver with pink flowers and accents.
What was your favorite part? All of it? Our cake!!! Cake was more expensive than my dress.
Any drama? BIL thanked my parents for hosting in his best man toast. We (mostly me) paid for it all ourselves so I wanted to murder him. He probably googled best man speech.
Any regrets? None.

intheluep · December 2018

What month/year did you get married?: February 2017

What were your colors/theme?: We kind of had a theme centered around this huge oak tree that's extremely symbolic to my husband and I. We had our first kiss under this tree, and exchanged our first "I love you's" under it, so we thought, "Hell, let's get married under it!" So we did. 😊 Our colors were emerald green, soft grey, and white. We loved it.

What was your favorite part? We had our actual wedding day on our seven-year relationship anniversary, which landed on a Wednesday. Thus, it was a small party with just our immediate families under our big oak tree. Honestly, I loved the intimacy of that. Getting married in a place we loved, surrounded by the few most important people we know, on a date that was already special to us, was just amazing. It was everything we wanted.

Any drama?: Our reception was the Saturday after our wedding. Coming from divorced parents, I knew something was probably going to happen. The weekend before the wedding was the first time my step-mom met my mom, and I knew they weren't really going to get along. They're both incredibly nice people, but their personalities are just way too different. Anyway, my step-mom decided the way she wanted to handle her utter discomfort of having to be around my mom was to drink WAY too much wine. This led her to do two things: 1) She moved my dance floor (which was outside) to inside because she thought it was "too cold to dance outside" (it wasn't). She enlisted other guests to help move dinner tables around to move the dance floor inside, behind my back, and I had no idea what was happening until it basically already happened. Having the dance floor outside was a decision I had stressed about for months, so her doing this pissed me off to no end because having it inside was NOT what I wanted. 2) Once the dance floor was where SHE wanted it, she began dancing - nah, stripper grinding - on every man in sight. My uncle, my husbsnd's uncle, his parents' long-time friends, my brother, my DJ, my photographer (who is also a Youth Pastor by the way), and also MY NEW HUSBAND. Yeah, I have a great wedding photo of her grinding on my husband. It was so bad that my uncle felt the need to apologize to my in-laws about it, saying "This is not how our family conducts themselves." My dad completely condoned the whole thing too, saying my step-mom was "just having fun." And sure, there's having fun, but there's a point where it just gets obnoxious. We still have guests laugh about how insane she was acting, and it still comes with a level of embarrassment. She has since explained that her level of intoxication was due to her being so uncomfortable around my mom. I get being uncomfortable and having a couple drinks, but at the same time, it's a wedding. Like, be classy, ya know? And maybe that's just me being overly judgemental, but still. It wasn't a good situation, and she created so much drama for some of my family members over her actions (too much for me to even list here). I hate that she tainted the day for some people.

Any regrets?: I feel like I didn't get to talk to and spend time with everyone I would've wanted to at the reception. You get so caught up in timelines and other things that you get distracted sometimes. I wish I would've been about to give everyone some time and attention.

DuchessOfCambridge · December 2018

@intheluep that doesn't sound judgemental. She was extremely inappropriate. It wasn't about her but she made it about her. I'm sorry that happened and glad you got to have your actual wedding be special.

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