@sleepy33 I don't think that is too much of a UO yet. I know I spend a ton of time there too- I actually get much of my news (via my followed sites) through FB.Β
My UO if you don't know the difference between what is real and fake on the internet then FB should ban you. I swear to god if I see another story from one of those BSΒ sites reposted, I will scream. And it's not just people on the right, DHs family is as left as they come and I agree with the sentiment behind their posts, but some of the stuff is justΒ made up or completely over exaggerated BS. Fake news does no one any good.Β Β
@chloe97 I agree, and then will also add old news to that list. Β It drives me bonkers when people revive and then share articles that are years old. Β Like, it takes less than a second to glance at the posted date on the top of an article, PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU'RE SHARING!! Β I can't tell you how many heated FB discussions or internet panic shares I've witnessed because of 2 year old + news that people think applies to present day. Β
omg to to the BS articles shared on facebook - I will unfollow you very quick. I have unfollowed a lot of friends to be honest, for this reason, but also to the oversharers who are posting daily pictures of their kids or selfies or memes, whatever. Maybe this is my UO but I just can't figure out why people spend so much time on facebook.
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I find it annoying when people call hanging out with their children βdates.β Isnβt that just what being a parent is...spending time with your kid?Β
I find it annoying when people call hanging out with their children βdates.β Isnβt that just what being a parent is...spending time with your kid?Β
Ooo interesting! I have mostly seen people say this when they reference taking one of their kids out for a one on one special time?
Spinoff of this, I hate it when women say their husband is 'babysitting' while they are out doing whatever. It's not babysitting if I'm watching my kid, why is it if dad is?
To follow up on your UO, though, @teesmee, while I've never personally said that, I could see me referring to a one on one thing with my son like that because, while I do hang out with him a lot, there is a good amount of that time where I'm necessarily distracted by life stuff. I really do think I could do with giving him more undivided attention. That said, I don't think I'd call it a 'date' cause that just seems kinda odd, personally.Β
I ask H to "watch DS" which really is my nice way of saying "can you be a parent while I'm busy?" But he would probably find that a bit offensive, so I sugarcoat π
I call it a date when DS and I do something special. I'm a SAHM so we spend almost every waking moment together and much of it is therapy or appointments, etc. One morning we went to a coffee shop and had breakfast together which is very unusual for us so to me, that was a mommy-baby date.
This is my favorite meme regarding fathers watching their children:
Building off the Dads babysitting their own kid UO- I get so annoyed with theΒ so-called Mom and Me classes that are out there on the weekdays. DH and his best friend (also a guy) BOTH are home with their toddlers 2 days and week and are looking for things to do with the LOs and both feel so put off by the Mom and Me classes or even the playgroups that use Mom and Baby in the description and actually won't go b/c they think they need to have breasts to attend. After going to a few classes at our library with DD while on leave and meeting at least 3 or 4 other dads who are the caretakers of their child at least 1 day a week, I realized that this is not at all uncommon, why can't the marketers of these classes realize this? I spend so much time trying to find things for DH to do with the kids that he won't feel self-conciousΒ at or less than a man b/c he's home 2 days a week (since he works weekends).Β
ETA Stay at home dads are not the anomaly they once were and I hate how we as a society diminish the man's role in caretaking for their children.Β Β Β
@chloe97 I used to attend groups when DS was a baby, but they were called "parent support groups" I don't know if that was to make it "all parent" friendly, or what, but they were nice and we had dads who came. It should really be a more common thing.Β
My UO is I actually like running. It's been a while, and I'm insanely out of shape, but when I was in shape it was my favorite activity. There's something soothing about it. Though, being out of shape and trying to run is what I think Hell will be. But once I'm in shape and it doesn't hurt to breathe, it's fun. I really hope to get into again after baby. Along with losing like 50lbs. That'd be awesome. But we'll just start with running π
@teesmee I have two toddlers and work 60 hour weeks, sometimes more. Β Getting out for one-on-one time with one kid isnβt βjust what being a parent is,β it takes a ton of planning and is really special (and rare). Β I donβt know if Iβve called it a date, but I would certainly still be a parent even if I wasnβt able to pull it off very much or ever.Β
@teesmee I've definitely called one-on-one time with either one of my girls a 'date'. Β My dynamics are a little different than @anonellis in that I am a SAHM, but it also means that I am the primary caregiver/full time watcher of both kids pretty much all the time. Β Day to day life and extracurriculars keep us super busy and its rare to get out to do anything special with either one of them. Β So it really is kind of similar to planning a date night with my husband, also rare and also a date. Β I wouldn't call going to do everyday stuff with either kid a date though, only special things.
Ooh, @sleepy33, that totally irks me too (dads "babysitting"). Β In our old town, which was my hometown, if I was out with no kids or only one kid and I'd run into someone I knew they'd usually ask "oh, is Tyson at home today?" in commenting on the absent child/children, naturally assuming that he'd be the first one to have them if he was off work. Β Here in our new town, which is his hometown, if I run into people while I'm out they always ask who is babysitting my kid/kids. Β No one ever assumes that he would have them. Β I don't know if its a difference in culture here, or if they're all assuming he is still as immature as he was in high school (15 years ago), or what, but its so weird that they are all genuinely shocked that he willingly takes care of his children when he isn't working.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I also love running (slooowly jogging.) For me, it is like free therapy. I love the feeling of just zoning out and not thinking about anything except the air in my lungs.Β
I have come to love running/slow jogging too. I used to hate it but now I agree it is like free therapy. I read a book called, "Running like a mother" thinking I was going to keep up with it during pregnancy and now I think those women are nuts. I am kinda dreading trying to build up my stamina again.
@chloe97 oh wow I didn't even think of the mom and me classes but you are right - they need to change the name of that.Β
I also feel pretty annoyed when we're in restaurants and there is a changing station in the ladies room only. We are noticing more and more that newer/younger restaurants have stations in all restrooms, which is great, but there are still plenty of places that assume dads aren't responsible for changing diapers.Β
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@peachy13 When my girls were little Dh worked freelance and weekends so he was kinda like a SAHD. He would take them places by himself all the time and said it was rare to find a changing table in the menβs room. He found it extremely frustrating.Β
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@chloe97 where I live, the toddler parent/child classes seem to be mostly attended by dads and nannies. Β I donβt know if itβs that that many dads stay at home or whether thatβs special time that they carve out of their work week, but thatβs how it seems to shake out. Β So calling it βmommy and meβ would be particularly dumb because there are almost no moms! Β Β
Interestingly I live in NYC and we see celeb dads in class but very rarely celeb moms. Β
@anonellis That is great! I would imagine NYC would be a bit more progressive and I am sure if I lived in the city of Chicago still, it would be a lot more dads and nannies. We live in the north suburbs of Chicago which are full of traders and finance guys and a lot of stay at home Moms. I am constantly asked the question "do you work?" when I meet other families- which I just find so weird. DH has NEVER been asked that question. It's just assumed that he does.Β Β
We do a lot of activities throughΒ the Jewish community programs here (DH, I am not) and that is where we have the most issues with the mom thing. All of their parent events are Mom-centric and I'm not the Jewish one, so it makes me even more upset since DH is the one who needs to be connecting with the Jewish faith if we are going raise our daughter in Judaism.Β
And of course, now I am totally curious- which celebrities you have seen at toddler classes?Β Β
This is more of a pet peeve than a UO. I HATE going to a restaurant with a baby and the hostess says "2 1/2?" No, idiot, my child is not half of a person!!
Re: UO
My UO if you don't know the difference between what is real and fake on the internet then FB should ban you. I swear to god if I see another story from one of those BSΒ sites reposted, I will scream. And it's not just people on the right, DHs family is as left as they come and I agree with the sentiment behind their posts, but some of the stuff is justΒ made up or completely over exaggerated BS. Fake news does no one any good.Β Β
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17Β Β
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
Spinoff of this, I hate it when women say their husband is 'babysitting' while they are out doing whatever. It's not babysitting if I'm watching my kid, why is it if dad is?
This is my favorite meme regarding fathers watching their children:
ETA Stay at home dads are not the anomaly they once were and I hate how we as a society diminish the man's role in caretaking for their children.Β Β Β
I also feel pretty annoyed when we're in restaurants and there is a changing station in the ladies room only. We are noticing more and more that newer/younger restaurants have stations in all restrooms, which is great, but there are still plenty of places that assume dads aren't responsible for changing diapers.Β
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17Β Β
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
Interestingly I live in NYC and we see celeb dads in class but very rarely celeb moms. Β
We do a lot of activities throughΒ the Jewish community programs here (DH, I am not) and that is where we have the most issues with the mom thing. All of their parent events are Mom-centric and I'm not the Jewish one, so it makes me even more upset since DH is the one who needs to be connecting with the Jewish faith if we are going raise our daughter in Judaism.Β
And of course, now I am totally curious- which celebrities you have seen at toddler classes?Β Β